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The name's Emily.First off- thanks for actually reading this!
I love to give advice
I will always try to anwser your questions.
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I know my favorite topics says "Love life, nutrition, and friendship", but I'm intrested in tons of stuff. ASK!
I don't care about rating..so be warned...I'm not necessarily always going to give you the anwser that you want to hear. But I do want to help you!
And I would tell you more, but that's not whats important here: let me help you!
peace.
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hey lovess.
i have an issuee with a love triangle.
bob [friend]
Well, you don't have to tell Bob about Sam, but you should probably tell him that you don't feel that way about him. You don't want to string him along, with him thinking that it could happen. No, you gotta be honest with him. You don't have to keep distancing yourself, but make sure he understands.
Now for Sam. Well, if it would be awkward for you to tell him how you feel, maybe you just need to spend more time with him- so that you're more comfortable and confident around him, you know?
As for them being friends, there's really nothing you can do about that. I honestly think that you should still go for it if you really want him.
Good luck!
8th grade formal is friday! Well i just found out this girl has the same dress as me. And people always get us confused for some reason and now we have the same dress! any ideas on maybe how to make me look different. And my dress is a halter dress how should i wear my hair? i'm not really sure. I have curly brown hair its not thick i just have a lot of it. i can straighten it and pretty do what ever i want with it. But i'm just not sure what i want it to look like. my hair is longer though.. any ideas?
any ideas for my hair for formal?
any make-up tips?
my dress it black and white- i wanted color but eh any ideas would be helpful
the main thing is i don't wanna look "sleezy" i have longer legs and i have high enough heels and the dress is shorter and tight...soo i wanna look i guess sexy but cute? if you knwo what i mean!
thanks a lot!
Well you could leave your hair curly but kinda sweep it up in an updo. You can find directions for how to do one in pretty much every 17 magezine every printed! Maybe you could ask this other girl how she plans to do HER hair, and then you could do something to the opposite effect?
As for your dress, you could buy acessories that really stand out (earrings, necklaces, etc..)
And with makeup, you should play up your best feature. If you have really vivid eye color, use a dramatic color on your eyes that would make them stand out. If it's your lips, use a really pretty color on them and tone everything else down.
feel free to ask me more specific questions if you want more help!
i need to break upo with my bf, but i dont know how. im too scared to do it face to face. but is that necessary?
It's not easy, but it's probably the best way. Just think how you would feel if someone broke up with you over the phone or in a text message! But then, every relationship is different, and you know him better than anyone who is going to give advice, so you may just need to think about what would be the best way for yall.
good luck!
i know this is such a typical question here - but i am looking to lose weight, maybe 5-10 pounds. i am 15/f and about 5' 3.5" and 130 lbs. i like most of my body and i know im healthy but i know if i lost the bit of fat i have i would be totally happy with myself. if i knew exactly what to do in terms of eating and exercise i think i could follow along, but i am not usually very good with coming up with my own ideas. is cutting calories the best way to do it? how many calories should i take out of my diet, and how many calories should i aim to burn daily? and if anyone knows like an idea of how many calories are burned for certain exersises... like maybe a 15 minute jog, how many calories would that burn? and if i did that daily and cut a certain amount of calories from food would i be on the right track? thank you
Cutting/counting calories is not the way, in my opionion. And from your physical discription, you sound pretty great, although I understand about wanting to tone up. Well, like I said, don't cut calories. Just make your goal to eat healthy, and the body will come. Try lots and lots of whole grains, fruits, lean meats, and veggies. Don't reduce, just tweak your eating habits.
As for exercise, I suggest pilaties, yoga, weightlifting, and running. Yoga is great for muscle definition, and pilaties trims fat around your abs and hips, as well as builds strong legs. You just have to alternate what exercises you are doing.
If you want me to go in to further detial on either food or exercise, just send me another question. But I hope this helped!
i'm 5'6" about 140 pounds. is it possible for me to lose about 20 pounds by june? not going extreme or anything. just cutting out ice cream, chocolate, cookies, etc. i'm eating a bowl of special k for breakfast and dinner, a lot of fruit, and a sandwich for lunch.
