what does it mean for your cherry to "pop"?
It means your hymen, which is a thin layer on your vagina gets broken. It tears, which can sometimes cause it to bleed. Your cherry can be popped from sex, tampons, or sports.
[view]
ugh this sounds so wrong, and im so embarrased to write this. here goes.
i'm 13, and for a long time i've been.. well.. touching myself, and I guess masterbating. ever since I was like 5 or 6. I have no idea how it started.. and I didnt know what I was doing then, but I felt like it was horrendously wrong. Even now I do. I'm pretty ashamed of it, and I wish I hadnt done this so young, and learned some other things from bad places on the internet. I dont do the other things, but I know they're there. I'd rather be blissfully unaware till I was an adult and could handle it. But apparently I already know, and I dont wanna know any more. anyway, with the masterbating thing, i'd get some sort of object.. like cushions (i'd put them in the washer after), once a barbie doll (yes. i know. but im not a lesbo, I was like 8.), and like teddybears and stuff. It feels good, and sometimes I get horny and feel like doing it. All the time say it will be the last time, but its never the last time. I end up doing it again. So far, nobody has caught me or even known about it for all these years... I've been keeping it a secret. It even feels weird to post it here.. I've never told anyone about this, because I've been afraid... I mean.. how would they react? they'll think I'm some dirty little girl.. which is not how I act, though sometimes I may think a perverted thought.. because well.. I've heard it from other people online and IRL so I knew what they meant. I just dont know what to do.. I dont wanna like confess it to the world.. and im not even sure confessing it during church (which I hardly go to, because of my family's busy schedule.. but I wish I did. and im a christian.). its kinda scary.. because i doubt other kids do it, or even know what it is at my age (except for alot of boys) so at times i feel kinda... like.... wacko, and not normal. i know nobody is normal, but.. seriously nobody else really does this.. unless they keep it a secret, but I kinda doubt it. also, i forgot to say, that i got my period like right after my 10th birthday. I had it like a couple months before we had the talk about "periods and puberty" and stuff.. so I had no idea what I'd done, when I went to the bathroom and found blood in my pants. I thought that I either burst my bladdar, or it was because of me like.. humping stuff. then I had a problem with having really long periods lasting like more than week, so I went to the doctor, and the doctor and my mom asked if I'd put anything up "down there" or anything.. and I'm like "no", but I felt kinda pressured, like at any moment my cover would be blown. its so crazy.. i could go on about that.. but this is getting long already. sorry if i like disgusted you or anything, but like thanks alot for your help with your reply.
also, how do you know if your cherry has popped? could it happen from like.. doing what I've been doing? I hope not! I wanna be a virgin till I'm married..
Well, first of all I can greatly shorten my answer by giving you one link:
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm
It will answer all of your questions. Okay, when I was reading your question I cant even BEGIN to tell you how many kids do the same thing. At the same age! We all experience differently..some kids do it at 5, some do it at 25. Its a combination of our environment, exposure and bodies! But like the website says, its PERFECTLY fine and normal to masturbate. I know you feel dirty, but thats normal too. No one feels great about masturbating. Sometimes the things that pleasure us most are the things that make us feel terrible because its such a private thing. Also, the church makes us feel bad about it, too and we have to hide it from our parents. Anything we feel we have to hide makes us feel guilty. So, its obvious why you feel guilty and dirty...its a secret. But, you know what? Its not that much of a secret. Everyone knows everyone else does it. Its going to happen sometime to everyone because its perfectly normal. Its not really you doing those things, its your body and your hormones raging. Also, you say no other girls do it? Not true. They probably are thinking EXACTLY what youre doing. You think that because its hard to picture certain people you go to school with every day doing that. I understand, but chances are they do too.
When your cherry pops, it hurts a little and bleeds a little, too. It can happen from something OTHER THAN SEX. Such as horseback riding, tampons, etc.
Just so you know - to not be a virgin, you have to actually have intercourse which means a guys penis INSIDE of you. Just because your hymen "cherry" is popped, doesnt mean youre not a virgin.
[view]
I need help.
My grades are 2 f's 3 d's and the rest are c's/
im so tired of everuthing and i need my grades up?
Any advice?♥☺☻
Aw, Im sorry. My grades arent great right now either, so Im not one to give advice, but Ill tell you some things that DO help.
1. Get motivated. First, you have to WANT to get good grades. You have to be willing to use up a lot of time and effort because doing well in school is hard work!
