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I don't want to ask my crush out so I don't embarrass myself.
Hey,
15/f
I have known this boy since I was a little girl. I guess you could say were friends.Now in high school I have got feelings for him. He is kind of popular now and I think he likes one of the perfect girls in my year.
I really like him and want to ask him out but I'm afraid of rejection.
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I am in almost the same situation right now. What I would do is I would start talking to him. Not about anything sexual unless he brings it up though. If you talk to him then you will become closer to him. You will know each other better. Show him that he can trust you with anything. And when you say that you'll keep a secret, that means you WILL keep it. You can't tell anyone not even your closest friend. He will start two tell you more and more.. It might be a good idea for you to tell him things also (obviously) You'll know when the time is right and you should tell him your thoughts about him..
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It's normal to feel nervous or scared to ask someone out. Pretty much everyone is afraid of rejection.
Maybe just move at your own pace. Start out by talking more often, saying hi, smiling and if he reacts well, then you know you have a better chance. After you guys become more comfortable with each other, then exchange numbers. And you guys can continue talking there. Or even hang out with your friends like go see a movie and invite him along. If he goes, then you know he might be interested in you.
So you can kinda guess when someone might have an interest in you so just go with the flow and see where it takes off.
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Nobody is perfect. That other girl may be popular but still have bad traits or be someone he isn't interested in. Maybe he is or has been interested in you but can't voice it.
If you have known someone for years and years you should be able to talk to them about anything. They may not like you back in the same manner but would have the maturity to continue on as though this weren't a big issue.
Everyone fears rejection but the fact of the matter is that it inevitably happens to us all. He may be as equally scared of it as you. After all boys usually do all the asking.
All you need to do is talk privately with him and mention that you have known him for a long time and just want to be 100% honest with him on how you feel and not hide it. This way you finally get it out in the open and can move forward or on. Who knows he may feel the same way. You owe it to yourself to try.
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