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I always hear from people that high school is supposed to be the best time of your life. That this is the time when you find yourself. Well, I haven't exactly found myself yet, which is alright I suppose since I'm just going into sophomore year.
But I am a little worried. I've reached a point due to a horrible first year of high school where I just don't care about who likes me or if I have friends.
Basically the only thing I'm counting on to get me through this hellhole called school is that college, marriage, and kids will be better.
But I just don't want to regret twenty years down the road that my high school experience sucked. Then what do I tell my kids? "Oh yes don't worry! You'll be fine in high school!"
I hear my parents tell me stories about how their high school years were and I sort of feel like a failure at life.

So my question is, is high school really the best time of your life? Are there any adults that could maybe share what they thought were the best years? (And I'm NOT going to rate you low if you tell me that yes, high school is the best. I want honesty and I can take it.)
Thanks.

You said you wanted adults to answer this and i'm only a junior in high school but i've gone through this same thing plenty of times and honestly i have just realzed it probably will be some of the worst years of your life. When your in a college you're going to be in a school full of people who understand you atleast a little bit because they had enough common interest as you to pick the same school that you did. When your married hopefully whoever marries you will love you for exactly as who you are. Right now whether you're trying or not you're going to find out who you are. You probably feel alone and honestly lonliness is probably the worst feeling that you ever feel, but thats how you find out who you are. You sound like you're able to fuction independently and on you're own and thats what you need to keep doing. You need to know that if you like the person that you are you'll be fine you don't friends or a perfect family to be ok. Eventually all the people that are in you're life right now won't be there anymore, but you still will, if you're content with yourself then eventually everything else will fall into place. Focus on your grades and your appearence and your interests and your hobbies and when something feels right go with it. The next three years are either going to go by very fast or very slow, and even if they end up to be the true worst years of your life you'll remember them because all the hard times and feeling that your going through now are molding you into the person you'll be for the rest of your life.

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I'm sure everyone has faced this problem at some point in his or her life. I tried searching for this question, but nothing really came up. Anyway...

First I will say that I am a very introverted person. But, I want to make new friends. This past year, I just haven't made any good friends. I know lots of people, but I don't really see them, or hang out. In fact, I don't even really like the people that I know. I haven't found anyone that I can connect with. If I have met someone that I think I could really be good friends with, they just don't really reciprocate. I feel like they aren't a good friend to me.

I'm moving to a new city soon. I'm seeing this as an opportunity to meet new people. But, how do I meet people like me, or rather, people that I can really get along with? How do I make a close group of friends?

Thanks for your help!

where are you moving to?

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