2. Stay organized. Keep all of your papers and handouts, etc in a binder LABELED. Dont just throw them into your backpack aimlessly. Actually have a binder for EACH individual class and extra paper. Always come to class prepared - thats one way to get good grades.
3. Do your homework! I know I sound like a broken record here..but seriously, school isnt that hard. The best thing you can do to get good grades is to do all of your homework completely and accurately and ON TIME. Homework counts for so much and can be the difference between getting a D and an A.
4. Put in a lot of effort. Especially in class. Its really important to get a lot out of your time as boring as it may be. Take notes and make sure you ASK QUESTIONS if you dont understand! Thats the best thing you can do. Just think, you HAVE to go to school no matter what..so why not put effort in while your there instead of wasting time?
5. Get help. Thats what teachers are for! A teacher should always be willing to help you. Stay after school when you dont understand something and want them to explain it further. You will probably learn better because its one-on-one. If you dont like your teacher or theyre not very accomidating, get a tutor. Theyre not too much of a price to pay for the benefit that comes out of it. Dont get some professional adult - get a high school student who is older, a senior? Ask your guidance counselor for a list of tutors - they usually have a list of student tutors. Or get a friend/family member to tutor you.
6. Study. If you have a big quiz/test coming up, failing it will hurt you a lot. And you fail because you dont study. So, thats why it pays to be organized. You can just flip through your binder and find all of your old worksheets, etc. which will help you study.
Good luck!
[view]
I need to lose 15 lbs. in a month. I hate exercising. I need dieting tips!
Sorry to say this, but it doesnt matter how much you hate excercising. The only way youre going to lose weight (In a healthy way) is to diet & excercise as well. Excercising doesnt have to be horrible. It doesnt have to just be running and all that. Try dancing. :] It doesnt have to be professional, just put on loud music and dance like your in a music video. Just make sure your moving a lot when you dance, to burn calories. For toning, all you have to do is a few crunches for your abs and a few lunges and squats a day. Dont kill yourself excercising - you dont need to. For your diet, dont make it too complex. Just cut out all the junk food (Im going to start that tomorrow!) and eat healthier. Fruits, vegetables, NATURAL foods & no processed packaged foods.
[view]
everytime Im w/ her with no one around she is always throwing sexual geustures, ie hand near my dick, un buttoning my shirt, her shirt and showing me her thong, yeah i get hard around her but I dont want to have sex with her becuase of my religon. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!
Tell her. Being a guy and not wanting to have sex is the SAME as a girl not wanting to have sex. So, you should be treated the same. Tell her you dont want to have sex because of your religion. If she cant deal with that, she doesnt really love you completely and you should dump her. She might only be throwing sexual gestures because she's desperate for your attention and thinks your only not having sex with her becuase you dont love her. Assure her its NOT her, its your religion. And you guys dont have to just either have sex or nothing. You can cuddle, make out, and hug Im sure.
[view]
If I had a tampon in during the day, and kept it in while swimming, would I need to take it out? Or can I keep on going afterwards for another few hours until I need to take it out?
Do tampons fill with water when swimming?
You should take it out anyway, regardless if you went swimming or not. Tampons should only be in 4-8 hours at the MOST. If more than that, TSS (toxic shock sydrome) can occur. Also, if you went swimming there could be bacteria or your tampon could have absorbed water. Simple answe: Take it out.
[view]
does anyone have any good tips on how to flirt with a guy but not making it to to obvious?
thaankkss a llott
Just be playful & cute. Dont be ditzy OR act like a slut. Just be yourself! Seriously, thats the way he'll like you. :]
Heres some flirting techniques/way to show him your interested:
- Touch! Physical touching is the biggest turn-on ever (WHEN DONE TASTEFULLY.) Im not telling you to like, GRAB him. Im telling you to playfully hit him without hurting him, of course - just joking around. Ask him what time it is and touch his wrist if hes wearing a watch. It sounds corny, but if its done subtly he wont care why youre touching him. Give him hugs if he seems like that kind of person. Touch his arm/hand/chest when you think its right.
- Be interesting. Always be on your feet. Find out what he likes. Does he play hockey on the school team? Ask how the season is. Act/try to actually be interested in whatever HE'S interested in. He will think this is a very quality and that you actually care about him.
[view]
does an orgasm burn calories? haha
YEAH! And orgasms help curb your appetite for junk food! :] Sweet.
