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Hi, my name is Angela. I'd like to think I'm a friendly person and I've had my share of experiences and knowledge.
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Okay well, I did something really bad. I was just on a cruise for two weeks, and before I went, my boyfriend broke up with me. But then, I was in florida for a week before I went on the cruise, and he came all the way down from PA to tell me that he was sorry and didn't want me to hook up with any other guys because he loved me and would always love me. But then, when I got on the cruise, I met this realllly cute guy, and we started making out and stuff by the time the two weeks were up. And he started to really like me, but I'm not too sure if I like him, because I love my boyfriend with all my heart. The boy on the cruises name is Tom, and my boyfriends name is Matt, by the way. And I'm a 17 year old.
Well first of all, Matt breaks up with you before the trip, then drives down to Florida before your cruise to let you know you can't hook up with anyone, and then throws in "I love you". If he breaks up with you, he should at least have the decency to give you some time instead of tie you up on your vacation. If Matt can't stand thinking about you with some other guy then he should have thought before breaking up with you in the first place.
You shouldn't feel too guilty about Tom, because think about it, Matt just happens to change his mind right before your cruise? The gesture was cute, but it takes a lot more talking and less lines to prove he's genuine.
From past experience, if you get back together with your boyfriend too quickly after a break up without talking it through, it's bound to happen again quickly. If you decide to give him another chance, find out why he broke up with you in the first place and what made him change his mind. Hopefully he doesn't give you the "because I realized I loved you" line again.
Cut yourself some slack since it was your vacation and "I love you" really isn't a reason.
As for Tom, a vacation fling won't last, especially when everyone's scattered across the country again. Keep in touch with him though, in case you guys ever meet up, even as friends. :)
Okay, graduation is only a month and some change left.. I think, May 27. Okay I need to tone my body. I want my breast to be firmer and I want abs. Can someone help me with what I need to do, eat. I run track and that's toning my legs. I'm not really big, jus a lil' flabbly arond the tummy. I'm only 120, n 5'3. Please help me and fast. Thank you in advance
Bicycle exercise! Bicycle exercise! Bicycle exercise!!
It has amazing results in a short period of time, depending on how hard you work at it. Make sure you tighten and use your abdominal muscles as you're doing it or you're not working the right spot. You don't even need equipment to do it.
http://exercise.about.com/od/abs/ss/abexercises.htm
Here's a picture of it. It's basically you have your hands behind your head and reach your right elbow to your left knee, then straighten your left leg out (about 45 degrees to the ground), twist and reach your left elbow to your right knee, then repeat.
well i am in an embaressing situation..when i remove hair from my thighs and upper leg by either shaving or waxing it seems to leave marks sometimes...right after removing hair the skin is little red and sometimes there are black marks or sometimes there are marks like acne....if i dont remove hair than there is no such problem...i need some solution to this..something that will calm my skin after removing hair...
It's probably because that area's irritated. I'm guessing this is probably your first couple times waxing. Remember that for about 15-20 minutes, the area will have some redness. Here are some pointers:
Is the hair on your legs long enough? it should be about half an inch long or else the wax won't grip onto the hair as well.
Make sure you clean the area, but don't rub the skin because you'll just irritate it more.
Try switching to another brand.
If you shaved and there are red bumps ("like acne"), its probably just ingrown hair. To get rid of ingrown hair, try smoothing lotions (available at beauty stores or just CVS), or you can always use a tweezer.
Okay, I really really really want to have sex with him (a.k.a. my boyfriend) but everytime we are about to "do it", I chicken out.
I don't know why, I guess that it's because I'm a virgin.
But I wish I weren't so scared. And I can never figure
out why I back out.
What should I do? Wait to have sex? Or just hold my
tongue and get it over with?
[p.s.] i'm a female, 16 years old
Never ever hold your tongue! I know you've heard it before, but your words hold a lot of power and has INFLUENCE. You can stop something from happening and you can give consent to it.
There are girls who think about whether or not they should have sex with their boyfriends for about a minute and then decide they should just because all their friends are doing. Unfortunately, I made that same mistake. It's showing a lot that you think about it in terms of yourself rather than what others think.
Whenever you are doubtful, follow your instincts and your decisions are going to be the right ones. You have a lot to lose and just weigh it in with what you have to gain.
And, you aren't scared, your minds just telling you that you aren't prepared for it yet. (I mean it's going to be a whole new experience.) Pay attention to the numerous times it tries to stop you.
Your decision should be your own, however I can tell you that for your first time, you won't be holding your tongue more than you will be biting on it.
EDIT: Pain and bleeding are natural for your first time. If you feel like you're ready then try it slowly. You can stop anytime. It would help if your boyfriend knew that you were a virgin. It helps to have someone guide you through it.
i got a detention today in school.. ive never gotten one before and i know if i tell my mom she will be pissed off and ill get the comeputer,cellphone and EVERYTHING taken away.. i dont know what to do!!.. pleaseee help ill rate high!
