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Q: OK in school i want to go to the school dancee..
But have no one to go withh..
I know guys like me in school..
But they wont ask me outt..
So how do i get people to ask me out??

You can't make someone ask you out. They're probably shy. If you know they like you, pick one and ask them out.

Q: 17/f. I am "talking to"/dating this great guy. We're not official yet because we're getting to know each other better. Anyway, he is so freaking nice to me. We went on a date, and he picked me up, opened every door for me (car doors included), paid for everything, met my parents, and he even insisted on programming my home address into his GPS so I wouldn't have to sit there and tell him where to go (so we would have more time to actually talk). He's just such an outstanding guy... and I feel like he's doing all the giving and I'm doing all the taking. I want to show him that I'm as interested in him as he is in me. Any suggestions? Nothing sexual please.

Aw, that sounds like how I got together with my boyfriend.
I can give you some suggestions that I did.
For one, I flat out told him how much I care about him and how sweet he is. Then at the park I stole one of his shoes so he'd chase me and tackle me and then we'd lay down and cuddle. Afterwards, I told him that I only stole his shoe because I knew it'd get us closer. He bought me a rose so a few days later I picked him a bouquet and gave him flowers. I also made him a CD with songs that I thought well described how I felt about him. And I picked two stars and told him they were my favorite because they were close together just like he and I.

Those are just some things I did. However, chances are if this guy is as wonderful as you say he is, which I'm sure he is, then he's not worried about you doing the giving. He's happy just to see you smile and make you happy and make your day better. That's a gift enough to him. I know my boyfriend was just happy that I wanted to be friends with him, let alone be more than that. My main suggestion would just be to tell him how you feel about him and maybe try cute little things that'll get his attention but aren't too over the top.

I hope I helped a little.

Q: I want to have a homecoming date this year. Our homecoming is in a little over a month. There is this one guy that I like but I'm worried he may be out of my league. He's a senior and I'm a junior. I know him because he's in my jazz band and he's a drum major in our marching band. I don't talk to him a whole lot, but when I do, we both laugh a lot. He's cute but he's kind of shy as well. Would it be too weird for me to ask him to go with me? And also, how do I prepare for this so that it doesn't seem so out of the blue? Thanks.

If you like him, then it wouldn't be weird to ask him. If you get the vibe that he likes you, even if it's just as a friend, then you definitely should ask him. You shouldn't doubt your own quality and doubt yourself when it comes to guys. That just makes it harder to find a guy and knocks at your self-esteem.
Just start talking to him about homecoming the next time you have a chance to talk to him and then ask him to go with you.

Hope I helped.

Q: i'd really appreciate any books you can put down here that are a similar style to the twilight saga. no harry potter please, a little to over the edge for me lol. any ideas? i'm dying to read something new. love stories preferably

Have you tried reading the candle series (that's what I call it), there's a group of 4 books and they're called Blue is for Nightmares, Red is for Remembrance, White is for Magic, and Silver is for Secrets.
I can't remember the order exactly other than Red is last. However, I read them out of order and they were still just as good. They're by Laurie Stolarz.

Hope I helped.

Q: 16/f
Okay, well the guy i like says that i am pretty and he wants to get to know me first before anything happens. We haven't really talked that much so i'm not sure, how he is. But anyways, at a party i went to friday night, he came up to me and talked to me some and then gave me two hugs and said that he would call me that night. Well, he never called me. He hasn't called me all day today either. Also, my friend (camille) called me and she dosen't get signal where she is at right now and said that my friend i was talking to friday after the game (sandra) said that i told her that he was going to ask me out monday at school. I never told her that, i told her that i liked him and I HOPE HE ASKES ME OUT. I think she mis understood me because it was loud at the party and when i was leaving she called me on the phone and i told her. She is his friend to and she rides his bus and i hope she dosen't say "Brandon! Lindsey (me) told me that you were going to ask her out today." I don't want her to say that because i don't want to have him think that i think that. I can't call her and tell her because she is out of town. What do i do?

