The problem with your relationship is that it was entirely one-sided; what you rightfully needed from your boyfriend was at odds with what he was, and is, able or willing to give.

To sum up what I gather from your description of your ex:

a) He is not looking for a committed relationship, possibly because he has been hurt in the past. He even expressed to you in plain English that he "...didn't want a relationship." For whatever reason (usually having more to do with early experiences in life/with a parent) he is afraid to commit. So he won't.

b) He does not want to be called out on his lies. What this boils down to is that he wants to have the freedom to do and say what he wants, even if it hurts you, rather than own up to any wrongdoing and put in any real effort toward changing. He said that he needs a "submissive girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does." Basically, he wants to continue doing those "wrong things" without having to own up to them. This will never result in having a healthy relationship.

c) He seems uncomfortable with your display of emotions (crying), and instead of comforting you or trying to actually hear you out and LISTEN to you, he kept brushing off your concerns and sadness by rationalizing his immature behavior (i.e., by saying things like "my first made me lose all my emotions."). Translation: He is not ready to admit to any wrongdoing, and is instead trying to rationalize why he did/said what he did.

d) A kiss is just a kiss, in this case. Just because he kisses you when you see him doesn't mean that he wants to be in a relationship with you. It's purely physical for him, he might do it out of habit, or to make you feel better. I don't know. All I can say is, his past behavior indicates that he is not prepared to be in a healthy relationship with you or anyone else at this point. I would suggest cutting all ties with him. You deserve much better.

e) You are already aware that he has been using you and your vulnerability, but don't blame yourself. It is really easy to get our emotions tangled up and make the wrong kinds of decisions for ourselves when we fall in love. It is entirely possible to fall in love with someone who is wrong for us and our happiness. And it's really easy to get hurt. It doesn't have to be this way, just because you had this one bad experience. You're still young.

You ask what else you could do to make someone appreciate you? Nothing. The answer is nothing. You should never have to go out of your way to gain anyone's approval. Simply take care of yourself and your own emotional needs, and be yourself. The right kind of person will appreciate you for who you are. And then, when you do special things for each other like spend time together, celebrate events, etc., it will be reciprocated by that person. Why? Because they care, and they want to make you feel happy as well. The next guy in your life will absolutely appreciate what you do for him, because he will value who you are and what you do. And usually, decent people do decent things like acknowledge your efforts and do their very best to give back. Because that is what healthy relationships are all about: give and take. Your ex emotionally depleted you without giving back-- the truth is, he is in no position to. You need to seek out other guys who are confident in who they are, generous and giving toward others/those they care about, and ready/willing to commit to one lucky girl: YOU.

I can say that a lot of our insecurities come to the surface when we are in relationships. The only way to get past it is to reflect on when these insecurities arise and why, and to take ownership over them because our issues are our own. It isn't always easy, but it's the only way because no matter who you are with, feelings and insecurities can be triggered. Often our negative experiences taint current relationships--and a reminder that you don't need to drag the past into your current situation can be helpful. Since you are aware of your worry of your boyfriend leaving you/no longer wanting you, and the pain of being cheated on by a past boyfriend, you can change your outlook.

First, it seems to me that your insecurity over the possibility of your boyfriend breaking up with you stems from your anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. Anxiety sometimes gets triggered when we fear losing someone- and in your case, a long distance relationship. But why the fear? You have been cheated on before (by someone else) for one thing, and could possibly have a tense relationship/connection to one or both parents (which can account for relationship anxiety) over fear of abandonment which can be deeply rooted--now, this is relevant for some people, though certainly not all. Add to this your long-distance relationship (you are not with him for much of the time). Anxiety can get triggered in different ways, without our conscious awareness. One or more of these factors can play a role in how you feel. It's likely that your anxiety rather than any external factors are causing you distress. It's easy to blame ourselves for any changes in other people's behavior (as in, I must have said or did something to push him away). The truth is, we are usually more critical of ourselves as a way to understand and make sense of other people's behavior towards us, when in fact, the way in which someone acts/behaves usually has little to do with anything we said/did to begin with, and more to do with their individual psychology. This isn't to say that we should never own up to anything we may have said/done, but that most of the time, we are overly critical of ourselves and fail to see the bigger picture. As for feeling inadequate in terms of how beautiful you might feel in comparison to other women, understand that your boyfriend finds you beautiful, which is why he is with you. More importantly, believe you are beautiful inside and out, and have many positive qualities to offer.

