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So if you work out daily and your trying to lose weight, can you eat things like Sugar free mints,Or sugarfree gum
is that stuff okay to eat? :]
aND Also i hear that if ur trying to lose weight
you could eat WHATEVER you want
But very small of it
true? :]
thaknyhou.

Hey there.

Ok starting with the sugar free stuff. Within reason I dont think even the most hardcore opponents of artificial sweetners would tell you to stay away from gum and mints. So yes, it should be fine.

The main issue with these things is what the columnist below said. Studies have shown that overall, people who use artificial sweetner tend to gain weight. Now, these are broad studies, which include sedentary people. What I am trying to get at is that while it is ok, keep it in moderation because it does have some sort of mild impact on your weight (not through calories but maybe by affecting your other eating patterns/ cravings).

If you eat very little of anything but burn more calories you will lose weight. The answer to your second question is again, true. However that does not necessarily mean that you will be as healthy as you can be; that you will have as good energy levels as you could have; or that you will be creating a proper sustainable diet plan that will ensure that you do not regain your lost weight.

Indulgences are fine, here and there. Overall however I would urge anyone to try to strive towards a sustainable balanced diet. Not doind so leads to the classic seesaw effect, where people lose weight only to regain it later.

Good luck.

Okay sorry this might be long.

Alright so about a year ago, I dated this kid. Well he ended up cheating on me and i broke it off. A couple months later, we started talking again. ( I mean i feel so hard for this kid.) Well one day me him and a couple of our friends were having a little party, and he ended up getting with my best friend. SOAGAIN I was dicked over. So its been about 6months, and we finally started talking again, and of corse i'm starting to like him again and all this.. so we started talking on the phone at night and things, but a mutual friend called me and told me that i was leading him on and all this, and im really not trying to. I told him i still had feelings for him but only wanted to be friends but he doesn't seem to get it. And i was told that he was in such a goood mood now that we have been talking again, and i dont wanna be the one to make him in a bad mood. I just don't know what to do, if i should just break it off, try to stay friends, or just give him another chance.

Hmmm, in my opinion you can darned well put him in a bad mood and not lose any sleep over it at all.

From my experience one of the worst mistakes to make in a situation like this is to think that you can remain friends. Quiting a cheating crush is like quiting smoking. You have to do it cold turkey and cut all ties. Particularly when you had very strong feelings for him. If you dont before you know it one thing leads to another...

Needless to say I dont think you should take him back either. What you need to do is to move on, maybe find someone else. You cant do that if he is there reminding you of feelings that are best forgotten.

Good luck.

okay well, last night i went to bed around 145am. stupid right? i woke up at 830am because a friend texted me and i heard it and woke up.

i have school tomorrow and im planning on getting up around 5:45

my bus comes at 7:06.

what can i do so i wake up at that time with no problem? its always a problem for me to fall asleep the first day because i think alot the night of school. help :)!

(ps: if i have to take a pill, tell me really soon because i need to have my mom get it on her way home from work!!)

Hey there.

I must say I dont know an awful lot on this subject, but I did a little research and came up with this site:

http://www.path2healthyliving.com/NaturalSleepRemedies.html

It has a number things that will help you fall asleep.

In regards to pills, I really think those should be a last resort particularly for someone who is 15.

The good news is that since you were woken up early by the text message you will probably have an easier time sleeping tonight.

Good luck.

How long will it take if I use two insulin pens full of Novalog to commit suicide? Assuming both pens are full and are inject within five minutes.

No one here can answer your question. Even if they know the answer, they will almost certainly receive a ban for assisting someone to commit suicide.

Now, I hope that you will reconsider your situation. What I can tell you from having read a fair amount about suicide is that many of the quick and painless methods dont turn out quite as planned. I am not trying to scare you, particularly since I dont share the normal view on suicide that most people have, but it is remarkable how often things go wrong.

i didnt call up or show up at work today..i work at mcdonalds and have been there for 9 months and i have ALWAYS shown up to work, except just this once.
what happened was that i got into a really big fight with a family member and so i just went out the door and stayed at a friends house because i just couldnt handle it. and i couldnt get to work today so i just didnt show up ..
i dont know what to say to them when i work in 4 days again! i feel really bad about it because i let the nicest manager down. please help, should i tell then what happened or would they not believe me?
thanks

You have already got some good answers. I just wanted to add my voice to the columnists that said you should call right away.

