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Cutting Myself
ok I have this problem and I'm finally admiting it I cut myself whenever I'm hurting inside I know it's bad but I only started doing it once I met this guy John. He's my boyfriend. I know I need to dump him or get over him but forget it I gone thought so much shit to stay with him I not gonna dump him unless he actually hits me. But I want to know how I can try to stop without professional help my mom doesn't know I do it and I refuse to get proffesional help?
Nikki
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You really need to tell someone about that..I've read all of the answers.. and I agree with someone who tells you to tell your mom..I think that's a good idea.. Try to tell your mom.. She'll understand it.. Hope I helped..!!
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Nikki~
Hey, I just wanted you to know that I've been through a lot of things - cutting was never one of them. You probably think I wouldn't understand, and I might not. But I'm going to try to.
I know that cutting yourself relieves the pain in that moment because you feel none. What I don't understand is how you would want to alleviate the pain for that second instead of making it go away for a long time. Also, you're left with reminders of your pain. Because those scars stay with you for your life. Why would you want to be reminded of the pain?
You already know that it's bad and you've got to stop. I give you major props for that, hun!
I know that you just want to feel better. Without a program you can get into you need to talk to one of your closest friends or someone who has been through it. Someone needs to give you the motivation to stop if you can't do it yourself. But if you really wanted it that bad (to stop) you would do anything that you could to achieve it.
Keep yourself busy. Throw out your razors or any sharp objects. Try throwing things or scratching/cutting up objects other than yourself to relieve stress.
You're not alone on this. Many people do it. I even think Johnny Depp had some issues with cutting.
Ask yourself why you self-mutilate and if it's your boyfriend than you need to tell someone about it. You can even tell me. I've been through abusive boyfriends before. I know the feeling, and I would be more than happy to talk to you about it or if you want to tell me about yours. I'd love to be there for you. Even though I don't know, I would like to hear what you're going through.
Love,
Mandee
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Good for you for stopping. It is hard and you will probably end up slipping up a few times. Just know that that is part of the process of stopping and don't beat yourself up over it.
Next keep yourself as distracted as possible. Get a hobby like knitting to throw yourself into when you are upset. Or go online or watch tv or call someone. Just do something that isn't cutting.
One good support site is recoveryourlife.com
Hang in there. It gets earier. I will have been cut-free for a year in 5 days.
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John obviously makes you cut yourself. He treats you wrong. Whether its just verbal abuse or hitting you, they both cross the line. It doesn't matter what all you've been through, it doesn't mean things can't get better. You're stopping things from getting better by not dumping John. If you refuse to get professional help, then you will get no help. I can promise you that. It is only better when your mom knows about your current issues with self-harm and bad relationships. Get yourself out of this and get help. There is no better help than knowing that your mom knows and that you don't have to hide things from her. I need you to do this for yourself. This is the only way out, Nikki, and you know that. Please give me a chance my inboxing my name and talking to me if you aren't quite convinced. Its ok to be scared of professional help, but you are scared of what life you are living right now, so please, for once, take a scare thats worth it and tell your mother.
-TheTeenGirl
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Ask a really trustworthy friend to help you quit someone that is understanding and willing to help have them take away what u are cutting urself with(if possible) and have a reward for going so many days without cutting urself good luck and if things get worse or a cut doesnt stop bleeding see a doc!
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ok this is a hard issue that i have also dealt with. i respect your decision to stay with john so i won't critisize you for that, but i think it's time to ask yourself if the relationship is healthy for you.
also, cutting is an issue within yourself and you cannot blame it on any drama or bf's. remember that.
so to help your cutting....
- wear a rubberband at all times. wen you feel sad or stressed snap yourself as hard as possible. hey, it's better then cutting yourself.
- discard all of your razors and cutting kits (if you own one) that you had. it will ease you from alot of temptation.
- before you cut, stand back from the blade for a bit and take 30 deep breaths. calm yourself down, this will help you back away with confidence.
- start writing poetry! this is what helps me the most. when i feel pain i write and write and write and it is like therapy to me.
good luck hunnie
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Cutting yourself makes your life worst. You need to tell someone such as your mom or a friend you can really trust. You think cutting yourself makes you feel better and you think your not hurting anyone, but you... its not true your hurting people that really care about you. My best friend used to cut herself and things changed in our friendship. When she told me she was cutting herself I was hurt I felt so bad and I knew I needed to help her. After telling her how I felt she tried stopping, but couldn't because she had gotten used to it. When her mom saw her cutting herself she broke down and really told herself she needed to stop. If your boyfriend doesn't treat you well then you need to dump him because you deserve so much better. There are other people out there that care about you. Hope you stop cutting yourself and I hope I helped.
--Manda
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OK well you really need to tell someone you trust and know well.This is serious so you need help.Youshould talk to your mom i cant belive im saying this but moms do know best.Please tell someone.You will feel better about yourself.
~*Cathryn*~
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Cutting yourself doesn't solve problems, it adds more. i'd suggest you go out with friends and family more often. you wouldnt just cut in front of all your friends and family would you?? so dont give yourself an opportunity to cut. and think about the bright side of things, life is great. i hope you dont cut yourself anymore!
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If you know you need to dump him, then do so. Sorry, if I sound harsh, but if you even have a suspicion that he will hurt you, then the bastard has to go.
If you don't want professional help, seek out some form of therapy. Find a shoulder to cry on. They don't need to know about the cutting if you don't feel ready to tell them yet. But talking things out may help you quit.
Also, think of some other thinks do do when you have the urge to cut. Find some sort of punching bag or other physical object you can attack and take your frustrations out on THAT ISN'T YOU!
Hope it helped...
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lets say you cut on your wrist right well write on your wrist no and the things that cutting can do to you like no deadly also write that on what you cut your self with so then before you cut you will see and also try cutting something els like a pillow or something well hope i helped and if you have ne more quistions just drop em in my inbox
-kelly
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ok, cutting your self is one thing i can relate to, i used to do it all the time, every day..because i thought that it would make you feel good, and it makes you think that everything will be ok, we all think cutting yourself is going to reless the pain, ok yeah..it feels good to cutt your self when your mad, but you know what, look at it this way, and i garentee you will want to stop. I cutt my self, every single day, it dont matter how many times you do it, but i got an infection. Now, cutts could just be cutts, but sometimes it can be so much more then that, it could become and deady illness in your skin. Trust me its not a good thing to see or deal with. Some ways you could reless your anger? Fight with a pillow, yeah its rediculous, but it works. Or get a punching bag, that works too!! I have one down in the basement, and when im mad, i go down there and pretend its someone i dislike and beat the shit out of it haha, Or, if you like music, when your made go listen to your favorite music. But the best thing you could do is talk to your friends. It really works. Cry even if you have to, but always remember it cant rain forever, and sometime the sun will come out. I hope i helped alot and helped you change your mind about cutting, because its not a good thing to do, it could cost your life, or make you suffer with an infection that is horrible and wont go away.
If you ever need someone to talk to, about cutting or something, you can email me, or leave one in my inbox, i will get right back to you. You can quit, i know you can, its going to be hard, but its worth it
XoXo
Kristi
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