Now, my suggestion is that you practice being less anxious and self-critical. This will help you deal with this and other situations immensely. Meditation and yoga work wonders, and if it's feasible, talking to a therapist can help too. It's also helpful to immerse yourself in activities you enjoy that relax you, and to spend time with friends. You need to take care of yourself and have a social life--your boyfriend is an important part of your life, but you need to stop being preoccupied. I also suggest that you have a talk with him, and make an agreement on days/times you are both available to talk on Skype. He is probably busy with life as well, and you should be too. For times you can both stay in touch to talk, an agreed-upon schedule can help reduce your feelings that he doesn't want to invest time in keeping in touch with you. It seems that your feelings are your own, and have nothing to do with how your boyfriend feels about you. Unless he starts acting "off" (constantly making excuses on why he can't talk, seems detached/uninterested, etc), you can rest assured he is committed to you. Usually men will either hint at how they feel about you or tell you directly, so it seems to me that your feelings are yours alone. The only thing you can change is your outlook and level of anxiety.

I think you should distance yourself from her, because clearly she isn't in the right place and probably needs some space. I also think you should stop sending notes to her, because as of yet, it's only resulted in her crumpling them up. As for the Anorexia, it is very serious and potentially life-threatening. I don't think that bringing that up to her will inspire her to seek help. What I think is best is to talk to a school counselor about how she has Anorexia and you are concerned about her health. The counselor can guide you, and possibly bring up this issue with the girl herself-- don't worry, since all information is confidential, she will not find out that you spoke to the counselor- simply that the counselor him/herself has concerns. I don't know what the process is as far as family involvement, etc., but that's not your issue to worry about. The counselor can take care of things.

He sexually assaulted you, and that is grounds for arrest. Threatening and doing anything physical without consent is absolutely a legitimate reason to file a police report. Don't think about your boyfriend, think about YOU and your safety. Think of it this way- if you don't act, this asshole can go around doing the same things, if not worse things, to other girls.

This guy threatened you, held you forcefully and assaulted you. You did NOT "allow him to do things," he simply got away with it because you were too afraid to do anything. Your boyfriend is not being supportive of you-- he's immature and well, 16 years old. He's hurt but he is not keeping your best interest at heart.

For now, tell a trusted adult what happened--it does not have to be a parent- you can tell a school counselor. Have them guide you through the process. They can help you get through this, just by being there to listen to you. If you feel comfortable telling your parents, it would be a good idea to talk to a therapist about this because what happened to you is serious. Remember, you can and should absolutely file a police report against him. Don't be afraid to do so. He has no right to mistreat you or any other girl, this is called SEXUAL ASSAULT and it's a serious offense.

I agree with the answer below. When a guy tells you they're not looking for anything serious, you need to take it at face value. He was honest about what he was looking for, and you agreed to it out of attraction to him. But sometimes emotions get caught up and we develop feelings. It happens. You probably didn't intend for it to work out that way, but you can't fight how you feel. He, on the other hand, did not develop feelings. In my experience, men are usually either a) upfront about what they want- and he was, or b) send you signs early on, even if they are not direct. They are not hard to read, for the most part. Sometimes women overanalyze or keep their hopes up high...but there is no reason to, because he already told you he isn't looking for a relationship. If a man really wants you, he will make it known through his actions.

You are fortunate enough that he is being honest with you from the start. Some people lead women on or make them believe there is something there when there really isn't (only to conveniently keep them around as backup).. My take on it is that his telling you he wants to take a break is a gentler way of breaking it off. He knows that you developed feelings for him, while he still only wants to have a fling. You need to see eye-to-eye with the men you date. If you want potential for a relationship, then you need to date men who by their words and more importantly, their actions, show you that they are looking for the same. Try to let go of this guy, even though it's easier said than done. The age difference alone leads me to believe he is simply not ready for anything serious-- please try to date men around your own age (higher likelihood of wanting something more serious, and being on your level in terms of emotional maturity). When you feel ready, date other men. Keep your options open, because he is not interested in having a relationship with you. When you are with a guy, take what they say and how they act as clues into how they really feel. If a (mature) man really wants to be with you, he WILL make it known.

