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For school I have to dress up in 1960s fashion. I dont really know what they wore though, I dont know to do somthing 70s by mistake..
I was thinking of a tye dye shirt...
Are those big brigh earrings 60s?
any ideas? :) i want to get into it hahh! (link)
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the 60's were all about hippies, peace, and flower power.
Bell bottoms, tie-dye, peace signs, flowy skirts, flowers, smiley faces, anti-war buttons, peasant blouses,... any of these would work.
Long hair was pretty common. If you've got fairly long hair, wear it down. You could also put a few little braids in it, and possibly weave in some daisies.
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So it seems no one cares that its right to wait untill marrage to have sex (in the chrsitian religon) and now to me it seems seroiusly wrong, but later on it probubaly wont. I just wanted to know at what age do most people lose it? Since im in 7th now, and next year is supposibly the year everyone starts. Most likly the guy I marry wont be a virgin, right? 5's for anyone who is reasonable. (link)
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I'm a 19 year old virgin, also a Christian girl. I made a decision at age 13 to save myself for marriage, a promise between me and God. I believe God intended sex to be between husband and wife, and that's the reason behind my decision.
Now, for me, it was easy through most of jr. high and high school. I didn't have a boyfriend. Sure, I had friends who did, and some of them might have been having sex, but for me it wasn't an issue. At age 18, I started dating my first boyfriend, and we've been together a year now. Now it's a little harder to stick to my promise. My boyfriend is also a virgin, and he agrees that sex shouldn't be rushed into, though he's not quite as committed to saving himself for marriage like I am. But sometimes we feel tempted to go further than we should, in the heat of the moment. But I made a promise to God, and I still believe it's right, so I'm sticking to it. Sure, it's not what most people do, but as a Christian, I know that sometimes I have to take the high road and not follow the crowd.
Sure, I might not marry a virgin someday, but that doesn't make my virginity any less important. I expect that the man I marry will love me for a lot more than my sexual history.
Don't ever let yourself feel pressured to have sex just because "everyone else is doing it." Having sex is a private decision between you and your partner.
Now, if you are a Christian, I encourage you to read up on the subject- there are passages in the Bible that talk about sex, and there are several books out there, one I reccommend is "He's Hot, She's Hot".
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I met a boy at a battle of the bands 2 months ago. We didn't really talk then, but he was really cute. Recently I found his MySpace & LiveJournal and he accepted my add. He told me I looked familiar and the conversation just went from there. He told me my picture was 'insanely hot' and it was like he was lithium and I was chlorine, if you know what I mean..okay I'm a nerd.
But anyways, my favorite song of all time, he can play on the guitar. He owns a leather jacket. He likes the Libertines and numerous other bands I adore as well. He LIVES for music and is really intelligent and random, just like me. We began talking about how we'd live together in a one room apartment with a big sofa, drinking and smoking and sleeping to pass time and prowling the nyc scene at night and living off cheese and coffee and making beautiful art together....it was intense. He told me out of the blue he thought I was really cute.
Now I have never had this happen. He is my dream guy and he wants to hang out or go any rock show I say. It might actually work out for once with a guy, and believe me, I'm not lucky. My question is...where do I go from here? And what do I do when I finally hang out with him? (link)
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It all sounds wonderful, but I have to say my gut reaction was be careful. Before you fall hard, make sure you know what you're getting into. You've basically formed your relationship with this guy over the internet, and you must remember that it's possible to be whoever you want online. When you meet up with him again, make sure it's a public place. As you're getting to know each other, keep your guard up a little. As you get to know him better in person, and if it's still feeling wonderful, which I hope it does, then all will be good.
And I must say I found the lithium/chlorine line so adorable!
Now, how close do you live to each other? Can you meet up for coffee sometime? Or at a mall? Or like he suggested, a rock show. If he invites you to do any of these, I say go for it. But maybe bring along a friend the first time.
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im fat {mostly in the winter}. ive tried crunches and deits and all i do is feel more hungary. at one time i was 131lb, i was good with that, now im 164lb then 159lb then 165lb. it keeps fluctulating. i want to be 131!!! please help me!!! (link)
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First of all, your weight gain may be more because of puberty/growing up and not just because you're eating more/exercising less. You didn't mention your age, but for example if you were 120 lbs at age 15, at age 18 you're very likely not going to still weigh 120. Sure, i'ts not good to put on a lot of wieght, but some wieght gain is natural. Me, I'm 19 and about 165 lbs. Now, when I was 13, I weighed about 135, and I haven't really gotten much taller since then. Now, I'm probably still overweight, but I pretty much know I'd have to starve myself to weigh 135, and that's not something I want to do.