Talk to your teacher, APOLOGIZE for your behavior (((be sure to include what you know you did, it shows responsibility for your actions))) and ask him/her if instead of detention, if he/she can give you advice on how to improve yourself and surveil your behavior for a week or so.
Teachers (surprisingly) do not enjoy giving out detention, and will not if you can genuinely show that you can be responsible for yourself and adjust your own behavior.
It's OK, we all slip up sometimes and get caught. If you know that teacher regularly gives out detentions or is less lenient, it's best to avoid things piss em off and call attention to you or you may find yourself having a very rough semester.
Does anyone have any good advice on how to remove candle wax from carpets, wooden dressers, and plastic items? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
From Carpets:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2587_remove-wax-carpet.html
From Wood:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2589_remove-wax-hardwood.html
From Plastic:
I would think you could just scrape it off with a rubber spatula.
My cat is in heat...what can I do to stop her from bleeding/cuming...or being in heta for less time?
My friend's pet is big enough for a regular diaper that she cut a hole in for a tail, but it has to be pulled up often.
You can also get a specialty pet diaper for your cat at stores such as Petco and Petsmart.
Hi everyone,
My hair is somewhat dry and has split ends at the end of my hair. I straighten it almost every day because if I dont I become a giant ball of frizz and hideous waves. Does anyone know of any products that could help me moisturize my hair and conceal split ends? I heard Biosilk is very good. I'm trying to avoid cutting my hair since I want to grow it long for the summer.
Thank you =)
Jacki
I agree with the person below, Paul Mitchell's Super Skinny Solution is perfect if you use a straightener. After you shower, pump once in your hand, and smooth over hair.
1. Makes your hair dry faster
2. Helps straighten out your hair
3. Repairs damage done by straighteners
I used to straighten for about a year so my hair took a lot of damage from it. My previous hair stylist recommended it to me and it's truly a miracle serum. I got it for $16 at a hair salon so I'm sure you'll can get it for cheaper elsewhere.
Hey,
I know everyone hates relationship questions, but this one... well I'm basicially dying for advice.
My friend Jackie asked my crush if him and i could ever be more than just friends and he said could be. I am seriously considering telling him how I feel on Valentines Day and then maybe giving him a peck on the lips. Is this a bad idea? I've liked him for a long time and I feel like I really need to tell him in person. So does anyone have any suggestions for me?
If you answer, thank you SO much, you have no idea how grateful I am for your feedback.
-Jacki
A peck don't hurt and it sounds like the perfect day to tell him. It's good you're telling him in person instead of having a friend do it. How else are you going to see his flattered reaction? ;)
I have a problem with this woman that I used to be good friends with. I ended the friendship two years ago. I had to because she started to try to control me. She also ordered me around like her personal slave, took my kind nature for granted, spread mean gossip about me, broke into my email acount, and threatened to blackmail me if I ever got on her bad side. She was 46 and I was 25. She also acted really wierd and was telling people that she was my mother. She's never had children. I don't think she's mentally all there. Things got so bad that I quit the volunteer job we both worked at and put a block on my phone. She still to this day after 2 years bad mouths me at the center. I have a new paying job and it got back to me that she was trying to get my work schedule from my friend. I just want this psycho to leave me alone. How can I handle this? Someone even told me that I should bury the hatchet with her and contact her! I said no way. I also think that she wants to be my friend again. I would like to add that both my parents hate and and want me to have nothing to do with her. I'm tired of people feeling sorry for her and think I should give her a second chance. I really need someones advice! Thanks!
People with those kind of problems can get better, but it takes time and professionals, and you are not equipped to help her. Your friendship is only going to provoke her.
This is a risky situation, so I would calculate your decisions carefully. Is she the type that will do something violent to get something she wants? It's good that you are moving on with your life, but giving her that second chance is going to put you right where you started. Ignore her completely, and let your family, friends, and contacts know the situation, without bad mouthing her (calling her stalker, etc) or she will have a reason to confront you. If you think you or your friends are in danger, let the police or some one that is able to help her know.
It's probable that you will never be friends with her again, but the important thing you should get out of this is your life back and that she gets better.
i have blonde hair blue eyes skinny tall smart popular and cute . i also play a ton of sports so why cant i get a good boyfriend like my last boyfriennd dumped me in one day.if you know why tell me i need to know
Probably just a bad string of luck, you'll find your perfect boyfriend out there somewhere. But remember, its not all about being popular and cute, because those are physical qualities and they aren't all that matter. They can see that you're beautiful, but they cannot see your personality and all that is inside if all that you flaunt is your looks. You know you're smart, so ask yourself this, do they know?
Well I used to like one of my best friends, I've known for 9 years so I had one of my friends tell him and it turns out he never thought of me as more than a friend. Now its like 7 months later and he's ignoring me and I miss him a lot.I dont like him anymore but I miss being his friend. What should I do?