What you're going through now is completely normal. You are a young guy, living in NYC- I used to live there too. NYC is full of beautiful women and it's an extremely fast paced city, so the idea of wanting to experiment with other people is not at all far fetched. Add to that your age and the fact that you are a virgin. Sex is a very normal thing to want at your age (or any age, for that matter, but especially at your age). Committing to one person at age 19 is not an easy thing for a guy to do, but you have been with your girlfriend for over a year. To me, being in a committed relationship means that you do not cheat on your partner, period. Fantasizing about other people is natural, however acting on that fantasy is never a good idea. You mention that you "don't want to mess up," which to me, indicates that you are committed to the relationship.

My thought is that you are frustrated with being a virgin and/or not going further sexually, and are probably more ready to have sex than your girlfriend may be. This would explain why you fantasize about sex or calling an escort. What you want is sex, and that's totally okay. It would not be okay to cheat. It would be one thing to not be committed to the relationship, grow apart, lose interest, etc., then break up and find someone else, and something else entirely to actually go through with cheating. If you do, you will feel like shit and you'll end up breaking your girlfriend's heart. So the best thing you can do is tell your girlfriend that you care about her very much, and feel like you may both be at a point where it's safe-physically and emotionally- to take things further sexually. Now this is the harder part: listen to her. Make sure you hear her out, and make sure that if she agrees to have sex sometime soon, it's on her terms. I assume you're around the same age-- if she is not yet 18 (legal age), then definitely wait until she is. If you do get to that point soon, then of course, go slow, be patient with her, and be understanding; losing your virginity will be a milestone for both of you. Use a condom and/or birth control (or both) correctly every time. And finally, don't feel bad for feeling the way you do. I wouldn't share all your fantasies of other women with your girlfriend because she might feel hurt or offended, but a good way to to express your feelings is to let her know that you are ready to take things to the next level with her, because you care about her too. Best of luck!

It wouldn't hurt to get tested for STD's, you could do it during your routine Pap test, or just on its own. Since no actual penetration occurred, it's unlikely you contracted an STD, though to be on the safe side and stop worrying, you should get tested anyway. If somehow semen ended up around your vagina, then the possibility of pregnancy and/or STD's is still there, so you need to ask for Plan B and STD screening right away. You could ask for an HIV test in a few months time, but don't stress out--unless this guy has injected drugs intravenously using dirty needles, had unprotected sex with a prostitute (again, this is unlikely), the chances of him being HIV positive are slim. Tests are free, so if you're worried, then by all means get one. As for the bumps, no body can tell you-- you need to speak to your gynecologist about it and have them examined. Results of all tests are the most accurate about 2-3 weeks after sex, so make an appointment for testing around that time. And please, if you don't feel 100% ready to do anything sexual, then wait until you've dated for longer. It's better to wait a bit and make sure you're with the right kind of guy, than to have any regrets.

Regardless of whether you had sex vaginally or not, you are not a virgin. You still had sex--anal sex is still sex. So even if your hymen is still in tact, you aren't a virgin. I don't know what your personal viewpoints or values are, and I'm sorry if this changes things for you. The most important thing is to only have sex when you feel it is right and you are comfortable (you sound young, so please hold off until you are older).. If you do go ahead with things, make sure to use a condom EVERY TIME. You can still contract STD's through anal or oral sex, not just vaginal.

No, death is never the answer. I can understand that you're in a lot of pain, but believe me, committing suicide is NOT the answer.

The first thing I want you to do is IMMEDIATELY call a suicide hotline in your area. Please verify where you live. If you live in the US, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at
(800) 273-8255 -- Follow the link below to find a crisis center in your area.

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/getinvolved/locator

You are still young. I can see that your sister is not doing enough to support you emotionally- she might have issues of her own, and they have nothing to do with you. You need someone to talk to, someone who will listen to you. Call the number above, or check out the website to find a location. You can go in free and anonymously-- your family will NOT know, it is your own private issue.

I know that things are really difficult for you now, but they don't have to be forever. The first thing for you to do is TALK TO SOMEONE at the Suicide Prevention hotline or crisis center---there are professionals there who are in a position to handle these kinds of issues. The second thing is, talk to them consistently, and go do things you enjoy. Get out of your house as much as you can, try to take extra classes or take part in activities/volunteer work that will give you a sense of purpose and allow you to meet new people. You don't need to allow your sister's problems to affect you to this extent. Staying at home all the time will only drive you deeper into a depression.

Just please, PLEASE don't give up hope! Know that your life is valuable, and you are a valuable person.... people go through terrible things and come out stronger, once they have overcome the issues. Reach out to me if you need to.