Call them, apologise, and explain how this is a one off thing that will never happen again. If you are lucky you might get a second chance, but in all honesty you dont have the best odds. It is fortunate that you have been a stable employee thus far however, that may end up working for you.

It is seriously not a good idea to just show up on the day. The sooner you handle it the better your chances of still having a job.

Good luck.

I am 19/f.

I am from India.

My boyfriend is 18 and we are dating each other for nearly more than 1 year.
Initially the relationship was wonderful but lately we are fighting a lot.
In my past i had many frnds who r boys n now bcoz of dat he thinks dat i m a flirt n he doesn't even trust me.
Wen i say dat dey wer only my frnd n nothin more den dat he gets angry n starts arguing.
Now i dont even have many frnds n now days i avoid talkin 2 ne boy 4m ma class.
but still he doesn't trust me.
But he says dat he loves me a lot.
Even i love him a lot.
I don't want 2 leave him.
nowdays he says dat he doesnt wants 2 b wit n after sayin no he keeps callin me back everytime...n fights wit me again...

Well the trust issue that is manifesting itself here will play a role in your entire relationship. He needs to understand that you have had a life before him, and that you can manage to have friends without necessarily having a romantic attachment to them.

Personally I don't think you should avoid talking to other boys, nor do I think you need to make excuses for having had friends. What you need to do is keep it very simple with him. Let him know that this is a trust issue, and that you cannot have a successful relationship if he continuously lets his jealousy get in the way.

I would let him know in no uncertain terms that if he cant learn to trust you, you will leave. Do not indulge him in his arguments and his fights. A simple "don't you trust me?" should suffice. Love is a great thing, but it really, really is not enough on its own. You need to have some ground rules, some compatibility in terms of how you think and what you expect from one another. If he does not understand this, or if he is not willing to grant you the same trust you grant him, then you are better off leaving.

Good luck.

16/f.

I wanted to lose like 3 pounds, so I ate really small meals for a week. Like, one meal. Ever since then, whenever I eat like something I get a stomach ache.. like just right now.. I ate a piece of watermelon, I felt fine, but then I ate another one, and now my stomach hurts.

My mom says im fine, but i dont know.

i'm not anorexic or anything..

I know you probably already realise this, but those kinds of diets are terrible. First of all a starvation diet will slow down your metabolism. Your body will go into starvation mode where it digests your muscle mass. Once you start eating normally (as you are trying to now), it will be much easier to gain weight and that weight will be largely fat.

Now, what you need to do is to recondition yourself to eat properly. Keep portion sizes small, particularly since your stomach hurts, but eat very often. Get used to eating every 3 hours or so, and eat a proper balanced meal each time (even if it is small).

By balanced I mean a meal that contains protein, carbs and fats (ideally the good kind i.e. not from animal products). Stick to healthy foods, low in saturated fats and moderate on carbs. That should minimise the damage from coming back into a normal diet.

Regular exercise will also help your metabolism, particularly if it is resistance training. However, I would not start any rigorous routines before you are able to hold down food well enough.

Consider also using supplements like meal replacement shakes and vitamins. It might be easier for you to hold down a meal if it is in liquid form. I would also throw in a multi vitamin pill every morning.

If this persists, then convince your mother to take you to a doctor.

Good luck.

I'm an athlete. But I'm not like super-lean or anything. I'm pretty bulky, especially in my lower body/butt. It's not because I'm fat- I'm just solid there, and it's hard for me to find shorts/pants that fit well. I want to slim down some, so how do I do this? I run often, but I know that builds muscle also, so should I cut back on my food intake more? Or work out more? I don't want to be any more muscular, just smaller and more toned.

Hey there.

Whether or not you get more muscular really depends on how you work out. The more intense the workout the more musclar you will appear.

So to achieve your goals you need to focus on two things. The first is your diet. You need a calorie deficit and to eat sensible balanced meals. Second focus on longer lasting low intensity workouts. Running is good, just keep it slow and steady.

The body will quite naturally get rid of unused muscle, so if you avoid explosive/ strength/ other high intensity movements you should get smaller in those areas. Genetics do play a role here though. We all belong to different body type classifications which make it easier or harder to look a certain way. However it can be done.

