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I dont know what to do.....
Okay so i am having trouble right now...(obviously)lol okay so the thing is. Well all my friends are saying so many mean things about me and its not evento my face. I hear about it from pther people. One of my bff said that i wasnt really that pretty and i wore makeup to cover everything. I mean i think i am anaverage looking person ya kno? im not UGLY but im not BERAUTIFUL either. what am i supposed to do? They are saying really hurtful things
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Well I've defientaly been through this, so lets see if I can help. First things first: Do not break down. Don't grovel at your friends and beg to know why they are mad at you. And try not to cry, at least in front of them. If you do those things they will be getting just the reaction that they want. (I'm not saying to be mean to them, however)
Ok, so, most of the time, when people treat you like that, they are threatened (or jealous) of you. And the kind of friends who don't rejoice with you in your sucesses are not real friends. Some people just like to have "friends" that they can put down all of the time, to make themselves feel better.
So all I can say is this: Don't let it get to you. Just be happy at school, and talk/hang out with people that you might not normally hang out with. That's just what these girls DON't want you to do. At the same time, if they apologize, then treat them nicley- or how will they ever learn? Just don't let them use their friendship with you.
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i am going through the same problem right now. 3 of my best friends talked mess behind my back, and my other friend told me. i confronted each of them and asked them to tell me the truth. the truth hurts sometimes. cuz i had to hear it behind my back, and to my face. and it made me rethink my friendships. i told them that i wasn't going to jump back into friendships with them because 1. friends don't lie 2. friends don't backstab and 3. friends don't say mean things about each other. if they are really your friends they will love you and want to be your friend no matter what.
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If you say that you didnt acctualy hear your friends say those things you should first of all confront them about it. (If they say something like "No! we would never say something like that!" with a high pitch voice, chances are there lying to you.) If your "friends" do have any thing to do with this, id say there not true friends, beacaus true friends just don;t say stuff like that. And what ever they said i wouldnt take it to heart, im shure your a perfectly wonderfull girl, dont let stuff like this bug you.
Hope this helped!
Mandy :)
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If they were your true friends they wouldnt be talking about you behind your back. You should confront them and if you think they are lying have the people who told you and who feel comfortable in coming with you to your friends where they could say your friends told them all the mean stuff. people will always say mean things but when it crosses the line you need to know that being calm is apart of not stooping to their levels.
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Girl, they are nawt your friends. Those are people who are too insecure and take it out on you. They are bored with their own pathetic lives, I knwo its hard but you have to try and ignore them, hang out with new people or just talk to them and ask whats wrong.
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See if you can get one or two of the people that have told you the things that your friends are saying, and take them with you to confront your best friend.
It might not end well, but at least you'll know who you can trust and who you can't.
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