The important thing is to eat right and exercise. Doing crunches really isn't enough. Now that it's nearly summer, get outside and be active! Bike riding, walking, rollerblading, running, swimming, sports w/ friends... all of these are great ways to get back in shape. You could also try aerobics or yoga exercise videos, dancing to music in your room, or whatever else you like. Aerobic exercise is the key. You want to be doing at least 30 minutes 5 days a week.
Now, for eating, it's important not to starve yourself. And making certain foods "off limits" is probably going to make you want them even more. You're much better off eating healthy snacks when you're hungry, stuff like apples, rice cakes, carrot sticks, light popcorn, raisins, watermelon, etc. Try to go for something around 100 calories, and don't overeat, but dont' limit yourself either. Eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner everyday, and make sure you eat enough fruits and veggies.
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As long as I could remeber and all my friends can agree ive looked the same ...ponytail and well obviously my cloths but i dont care about that( i go to a private school so i have to wear a unfiorm) so I think its time ofr a change, what are some things i could do with, bascily me and my hair that would be diffrent other than a pony tail. Nothing to drastic but just a change. If it helps i have shoulder length blounde hair. Thanks and please help!!!
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My first thought was to cut it short- like a chin length bob or something, but you said you don't want drastic.
Highlights could be fun.
Try a french braid.
if your ponytail is usually high, wear it low, or vice versa.
Try wearing it down with a headband, or the sides pulled back with clips.
You could crimp or curl your ponytail.
I hope some of these ideas help! :)
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Hmm well maybe I should start like this. I met this girl like 5-6 months ago and she was pretty cool so we became pretty good friends. Now after being with her at school and seeing her here and there after school, I finally figured out I like her a lot. She had a bf though, but he treated her like crap, he wouldnt ever talk to her or do things with her etc. So now she broke up with him and I'm not sure if she likes me or not but I dont want to ask her out because if she doesnt like me our friendship will suffer, and plus I dont usually like to ask people out. (link)
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If she only just broke up with her boyfriend, give it some more time before you make your move. Continue to be her friend- support her as she moves on from her ex, and show her that you care. When you feel like she's ready to "play the field" again so to speak, then consider trying to take your friendship to the next level.
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Ugh...okay I HATE my clothes. I went through this whole phase recently of "I care what everyone else thinks and my opinion doesnt matter". And that includes clothes. I wear the same old crappy polo tees from hollister and stupid jeans and stupid shoes. I just look like every other boring un-unique "prep". Well, i've finally grown out of this. I now want to start dressing like my personality which is edgy, unique, and artsy. I like rock/emo/indie music if it helps? I'm looking for some fashion tips (example...stuff like wearing your belt to the side, etc.) And some stores online I could check out to help me dress more "edgy". Also, i dont have alot of money. How can i rock out a plain polo? Any hair ideas? Makeup ideas? I hate dressing "preppy" when inside im not like that. THANKS! (link)
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How can you rock out in a plain polo? With attitude. It's really not about what you wear, but how you wear it.
Wear your polo over a long sleeved thermal, preferably in bright mis-matched colors. Add pins, a fun scarf, or whatever other accessories you like. Cut the toes of a pair of striped socks, and wear them as arm warmers. Wear your kid brother's pokemon t-shirt over your polo with the collar sticking out.
Crimp your hair instead of straightening or scrunching it. Buy cheap plastic little kid barrettes to pull back the sides. Braid it, wear low pigtails.
Thrift shop. As someone else said, Salvation Army. Also try Goodwill, or Ragstock if you've got one nearby. Also raid closets- if the family member it belongs to doesn't want it anymore, make it work for you.
Skirts are fun. Making a long, flowy skirt is fairly easy, if you've got a few yards of plain fabric and a little sewing knowledge (or you know someone who does)
Really, just start small. Show your personality through the little things like color matching and accessories. Gradually add more edgy pieces of clothing to your wardrobe. If you make it a sudden change, you're more likely to come accross as just wearing a new costume of a different stereotype. You're much better off experimenting gradually to find your own style.
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there is a school swimming party that is coming up, the time that i have my period!! and it will only be the 2nd time that i have had it, but can someone give me advice on what to do when you have to swim, but you dont know how to use a tampon?? can you just use a thin pad? i will rate! and its coming up real soon! thanks to much! (link)
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No, you can't swim with a pad- it will just absorb all the water, the adhesive would probably dissolve (thus the possibility of the pad falling out!) and be just generally uncomfortable and gross.