I am not sure what your best option is-- I don't know what the laws in Hungary are, but if you know who this person is, you could file a police report for sexual harassment and threat (blackmail). I also am not familiar with how seriously these cases are taken in Hungary; or even in the US for that matter. But I would think your best bet is to report this.

If nothing can be done, then I would ignore this person. He might post the photo online regardless of if you send him another one or not. I would honestly ignore him, and not give into his power trip. He is manipulating and threatening you, not to mention using you as an object for his own twisted pleasure. You might just have to live with the facts and accept that he might post a nude photo of you online. If the photo does get posted and someone asks about it, you can just say that you didn't mean for it to get posted, and some creep (this guy) threatened to post the photo online if you didn't send him another one: and that you are too good to give in to some sick person's demands. Honestly, you'll get more out of knowing that you did not listen to him, than giving him another nude photo of yourself.

Look at it this way: if you give him more photos, you are only making things worse by listening to his demands and you'll feel more humiliated and controlled by him. The pain of having a nude photo posted online is SO much less than having to keep giving this guy nude photos of yourself.

Coronary Artery Disease is when the arteries responsible for supplying the heart with blood harden and narrow, due to build up of cholesterol and other material. This causes reduced rate and flow of blood to the heart.

Here\'s some more info:

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/coronaryarterydisease.html


You say that your heart has been doing \"weird stuff.\" That can be due to any number of things- irregular heart beat, complications from obesity (if that\'s an issue), abnormal development, etc. You need to talk to a parent about making an appointment to see your doctor (or preferably, a cardiologist) right away.

Friends do not judge their friends. Period. Clearly, these two girls are not best friend material, and are in no position to even be considered friends. You say you feel like you're their dog at times. That alone gives me reason to believe that they mistreat you. The fact that they cannot even accept an apology means that they're just mean, nasty girls. Everyone deserves to have GOOD friends in their lives. Good friends are there to support you, laugh with you, have fun with you, and make you feel good. Sure, we all get into disagreements every now and then, but when fighting becomes the norm, and you feel like you're constantly being insulted and belittled, then the "friendship" is definitely not healthy. I have walked away from people who talked down to me, flaked on me, mistreated me, etc., because I realized THEY DON'T DESERVE ME. You deserve to have good friends in your life. You know what? Good thing they're leaving the country. They can stay wherever they're going, and out of your life. Find friends who like you for who you are and support you. Whatever it takes-- socialize with different people, go to events, meetup.com, whatever it takes. Don't settle for less than you deserve.

Although you could be suffering from depression, in which case therapy could help, it sounds to me that you may be in a slump. Life can be tough, and sometimes we feel stuck and in a really dark place, where even the littlest thing can make us feel awful. First, ask yourself how long you've felt this way, and if something in particular happened that triggered these feelings for you. If these feelings have persisted for a long time, and may/may not be connected to one event or situation in particular, you may be depressed. Next, figure out if you feel the way you do because of a general dissatisfaction with where you are in life. I, for one, fell into a dark place when I felt like my life lacked direction, and I was totally lost and didn't really know what I wanted to do. I felt like crap all the time, would cry easily, and even felt like it was difficult to get out of bed. It took a lot for me to finally move to a better place--- I will say these four things work GREAT: meditation, exercise, good nutrition, and therapy. In my opinion, medication should be reserved for more serious cases of depression/anxiety-- but it's a personal decision. I say try to incorporate more exercise into your life, eat better, meditate, and you will see results over time. If you feel you really cannot function in spite of trying these things, then consult with a psychiatrist for an evaluation, but in my opinion, that should be more of a last resort, if other natural options do not work for you. Finally, ask yourself who your sources of support are- do you have good friends you can count on? Do you feel like everyone misunderstands you, or do you tend to keep to yourself most, if not all the time? It's good to have someone to talk to during your difficult times, especially when that person gets you and understands what you're going through. Trust me, I also have a tendency to over-think, and it only makes things worse. MUCH worse. I don't know how old you are, but growing up in today's society is not easy. MANY, MANY people feel the same exact way you do, so don't be too hard on yourself. With the right steps and support, you can feel much better.

