about

Hey, My name is Mandy Marie. I'm an Australian and always will be one. I still own the accent, but I live in the US. I recently just moved from Miami Beach to New York City.



I like : Long walks, cars, paintball, hockey, football, painting, drawling, designing, sculptures, sewing, gum, guys, animals, surfing, bungee jumping, sky diving, pizza, fries, movies, I like throwing gum at the walls and laughing so hard it hurts my stomach, I love to sing in the shower, dance on the highway, cuddling, hugging, kissing, talking, I love to run up and down the stairs, get kicked out of stores, to go to a restaurant and bring my own food, I like to make a nice tropical drink, I like to stare at the stars, to hold hands, to just drive around not knowing where I'm going, to take road trips.



I want: to own my own sex shop called "Getting Freaky in the Basement" or just pretend I have one.



I am: really nice, I promise! I will do my best to help you. I've been through murders, deaths, abusive relationships, eating disorders, breakups, losing my family and my friends, giving up something you have your heart set on. Please ask me whatever you want. I will always listen to you and I respect whatever decision you make.



For more about me: A survey. Yessss! (You have got to be so bored by now. Half of you haven't even read this far..)



Basic Questions!!
First name- Mandy
Middle name- Marie
Do you like your name?- Uh, it's okay.
Are you named after anyone?- No, not really.
Who?-
Birthday- March 20th, I will be 20 soon! Yes!
Current age- 19
Where you were born- Sydney, Australia
Where you currently live- New York City, close to Manhattan
Your looks and body!!
Face shape- Oval.
Skin tone- Beige.
Do you have acne?- No.
Hair color- Blonde, currently has black and red streaks in it.
Hair texture- Straight.
Hair style- It's usually down and straight, or in pigtails.
Hair length- Past my shoulders.
Eye color- A dark blueish green color.
Eye shape- Um, regular? Circle? What the hell!?
How big are your eyes?- What?!
Do you wear contacts or glasses?- Neither.
How about braces? Have/had them?- Never had them, no.
Do you have straight teeth?- Yep.
Are they really white?- I would hope so.
Do you have high cheekbones?- Wow.
Long eyelashes?- Yeah.
Do you wear makeup?- Mostly.
What kind of makeup do you use?- MAC or Estee Lauder, Stila, Chanel, Urban Decay, LORAC, Pout. It all varies, I like to play around.
What brand of makeup do you use?- Because I'm such a dipshit I answered it above. *shrugs*
What shoe size do you wear?- 6 ..okay, so I have small feet. Kill me!
Ring size?- 4.
Belt size?- Um...
Pant size?- 4
Shirt size?- small
How tall are you?- 5'6
Happy with it?- I could be taller.
Your weight- 113
Happy with it?- I guess.
Do you exercise a lot?- Sometimes. Probably not enough though.
What kind of exercising do you do?- Well, does dancing count? How about walking?
Are you 'toned'?- Are you a fucking "tard"?
Muscular?- Oh baby! Check out my 8 pack. Kidding, gosh!
Overweight?- Nope.
Are you in shape?- Sure.
You and School!!
What school do you attend?- I go to college now.
What grade are you in?- Sophmore in college.
What classes are you taking?- My major is art.
What's your favorite one?- Art.
Least favorite?- ::::
Favorite teacher- :::::
What class do they teach?- ::::
Least favorite teacher- :::
What class do they teach?- Okay, seriously...
How many schools have you ever attended?- 3.
Are you in any clubs?- Oh.
What ones?- My.
What about school plays?- God.
Musicals?- No.
Do you go to a lot of school dances?- No.
Are you full of school spirit?!?!?- Hahaha, I never was.
Ever got detention?- Never once.
Suspended?- No.
Expelled?- No.


advice

my friend is giving me a really hard time, because i didn't go somewhere with her, she makes fun of me and my myspace http://www.myspace.com/x333333

and she makes fun of me because she really doesn't know me... like she makes fun of that i don't have a bf at the moment, she acts like my time keeper, she schedules things for me, she hurts me, and she gets me in trouble, ALOT.. so how can i make her calm down and stay the way we were or not? help mee!!

o and yeah, she really REALLY needs some help, i didnt go somewhere with her and she is like "you know what? im never talking to you, dont call me, dont im me anymore, and dont even think about me, or visit my myspace, or even look at my things, i sware to god, if you do, you won't be alive by the next day" so she really needs help, badlyy, MENTLE PROBLEMS? maybey?

x0o PLEASE HELP MEEE PLEASE!!!


form - - being bullied

She seems to have some anger issues and you really don't need people like that in your life. I'm being honest. Because if you stayed friends with her you'd be dealing with her shit all of the time. And that is not your problem, it is her. If she becomes reasonable and realizes that she'd been a bitch to you than I'd give her a chance. Because she came to the conclusion that she had a problem and she's willing to as you to forgive her which means she's trying to fix it.