Now, as long as your flow isn't too heavy, you can probably swim without a tampon in. I used to do this in junior high when I was on swim team. According to my mom, the blood flow pretty much slows down when you're swimming. And I never had a problem with it. However, to be on the safe side, if you want to use a tampon that's probably not a bad idea.
Most tampon boxes have instructions on how to use a tampon in them. Or ask your mom, sister, or a friend. When you're buying them, try one with a plastic applicator (they're generally easier to use) or tampons specially made for teens or first-time users (Tampax Satin Teen were my first tampons- and I had no troubles)
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I think that my daughter (14) has been using drugs. She hasn't had it easy and I haven't really helped that. A few of my old boyfriends hurt her and violated her. I've stopped dating because of it she doesn't deserve that and I don't want that to ever happen to her again. Recently I've been noticing that she's been coming home after 10 (her curfue is 9) and she acts differently. I've tried talking to her and she says that she isn't doing anything and that she just loses track of time. I don't know what to do. I'm not a great mother but I'm trying as hard as I can. Does anyone know how I could talk to her about this or how I can help her if she really needs it?
I will a rate high to anyone who at least tries thank you ahead of time. (link)
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How is your relationship with her? I know you said you're not a great mother but you're trying- and the fact that you're trying is important. You've probably heard it said before, that the key to a good relationship is communication, but the thing is that it's so true. Talk to your daughter, and really listen to her, spend time with her, show interest in her life, that sort of thing. It's important to earn her trust, if you expect her to be cooperative in your efforts to help her.
Now, you said she's got a curfew, but do you know where she goes? Now, most teens hate and resent it, but like the anti-drug commercials say, it's important for parents to always know the who, where, and what of their kid's whereabouts. I'm not saying to keep your daughter under lock and key, but make sure you know where she is, who she's with, and when she'll be home. As long as she's not lying to you, this can and does work.
The other thing I think you need to do is sit down and have a real heart-to-heart talk with your daughter about drugs. Make sure all the facts are out on the table, along with your expectations and rules. Ask her what she knows, what her opinion is on the issue, and really listen and value what she says. Hopefully she'll be truthful with you, but regardless, having the communication is important.
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My mom and I started going to church recently. I totally believe in God and I am 100% Christian. However, my dad was baptised (sp?) as a Morman, and neither of my brothers go to church. My brother A, isnt in to the whole believin in stuff type, hes more i'll believe it wen i see it. And Brother B just doesnt go to church. So my question is will my family all go to Heaven, or will my brothers go to Hell? I'd love answers asap please. (link)
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John 14:6 (KJV)
"Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me."
There's your answer. The only way to go to Heaven is through Jesus. You're probably learning this at your new church, and I'm so glad that you and your mom have found it.
It's hard to hear, and pretty scary, to think that your dad and brothers won't be going to Heaven. But God is just and fair, which means that all sins must be punished. Now, the grace part is the fact that Jesus took care of all the punishment for every sin every human ever committed- but the catch is free will. God gave humans free will, which means he's not going to force his grace on us. We have to ask for it, by saying, "Jesus, take my sins."
Now, just because your brothers don't want to go to church right now doesn't mean they'll never be saved. The Holy Spirit is always at work.
Pray for your brothers and your dad. Pray that God will work in their lives like he has worked in your life and your mom's. Pray that they'll come to accept the grace and forgiveness that is Jesus Christ. Continue to talk to them about your newfound faith, and live in a way that let's the light of Jesus's love shine through you. You can also ask your Christian friends at church to help you, to pray for you and your family.
I wish you all the best. God Bless!
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I'd like to start a tradition with the theater that I'm in. Any good suggestions and ideas? (link)
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Well, you could buy a charm or ornament, or find one in the prop room/scene shop that never gets used. A friend of mine recieved a silver music note ornament with a letter- the letter explaining that this ornament has been passed down, and it's hers until she graduates, then she's got to add her name to the list and pass it on to a new singer, someone she thinks deserves it. You could try something like this.
Or is there a prop that could be used in multiple shows? I'm thinking like a purse or a box or something. Something that could be put in the set of almost any show, that from season to season the cast and crew would know it's there, but wouldn't really affect the show.
I guess the last suggestion I have would be to start a theater scrapbook. Make copies of all your favorite pictures, ticket stubs, programs, etc., and ask your friends and fellow cast members to contribute, too.
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im a witch and i m trying to be a christian, i just went to this teen revial {aquire the fire} and felt all on fire for God, and then i just played 'light as feather w/my coven. am i stupid for trying to do both? do i have to be one or another? can i be both? so confused.... (link)
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First of all, the most important thing to know is that God loves you! He loves each and every person on this earth, regardless of anything we ever do, say, or think.