Simillarly the body will try to adapt to the stress that you expose it to. If you train like an endurance athlete, you will start to look more and more like an endurance athlete (bet you have never seen anyone with a big butt win a marathon :D).

Then, all you have to do is experiment a bit with your calories and the amount of exercise that you do in order to get the desired level of weight loss- which ideally should also be slow and steady.

This should work, but it may take some time to lose some of the muscle mass.

Good luck.

I work out everyday 50-60 minutes.[treadmille]
by the way im 13,and i eat like 3-4 times a day,small portions.
and im always ALWAYS dizzy
and whenever i stand up from sitting down
EVERYTHING turns black and i feel like im bout to faint. what does this mean?

Well I tried to research this a bit. I found an interesting response to a similar issue here:

http://www.drdaveanddee.com/hypotension.html

However, if you are always dizzy, you really must talk to a doctor about this.

Good luck.

Hey, I am 16f and I have an advicenators account on here (obviously ;) ...) Anyhow, my question is 'when I am reading the comments/answers that people have left me on advicenators theres this pop-up thingy that comes up, it just started happening lately and it looks like this: http://www.google.com/hws/gateway/afe?hl=en&s=http://mystabcounter.info/cgi-bin/in.cgi?p&rdr=afe
I have no idea why it does and I have never used Google for this thingy that it says cannot be found. If you read the web page you'll see what I mean. Does anyone know how to get rid of it? As soon as I go to read a comment someone wrote me its like it automatically loads and then after a few seconds it just pops up
Please Help :)

Well, I am sure you will get more qualified advice than mine. However, I had something similar (not with this site) a long time ago. Whatever was hijacking my browser was fixed with a standard malware and virus scan. So, try start there and see if that helps.

Here is a free anti spyware program:
http://www.lavasoft.com/single/trialpay.php

And here is a free anti virus program:
http://www.avast.com/eng/download-avast-home.html

Good luck.

For a very long time I've wanted a belly button ring, and finally I talked to my mom about it. She said that if I can make my stomach COMPLETELY flat, I can get one. Like I'm talking NO fat, but I don't want too much muscle or a six pack or anything, because that's scary on a girl. lol. My tummy is already pretty flat, I just have a bit of a "pooch". I basically need to know what do I have to do to get a completely flat stomach in as little time as possible.

Thanks In Advance!!

I cant really see why a lack of strength in your lower abs would cause that. If you really are weak, then developing some abs might tighten the area up a bit, but if there is any fat there at all, it will still be there.

More likely what you need to do is to lower your calorie intake slightly and start doing some cardiovascular work (running, biking, etc.). Most often this can only be tackled by lowering your body fat level.

Good luck.

Im from philippines what is the advantage of lust?

I am not entirely sure I understand the question.

From a point of view of evolution and biology, both have their place. Lust is the mechanism by which humanity reproduces. It is what keeps our species existing. Love on the other hand plays a social role and influences our interactions (such as caring for the family, etc).

So basically, lust is a more impulsive and basic urge (you figure out if thats an advantage or not lol), it plays a vital part in reproduction, and it is easier to deal with (i.e. it is not as complex as love, and you can "make it go away" easily).

Well thats all I can think of, but again, not sure I quite understood what it was you were after exactly.

How can you calculate your body fat? I heard about BMI but I can't figure out how to do that since I'm not very good in math.

In addition, what is an army body fat calculator? Someone said that when calculating body fat that they went by the "army body fat calculator"--how is that any different? What in the world could an Army Body Fat Calculator mean? Is there a certain book or website I need to reading about the army body fat calculator? I would assume it's better but I don't know how your body fat % would be calculated by the army.

Isn't there just like a body fat percentage chart I can look at to tell me what weight I would be healthiest at instead of doing some sort of a BMI math?

Anyway, my main question is, how can you calculator your body fat correctly?

Ok first off the first hit on an internet search for Army Body Fat Calculator gave this:

http://550cord.com/products/info.asp?ProductID=7

Looks interesting. Has a few tabs, the second one measures bf. Will give you far better results than most online things I have seen.