If you don't wanna do that than you could tyr talking to her about it. Explain what you think she did wrong and if she would try and get herself under control. If she starts to complain and or get fiesty about it she's just being immature. And you would seriously do much better off on your own than with her.


Like I said, talk to her and try to get through to her. If that doesn't work just forget about her. If after awhile she realizes her own mistakes she's becoming aware of her actions and deserves another chance. But if you find her being how she was before just let it go and stop associating with her.


Love,
Mandee

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14/f okay so first of all you should know that im a little overweight and for that reason not as many guys wanna be friends with me. so theres this guy that i know through people and we've hung out together in smaller groups at parties and stuff but he wouldnt really say much and then at the end he started acting really mean and like i wanted to get to know him better and try and become friends with him but i dont know if i do anymore because of how he acted tords me. and then later that week i was at an open gym for volleyball and he was there too and i could tell he was watching me play some cause he didnt know we were both really into vollleyball and im a really good volleyball player cause im gunna be a freshman and i was playing with the jouniors and seniors. and afterwards i could tell he was gunna come and talk to me but i avioded him because of how he was at the party and now if he wants to be friends it will probally be because im good at volleyball and i dont want it to be for that reason because he had his first chance at that party. so i guess my question is if i should give him a second chance or just forget about him because of how he acted at what he said at the party?

Hey sweetie,
I understand why you'd be feeling as if he is only interested in you because of volleyball. And if that is true, than no you shouldn't continue to talk to him.


But people have the tendency to act stupid and first impressions aren't always correct. I'd say before you make any big decisions you could try and get to know him better. For instance, if you keep talking to him and the only the he mentions is volleyball, you'll know that volleyball is the only interest he has in you. Did he have alcohol at that party? People's personality changes by the amount of alcohol they have. Like a shy person could turn out to be really outgoing by the end of the party. It seems like you didn't get much time to get to know him at all. Maybe he acts differently when he's with a crowd as opposed to just you. But how would you know that if you don't get to know him better. You'll be able to figure out what his intensions are and whether or not he is mean. You also mentioned he didn't say much at the party. Could he possibly be shy?


But you never told me what he said to you at that party. If it was really offensive and uncalled for I would probably assume that he does that often and wouldn't give him a second chance.


It's up to you. But for me I believe that first impressions aren't always correct. I hated my exboyfriend when I met him, and after getting to know him the next day I really like him. Needless to say, we were together for about four years. But how can you get to know someone well in just one day? I'd continue talking to him and if you find that he's mean and just talks about volleyball, there's your answer. Good luck and be careful you don't get hurt.


Love,
Mandee

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ok well my real dad died in 2003 (im 14/F)but my parents were already divorced and i was living with my moms boyfriend (mark) he was also divorced and had one child named jaquelyn whos turning 13 soon. well now iv been with mark for about 6 or 7 years but jaquelyn gets jealous when im around him and i know its her dad and she never gets time alone with him because she lives with her mom and me and my older sister are always around but its not fair, how come i cant have my dad? but now marks gonna be off work for a couple of days for two weeks and my mom told me that jaquelyn is going to want to hang out with him so what should i do? i want to hang out with him and what am i supposed to do.. sit in my room while they have fun? my older sister doesnt really care and she says i should just stay away but i cant.. i love mark and i want to hang out with him too. what should i do?

This is something you need to bring up with Jaquelyn. She wants to spend time with her dad because she might not see him as much as she wants to. You, however, lost your dad at a young age and Mark is somewhat of a father substitue to you. It's obvious you want to spend time with him to. But, see..since you live with Mark Jaqelyn feels that you're taking her dad away from her. We both know that's not your intention and that's what you need to tell her. But when you tell her this make sure you do it softly. Or else it will start a fight probably.


You could tell her that you understand that she wants to spend time with her dad alone, and you'd probably feel the same if you were her. But tell her that she needs to accept that you are a part of her dad's life too. Ask her if you could join them when they do stuff together. But also let her know that you will give her time to be with her dad alone. (Probably give them a day or two together alone so that she doesn't get mad.)