That said, are you stupid for trying to be both Wiccan and Christian? No
Do you have to be one or the other? Yes.
Being a Christian means accepting Jesus as your lord and savior. It means stating that you believe God sent Jesus to die on the cross for the sins of all mankind, and you want to accept this gift of eternal life by confessing all your sins.
Being a Christian doesn't mean you now have to live a perfect lifestyle. It doesn't mean you have to give up all your friends, join a church, give away all your belongings and travel through the wilderness, or anything else anyone tells you you *have* to do. The whole point of Christianity is that you will no longer be punished for your sins- God has wiped the slate clean.
On the other hand, just because the slate is clean does not give you permission to do whatever you want. There are many verses in the Bible that describe the life that a child of God should live. Now, living for God will not get to heaven any sooner, but it will make the journey more enjoyable. Because what could bring more joy than living for the all-powerful, all-wonderful God who created you and loves you beyond all imagination?
My advice for you is to find some Christian mentors. Friends, a pastor, adults, just find someone in your life who cares about you and who can help you in your new walk with God. For more information and encouragement about separating your Wiccan lifestyle from your new Christian one, try Google searching for a (legit) Christian teen website. I know Brio magazine has done articles on Witchcraft before, that would be a good place to start. (here's a link to the article: http://briomag.com/briomagazine/spiritualhealth/a0005397.html )
I know this probably sounds very discouraging to you right now, but know that I type this with the best of intentions. I'll be praying for you, and I hope you can find peace, joy, and love in Christ. Remember, Jesus loves you more than you can even imagine. And nothing you have ever done, are doing, or can ever do will change this. God Bless!
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My 9 year old cousin is coming up tommorrow. Any ideas on how to amuse her for a few hours? I was thinking maybe giving her a little makeover, or something. (link)
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At that age, crafts are awesome! Something like making friendship bracelets, or hemp, or try beading. There are lots of cool kits out there, or just get supplies if you know a little bit about what you're doing (or already have stuff of your own).
Board games are also a great tool. I do like the makeover idea, but make sure you don't go make-up crazy, and check with your aunt first- also, be careful about allergies, some people have sensitive skin. But stuff like painting her nails and french-braiding and other hair play is awesome!
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I'm new this year at my private school, and it's really strict! I mean, REALLY strict. Anyway, every year they have a picnic at the park, with water balloons and good food. (Finally! A time to dress casual at school!) but I just found out that girls have to wear skirts...at a picnic?! I don't know what to wear when I go, and how I can stay comfortable and look good too. It also has to be something I can get dirty because we're gonna have water guns and stuff. If you have a sollution on where to shop, thanks!
~Alexa~ (link)
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Yikes, that's pretty stupid. How do they expect girls to be able to participate fully in a good water balloon fight if they're all dressed up in skirts?!
Is it possible for you to bring shorts to change into for the games?
Maybe try a jean skirt (with stretch to be comfy if you can find it) that reaches at least to your knees. I was going to suggest khaki, but that'd get dirty easily. If you think you're going to get bamboozled with water guns, wearing a thin cotton flowered skirt or something probably isn't the best idea, unless you like it when everyone can see what color undewear you have on.
On top, wear a knit t-shirt- something that looks nice, and somewhat dressy, but something with some stretch that you can move in. I say t-shirt instead of tank top, because if you're outside all day it's good to think about preventing sunburn.
I like Old Navy for this sort of outfit, but you can probably find something similar at Kohls, JC Penny's, etc.
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my hair is strait up top and wavy down below. i hate having to straiten it or blow dry it every day. it there anyway i can get it to dry stait w/out having to blow dry it or straiten it
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Perhaps you could consider cutting your hair shorter. Now I know this won't solve all your problems, and perhaps you don't want to at all, but I'm just suggesting it because shorter hair is often easier to manage. It dries faster, so you could probably keep running your fingers through it as it air dries to make it dry straight.
The suggestions about using some sort of straightening serum are good ones.
You could also wear your hair scrunchy when you don't want to have to straighten it with heat. Scrunch it with gel to get a more curly look than straight. Again, just a suggestion.
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Does anyone know a good shampoo or soemthing for your hair that would dry it out because my hair is always reallyyy oily. thanks ♥ (link)
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Try a 'clarifying' shampoo. Personally, I like Suave daily clarifying, because it's cheap yet works well. Clarifying shampoos are designed to remove all that extra oil and buildup in your hair.
