|
there's someone at school who I'm really interested in
I'm sure you're sick of hearing about these type of problems, but...there's someone at school who I'm really interested in. He has a girlfriend, and I'm fine with that, but I'd like to be closer with him friend-wise. He comes up to me sometimes and occasionally sits with me for long periods of time. The only problem is, I'm extremely shy and have a lot of trouble conversing with him. I usually end up staring into space, wishing I knew what to say, while he talks a little bit. Of course i don't stay completely silent the entire time, but i feel like my lack of interesting things to say is keeping us from becoming real friends. What should I do?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
You need to speak up.
I mean, I'm sure you two will be great friends. He obviously likes talking to you. Just try to speak up a little more when hes around. Once you two are fully comfortable, ask to hang out. But always remember he has a girlfriend, you don't want to cross that line. Good luck!
]
Don't be too harsh on yourself. Just figure out what you like talking about, something general, not like about your hair or something, that would be too specific. Ask him if he has any pets, and if he likes animals.... Strange topic, but at least there is a conversation! The fact that you're comfortable enough to talk about silly things like animals OR cheese! It doesn't matter. So just talk about anything that pops to mind. I know quite a few girls that start a really nice relationship with a guy they like, but starting off as friends, some of them are comfortable enough to talk about sex and positions, whereas some are comfortable just talking about sports, whatever interests you, talk about it! He will get to know you better, plus that s who you are, and comfidence is what is really admired! Be comfortable of who you are.
Ask Venzuela
]
If you're too shy to talk about yourself at first, ask him questions about his life. Not too personal, but general things. Such as, if he's on a sports team, ask him about it. This will show him that your interested in getting to know him. Then, if he says something, just try to relate it to an experience or interest of your own. Soon, it'll become easier to carry conversations.
Hope I helped. (:
]
More Questions: |