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People always say...
I always hear from people that high school is supposed to be the best time of your life. That this is the time when you find yourself. Well, I haven't exactly found myself yet, which is alright I suppose since I'm just going into sophomore year.
But I am a little worried. I've reached a point due to a horrible first year of high school where I just don't care about who likes me or if I have friends.
Basically the only thing I'm counting on to get me through this hellhole called school is that college, marriage, and kids will be better.
But I just don't want to regret twenty years down the road that my high school experience sucked. Then what do I tell my kids? "Oh yes don't worry! You'll be fine in high school!"
I hear my parents tell me stories about how their high school years were and I sort of feel like a failure at life.
So my question is, is high school really the best time of your life? Are there any adults that could maybe share what they thought were the best years? (And I'm NOT going to rate you low if you tell me that yes, high school is the best. I want honesty and I can take it.)
Thanks.
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You said you wanted adults to answer this and i'm only a junior in high school but i've gone through this same thing plenty of times and honestly i have just realzed it probably will be some of the worst years of your life. When your in a college you're going to be in a school full of people who understand you atleast a little bit because they had enough common interest as you to pick the same school that you did. When your married hopefully whoever marries you will love you for exactly as who you are. Right now whether you're trying or not you're going to find out who you are. You probably feel alone and honestly lonliness is probably the worst feeling that you ever feel, but thats how you find out who you are. You sound like you're able to fuction independently and on you're own and thats what you need to keep doing. You need to know that if you like the person that you are you'll be fine you don't friends or a perfect family to be ok. Eventually all the people that are in you're life right now won't be there anymore, but you still will, if you're content with yourself then eventually everything else will fall into place. Focus on your grades and your appearence and your interests and your hobbies and when something feels right go with it. The next three years are either going to go by very fast or very slow, and even if they end up to be the true worst years of your life you'll remember them because all the hard times and feeling that your going through now are molding you into the person you'll be for the rest of your life.
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I believe that there is no set period of time that could be described as the best time of your life. We all find ourselves at some point, just not at the same time as others. When others struggle through high school, others ease right by. It's all about an individual. Who knows? You could get to college and LOVE IT. Or, you could go to high school one day, and everything could turn around. My best advice is to just live each day the way you want to, so you can one day tell your kids that you never regretted anything you ever did, because it was what you wanted to do at the time. Just relax, and enjoy life. =]
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Well, I personally believe that they aren't the best years of your life. I'm going into my junior year of high school, and quite frankly, i'm glad i'm almost done.
I think the best years of school are always going to be K through third. Those were mine. But ones that you'll really remember, will probably be college.
A lot of stuff that happens in high school you may not remember. For example, "Oh my god you'll never guess what so and so did."
A lot of high school is like that. Though, a lot of high school you will remember. Like if you were in a sport, you'll remember your team and the people who leave you and who you leave. If you're in the band. They all can become like family.
But, majority of the time you don't stay friends with them after high school is over. More people usually stay friends with their college friends.
And twenty years from now when you're kids ask about high school, tell them the truth. Say that you didn't have the best high school experience, but they might.
I will say that high school is about taking chances. Tell them that. And remind yourself that. Maybe you will find yourself,just take some chances.
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Alright.
First, the reason why people say this.
When you are in high school, the concerns are petty. You don't have a single truly serious thing to worry about.
Don't take offense at that, its true. Your concerns are friends, are fun, are handling school.
As you grow into adults, you are handed serious things to worry about. Money is a big one. Supporting others is one too. When you get married, you must work together to survive. Even moreso when you have kids, raising kids is a huge responsibility and something you worry about daily.
"Are they ok, am I raising them right, can we afford x, y, or z," etc.
For me, college was the best time of my life. High school was fun, don't get me wrong, but nothing compared to that first year, even living in dorms (I hated the dorms) and having freedom and not having to see my parents every day. I'm sure you can guess, we didn't get along)
As far as friends go, quality over quantity. Make friends where you can, but realize that when you hit college alot of them will grow distant. Enjoy everything you can, and do stuff while you still have the time. Join a club, go out for a sport, be involved in things you enjoy.
What high school is NOT is time to sit on your ass and do nothing. While it can be the best time in your life, it won't be unless you make it so.
The REASON people say high school is the best time in your life is because thats when its easiest to find a way to make your life decent.
You don't have to take care of yourself or pay your own bills. You don't have a decade or more of crap life has thrown at you to deal with weighing you down. You don't have worries like "am I where I need to be in life" and definite evidence that you arent yet. You're still trying to find a path, and life gets alot more complicated once you've found one and are trying to walk it.
What do you tell your kids? The same things your parents told you. Children are not supposed to be burdened with the worries of your past, they are supposed to be excited with the possibilities of their futures. I guarantee your parents have left out stories of both what they did and didnt do, and things that happened while they were in high school. No one has a smooth ride all the way through. Keep that in mind.
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Been in your shoes hun. To me Highschool was a hellhole and it felt so great to be out. But I admit that there were great times besides all the sucky times. Highschool is what you make. Make memories of your own. It's great that you don't care what others think. It just makes creative memories even more awesome. Just go with the flow even though school stuff like homecoming and dances sound gay and boring go out and do those things so you can tell your kids yeah i was there when we made the winning goal if you go through them I'm sure life will be grand Live it your all but be safe
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Hey there.
Obviously everyones experience will vary. You certainly dont have to feel like a failure if some people enjoyed high school more than you do. Many factors play in here, not least of all your classmates and what you enjoy doing.
That being said, high school was probably the best time of my life, at least in terms of raw fun. Of course, I ended up in one crazy class full of jokers and party animals. At one point we were labelled as the most unruly class in the history of the school. I could tell you some stories you wouldnt believe lol.
Now I am not saying that this is the way to approach high school, but it was a unique experience I will never forget. Of course, I do love to party, and I am rather silly by nature, so I fit in great in that environment.
If one does not like that sort of thing, or if one ends up in a different type of environment, thats ok. There is no law that states you must love high school, and things will most likely get better.
As for your kids, just tell them the truth... something like "I did not enjoy high school very much, but most people think its great fun."
Good luck.
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