Part of what you're experiencing is normal. Growing up isn't easy, especially around your age. Much of what you're going through is compounded by how much more young people are faced with and exposed to these days. There are constants, meaning most teenagers from different generations experience similar things- feeling misunderstood, ugly, miserable, etc, but because of how much more teenagers are exposed to, and how much more social/academic pressure they face now, it's even harder in my opinion to be a teenager in 2013, than it was for me growing up. I was your age in 1998- before smartphones, Facebook,etc., and before it was widely accepted for very young, famous teenagers to basically dress and act as much older celebrities did prior. I mean, look at pop culture- which I think has a huge impact on teenagers everywhere. I remember when only someone like Madonna (an adult) was controversial and scantily clad, and younger stars were more innocent. Now, you've got Miley Cyrus basically nude in a music video, Selena Gomez being a "diva" at that very young age, Kendall and Kylie Jenner strutting along as though they are adults, wearing tons of makeup and not much clothes. They, too, are teenagers. Young, teenage stars used to be fairly innocent, but now everyone is hypersexualized. And seeing this in magazines, on TV, everywhere really, well- it has got to have a negative impact on many young girls' body image, and that is really unfortunate.

As for how you feel about yourself-- lots of teenagers feel down about themselves, misunderstood, ugly, etc. it's easy, especially this day in age, to feel like everyone else is prettier, happier, better, etc., but guess what- you have a lot to offer too. You are figuring yourself out, so it's normal to feel like a failure. But you're not. And teenagers do tend to talk about the same things, do the same things, like the same things---and honestly it has only gotten worse overtime, because pop culture, the mass media, our culture, have all become corrupt and homogenized. If we've become a nation of sheep, teenagers are seriously following the herd, out of a desire to fit in and be cool. That could be why you're so annoyed with people at your school-- they do tend to act the same, talk about the same things, wear the same things. I know, I have felt the same way. But now, teenagers are almost like walking corporate sponsors- consumer culture and materialism have spiraled out of control and bred a generation of technology addicted, shallow, superficial zombies. I can understand why you feel the way you do. It's easy to feel like a failure when your measure of success is a test score, and not who you are and what you really have to offer. It's easy to feel down about how you look, when everywhere you look are models, actors, socialites- many of whom are really, really young- photoshopped, skinny, caked in makeup, with a poster girl/boy artificial smile. It's easy to feel bitter and annoyed with your peers, when many of them are busy gossiping, posting "selfies" on Facebook and Instagram, talking about celebrities/popularity/sex (aka, meaningless and pointless crap).

But don't be discouraged from being your own person, finding good friends, doing what you want, and just being happy! You need to change your circumstances and outlook. That means hanging out with like minded people, getting involved in activities you enjoy, and seeing the positive in things. I know people can annoy you- but don't dwell on them. Focus on hanging out with people who get you, and who you click with. If you feel you're overweight for your height and body type, focus on keeping fit by exercising and eating right-- but do it for you, do it to stay healthy, and not to look like a model or skinny girl on a magazine. We all come in all shapes and sizes, and that diversity needs to be celebrated. We are simply not meant to wear size 0 jeans! But if you can afford to be healthier, then keep active, eat healthy, etc., and you'll see improvements in your self-confidence and energy level as well. Do what you like- whether it's cycling, yoga, jogging, swimming, etc.

Just remember, happiness is NOT skin deep! We all strive to be happy, and can feel sad and worthless when we compare ourselves to others or dwell on the negative. But all those things you're dwelling on can be let go of. Dig deep and find your true happiness within. Do what truly makes you happy, hang out with people you like who bring out the best in you, learn to feel confident in who you are by doing what you like. Above all, be proud of who you are. Fitting in and being popular can mean acting like someone you are not. Comparing yourself to others can really make you feel worthless. Understand that you are not worse than anyone else, you are your own person. It seems to me that you feel misunderstood--it's because you are not following the crowd. You shouldn't have to. " Be who you are, and say how you feel. Because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Dr. Seuss-- it sounds simple, but it is so true and a motto I try to live by. As hard as it may seem, be gentle on yourself, and learn to love yourself. Take baby steps toward getting there, and you will be happy.

Just because he was involved with a guy doesn't mean it shouldn't be considered cheating. He is using his sexual curiosity and orientation as an excuse to lead you to believe that he was only experimenting, rather than cheating on you. The truth is, when someone is in a relationship and then gets involved with another person in a romantic or sexual way, then they cheated on their boy/girlfriend or spouse.

Your boyfriend wants you in the picture while he has the freedom to experiment with other guys. Now, unless you both agree to be in an open relationship (and by the way things sound, you would not be okay with that), meaning you are BOTH okay with having any form of sex with other people, then it really isn't fair for you to put up with his behavior.