I think he owes you an apology. If he wasn't interested in you then, he should have told you so instead of trying to avoid you. That's no way to treat a best friend of 9 years. He must be really important to you if you're willing to be friends with him after that.
The first thing I would do is talk to him about what happened. Let him know that he should have communicated with you instead of avoiding you if he wasn't interested. After all, you have been friends for 9 years and he shouldn't have walked away from that because you developed feelings for him. Let him know that you don't have feelings for him anymore but you miss being friends with him since y'all had a lot of fun. He probably misses being friends with you too.
Best friends should be able to let each other know what's going on and work through everything together. Having your friend tell him you like him is probably what made him think that it was OK for him to just take all the time and distance he wanted. Be sure to have open communication with him at all times to avoid stumbling over the same hole again, because in time something like that is going to happen again.
ok i have pretty big feet;
they are not out of the ordinary but they are kinda big.
size 11 in womens.
i am 13 years old. and in 8th grade.
everyone and i mean everyone
makes fun of my feet;
i also have bunions;
and everyone makes fun.
even people that are not even in my friendship 'circle' is like wtf?!?!
i always wear UGGS to hide them and stuff
what should i do
i mean the joking is ok, too my face.
but ppl are doing behind my back
and it hurts.
help.
:(
Hon, you do not have big feet. These are just some issues that matter to you more than it does to them.
Yes, it hurts to have others single you out at an age when you just want to be accepted. The only way it's going to stop hurting is to tell yourself, "Yeah, I have a size 11 shoe size. So?"
You should not feel embarrassed by it, and the only time others will accept that is if you accept it yourself.
As for those who talk behind your back, just say, "Hey, I may or may not know you, but I don't like being talked about behind my back. Next time you want to say something, tell me." Confront them straight on.
If they want to talk about feet, tell 'em Paris Hilton's size 11. All those tall, beautiful people that you see strutting down Hollywood Boulevard or the catwalk have gorgeous size 11 or larger shoe sizes.
It's ABSOLUTELY normal to have a size 11 shoe size. Strut 'em, wear open toe shoes when it gets hot again, and give yourself a pedicure. Anything to show your feet some love. ;)
I once had this body spray that smelled like flowers. It was called "flower power" by the Smiley Calgon collection. They discontinued it and now Im left trying to find a new perfume/body spray. If anyone could tell me of a flowery scent they know of that'd be great. I rate.
Love Spell from Victoria Secret Body. It's a body spray that's very light and smells absolutely amazing! You gotta try it to believe it.
It's very cheap, and the other smells have a great floral scent too. Try a gift set that has all the scents and choose your favorite.
Brown Gauchos & Brown cowboy boots.
^yes or no?
Go with regular above-ankle pointed toe boots.
If you're going to go with the cowboy boots, pair a thick banded "western" belt that rides above your waist.
is it ok to wear an (light) orange polo with a denim mini and pink flats?
Sounds great, but I would switch out the pink flats with white ones and slap on some jewelry.
does anyone know where i can find the fall/winter fendi spy bag--perferably at a reputable dealer..i cant seem to find it anywhere and im dying to get it..thanks!
Nice taste ;)
Saks Fifth Avenue
Neiman Marcus
Are your best choices. I'm sure Saks has it since they have it online. They have a great reputation for everything designer.
P.S. If you like that kind of style, check out the Isabella line. It's called If.
my parents dont let me on the computer anymore so ive decided to buy a laptop so i can get my school work done.. but its takin awhile for me to find one so i want to get a pda or palm piolet .. does anyone know anything about them? or have any suggestions? can i download AIM on them?
Neither will AIM ;)
i had a question. in alot of eminems songs it says that hailie is looking at her younger sister. who is her younger sister? because i know her adopted cousin is 2 years older than her and i thought thats who he was talking about but now i know its not
Yes he is talking about Hailie's cousin. She and Hailie are supposedly so closed they are like sisters. I'm not sure if this is completely fact but apparently Lanie is the daughter of one of Marshall's "uncles" who died in a car crash. Marshall basically took on the father role for his uncle with whom he was very close to. He dedicated one of his songs to his uncle.
This is going to sound dumb. But every once and a while i get this really sharp pain right under my left boob like behind the rib cage. and it hurts so bad i cant breath. it knocks the wind out of me n i can't move, but this literally 15 seconds later its fine. it use to happen like every couple of months. but its been happening a lot this week.
wtf is this? lol i never bothered to ask anyone cause it didnt happen a lot. but now its becoming more frequent. any one else get this?
Doing crunches or ab work outs lately? You could have just pulled something. Be sure to take it easy for a couple days and wait until it gets better. The same thing happened to me but it went away after i took a break from dance for a few weeks.
If it doesnt go away after a few weeks, be sure to see your doctor ;)