Well, your diet sounds ok, if not a little extreme. (But I don't really think that anyone should "diet", just change their eating habits to healthier foods. Being healthy should be your goal, with losing weight as a bonus) I've never agreed with the suggestion of replacing two meals with special K. It's great for breakfast, but you should try to get more protien than that at dinnertime.
Well, my two favorite exercises are yoga and pilaties. Both are great for trimming fat and shaping muscle. You can find beginner DVDs at almost every store these days. But it's good to also throw running and weight-lifting into the mix.
But just so you know, your BMI is right in the "normal weight" category. And if you lost 20 pounds, according to the site I just used, you would be almost underweight.
where can i find add & message buttons.
like these?
http://i163.photobucket.com/albums/t284/xk_k/add.png
and
http://i163.photobucket.com/albums/t284/xk_k/message.png
Well I can't help you with those certian ones, but these sites have a big pick to choose from:
www.myspace.com/crash_codes
www.whateverlife.com
http://panicked.nuclearcentury.com/graphics/contact_buttons/
Those are my favorites, but you really could just google contact buttons, and I'm sure a ton of sites would come up.
Also, you might be able to find a site that shows you how to make the codes, and then you could make those images into buttons yourself.
There's this guy who i like alot. He's not the hottest person ever but his personality is the best in the whole world. We were really good friends (bestties) for like 2-3 years and then things got kinda serious twice. The first one i kinda broke up with him because i was too young and the second time...i'm still not sure what happened the second time. It ended about 1 week ago and I'm confused. He didn't break it off but we don't really speak much again and he isn't as talkative with me again. IT's kinda awkward and weird. I want to be friends with him again..and the bad part is i can't get over him...i'm falling more inlove with him day by day! It's tough...i just want to know what to do? get over him...or start back again?
Well, it might be time to try again! Your previous attempts at a relationship might have been thrown by the awkwardness of the situation: You were really close friends, then all of the sudden you were dating! It might've just felt weird. I think you should talk to him, and let him know that you really want to be friends again. After a while (don't rush it!) you should try it out again. If things don't work out...mabye you are just meant to be friends!
so i never had a boyfriend, but ive kissed 4 boys, im 14 by the way. does this make me slutty in any way to be kissing/making out with boys who arent my boyfriend?
In my opionion, not really. It's a fine line, but I think of a slut as someone who does stuff with random guys off the street, you know? But mabye, for your own personal benifit and so as not to appear "easy", you should take who you kiss a little more seriously. For example, you shouldn't ever feel pressured to kiss/makeout with someone. While the physical temptation can be really strong, you might want to hold off and just kiss a guy when YOU want too, and because you really like him. hope that was helpful!
so theres this boy today who just asked me the dance and as a gf! i like him but im not sure if its there!
how do i no?
Go with him and find out! lol
Okay so i am having trouble right now...(obviously)lol okay so the thing is. Well all my friends are saying so many mean things about me and its not evento my face. I hear about it from pther people. One of my bff said that i wasnt really that pretty and i wore makeup to cover everything. I mean i think i am anaverage looking person ya kno? im not UGLY but im not BERAUTIFUL either. what am i supposed to do? They are saying really hurtful things
Well I've defientaly been through this, so lets see if I can help. First things first: Do not break down. Don't grovel at your friends and beg to know why they are mad at you. And try not to cry, at least in front of them. If you do those things they will be getting just the reaction that they want. (I'm not saying to be mean to them, however)
Ok, so, most of the time, when people treat you like that, they are threatened (or jealous) of you. And the kind of friends who don't rejoice with you in your sucesses are not real friends. Some people just like to have "friends" that they can put down all of the time, to make themselves feel better.
So all I can say is this: Don't let it get to you. Just be happy at school, and talk/hang out with people that you might not normally hang out with. That's just what these girls DON't want you to do. At the same time, if they apologize, then treat them nicley- or how will they ever learn? Just don't let them use their friendship with you.
Okay me and my friend Jane, need advice, how can we look great and buy stuff cheap??? Give us a list of stores and we'll hit the mall!!...remeber...CHEAP.