Loosing your father is the hardest thing in the world. But you have probably matured much more than people your own age. Maybe you feel that you've lost your father so you don't want to loose Mark to. But try to be open and give him time with his daughter. I know what happened to you wasn't fair. And it probably makes you have mixed emotions when you see a daughter and dather together because that's you want that. You are very fortunate to have a mother, a sister, and Mark to rely on. So when Jaquelyn comes over don't feel like you have to isolate yourself from them. It'll take time for Jaquelyn to realize that you are a part of her extended family, but in time she will. Again, she's a little younger than you, and you probably act older than you are. Things like this takes time for people to accept.


Love,
Mandee

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well..i rele like this guy..who happens 2 b my x..nd i kno he likes me bak..alot! but i think were both still alittle shy 2 go bak out..any suggestions?

You need to get over your shyness, dear! The both of you need need to come to the conclusion that being shy will not make anything better. The relationship would stay the same as it is right now. You won't get anywhere by doing nothing...trust me.


Now if the two of you are shy because of a previous problem in your last relationship that is something you need to be willing to work out. The best way to get help is by overcoming shyness. That is something you'll have to work at.


Love,
Mandee


I'm guessing that you talk to each other. Probably on AIM mostly. Try to resist that. The more you rely on AIM and e-mail, the more you exclude yourself from hearing his voice and seeing him. So when you do meet in person you start to tense up. Try talking to him on the phone and hanging out as friends. You need to build up your comfort level with him again. It might take time but you have the whole summer to work on it.


If you have had trust issues with him that will take a long time. You need to be able to feel like you can open up with him again. That will take some time. Why don't you just start hanging out as friends for awhile? While you're working on building up the relationship you can gradually create an open connect with him. But be sure that you are ready for this. And make sure he knows that if he has had faults before that dealt with the result of breaking up the last time he needs to work on changing them. As do you.


But I would give it a try if I were you and see where things go. You only live once, right?

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Ok..So Me & this kid Chris went out for like a month & then he broke up with Me bc he felt like it wasnt fair to me bc he liked 2 other girls. This was about 3 weeks ago. We still talk alot & I still really like him. He said he still liked me too but didnt wanna go out w/Me right now bc he feels bad bc he likes the other 2 girls also. What do you think I should do/say to him about this ? PlZ hElP !

I think you should respect his decision. He was nice about the whole situation and he cared enough for you to make sure that he wouldn't hurt you. That was a very generous thing for him to do. I know you're probably wondering what I'm talking about.


Most guys would just break up with you and not tell you why. Or to make matters worse they'll cheat on you so that way they know you'll get mad at them and call it quits. This guy seemed to give you and honest explanation of why he didn't want to go out with you anymore. It really isn't fair to you if he likes other girls. You should be the only one he thinks about and likes. If it were me, I wouldn't want to date someone who wouldn't give their whole heart to me. He's doing you a favor.


I realize that you like him a lot and I know it hurts but think about it. You're better off without him. He says he doesn't want to go out with you, don't force him to. He probably needs you as a friend right now. So continue talking to him and supporting him unless that's too hard for you to do. Because sometimes it's hard to be just friends with a guy you really like. He's probably at a state of confusion right now. Liking a number of people is often hard to deal with so he will definitely need someone there for him. And maybe if you support him and listen to what he says he'll start to consider going out with you again. I can't promise that though. All guys are different. Hang in there! Everthing should be okay. And if you need anything let me know!


Love,
Mandee

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Hey, ok first before I say anything I don't mean to sound conceded... but it's true. Ok, I'm pretty and popular, and like guys like me and stuff... it's just I'm kind of incicure about myself because I'm only a 32 A. I'm probably not going to get any bigger because my mom was a 34 A... so... it just makes me feel really small because most of my friends are starting to get big boobs... and it's not like my small boobs have stopped alot of guys from liking me or anything... it's just kind of depressing. And I want to get a boob job when I'm 16, but I'm kind of scared that something's going to go wrong... so... help!

Well, how old are you? I'm guessing your not sixteen yet and if that's the case you have awhile. Along with your height, your boobs grow. I'd wait it out. Some develope slower than others.


If you highly doubt that you need to start feeling comfortable with yourself. Truth is, guys don't care about your boob size. Sure they're fascinated with large boobs because they don't have them. But they'll be more than happy for who and what you are as opposed to your boob size. If they accept you now, why aren't you accepting yourself?


