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My Mom
Okay; so i'm Bi, ive known this for a whille now.
i finally told my mom about it. she didn't really say much. but i've ALWAYS hung out w/ Lesbians & Bisexuals. but now she thinks it's a big deal [now that she knows i like girls too].
what the hell.
what should i do/say to her?
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She's just shocked about it & obviously didn't see it coming. She's not sure how to handle it, and what to think of it, so she's making it out to be something it's not. This should be expected from most parents. It's not exactly what they wanna hear [unless they're easygoing & don't care what your sexuality is].
Talk to her about it calmly like you did when you told her you were bisexual. Tell her you're not any different than you were before, and you're still the same person, but your sexual preferences are different. Ask your mom what she does/doesn't like about your decision, and ask how you can make things smoother for her. If nothing seems to work, give your mother space & let her get used to it for a while.
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All parents that find this out for the first time are gonna be shocked and that is understandable but I think that the main thing that shes scared of is not what its gonna do to her rep or how shes seen but shes worried about how this is gonna effect you so what you need to do is sit her down and explain that you no how worried she is and let her no your still the same person and that you still love her.
Soz i I havent helped much but hope I did if only a little.
Good luk
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She needs to respect you of who you are. sometimes our selfs are cerious of the same and other sex. its normal. a mother wants their child to do their best in life and she is afriad for you cause she thinks "what would people say or my friends?" but she might know that other people or friends might been though it or are it and wont tell. people have secrets and they hide it. but you good for you to tell your mom. someone that would be there to you thick though thin. tell her this "mom i know you are surpise about my choice but this is who i am. i feel comfortable respecting myself instead of being someone elus."
I'm bi and the only people i told was one of my friends and my older sister. they seem okay with it. and i seem to try to respect it. its hard but i know i'll understand alittle more. we all learn about our self every year. thats when we all become strong.
hope i help.
write me if you have anymore questions.
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I say this way too often.
Sit down and have a nice loooooong chat with your mom. Explain to her that your sexuality doesn't change who you are as a person...etc, etc.
And I know a lot of people who have this weird, twisted idea of what a gay or bi person is. I know a few, and they're awesome people.
So why not introduce your mom to some of your friends? Let her see that they're not evil, brainwashing monsters who are forcing her precious little girl to do evil things.
And if she's worried about you dating other les/bi girls that you're friends with...WELL THAT'S THE IDEA OF BEING A BI AINT IT?
Explain to her EXACTLY how you feel, and don't let her get a word in until you've finished. GAG her if you have to! Communication is the key.
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