Now to answer your question. It is really not very accurate to determine whether or not one is overweight by using a predetermined chart like BMI. That is because our body compositions are all different. These charts are standardised, which means that people with larger/ smaller builds, higher/ lower muscle percentages will get plain wrong results.

I can give you an example using myself when I tried applying these formulas back in my mid twenties. I weighed 93 kg (205 pounds) at 1.83 (6 foot) at the time. I weight trained, ran, played soccer and tennis. My bf was low enough that my abs were quite visible (though not a perfect six pack). According to the charts though I was overweight. Thats because it failed to account that I am wide as a door. If I followed their recommendations I would have starved myself to death lol.

Therefore you need specific measurements. Skin fold is the most common (see below), although the army calculator up there should give you decent results. Where it risks misleading is that it focuses on two areas. That means that someone with a larger belly will get incorrect overall bf measurements. As might someone with a very large neck.

The most common way that bodybuilders measure bodyfat is using calipers. Here is a link that talks a bit about it and has products below:

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/drobson108.htm

They can be used to measure skinfold thickness all over your body (from your triceps to your calfs) and therefore are a very versatile tool.

Good luck.

Alin 33/m

No, maybe fat isn't the BEST word. Obese is more like it. I'm 19 years old and I probably weigh close to 340 pounds. I have been obese for about 10 years now? No maybe less than that. It has to be less than that. Anyway, I'm getting off track.

I have always thought that because I'm so fat that I will never get a guy, however it was just a passing thought that would always return so I never was bothered by it, until the past couple of years. My self-image is so poor that when I walk into a building and I see my reflection though the glass I have to look away from it quickly so I won't see myself. Each time I look at myself I feel this wave of disgust, shame, and fear.

There is not a darn good thing about myself I find like able at all. Even my personality is called into question because while I view myself as a good person, I find that my faults (such as my Irish temper & obesity) will conquer over any good will I have. I feel so scared that I won't ever find a man who will find me attractive in anyway at all that I will never marry and have a family, like I want to.

I feel ashamed of myself so much that I refuse to apply to work at a near by clothing store because they won't hire a fat girl that can't even fit into the clothes they sell. Also, I'm even starting to have trouble finding clothes my size at Wal-mart. My grandfather who is a WW2 vet never says a thing about my weight, and yet in my mind I think that he deserves a better granddaughter who is pretty than I am.

I don't know, my mom constantly tells me I need to lose weight but for me I just can't stop myself from eating. Oh I notice when I'm over eating but I just can't stop until I'm full. My brother who is younger than me is only a few pounds short of being considered a healthy weight for his age group won't stop insulting me by calling me a fat a**, fat w***e, you know all those good names.

My self-esteem is so poor that if I do meet a guy that might hold real interest in my personality that I will never be able to trust him on his word because I will always assume that he's just saying it to be nice and polite.

Anyway what a pity rant I threw out into this wonderful Advicenators section. I just wanted to know if anyone had any tips for an obese woman to lose weight, right now I'm trying to convince my family to eat at home as much as possible since take-out isn't a good idea. Any exercises that would help me lose weight would be great.

I have no idea how to boost my self-esteem since all I want to do is hide in my room. If anyone knows what to do regarding that, it would be helpful...

Sorry for typing so much but I can't sleep and I have class in a few hours so I was hoping this might calm me down and help me to rest.

Thank you to anyone who answers.

Hey there. First off I want you to know that I am fully aware of what you are going through. I spent many years of my life being extremely overweight so I can relate to the feelings you just described.

Although sometimes fat people have an exaggerated perception of what the world thinks of them, sadly it is often correct. It is sad that so many people can't see past the exterior to the person one really is, but the one thing that defines our society (imo), is that we almost always judge a book by its cover. You see it all the time in all sorts of contexts (e.g. clothes, appearance, race, etc.).

Anyway, as dismal as that sounds, the good news is that it is not as hard to lose weight as you think it is. I remember again, from my own experience, the notion of losing weight seemed harder than climbing Mount Everest. The journey seemed to have no end, and more than that it was impossible for me to envision an end outcome. After all, I had always been fat...

There are two ways to go about changing your diet, 1. baby steps and 2. all out change. Almost always they recommend nr1 since it allows for a steady transition and minimises shock to your system. I have to admit that it never worked for me, and when I finally did it, I went all out. Every time I tried baby steps I lapsed back. You have to see what fits best with your personality.

