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get over him? :D?
hey im 14/f
theres a guy i like and sit with at lunch who has been making fun of me all year, but in a "flirty way". for example if i drop a french fry he'll call me "ketchup fingers" (haha i love his sense of humor).
but sometimes he can get really ...frustrating, like one day he'll joke about me being a lesbian (which im pretty sure i'm not cause I like this guy :p) or comment on how short my skirt is (which it isn't), etc. it's really embarassing and it hurts my feelings because one of his friends who doesnt sit with us told me he likes me (i dont know whether to believe him or not because of how much he changes, but on the other hand over the entire year he has pretty much proved he likes me)
so should i get over him? he likes me (i believe), and i like him, but he's being totally disrespectful and i am a big believer in a thing called R-E-S-P-E-C-T
thanks in advanceee
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Most of the time when guys act like that, they don't know they're hurting your feelings. I know it'd be awkward to talk to him about it, but that's the real test. If he's nice and stops, then he's a respectful guy. And if not, you know the rest of the story and to get over him. Another thing: Have you seen the way he treats his mother? That's the main key. If he treats his mom like crap, you'll be treated no differently. Most guys are oblivious that way when they tease girls and don't really know what they're doing or how they really make somebody feel... so don't take it too personally. But DON'T ignore it! You've gotta say something. And it's GREAT that you have self-respect. So keep that with you for the rest of your life.
Hope I helped!
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I don't think he's doing these things to hurt your feelings. He probably doesn't even realize that it's hurting you, so you need to come clean & tell him that it is. Pull him aside and say "I realize you're probably kidding, but it hurts when you say things like that, so stop?" It sounds corny, but you need to get the message across as best you can.
But I think that if you like him, then dwell on it. He supposively likes you too, so ask him to go to a movie or something with you & maybe to a place to eat? If something happens then you know he really does like you, and that his friend was right. Good luck. =)
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Hi.
Most guys just lack common sense - it's probably not anything personal against you I think it's one of these genetic things from way back. Anyway, if you like this guy then by all means do something about it because, as you said, he likes you too. The way he acts might explain that too.
However, the thing with guys are if you're subtle most the time they just will not get the hint. You have to spell it out for them. The fact you want respect is a good thing - I like that. Every girl should do too. So, if you want to actually approach him about the whole do you like me thing or if he finally does tell you he likes you then you'll need to spell it out that some of the things he says are out of line. So he needs to show you some R-E-S-P-E-C-T or he can go find someone else. :] Liking someone is a nice thing especially when they like you back but if they have no respect for you then, I dunno, to me it would just seem a waste of time and effort. It'll be somthing you'll need to take up with him somehow. Or, if you want, just tell him you do think he's funny and stuff but he' borderlining on what's funny and what you find disrespectful so if he's not careful he's goin to end up having you hate him instead of liking him. I'm sure that'll be a hint even he won't miss. ;]
Good luck and sorry if I wasn't much help here.
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