Wow. First off, get your friends out of your love life business. It's okay if they're there for advice, but not if they're getting involved in how you plan carrying out this relationship.
As for the boy, you should call him. Ask him why he chose not to call you after he said he would. My ex would frequently promise to call and then never would. That's not fair to you, it just causes stress and leaves you feeling pathetic as you wait by the phone. So, call him and find out what's up. Find out how he feels about you and why he hasn't called you. As much as you like him, figure out if he's going to be worth the emotional energy and toll on you.

Q: I'm sure you're sick of hearing about these type of problems, but...there's someone at school who I'm really interested in. He has a girlfriend, and I'm fine with that, but I'd like to be closer with him friend-wise. He comes up to me sometimes and occasionally sits with me for long periods of time. The only problem is, I'm extremely shy and have a lot of trouble conversing with him. I usually end up staring into space, wishing I knew what to say, while he talks a little bit. Of course i don't stay completely silent the entire time, but i feel like my lack of interesting things to say is keeping us from becoming real friends. What should I do?

If you're too shy to talk about yourself at first, ask him questions about his life. Not too personal, but general things. Such as, if he's on a sports team, ask him about it. This will show him that your interested in getting to know him. Then, if he says something, just try to relate it to an experience or interest of your own. Soon, it'll become easier to carry conversations.

Hope I helped. (:

Q: Okay sorry this might be long.

Alright so about a year ago, I dated this kid. Well he ended up cheating on me and i broke it off. A couple months later, we started talking again. ( I mean i feel so hard for this kid.) Well one day me him and a couple of our friends were having a little party, and he ended up getting with my best friend. SOAGAIN I was dicked over. So its been about 6months, and we finally started talking again, and of corse i'm starting to like him again and all this.. so we started talking on the phone at night and things, but a mutual friend called me and told me that i was leading him on and all this, and im really not trying to. I told him i still had feelings for him but only wanted to be friends but he doesn't seem to get it. And i was told that he was in such a goood mood now that we have been talking again, and i dont wanna be the one to make him in a bad mood. I just don't know what to do, if i should just break it off, try to stay friends, or just give him another chance.

You definitely should NOT give him another chance. You've given him two chances and he's betrayed your trust and hurt you twice.
What it comes down to is whether you're comfortable being just friends and can overcome any romantic feelings towards him for your sake. And secondly, whether he's willing to accept that you won't let him use you or hurt you anymore.
If he's not willing to just be friends with you and can't understand that you can't start a relationship with him again because he hurt you and betrayed your trust, then you need to break off from him. You can be friendly and say hi, but ultimately, ignore him and don't waste your time trying to befriend a guy who just doesn't get it.
Trust me, I just recently went through the same thing, until I found my current boyfriend. Things'll work out.

Hope I helped.

Q: I am 19/f.

I am from India.

My boyfriend is 18 and we are dating each other for nearly more than 1 year.
Initially the relationship was wonderful but lately we are fighting a lot.
In my past i had many frnds who r boys n now bcoz of dat he thinks dat i m a flirt n he doesn't even trust me.
Wen i say dat dey wer only my frnd n nothin more den dat he gets angry n starts arguing.
Now i dont even have many frnds n now days i avoid talkin 2 ne boy 4m ma class.
but still he doesn't trust me.
But he says dat he loves me a lot.
Even i love him a lot.
I don't want 2 leave him.
nowdays he says dat he doesnt wants 2 b wit n after sayin no he keeps callin me back everytime...n fights wit me again...

Your boyfriend is being overly protective and jealous. I can relate to the jealousy because my boyfriend is also a jealous person. Jealousy is a form of caring for someone and can be cute.
However, when it comes to the point where he's toying with your heart and making you feel bad for having friends or even communicating with other people; it's gone too far. All he's doing is abusing you emotionally and that's not right. If he truly loved you, he would be able to trust you enough to talk to a boy in your class without lashing out on you for it.
You need to tell him that you're flattered that he's so 'into' you, but that he's smothering you and if he can't trust you and treat you like he does trust and respect you, then you can't be with him.
I'm sorry to say, if after you talk to him things don't change, it's time to move on and get him out of your life.