Now the first thing to do is to start regular exercise. This is one area where baby steps are always recommended. At your weight you can easily start with walking as a form of cardio. Start with 20- 30 minutes every second day, and increase this to about 30- 45 minutes as you become more used to it. The long term goal should be 4- 6 cardios per week depending on what else you do.

I would always recommend joining a gym, but this is not mandatory. If you are willing a maintenance weight training routine would complement your cardios wonderfully and would have a great effect on your metabolism.

In the end though, your diet will make or break this. Start off by eliminating the really bad stuff. Get rid of everything with sugar added to it, and then get rid of most of the saturated fat (fat found in animal products).

Try to get used to eatin smaller, more frequent meals during the day- ideally every 3- 4 hours. Aim for a balanced diet where your meals are based around a good lean protein source (e.g skinless chicken/ turkey, lean beef, tuna, cottage cheese, etc).

There is no need to give more detailed advice at this stage. Later one can optimise the macronutrient breakdown. For now though, just try to implement these changes. Once you have done that, if you are not losing weight, you need to either decrease overall calories, or increase your exercise levels. Weight loss in your case can exceed the recommended 2 pounds (since you are quite overweight). I think 3 pounds or so should be ok.

I know that the hardest part of this will be in your mind not in your stomach. You somehow have to believe that you can do it, and I guarantee you that you can. Once you have lost the weight maintenance is a piece of cake compared to the weight loss. Remember that there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, you will not be hungry for the rest of your life.

Once you get started, once you see results, your self esteem will rise. Exercise in itself helps develop a better mental state. You just have to take the first step.

As for your family. I am so sorry your brother treats you this way. I have no siblings so I dont know how to deal with it (I am also a guy, so I would have thumped him lol). Your mom's reaction is textbook normal. My mom did the same. She will love you in whatever shape you are in, but wants the best possible life for you. She will continue to bug you forever but its forgivable :)

Anyhow, looks I rambled on forever here. I hope you can use this advice, and if theres anything else you can always drop me a note in my inbox.

Best of luck.

Alin 33/m

So I got my wisdom teeth out, and my face is starting to swell up. I know this is normal, just wondering what I can do to minimize it and make it go away faster.
Got all four out.
Have a prescription for Vicodin but I'm not taking it unless I have to, it makes me sick.

If you can keep the area cold that should help. I was told to use ice packs when I had mine removed and they seemed to work quite well. Only down side to that is that it was quite uncomfortable... but I guess everything has a price :)

Okay so i'm overweight not on the brink of obesity but enough to want to lose some kilo's.

I looked up some fitness videos on youtube which have helped me become more fit and are a good way for me to excercise (especially since i cant really afford a gym membership or anything like that at this moment)

The thing is, i mostly want to lose weight from my stomach area.

I know when you start losing weight you lose it from the areas you don't want to lose it (i.e breasts) but i was wondering that apart from doing sit ups are there any other ways to help me lose weight from my stomach in particular?

And if there is any really good fitness DVD's i could check out it would be helpful along with any other helpful tips.

Thanks!

I read the first answer, and I have a number of comments.

1. First and most important (and I cant say this enough), fat loss cannot be spot reduced. I.e. you cannot target through exercise from where the fat is lost. Sit ups/ crunches/ Swiss balls/ etc all work to train the muscle. The muscle does not own the fat around it, so the only contribution to weight loss that these exercises have is through the calories they burn (which are very very little compared to cardiovascular workouts and sports).

2. Sit ups are not a great way to train the abs, regardless of how you do them. Crunches and other exercises are more effective at targetting the right muscles.

3. Fitness videos can be a good tool to lose weight, as is any cardio work such as running, biking, etc. For best results do fasted cardio, i.e. in the morning before breakfast. This will target the fat stores directly. Just keep the intensity fairly low.

4. I am sure you know this, but your diet will make or break your efforts. Rather than seek out the mythical negative calorie foods, just focus on a sensible balanced diet consisting of wholesome unprocessed foods. Also minimise intake of saturated fats and anything that has sugar added to it.

I am sorry there is no way to achieve your main goal specifically, but this is the way the human body works. Genetics will determine if the weight loss will emphasise one area over another. Anything else is just a myth.