Implants are an option but I wouldn't do it. The pain is unbearable and in some cases they'll end up popping. You'll also have concerns with breast feeding and future health. You'd be putting yourself through hell. Plus, it's fake. Who like fake stuff? lol


That choice is yours however. And I am not going to stop you. Your boobs are pretty much fat. So if you gain fat, you'll gain it in your boobs first. Usually first. Why do you think people's boob size goes down when they loose weight? Typically when the loose weight their boobs are the first to loose it. Same thing with gaining weight.


I'd just wait, babe. Life is too short to worry about that. I used to be a small size too. But growing up I was always late..most people developed large boobs before me. I was always sad because I had small boobs. But growing up made them grow bigger. And it grew naturally. That's the best way to go.


Love,
Mandee

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My friend is trying to change the things i believe in. He's jewish and i'm christian. I'm scared i won't get into heaven if i believe anything he does. i really dont know what i'm doing or getting myself into. He's one of my closest friends but it's almost like he's threatening to not be my friend anymore if i dont believe what he does.
what do i do?

No one should ever try to change what you believe at all! Let your friend know that you respect his religion and you'd appreciate if he respects yours. The reason he's probably doing this is because he has strong opinions and/or feelings towards his religion. But that does not mean that he should change your beliefs on anything. You need to talk to him and try to make things right between the both of you. Tell him that it's ridiculous for you two to stop being friends because you have different religions. I actually believe that when two friends have different opinions that makes it better. You learn from each other but you are not being forced into an opinion that you don't agree with.


Basically, he needs to respect you and your religion. Because if he doesn't - you're going to have some problems. You don't need that and neither does he. Maybe by saying that being close to him and having a great time with him will make him realize that religion isn't significant in friendship. It shouldn't matter what you like and dislike, what should matter is that you both enjoy each others company and that you can talk about things openly without feeling ashamed.


Love,
Mandee

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ok I have this problem and I'm finally admiting it I cut myself whenever I'm hurting inside I know it's bad but I only started doing it once I met this guy John. He's my boyfriend. I know I need to dump him or get over him but forget it I gone thought so much shit to stay with him I not gonna dump him unless he actually hits me. But I want to know how I can try to stop without professional help my mom doesn't know I do it and I refuse to get proffesional help?

Nikki

Nikki~

Hey, I just wanted you to know that I've been through a lot of things - cutting was never one of them. You probably think I wouldn't understand, and I might not. But I'm going to try to.

I know that cutting yourself relieves the pain in that moment because you feel none. What I don't understand is how you would want to alleviate the pain for that second instead of making it go away for a long time. Also, you're left with reminders of your pain. Because those scars stay with you for your life. Why would you want to be reminded of the pain?

You already know that it's bad and you've got to stop. I give you major props for that, hun!

I know that you just want to feel better. Without a program you can get into you need to talk to one of your closest friends or someone who has been through it. Someone needs to give you the motivation to stop if you can't do it yourself. But if you really wanted it that bad (to stop) you would do anything that you could to achieve it.

Keep yourself busy. Throw out your razors or any sharp objects. Try throwing things or scratching/cutting up objects other than yourself to relieve stress.

You're not alone on this. Many people do it. I even think Johnny Depp had some issues with cutting.

Ask yourself why you self-mutilate and if it's your boyfriend than you need to tell someone about it. You can even tell me. I've been through abusive boyfriends before. I know the feeling, and I would be more than happy to talk to you about it or if you want to tell me about yours. I'd love to be there for you. Even though I don't know, I would like to hear what you're going through.

Love,
Mandee


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I just moved in 10 months ago [[beginging of school]] Yeah,i made friends...but now at the end of the year they all turned against me! And its all because if this one girl hates me,they all hate me.I hate being a follower and i love to be original,so simpely,i dont follow her like my friends did. Now shes convincing everyone to hate me! She was once my friend and i never did anything wrong ][[i know this because we werent that good of friends we just sat next to each other in one subject..never called eachother and stuff..]] So she makes everyone hate me for no reason. And im so sad i cry so hard. Im not the same im just miserable. Im trying to get my mom to move back to my old city. Its takeing some effect. I would be over joyed to move back to my city. People like me and i have friends there. But my question is how can i deal with all this pressure and stress on me?
Im becomeing depressed and hateing my life. I dont want to be that kind of person seeing as i always try to look up...even down looks up to me.