Hope I helped.

Q: Well, I start school in two weeks and the first day at our school is always a half day, which doesn't make it as intense but yeah...
What are some ways I will leave a good/friendly impression on the new people, and also how are some ways I can be friendly with the people in my classes?
I mean obviously I have friends that I always hang around with but I want to know how I can be friendly with the people that I don't really know?

Thanks!

Well, I'll start by flat saying, stay yourself. It'll make any friends you make truer. Now that I'm done with the cliche, just stay friendly. Smile when people make eye contact with you and say hello. When you sit down in class, if there's a class you don't have friends in, instead of isolating yourself out of discomfort, go sit by someone you don't know and start a conversation with them. Ask questions and really listen to what other people tell you, but also share about yourself a little as well. You could share what you did over the summer with each other or what classes you're taking or what you're looking forward to about the school year. Just be pleasant.

Hope I helped. (:

Q: wednesday, a guy asked me out and i said yes. we only just met on sunday, but we'd been hanging out for four hours that day and we talked online and on the phone.

anyway.

this "relationship" has GOT to end. i can't really go into the specific reasons why, it just absolutely has to. but he's been very nice and sweet to me, and i feel like $#!* for having led him on maybe.

but the truth is i got to know him a little better and... he's trouble. he's no good.

i already know i want to end this as swiftly and efficiently as possible without completely pissing him off and without getting into a confrontation/argument thing...

can anyone give me a good layout of a swift, persuasive, concise breakup speech?

THANK YOU SO MUCH.

Say something like
"You're very nice and sweet to me and I enjoyed the few days we've been together. But, I really don't think I'm ready for this kind of relationship. Maybe if I had gotten to know you better before we started dating, things would be different. Unfortunately, I'm just not feeling right in this relationship. I'm sorry, you really are great. I just can't continue in this relationship."

Q: is there a way to block people from sending you messages on facebook??

and

is there a way of blocking people from sending you text messages/calling you if you have t-mobile?

thanks

I'm pretty sure on myspace there's a 'block this user' option; or you can delete them from your friends and in your privacy settings there should be a way to make it so that they can't message you unless you're 'friends'. I'm not sure on Facebook.

For your phone, if you call your cell phone provider, you can ask them to block the number.

Hope I helped.

Q: hi, I am 16 the guy I was seeing is 20 he is a really good guy and just don't judge I need advice... anyway, we talked for like 3 months everyday, anyway like 2 weeks ago he seemed very distant and he seemed really short with me so I asked him what was wrong what am I doing wrong and he said " I just don't have the feelings for you anymore babe we can still be friends" I asked him why I didn't understand and he said that I was too attached too quick. I need to know how can I show him that I have changed and how do I change and how do I get him back ever since he told me that I have been really depressed and stuff, I need you guys help!! thank you ahead of time, I rate high

Honestly, it sounds to me like he was never interested you that much to begin with. You shouldn't change for him; you need to find ways to distract yourself from the hurt you feel. And ultimately, you need to figure a way to get over him. Spend more time with your friends, pick up a hobby, something along those lines will distract you and help you to feel better about yourself and the situation. He's not worth your pain, time, or energy.
I know that probably isn't want you wanted to hear, but it's time you move on; changing for a guy never works out well. You'll lose yourself and be worse off than if you don't have him.

Hope I helped.

Q: i've played "janes hotel" on meez.com once and got some coinz for my meez. so my question is, do you have to play different games in order to keep getting coinz? or can you still play the same game and still get coinz?

You can only win the awards once, so if you want large amounts of coinz at the same time you'll have to play different games with different awards.
But, you can still play the same game and get the standard amount that is given when you complete a level which is usually 1, 2, or 3 coinz.

Q: are there any websites where there are restaurant/cooking games? sorta like you cook the food/serve food/put all ingredients? and i dont want to download anything.

and i know about www.agames.com, www.addictinggames.com, and that mcdonalds food corporation game already so don't give me the links to those websites.