Good luck.

EDIT: You stated "The thing is, i mostly want to lose weight from my stomach area."

and

"but i was wondering that apart from doing sit ups are there any other ways to help me lose weight from my stomach in particular?"

That implies that you DO think you can lose weight through spot reduction (hence any OTHER ways to help me lose weight from my stomach). I just pointed out that sit ups or any other exercise dont do this.

No matter how you twist and turn this that was the MAIN question you asked, and then you added a couple of extras at the end. I answered your main question as best as is possible, and I also gave you "other helpful tips". And by the way, a 1 rating is for abusive answers. Do you think I have been abusive?

I always hear from people that high school is supposed to be the best time of your life. That this is the time when you find yourself. Well, I haven't exactly found myself yet, which is alright I suppose since I'm just going into sophomore year.
But I am a little worried. I've reached a point due to a horrible first year of high school where I just don't care about who likes me or if I have friends.
Basically the only thing I'm counting on to get me through this hellhole called school is that college, marriage, and kids will be better.
But I just don't want to regret twenty years down the road that my high school experience sucked. Then what do I tell my kids? "Oh yes don't worry! You'll be fine in high school!"
I hear my parents tell me stories about how their high school years were and I sort of feel like a failure at life.

So my question is, is high school really the best time of your life? Are there any adults that could maybe share what they thought were the best years? (And I'm NOT going to rate you low if you tell me that yes, high school is the best. I want honesty and I can take it.)
Thanks.

Hey there.

Obviously everyones experience will vary. You certainly dont have to feel like a failure if some people enjoyed high school more than you do. Many factors play in here, not least of all your classmates and what you enjoy doing.

That being said, high school was probably the best time of my life, at least in terms of raw fun. Of course, I ended up in one crazy class full of jokers and party animals. At one point we were labelled as the most unruly class in the history of the school. I could tell you some stories you wouldnt believe lol.

Now I am not saying that this is the way to approach high school, but it was a unique experience I will never forget. Of course, I do love to party, and I am rather silly by nature, so I fit in great in that environment.

If one does not like that sort of thing, or if one ends up in a different type of environment, thats ok. There is no law that states you must love high school, and things will most likely get better.

As for your kids, just tell them the truth... something like "I did not enjoy high school very much, but most people think its great fun."

Good luck.

is there any way you can play wii tennis as a SINGLES game? cause for mine you can only play with two people on your team,and i only want one person on each team.

As far as I know you cant. This seems to be because of the limitation in movement (since each player moves along a straight line, with the baseliner staying back and the net player staying forward).

I might take this opportunity to add that wii was the greatest gaming disapointment of my life- particularly after all the hype.

whenever i do situps i have a hard time breathing i dont know why and it really effects the point that i wanna lose my tummy
anyone help?

Doing sit ups will not help you lose your stomach fat since you cannot target fat loss. You can only achieve this by losing weight overall which is done through general exercise (particularly cardio work like running, biking, etc) and attention to your diet.

Anyway, here are a whole bunch of ab training alternatives to sit ups (which are not that good for training abs in the first place):
http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/exercises.php?MainMuscle=Abdominals

Some require equipment, others do not. You will find crunches on page 2 which are always a popular alternative.

Anyway, good luck, but do pay heed to what I wrote above. Otherwise you may spend months building rock hard abs under a layer of fat that is completely unaffected by your efforts.

So im 13 years old and ive been working out for 2 months now and ive seen SO MANY changes in my body and im eating healthier and stuff
Ive been trying very hard to lose weight and it was really worth my hard work
like id Speed walk an hour a day or 50 minutes a day and sweat like crazy
Alrite so heres my question
I Only eat like chips or chocalate Once a week, and i dont eat any junk food only one day a week and i only eat like a pack of small chips or like a small chocalate bar and thats it i dont want to starve myself until im skinny because im scared if i lose the weight ill gain it by having all the things i wanted to eat you know?
so should i just keep doing this, have a treat once a week?
or is it not good for me?
thanks.. and im sorry its long haha.

I agree with the answer below. There is nothing wrong with what you are doing. The occassional cheat meal or treat helps you psychologically. I wouldnt worry about it at all.

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