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what should i do???
I am 19/f.
I am from India.
My boyfriend is 18 and we are dating each other for nearly more than 1 year.
Initially the relationship was wonderful but lately we are fighting a lot.
In my past i had many frnds who r boys n now bcoz of dat he thinks dat i m a flirt n he doesn't even trust me.
Wen i say dat dey wer only my frnd n nothin more den dat he gets angry n starts arguing.
Now i dont even have many frnds n now days i avoid talkin 2 ne boy 4m ma class.
but still he doesn't trust me.
But he says dat he loves me a lot.
Even i love him a lot.
I don't want 2 leave him.
nowdays he says dat he doesnt wants 2 b wit n after sayin no he keeps callin me back everytime...n fights wit me again...
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Well the trust issue that is manifesting itself here will play a role in your entire relationship. He needs to understand that you have had a life before him, and that you can manage to have friends without necessarily having a romantic attachment to them.
Personally I don't think you should avoid talking to other boys, nor do I think you need to make excuses for having had friends. What you need to do is keep it very simple with him. Let him know that this is a trust issue, and that you cannot have a successful relationship if he continuously lets his jealousy get in the way.
I would let him know in no uncertain terms that if he cant learn to trust you, you will leave. Do not indulge him in his arguments and his fights. A simple "don't you trust me?" should suffice. Love is a great thing, but it really, really is not enough on its own. You need to have some ground rules, some compatibility in terms of how you think and what you expect from one another. If he does not understand this, or if he is not willing to grant you the same trust you grant him, then you are better off leaving.
Good luck.
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Your boyfriend is being overly protective and jealous. I can relate to the jealousy because my boyfriend is also a jealous person. Jealousy is a form of caring for someone and can be cute.
However, when it comes to the point where he's toying with your heart and making you feel bad for having friends or even communicating with other people; it's gone too far. All he's doing is abusing you emotionally and that's not right. If he truly loved you, he would be able to trust you enough to talk to a boy in your class without lashing out on you for it.
You need to tell him that you're flattered that he's so 'into' you, but that he's smothering you and if he can't trust you and treat you like he does trust and respect you, then you can't be with him.
I'm sorry to say, if after you talk to him things don't change, it's time to move on and get him out of your life.
Hope I helped.
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