-jan and jane
Forever 21!
Old Navy
Charoltte Russe
And the following stores on clearance.
Urban Outfitters
American Eagle
Anthropologie
(I know that they are normaly pricey but their sales are AMAZING!)
Hope I helped!
ahh ok where to start.. 16/f and 17/m.. well ive been with him about 10 months. and i love him i really do, but i cant freaking breath anymore! ive felt this way for awhile. i just need some space man. but its like hes soo dependent on me.. like im his oxygen or something. we go to diff. schools, so i talk to him in the mornin, after school if were not workin, and at night. we used to talk for hours and hours, but now, i just want some chill time ya kno. so now i might talk to him for 30-45 minutes, and then be like ill call you back later or somethin, and he'll give me the whole "you dont wanna talk to me anymore" guilt trip deal.. or else he'll be like where are you going?? [another thing.. i HATE being soo invaded.. its always "what are you doing, where are you going, who are you talking to".. and he doesnt give up until i answer.. i mean honestly, privacy anyone? but then if im like "i dont have to tell you everything" then hes like "i didnt say you had to" but when you keep pushin me like that.. then uh hellooo]. also, sometimes when i say ill call him back, a few hours will roll around and he'll call me back and be like im sorry but i was going crazy i had to talk to you. AHH. or if he does actually wait till i call him then hes all moody and bitter bc "i didnt wanna talk to him" or wtfe. or else he`ll answer and in stead of hello its "...finally". this isnt a once in a blue moon things its ALL the dang time. i feel so suffocated! and talking to him really does a whole lotta nothing.. ughh wut can i do before i go crazy?
btw.. no breakin up.. i dont want that.
I don't see many solutions other than the ovbious: talk to him
I know that you are probably hesitant to tell him to back off when he's such a dependant guy, but it's an approach that you haven't seemed to go for yet. Just be honest with him, and tell him that you need your space. Don't worry- there're nice ways to say it!
I would begin by letting him know how much you care for him and that you are really glad to be dating him. Then just tell him what you've been going through (all of the things that you listed in your question) You could make it sound complementary by saying things like, "When I don't see you for a while, it only increases how much I love you, because I start to miss you!" If he is angry because he thinks that you are annoyed with him, then his only solution is give you some space.
Also, try organizing fun and private things to do together- you could like set aside one day every other week or so when you just spend the whole day together. Planning stuff like this could make him feel more wanted.
Good luck!
im like 13 and a half years old and im 5'11'' to about 6' and im 203 pounds. I lost a quick ten pounds lately, but im in fear of gaining it back, and i kind of want to lose maybe 15 or maybe 20 more pounds. I play basketball and I'm to short to ever become a center, the position I play now, in big leagues. So i want to get down to play a small forward position later in high school. So i was wondering if anyone knows a way to lose a quick 15-20 pounds, maybe in like one to two months. Or at most 3-4. In a week I'll be doing some plyometrics after school which is a really hard workout. But any other advice would be great
Well, "losing quick pounds" isn't very good for you. However, running, pilaties, and yoga are your best bet. (You can get pilaties and yoga videos anywhere, or mabye you could take a class) Anyway, I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH: you probaly will gain it all back of you don't combine exercise with a healthy diet. (And I don't mean diet like cutting back, but just as in making good choices) Good Luck!
in november, we had an incident in my family where my dad beat my mom and tried to choke her. ever since then my parents have never acted the same. now i have these dreams that my mom kills my dad and that they stab each other and all of this. what should i do? 6 months later, it wont go away. should i get help? what do i do.
Yes. Find someone you trust and talk to them. I'd also talk to your mother.
Okay so i really like this guyyy, hes in my homeroom but thats it. He's not the most gorgoues guys i've ever seen but hes very good looking. I really like him because of his personalitly. We like a lot of the same bands and songs, and we both are athletes. He is my bestfriend. OK, now time for my problemm. We hung out last night with some of our friendss, and we had a pretty good time. me and him would always stay together and we had races and stuff and we laughed a lot. we acctually held hands at one point but only for like 30 seconds. I think he likes me too but im not sure. My other friend thats a guy, has been acting like a real jerk lately and told the guy i liked that i was like in love with him, and the jerk told me he liked me too, but i cant go out with him becuase he his bestfriend and i cant take him away from him? so idk, what are some ways i can get this guy i like to acctually tell me how he feels about me so i dont have to wait any longer? HELP WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.