Moving back to your old city won't help you. You'd just be ignoring the situation. Why would you want to do that? Wouldn't you rather want to fix it? You'd be more proud of yourself for it.


This girl sounds like such a bitch..and there is plenty of those. But you are a leader and you hate following others. You said so yourself. So just don't follow them. They wanted you to be upset and to get angry. It puts a lot of emotional stress on you, and hunnie, you don't have time for that. You have the chance to pull yourself together and focus on you. I'm guessing it's summer where you live. Go out and get a job. You'll meet tons of people who will be there to support you. Work on what you'd like to accomplish. Example: if your goal is to loose weight, become outgoing, or accomplsih a certain task you have the time to do that now. Try not to listen to them...you're so much better than them. I can tell.


Overall, I think you should meet other people. Why would you want them anyway? Truly they're not capable of being divergent. And it seems as if they don't have the balls to say what they really feel. You should consider finding people who are real and different. They've always been the ones who stayed in my life and as far as the people who were stuck up or bitchy turned out to be unsuccessful. But whatever you want to do is up to you.


In the meantime try calming yourself down. Drink lemonade and sit outside or lay in the sun. Read or swim. Do something you enjoy doing. Or try something new that you always wanted to do. It'll help you cope. Talk to your old friends. Keep in mind talking to them might make you miss them more. But they'll always have your back no matter what. See if you can visit this summer and talk to them about your problems. I'm sure they'll be able to help you or just listen.


Love,
Mandee

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ok me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time, and we decided that we are comfortable having sex. well, i really need help! i thot this would be an interesting experience, but he has such an odd sexuality. example: he like practically ripped off my blouse, then like snapped oppen my bra and IT REALLY HURT, then like he takes my panties off and start rubbing them on himself,then when he had enough of that, he got whipped cream and sprayed it on my pussy, then licked it off. now that whippe cream thing may turn some weird girls on, BUT NOT ME!!! i'm like what the heck???? so then i just get dressed and leave because this was ridiculous, but we're really close so we made up. but what can i do so that next time, (its proabably not going to be for awhile tho) he acts NORMAL!!!

Haha...yep! That's happened to me too.


You need to tell him that you weren't comfortable with what he was doing. It was really weird to you. If you don't talk to him about what he did wrong, he'll never change it. Tell him you'd like him to be more senual and gentle with you. Tell him the whipped cream isn't for you.


Keep in mind that telling him might make him feel awkward and like he did something wrong. So if you're going to tell him, sugarcoat it in the best possible way. Keep your words at heart and also mention the things he's good at. So he won't feel like a complete loser. But yeah, he needs to be able to handle it. I mean, he's a guy afterall.


If you don't want to dicuss it an other option would be to throw hints. Like when you're with him and he kisses you softly say something like " I love how you did that!" He should take a hint and realize that you like being treated delicately.


Love,
Mandee

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ok this guy always calls me a nigga whats that supposed to mean?? and this other calls me a pecker? what does it mean? thanks!

A nigga is usually referred to a black person. Typically guys. But yeah, a black guy or girl. People will use it a lot in sentences like Nigga..please or what up, nigga?


A pecker is another word for penis. So it's just like dick or cock. You get the idea. :P


Hope this helped you out!


Love,
Mandee

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well i have known this guy since like i was in second grade (im an eighth grader now) and hes my next door neighbor and well since the last day of school i think i've been having some feelings for him.well when we were in school together we would like always flirt with eachother and our friends would always say we should go out and he would ask me some like personal questions.well since school started i havent seen him in the 2 or 3 weeks it started and i got to see him today..i was so happy to see him since i havent seen him in wat felt like forever.we started talking and flirting and i had my cell phone and he came up and took it and ran off with it and then wen started playing soccer and it was like alotta fun because he would always flirt with me and stuff and i think i really like him..well i have two questions do u have anyways that i can tell if he likes me and my second question is do you have anyways for me to make him like me well i dont mean make i mean like..maybe have a lil crush on me and some tips..thankie! ^_^

Babe, I am so sorry that this is so late. Probably more than 20 days. (didn't feel like doing the math) Again, I am really sorry for how late this is..my laptop had to get fixed and it took a couple weeks.