To be fair, he is young, and what he is going through is a very normal part of his sexual growth and identity. But what doesn't make it okay, is that he is getting involved with other guys while he is in an exclusive relationship with you. It seems to me that at this point, he has too much to sort through in terms of his sexuality to be in any sort of serious relationship. He should really take this time to sort through his sexual preferences, desires, orientation, etc., because until he is ready to commit to one person at a time, his curiosity and desire will get the better half of him.

It is good that you will get a recommendation letter to transfer schools, as it is official and comes from school faculty. It would be helpful for you and/or your mother to meet with the headteacher to explain the circumstances more fully, so that she can best outline everything in detail in her letter. It is hard to say what your chances are of getting into the school, because other factors might be taken into account in determining whether or not you are accepted. They may look into how you did academically, for example, in terms of your grades and/or test scores (if applicable). If possible, I would schedule to meet with the principal or other person/people in charge at the school you want to go to. Perhaps if you met with them in person, they would see how serious and enthusiastic you are about switching schools. You can ask your mother to come with you for support, if they agree to meet with you. Best of luck!

There's nothing wrong with that- you should hang out and study in an atmosphere you enjoy and feel most comfortable in. For you, it means going to your community college. And you mention you go once a week on Friday's, which can actually be a nice routine for you to go back to what is familiar, say hi to friends, and hang around Barnes and Noble, restaurants you enjoy, etc. If you also enjoy your university, you can try to also take advantage of what it has to offer, in terms of clubs/activities, libraries, events, etc. But hanging out at your community college too is just fine. My cousin transferred to a university as well, and occasionally visits his old community college too. It's good to feel at home somewhere, even if you aren't enrolled there, it's a familiar place you can head to study or relax when you feel like it.

What types of facial products you use depends on your skin type. It sounds like you have dry, acne-prone skin. If you have serious acne, I would make an appointment to see a dermatologist, who can give you the best advice and possibly prescribe prescription ointment, if needed. If your acne and skin issues are manageable, I would stick to using gentle skin cleansers and products. I have realized over time that less is more- a basic, gentle cleanser and facial products should help you. I use Cetaphil Gentle Skin Cleanser- which is good for all skin types, including sensitive skin and even gentle enough to use on babies. It has only a few, mild ingredients, and helps cleanse the face without making it feel tight or dry. Since you mention having pimples, I would recommend using Cetaphil Antibacterial Gentle Cleaning bar-- I once received a facial and the cosmetologist said that some of her clients rave about how clear it makes their skin. This can be used for all over, body acne as well. After you wash your face, use a gentle toner-- I love using Dickinson's Witch Hazel--it can be found in the facial products aisle at drugstores. It helps to remove excess dirt/oil without being harsh or stripping the skin. You should also look into using a light moisturizer made specifically for your skin type. Cetaphil has a daily facial moisturizer. I use Clinique Dramatically Different Moisturizing gel--- there is also a lotion version you might like, which is formulated for drier skin types. You may also want to use a facial mask (like Queen Helene tea tree mask) about once a week, to help with pimples and pores. The key is to keep things simple, and avoid using overly harsh products which might make pimples/other skin issues worse.

I like wearing Kotex ultra thin pads with wings. They stay on very well (no shifting, it sticks to underwear perfectly), do not bunch up like some other pads, and absorb well. I've been using them for a while and am very happy with them. You can find value size packs at Target for cheaper.

I think that in life, sometimes the only way to cope is to bring some humor into sad or difficult situations. Think about it--isn't this the reason why some of the saddest drama films have some funny parts? It's all part of life, and a way to keep ourselves sane, I think. I honestly don't think there is anything wrong with you and your daughter's exchange-bringing light to a situation such as yours is perfectly fine, when done tactfullly, and in small doses. I think it would be a good idea to have a heart-to-heart with your daughter sometime. Ask her how she really feels about the situation and how it is affecting her. You can both open up to each other, vent, and open the lines of communication. Sometimes making light of a situation is a way to hide painful feelings, so as long as you can both talk about things seriously as well, you will have an overall healthy way of handling what is going on.

I am here to give honest advice, when I feel I have something to contribute. I try to be as empathetic and understanding as I can, as I know that the way something is said is as important as the message itself.

I usually advise on love/relationships, friendship and family issues, nutrition, and health (mental and physical). If I feel I can help out, there's not a whole lot I am unwilling to answer. Ask away!

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