Because yall are already so close, just ask him next time you get a chance. If you guys want to be together then there is no reason why you should not be. As for the *jerk*, mabye he is acting this way because he likes you. Guys are weird like that. Or mabye he has lost friends to their girlfriends before, and is worried that he will lose another friend. I don't think that you guys should let the way he is acting affect your desision. But mabye the guy you like should let him know that he won't totaly ditch him if you guys were dating. Hope that was helpful!
This weekend at a church event, I accepted Christ. It was quite amazing, my leaders and friends helped so much, but now the weekends over and I'm not sure what to next. I talked to a few people who recommened baptism, but I don't feel like that is what I really should do, not yet anyways. I attend a church on occasion with my mom, but my family isn't religious, which makes me wanting to be a stronger Christian difficult. I havent told my parents about being saved yet, I'm unsure of their reactions.
So, what should I do now? How do I start to help my relationship with God grow? How do I explain to my parents whats going on? Is there anything I should know?
A great way to work on your relationship with Christ is to do His work. Explain to your parents what you are feeling and try to convince them to attend church with you. Read His word. Is there a youth group at this church? If there is, I would defiently attend because that should provide you with many fun activities and fun people who can help you with your faith. Sometimes you just need to talk to someone. Feel free to keep asking me questions, I'm really intrested in helping. I myself am going through confirmation at my church, which is a time when youth join the church. My leaders have been a huge inspiration for me. I think it's really important that you keep attending this church. I just recently starting a sort of journal where I force myself to write down exactly what I am thinking, which really helps me with what I need God to help me with.
how do you get rid of love handles or like back rolls?!
The best exercise is running. However, Pilaties, an all over body workout similar to yoga, is great for your hips (and love handels) Yoga is very good for your back as well. I would suggest the DVD called "Pilaties for Dummies & Yoga for Dummies" It has both beginning and intermediete levels for the exercises. Any exercise in with you build muscle, like lifting weights, is great because muscle, even at rest, burns calories. However, even with all of these solutions, it is nessary to combine then with healthy eating habits.
OK, Well, I like this guy...
But he's two years older.
At one point one of my friends were like, "He's going to ask you out." But I was like noway.
Then,
That friend was like ya, he is.
But then he went and asked my friend out. She said no because she was being a good friend, because she knew I liked him. So, that was good, but, I don't know how to get his attention, because ever since her found out that I liked him, he doesn't talk to me anymore.
He says its weird because he is good friends with my older brother, and I can see how that could be weird, but sometimes I wish it wasn't like that, because I REALLY REALLY like him. Everyone expects me to get over him now, but to tell you the truth I can't!
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
13/f
Well, the boy has reasons for acting strange.
A) Most guys tend to freak out when they realize a girl likes them, wether or not they feel the same way.
B)He is two years older than you. While to you and many others that may not seem like a big deal, I must admit that there is a big difference between thirteen and fifteen, and I don't mean years. It's just what you are expirencing in those points in your lives are very different. This may not be an issue for him, however.
C) You are his friend's sister. There is pretty much an unspoken rule between guys about not dating their sisters. Again, this *may* not be an issue :I don't know because I do not know your brother.
But I can tell you this- just lay off a little. Surely at least one of these issues are present, and all three require that you don't do anything drastic to make him like you. Just..go with the flow for now, and feel free to ask me more questions as things progress!
i have been wondering about this since like the 5th grade. i was told two different way to abbreviate the word exadera (i know i spelt that wrongg. haha) kayy so which is it. ect or etc??
thankkk you soo muchhh
it's etc..Ha I always mess that up too!
I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess.
Please do not kill yourself. It is a permanent solution to what could be a temporary problem. You need medical help, don't hurt yourself! Don't do that to all of those people who love you. I will be praying for you.