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is it OK for my daughter to say these things about her jailed mother
My wife, who is also mother of my thirteen year old is in jail for one year for financial crimes. I am willing to stick by her and not leave her because I feel She made some stupid mistakes but it was out of character so I think she just got herself into a bad situation and make some poor decisions, She also never did anything bad at all before this And I am not defending her or saying she should not serve her punishment.. Also, her mother is showing regret and no defense at what she did . I am OK with her still being involved with her child because she was never an absent or abusive parent or anything. However, some people might feel it is wrong for me to do so and I am irresponsible for doing this,
My daughter seems to be taking it fine , she said it is kind of cool that her mother is locked up and is now the one being ordered around by others. This is weird because she never had a bad relationship with her mother. I asked what she meant and she said she was just joking. I made a small joke back saying "OK maybe she will be nicer to you when she comes back since she knows how it feels now" or something like that. I think that is OK to try to crack a joke to make the situation feel less bad and that a better way of handing the situation instead of being hysterical about it. But I think she is also definitely thinking "since my mom went to jail I never have to listen to her and she has no right to tell me what to do". I can understand that line of thinking but some say it is not good for her to have. If it just joking is it OK to just leave her alone, I don't want to come across as being controlling or anything to her.
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I think that in life, sometimes the only way to cope is to bring some humor into sad or difficult situations. Think about it--isn't this the reason why some of the saddest drama films have some funny parts? It's all part of life, and a way to keep ourselves sane, I think. I honestly don't think there is anything wrong with you and your daughter's exchange-bringing light to a situation such as yours is perfectly fine, when done tactfullly, and in small doses. I think it would be a good idea to have a heart-to-heart with your daughter sometime. Ask her how she really feels about the situation and how it is affecting her. You can both open up to each other, vent, and open the lines of communication. Sometimes making light of a situation is a way to hide painful feelings, so as long as you can both talk about things seriously as well, you will have an overall healthy way of handling what is going on.
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