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ive been going out with my boyfriend for a while now but he hasnt told his parents at all so they dont know about us but i think they know something because all of a sudden me and him started hanging out a lot more and so the other day at our track meet his mom was spying on him and since it was cold outside we were sitting pretty close and he was holding me and his mom got all upset and was yelling at him i dont know what to do because i dont want him to keep gettin in trouble for being with me he says he doesnt care because all he wants is to be with me and his parents dont want him to date until he is 16 but he is already and has had girlfriends before me but none have been as serious as ours is now and i think he should tell his parents but i dont want his parents to make us break up because we really love eachother please help -- should he tell his parents about us-- sorry its so long!! x0o (link)
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Well, considering the seriousness of your relationship, being on good terms with his parents is probably a good idea. And if they're going to be mad if/when they find out you've been dating despite the fact that they don't let him date, it could make for problems. So yes, I do think he should seriously consider telling them.
However, you're probably right in thinking that his parents may very well tell him he can't date you. Maybe you could compromise? Like set parameters for your dates- just group dates, or hanging out at his house when they're home, stuff like that- yes, it isn't ideal, but you wouldn't have to end the relationship. And who knows, you may still be together when you're 16, and then you'll be glad you can still date.
May I ask how old you are now? You didn't say, and I was wondering how many years away your bf is from 16.
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My heels on my feet are seriously cracked and dry. Its disgusting. How can I make my feet smooth for summer? Are there any lotions/treatmants you recommend? (link)
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- Use a pumice stone or foot file (available in most drug stores- usually by nail files) to exfoliate all that icky dead crusty skin.
- Slather on a thick lotion then put on socks before going to bed.
- You could look for one of those foot masks at a drug store (or cosmetics section at wal-mart/target) Try one that's exfoliating or mouisturizing
- Bath and Body Works Body Butter is amazing for extra-dry skin. My aunt recommended it to my mom and me for feet, and after just one day of putting it on before putting on my socks for the day, my feet felt smoother.
- One idea I saw in a magazine once (though I've never actually tried myself) is to use a lemon and sugar- cut a lemon in half and sprinkle it with sugar, then rub it over your heels to exfoliate dead skin. Like I said, I've never tried it, but it might be worth trying if you like those DIY natural methods. Really, I think my foot file does a better job.
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15/f- I want to go on the birth control pills called Seasonale because they give you a longer cycle so that you have fewer periods a year, who wouldn't want that, right? well...my mom won't let me get them because she says i'm too young...and then she started giving me excuses such as "the doctor doesn't perscribe birth control unless you're sexually active" well...if i were sexually active, wouldn't i have wanted the pills BEFOREHAND anyway??? and i was under the impression that sometimes birth control is percribed to those with irregular periods to help regulate them. so, was my mom correct? and if she wasn't, how can i convince her to let me get seasonale? thanks! (link)
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Do your research, then present your findings to your mom to show her that you're serious about this, and that you've thought about the consequences and implications. Doing a Google search for the official website is a good place to start. You could also search for news articles or reviews on credible news websites. Find out exactly what the drug claims, and any/all side effects, etc. If you produce a solid, mature argument, your mom might consider it again. Show her that you're not a child, and that you want the responsibility involved with making your own decisions. You could also look into how much it will cost (your parent's insurance may cover it, in that the only cost would be the deductible) and consider offering to your mom to pay for it yourself, since you really want it.
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hi...i really need help. i am on a dance team and they told me that i had to lose weight. this was about a year and a half ago. right when they told me that i had to lose weight to stay on the team i started getting ideas that i was too fat. and now i think im fatter than fat. so during that i year i decided to skip a meal to see if that would help but then i started to skip 2 meals and now im not eating at all. my best friend keeps saying that im anorexic but i dont want to believe it and i dont think its true. either way i am really scared because im losing weight really fast and all but i dont want to lose it this way and im scared that im going to die or something. i dont want to tell my parents so i dont scare them so what do i do......PLeASE HELP ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I'm no doctor, so I'm not going to jump in and diagnose you as an anorexic, because that's not my place.
I do however think that you should see a doctor. And I think you do need to tell your parents- I know it's scary, and I know you don't want to hurt them, but they care about you, and will be able to help you.
If you really aren't comfortable going to your parents, talk to another adult. A neighbor, aunt, a friend's mom, a teacher, someone at church, a school nurse or counselor... just please tell someone! Talking to your friends is good, but there's only so much another teen can do for you.
I also question your involvement in this dance team... is anything worth that much stress? Is it worth making yourself starve for? I think this is also something you need to think seriously about and talk to someone about when you start to deal with your diet issues.
I wish you the best of luck! Remember- you are beautiful just the way you are! God is perfect- he doesn't make mistakes!
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