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My best friends judge me a lot
I am in a fight with two of my best friends.They judge me a lot.I feel like their dog at times.They don't like the fact that I had 11 boyfriends and they were very harsh on me due to that reason.We are friends for six years and now we don't talk.It's almost a month that we don't talk properly.they are also leaving the country after 2 months and we are broken.I tried apologizing and instead I got harsh behavior from them so I don't apologize anymore.I mean , they are the ones who should apologize to me , right?All these times I was so busy keeping them happy that I forgot my happiness.They are my friends and therefor they are supposed to me supportive , instead they judge me.Now what?
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Friends do not judge their friends. Period. Clearly, these two girls are not best friend material, and are in no position to even be considered friends. You say you feel like you're their dog at times. That alone gives me reason to believe that they mistreat you. The fact that they cannot even accept an apology means that they're just mean, nasty girls. Everyone deserves to have GOOD friends in their lives. Good friends are there to support you, laugh with you, have fun with you, and make you feel good. Sure, we all get into disagreements every now and then, but when fighting becomes the norm, and you feel like you're constantly being insulted and belittled, then the "friendship" is definitely not healthy. I have walked away from people who talked down to me, flaked on me, mistreated me, etc., because I realized THEY DON'T DESERVE ME. You deserve to have good friends in your life. You know what? Good thing they're leaving the country. They can stay wherever they're going, and out of your life. Find friends who like you for who you are and support you. Whatever it takes-- socialize with different people, go to events, meetup.com, whatever it takes. Don't settle for less than you deserve.
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They aren't your friends anymore. You guys don't talk anymore and they judge you so they clearly have no interest in staying your friend.
So just let them go and move on with your life.
It's tough losing friends, but it's a part of life. You just need to find better friends who won't judge you and will be there for you no matter what.
The people you were friends with before weren't true friends.
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They don't sound like friends now do they? If they judge you and stop talking to you for months than that signifies there's no friendship here and you should move on.
Yes, it's unfortunate they are moving away but when you look at it you aren't missing much. They aren't acting as friends should let alone a best friend. There is also nothing for you to apologize over. You're you. Be who you are.
If anyone else dislikes you for it tough shit on their account. The only time their voice counts is if it's one that comes out of concern for you and your well-being or future.
The fact you had 11 boyfriends is only an issue if they feel people are using you and you are letting them. Aside from that it's MYOB when it comes to them butting their noses in. Also, perhaps there's jealousy there especially if they don't have guys interested in them.
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