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14/f okay so first of all you should know that im a little overweight and for that reason not as many guys wanna be friends with me. so theres this guy that i know through people and we've hung out together in smaller groups at parties and stuff but he wouldnt really say much and then at the end he started acting really mean and like i wanted to get to know him better and try and become friends with him but i dont know if i do anymore because of how he acted tords me. and then later that week i was at an open gym for volleyball and he was there too and i could tell he was watching me play some cause he didnt know we were both really into vollleyball and im a really good volleyball player cause im gunna be a freshman and i was playing with the jouniors and seniors. and afterwards i could tell he was gunna come and talk to me but i avioded him because of how he was at the party and now if he wants to be friends it will probally be because im good at volleyball and i dont want it to be for that reason because he had his first chance at that party. so i guess my question is if i should give him a second chance or just forget about him because of how he acted at what he said at the party?
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Guys are such losers. I think that you should still give him a second chance because it seems that he was trying to give you another try because he came to your volleyball practice, so you should do the same. I hope I helped and tell me how it goes! ♥Andie
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Hey sweetie,
I understand why you'd be feeling as if he is only interested in you because of volleyball. And if that is true, than no you shouldn't continue to talk to him.
But people have the tendency to act stupid and first impressions aren't always correct. I'd say before you make any big decisions you could try and get to know him better. For instance, if you keep talking to him and the only the he mentions is volleyball, you'll know that volleyball is the only interest he has in you. Did he have alcohol at that party? People's personality changes by the amount of alcohol they have. Like a shy person could turn out to be really outgoing by the end of the party. It seems like you didn't get much time to get to know him at all. Maybe he acts differently when he's with a crowd as opposed to just you. But how would you know that if you don't get to know him better. You'll be able to figure out what his intensions are and whether or not he is mean. You also mentioned he didn't say much at the party. Could he possibly be shy?
But you never told me what he said to you at that party. If it was really offensive and uncalled for I would probably assume that he does that often and wouldn't give him a second chance.
It's up to you. But for me I believe that first impressions aren't always correct. I hated my exboyfriend when I met him, and after getting to know him the next day I really like him. Needless to say, we were together for about four years. But how can you get to know someone well in just one day? I'd continue talking to him and if you find that he's mean and just talks about volleyball, there's your answer. Good luck and be careful you don't get hurt.
Love,
Mandee
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