Guys are hard to figure out. Throughout the nineteen years that I've lived, I still never figured it out.
Guys tend to get a little shy and they act differently around you than they would anyone else. A guy could be straight forward with you and tell you that he likes you or he can quiet up about the whole thing. If he spends a lot of time with you or does little things for you that he doesn't have to do..that could be a hint. He probably talks to you a lot or he could be the total opposite of that and be really insecure and serene. If he touches you a lot and enjoys your company he's definitely noticing you.


The best thing that I can tell you is that you shouldn't put on any act for a guy. Guys hate that and they'll assume that you're fake. They can see through fakeness really well. You should try and open up to him and make him feel important. The more you listen to him and tell him how wonderful or good at something he is; he'll know that he can talk to you about anything. And communication is really important in a relationship. But remember, you want to be honest with him. Don't say he's good at basketball if you don't really mean it. Treat him like he's your bestfriend. Always make sure that he knows that you are there for him no matter what. You don't want to make him feel like he's out of your league. So don't mention any other guys who gave you everything and all that...it's never a good thing. lol

Hopefully you have some ideas now! Thanks for being patient! And if you need anything else, feel free to ask me. Since I have my computer back, I'll always be checking in!

Love,
Mandee

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hey do you think you could give me a link to www.applesauce.com or something because i checked and i could find anything and i really want it so if you could give me a site where it would be or the link of the site i would be happy.

I would try this link. I tried it on my PC and it worked on mine. Hopefully it works for you too! (it should) but if for some reason it doesn't let me know and I'll keep looking.


http://www.whateverlife.com/downloads.php


Love,
Mandee

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hey all do any of you know what www.applesauce.com is?

Hey!


Applesauce is a font program used for AIM. And it provides tons of new colors anf fonts that you normally wouldn't get using the regular IM. It works pretty well, I've been using it for two years now.


If you're interested in downloading it, I'd go to www.downloads.com and type in applesauce and you should find it there. It's completely free and it shouldn't cause any harm to your PC.


Love,
Mandee

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Hey Mandee this is my first time writing to you but i heard your advice is really good so here is my question: My friend is 13 going on 14 and has a boyfriend that is 17. I am kinda worried about her ( you know thinking about rape and abuse). The only person that knows about her relationship is her friends and her favorite teacher ( not her parents)Am I over reacting by worring about her or should do something about it? I mean she has her head on straight and i have met the guy he seems nice but i am still worried. Please help!
~ distressed sista~


Hey! Thanks for writing to me! I'm glad you did. Sorry it's a day late, I just got back from a trip. Anyways...


I see why you're worried and apprehensive about her relationship. And because he's older, I understand your concerns with that too. But you need to realize that she's going to go out with plenty of guys and they're all going to be different in age. And you probably will be too. There's a certain point when you need to step in and do something, and you've got to know when the time is right. Only try and break up the relationship if you witnessed or heard her telling you that he seriously abused her. If he gets too overprotective to the point that he controls her life, then you need to talk to her about it. If she wants help, but is afraid that's where you need to step in.


However, you said that you met the guy and he seems nice. I wouldn't judge him right away. Not until you know him well enough to determine whether or not he's going to cause trouble. And if he turns out that way, you need to first talk to her. Let her build up a relationship with him, give her the opportunity to get to know him. And you should get to know him too, that way you can put yourself at ease and not worry so much about it. :)


You seem like such a great friend, and your concern for her proves that! I'm not saying that you shouldn't give your input on him and just wait, rather that you should talk to your friend and tell her that you're worried about this guy..but you want to get to know him and in time you'll probably accept it more. Just let her know you're worried, but you still support her decisions. Only if you want to do that though. By letting her know you're worried about it, she might start thinking that she should watch out too. Let me know if you need anything else, or have a question on something!


Love,
Mandee

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i would really like to be more healthy. you know, toned muscles, eat healthy foods, etc. the thing is, i know exactly how to do it, what foods to eat, what to avoid, great exercises, etc. the only problem is i can NEVER be motivated enough to stick to a healthy lifestyle. reading through all this health advice really gets me excited about being healthier and such, but then when i actually go try it, i am never motivated enough to follow through! any tips?

No, you seriously can be motivated. Dedication and will power makes this happen. Since motivation affects us mentally. So what you could do is keep telling yourself, confidently that you want this, and you need to work at it. And really, that's the truth. In life you need to strive for what you want, or else you'd never get it.


Keep it a constant reminder of what you'd want to look like. If you have a role model, get a picture of that person and hang it up on your wall or door. That way, everyday you'll be reminded of what you want to do.