[view]
Okay so I really want to send fan mail to one of the cast memebers of Grey's Anatomy. What are the chances that if i found the correct address she would actually read it. I know on the extra features the show her reading some of the fanmail and questions so I was just wonder what you all thought.
This is the address:
"Grey's Anatomy"
ABC-TV
Production Office
Los Feliz Tower, 4th Floor
4151 Prospect Ave.
Los Angeles, CA 90027
The person below me is 100% correct. It is almost GUARANTEED they wont respond, if they even read it. I mean they dont have time. Theyre already extremely busy people, but they also get millions & millions of other fan letters a day..so its not likely they'll respond. Try anyway!
[view]
My boyfriend and I had sex without a condom...I am not on birth control, but he pulled out long before he cam. Is there any chance I could be pregnant?
YES.
If he didnt use a condom, it doesnt matter how long before he came, you can STILL be pregnant. There is pre-cum before he actually cums which CAN inpregnate you. So, you should definitely buy a pregnancy test to be sure!
[view]
Last year I got felt up by a guy I don't know. It really screwed me up.
I finally talked about it, and the whole dirty feeling is back.
I can't get myself feeling clean.
Is there any way to help this???
thanks,
~RoSe~
Were you young at the time when you got felt up? I know it'd be traumatizing at any age, but if you were 13, I could understand better. Its normal to feel dirty if you LET him do it or didnt let him do it and it was totally against your will. It was a sexual act, and mostly everyone feels completely weird and guilty their first time. Cause? Maybe the bible, if your religious. But, it could just be your hormones raging. If you are at the ages of 12-18, you are still going through puberty and your body (and mind) is still reacting to things weirdly. You may feel like youre on a roller coaster. One day youre fine, and the next day you cry and you dont even know why. Tell yourself it was one time and it wont happen again. It is NOT your fault, you are NOT a bad person, you have no reason to feel guilty! If this doesnt work, I very much advise you to talk to a guidance counselor or therapist about this. Good luck.
[view]
What excactly is friends with benifits?
A friend you hook up with (possibly even have sex with) without a RELATIONSHIP. Its basically a no strings attached type of thing.
[view]
i really really want to become friends with this clique. what's the best way to do this? i'm having a party on saturday, and they're going to be there, so how should i go about it?
Be nice to them. Accomidate them with whatever they need at your party! And when youre at the party, try to stay with them. Dont be weird or clingy - they wont like you. Just casually go over and be like, "Hey! Whats up? Are you guys having funn?" Dont act like you really really want to become friends with them. Getting into cliques takes WEEKS, MONTHS! Take it slow.
[view]
To the parents of teenage kids out there(meaning 13,14,15 year olds), you know your kids are smoking, popping, doing drugs and partying. Do you care? Do you try to stop them? , i'm really curious, becuase now-a-days it seems like everyone's doing it, and there parents dont even care.
Okay, well obviously Im not a parent. Im a 15 year old. But, Im answering because I know you probably WONT find a LOT of parents on this site. Sure, there are some, but columnists mainly consist of teenagers.
I dont think a lot of parents know. Honestly, I think some are WAY in denial. My parents are honestly clueless to the things my friends and I do. They think we still like to sit at home and give eachother makeovers. Plus, most kids unless they are doing VERY serious drugs can hide things they do. They can sleep over someone else's house so their own parents never see them drunk. Kids hide their drugs in places their parents wont look. They clean their clothes so they dont smell of smoke, etc. Kids are clever.
Also, I think the parents that DO know or have some suspicions might just not know how to deal with it. The parents might not be good at controlling their kids. It seems weird, but some parents are very non-confrontational and in denial. "Oh I know Jimmy is smoking pot, but I smoked pot when I was his age. He's a perfectly smart boy. He gets straight A's and is the captain of the football team! Even if he IS doing it, Im sure its only a thing he does once in awhile. Nothing will happen to him." A lot of people think their kids are invincivible.
[view]
i really want a tattoo for my 15th birthday! i want a small heart, maybe like an inch in size (just outlined). i want it on the front of my hip, just below the jean line (if your wearing ultra low-rise jeans). but im afraid what my friends will think of me. i dont want to sound snobby but i am popular in my school and go with the whole "classic girly girl from hollister/abercrombie". i dont want this tattoo if it makes me look trashy, especially at my age. what do you think? thank you for your opinion! =)
Aw! I think the heart idea is SO cute! Its really funny, because I was thinking about getting one like that too in the same spot! :] I dont think Im brave enough. Also, tattoos can look cute. I think its trashy for a girl to have her whole arm or something tattooed, but honestly? I dont think a tiny tattoo will ruin your reputation. In fact, people will probably think its wayy cool. Just so you know, Mandy Moore has a heart tattoo on her toe and shes definitely not trashy.