Well, on www.meez.com there is a game portion that has quite a few of those types of games.

Q: how do you pronounce "stephen" lol is it steFen or steVen?

hahaha

It depends on the person. I know someone named Stephen who pronounces it SteFen. But, I also know someone named Stephen who pronounces it SteVen.

Q: Ok so ive been seeing these 2 girls over teh last few weeks and im close to both of them and ive found that i like one alot more than the other the only catch is that ther really close friends and for some reason they havent told each other about me and i dont know how to tell the one with out ruining there friendship cause she's eventually gonna see us together.

They probably both like you or have some sort of feelings for you, which is why they haven't told each other about you.
But, you have to remember, that's there decision and their prerogative. If you like one more than the other, then go for it. There's a good chance it'll work for you.
When it comes to telling the other, you'll simply have to be straight forward about it. Bring it up casually and then tell her. If they're good enough friends it won't tear them apart.

Q: everybody thinks im a techers pet even though i asked to help my teacher everyday and i get awards everyday and i listen in every lesson in school doenst make me a teachers pet does it?

Honestly, it does make you a bit of a teacher's pet. But, there's nothing wrong with that. It just shows your willingness to learn and educate yourself. Don't be ashamed by it, embrace it. And pretty soon, the people who tease you about it will back off.

Q: I'm 13 and female
well i have this best friend named "Carmen" and another best friend named "Melissa". They don't really know each other. Melissa has a sister named Candice and she was Carmen's best friend back in 3rd grade, but when Candice switched schools they lost in touch. Carmen's in my school and Melissa lives in the same apartment with me. (I live in Hong Kong, so there's like no neighbourhoods and we live in apartments instead of houses)
well lately melissa has reslly been bothering me so i've been asking carmen for advice. then in the summer holidays, (we have to go to middle school, hong kong schools are different, and me and carmen weren;t in the same school) carmen told melissa everything i said. i asked carmen but she said she didn't mention my name AT ALL. how would melissa know it's me then? carmen sent an email to melissa saying that it wasn't my fault, and melissa said she acts like she's so innocent, and carmen is saying 'don't be so childish'. They're both hating each other now, what should I do? Carmen's asking me to stop hanging out with melissa and melissa's asking me to stop hanging out with carmen.
what can I do???
and please, don't tell me to talk to them. Nothing will change their minds. they're both very...stubborn

Well, first I'd say; trust your gut. If you really think that Carmen told Melissa those things, then confront her again and tell her you'd really like to know the truth. If possible, see if Melissa has this alleged email for proof. After that, there's nothing you can really do about that.
However, as for them asking for you to only hang out with them, that's not fair. Tell them that you like both of them equally and that both of them are your best friends; you won't stop hanging out with either one of the other and if they can't get a long then you'll hang out with them separately. It's not fair for them to make you choose between them.

Hope I helped.

Q: Ive been told that tattoo's ruin job prospects. However, i allready have a couple of tattoo's, and want more, BUT, i want to be either a psychologist, or lawyer when older? so will tattoo's prevent me from doing that?

It depends where they're at and if you'll be able to cover them when working/finding a job. It can be seen as unprofessional and inappropriate. Depending where your tattoos are, it could effect those wishes.

Q: Last year, Cartoon Network launched Pokemon Movie 9, Pokemon Ranger and the Temple of the Sea. Apparently, Cartoon Network changed the credits song, so all the internet information I get is from the actual movie.

My question is:
does anyone know the name of the song that came up when the credits were rolling at the end of Pokemon Movie 9. It's the one that went "Together we'll make a promise, to never forget it all..."

Please help! I love that song and I've been trying to get it for a year!

Kkytha -14/f

Together We Make A Promise -- Cori Yarkin

I'll give you a tip. If you're ever trying to find a song and you know some of the lyrics, google the lyrics. To get the name of this song I typed in "Together we'll make a promise, to never forget it all lyrics" and got it.
;)

Hope I helped.