And by the way...it's summer. You'll be seeing people on the beach who are toned and healthy. That should make you want it more. Seriously though, if you want it that bad, you'd be do everything you can to achieve it. And it does get hard because you are the only one who can make it happen. So many times we see people fail at their goals, if you were to achieve yours that would definitely set you aside from others. People would see your improvements and they could possibly follow your lead. If you know how to achieve something, you should do it! You'll be so much happier with yourself, and you'll feel like you've accomplished something as opposed to feeling like you should've done more.


Good luck and have a great summer!
Love,
Mandee

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well me and my boyfriend are so happy together well he lives with his grandparents and his grandma doesn*t like me at all even though I never did anything to her well my boyfriend recently got a job and he works from 4:45 until 1:00 in the morning and his grandparents won*t let him call me when he gets home well I call him during the day cause he is home but his grandma only lets us talk for about 20 minutes so we never get to talk or see each other which is bad for a relationship but I love my boyfriend so much he makes me happy and everything but I don*t want a boyfriend that I never get to spend time with or get to talk to and it is summer right now so should I break up with him? or should I stay with him? I don*t wanna be lonely but if I have to I will plz help me I rate high! thanxs so much

Hunnie, you have the same problem as me. Well, sort of. My new boyfriend is just a little weird. He asked me to be his girlfriend but he never wants to go anywhere. And I thought about this and I just asked myself if I'm happy with the relationship. Which I'm not, so I'm thinking about breaking up.


Anyways, back to you! Before making the final decision, listen to yourself and ask yourself questions. You stated that you don't want a boyfriend who never has time for you. And time is one of the elements that are ideal for making a relationship work. Right now it seems as if you have only twenty minutes of time with him each day. And sweetie, that is practically nothing! If this keeps up, chances are that the happiness that you do have now will fade away. Because you'll be home all day, he'll be at work. You'll only talk to him for twenty minutes and so the cycle continues. Is that how you want to live out summer? Waiting for those twenty minutes you can talk to him, and waiting till the days he gets off work? You'd be wasting your time to fit his schedule. You shouldn't do that. It's summer, you have your own things to do and you deserve to have someone with you for the summer with dedication and time to give to you.


I know you'll be sad, but how happy can you be if you never get to see the guy you love? Before you decide on anything, have a talk with him. Tell him exactly what you're feeling. And if there is a solution to it, that is fixable, then go for it and try to make it work. But if it seems unrealistic, you're better off alone. Maybe he could cut back on his work hours so that he can see you more during the summer. Or maybe you can talk to his grandparents and try to get more connected with them. And once you achieve that, you can talk about extending the time that you talk to him. Those are my thoughts on it, but it's up to you! I hope you have a great summer! Try and enjoy yourself and I do hope there is something that you can do to fix this!


Love,
Mandee

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I have tried to eat exactly 3 meals a day iwthout anny snakcs, but I'm having trouble. As soon as I come from school I NEED a snack. How can I keep myself occupied while I'm doin homewrok so I don't snack?!

Well, a question that I wanna ask you is why do you not want to eat a snack? Snacks are important because they maintain your energy and keep you full until the next time you eat. And sometimes people who don't snack tend to eat more than they should when dinner time comes around. If you wanna stay healthy than just eat a healthy snack. There's nothing wrong with snacking. But if you strongly feel like you shouldn't then try making yourself a drink. Lemonade or ice tea? If you like those. And just sip some of that while working on your homework. But I hoentsly don't recommend neglecting what your body is telling you. If you are hungry the only way to solve that is to eat.

Good luck! If you need anything cleared up let me know!

Love,
Mandee

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okay well i need to lose weight well not really weight more like inches like i dont care if i weight 300lbs. i just wanna look good. well any way if you have any excersize tips or eating tips that work well it would be much appreciated!!

*i wanna look better in 3 weeks(when i go to the beach)

The first thing to do is cut down your calorie intake. If you don't know how much calories you consume daily, then why don't we just say that you should eat 1,200 kcalories each day. Now, I don't want you to look at everything counting each calorie up. Because if you do that it will cause a great deal of stress and counting calories are often where most people mess up on their diets. It often leads to an eatting disorder because they keep cutting more and more. But that's besides the point.