[view]
do sit-ups really make your abs tighter?
Yep, if you do them right, eat healthy, and BREATHE while youre doing them.
[view]
Here's the thing I am 13 gonna be 14 in a month. Me and my brother are 15 months apart. he is 15. My parents let him do whatever he wants. I on the other hand don't get to do anything! I can't go anywhere with anyone anytime. And it has been this way for ever.
My parents insist they have to Know ( meaning have seen and talked to) the parent of my friend(s). On the other hand my brother can leave and only say Im going to my friends house I'll be back maybe tomorrow. My parents know my brother drinks and smokes weed. I on the other hand only smoke cigarettes, and they know this. It doesn't make any sense!
What do you think about the situation.
Youre 13. He's 15. Big difference? Youre a girl. Hes a guy. I hate to say that, but it seems thats the only reason your parents are treating you differently than him.
I dont know if youve ever seen Hogan Knows Best? Im guessing you have but thats a perfect example. Brooke is OLDER but has less freedome becuase shes a girl and her parents are worried that a guy is going to rape her or she's going to get pregnant or something. Girls ARE at a lot more risk than guys. Your parents are just worried about you.
Talk to your parents about how you feel and try to act very mature. Clean your room, do well in school, etc. So they know you are responsible and can go out without them needing to meet the parents, etc. Tell them youre fine and they dont have to meet the parents. But they DO need to have some info. Keep a cell phone on you. Keep it on. Give them the address of the house you'll be at, the name of the friend and their number, and what time you'll be back.
[view]
hey! okay i was planning on asking this guy to sadie hawkins dance. well, hes in one of my classes but hes a sophomore. im a freshman.and we kinda talk were kinda just like friends. and i think im gonna ask him to the sadie hawkins dance. but he might wanna go with another sophomore not with a bunch of freshman. it will be nice if he doesnt care but yeah lol im just kinda scared of him saying no. I just need some comfort or confidence so i can ask him. :] im scared of rejection too:[
Hey :]
Well, I shouldnt be talking when I say you should just get over your fear. But, Ive learned the hard way that you can miss out on great oppertunities when you are too scared to do something. Even if he says no, you still accomplished something - you were brave enough to ask him! Last year, I asked a guy I liked to a dance. He said no because we didnt know eachother well enough and he wanted to go alone, but I didnt care because I would have HATED myself if I didnt take the chance of asking. I think you should do it. I know the fear of rejection is there, but you should be more afraid of missing out on life! Whats the worst thats going to happen if you ask him? He'll say no. But he might say yes! So go for it.
[view]
Do Crest Whitestrips really work? If so, how much whiter will they make your teeth?
Yes they do! Ive used them before. Im not sure how much it whitens EXACTLY but I would say youre teeth will be 4-5 times whiter after the reccomended 14 days. :]
[view]
Hey everbody!! Well, I am 14/f and I really am wanting some really cool clothes and jewelry. I'm tired of wearing what everyone else wears.. Aeropostale and Hollister. Thats where pretty much ALL of my clothes are,and everyones clothes in school are. I want something cute, fun and flirty, and not just all labels. I also want something that no one else really has. something original and uniqe (sp?). Also, nothing too expensive, I'm not rich or anything. haha! but, anyways, if anyone knows where I can find some cute clothes please let me know. If this helps- I like all different colors, but I have dark brown hair, so something that looks good with my hair color. Also, I usually wear a Large or XL for shirts. I'm not really looking for jeans, just tops. And I also am looking for cool and pretty jewlry. But remember!- not too expensive!! Thanks!!!!!!!
Hey. :] Well, Im the same way. But, you dont need to spend a FORTUNE on cute clothes. I shop at Forever 21. That would by my main suggestion. Some other good stores are:
Wet Seal.
Alloy.
Jasmine Sola.
Charlotte Russe.
Urban Outfitters.
Delias.
Gap.
Macys.
Tello's.
Urban Behavior.
DEB.
Target. (they actually have cute, trendy clothes.)
[view]
|