Think of eatting as basically filling up energy to keep you motivated through out the day. Cut down on sweets and fats. When you think of fat, most people include carbs as being one of them. But that's not entirely true. Carbs are important and you need them. If you start taking them away, eventually you'll binge. Here's what you should eat: vegetables, fruits, whole grain breads and cereals, lean protein foods which are like poultry, fish, egges, cottage cheese, and skim milk. Make sure that you eat before you get really hungry. Like for instance, if you get hungry around night time try at eat dinner around and a little snack afterwards. But don't skip meals because again, that starts to confuse your body. And if you don't regulate your diet, then that's when you start to notice the weight gaining and dropping. So it's very important that you stay consistent!


Exercising makes weight loss faster. It all varies on what you like to do. Have fun with exercising and make it apart of your life so that you can do it everyday and never get bored. If you're really energetic and love being all over the place try dancing or running/jogging. If you like relaxing try yoga or pilates, even walking. Or you can set up a routine that you should try and follow everyday. Maybe like streching outfor 5 minutes, doing 30 situp, doing pilates for 30 minutes. Or 20 sit ups, 20 minutes of walking 10 of running and another 10 of walking. It's all up to you, honestly. And with summer starting, try swimming! It's funa nd keeps you going.


You'll do just fine! Have so much fun at the beach! Just stay consistent and keep telling yourself you're going to do this. And you will. If you need to talk to me about anything, you know where to reach me. I know about nutrition, so if you have questions..let me know! Bye babe! Have a great summer!


Love,
Mandee

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Hey..first of all..I've read some of your advice and it is GREAT! Anyway, to my question..I think my best friend might like me. Ever since he broke up with his girlfriend we have been doing more things together. Like when he is home alone he calls me over there to be with him and i cook food for him. And tonight we were at my friend's (his cousin) uncle's house and we were on the couch and he was laying down and I sat down and he put his feet on me and then I was layin down and he came and sat on me. Then when he was leaving he was like do u want to come with me and I was like I would but I cant leave her(my friend). And he offers to buy me things..and last weekend he didn't want me to go to my sister's and he wanted me to wait at home for him.. and his cousin lives by us and whenever I tell him I will be gone for the weekend hes like please dont go and im like hope is home youll have her and hes like no and im like y and he will go because and ill go because y and he goes because your more funner! what do you think, does he like me or not?

Thanks so much hunnie!! I appreciate it! =D


Honestly, this is kind of hard to tell. I do have two ideas though. But how long were they going out? Did they just break up, or has it been awhile? That matters and I'll tell you why in just a second. But let me just say that I wouldn't get your hope up too soon. Because you don't want to stress over it or get yourself hurt.


If he had just recently broken up with his girlfriend, chances are he's leaning on you for support right now. He wants to feel loved and needed. I know all about this, I'm going through it right now. Maybe because he has been hanging out with his girlfriend and never got a lot of time with you, he's catching up with you since he's single again. In this case, you just need to be there for him and get him having a fun time. He probably needs time to think still. Give him the time he needs and when you feel that he should be healing from his break up, then you can start to flirt more. Don't rush things. I would just progress slowly until you guys know you're beyond friends.


If its been awhile, and you think he's over his ex, he probably likes you. Try having some fun! Haha. Try to flirt more and get closer. If he seems like he's enjoying that and doesn't seem distant afterwards then he probably likes you. Or you can try spending even more time with him. Just talking to him. And once you guys catch up on old times I would start asking him about relationships. You could ask him if it's hard to get over his old girlfriend. This way, you're not saying "So, are you over her yet?" You're mainly just letting him know that you're concerned and you care. It's like a nice way of saying are you over her yet. And if he replies with something like "Yeah, it doesn't really bother me anymore" then he's probably over it. Which means he'll probably want to ask you out sometime.


Keep in mind, he might just want to be friends. But I don't think so, because I'm just assuming that he's changed. Becoming more closer. Touching you, wanting you with him...that sorta thing. And I'm also assuming that you like him. Now, I might be wrong. But if you don't like him do not start flirting or asking him about certain things because that just wouldn't be fair to him. Instead, try acting a little more distant if he's coming on to you. And if you don't think that he's changed that much, he acted that way before, then you should start to think about just being friends. Overall, I think you should just hang out with him more that way you can really be sure. If you notice that he very close with you, very touchy, and has this cute shyness about him consider the option of him wanting to be more than friends. But as for now, don't worry yourself over it. Just take it one day at a time. Alright babe, see ya later. If you need anything else or want me to better explain my answer just give me a holler!


Love,
Mandee


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