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Hiii everyone (= im Brianna but people mostly call me bee & im the sweet 16. i was born 9 - 9 - 90. i have two younger brothers which makes me the only girl and the oldest. im in 10th grade at HAHS. i plan to either be a pediatrican or an accountant. i have a problem trusting boys. just boys in general. i think because of my past relationship, it made me realize how easy it is to believe a lie. but dont get me wrong, i will give a boy a chance, i just learnd not to believe everything someone says unless its proven to me. i dont really have a best friend actually i consider my mom my best friend. i tell her everything and i cant picture myself hiding something from her. i plan to get married eventually but no kids. im a unique person and i could be trusted with anything. i like to help people out and make them realize things from a different view. so thats what brings me to this site. if you have any questions or need help with a situation, im here (=

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Ok My name is Meghan and in 14 years old and i like this boy that goes to my school and his name is Sean and we were like bff's and then i started to like him and he started to like me but we did'nt go out because he had a gf.Well then after we told each other that we liked each other we stopped talking and now him and his gf broke up and were talking again but i don't know if he still has feelings and im afraid to tell him how i feel.

I dont think that you should be afraid to tell him how you feel. because it seems to me that he has the same feelings for you like you do for him. if he didnt then when he broke uhp with his girlfriend, he wouldnt of started to talk to you again. so im pretty sure he wants a relationship with you and he wants to see where it goes. with that said, i think you should have confidence in yourself and with him. just suck it up and be the bigger person, tell him how you feel and ask him if he feels the same. it could turn into something so great. i wish you the best of luck.


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when a guy wants to hook up with you, does that mean he finds you attractive? also, will an experienced guy think it's cute if the girl he wants to hook up with has never been with another guy before? but like he doesn't know i've never been with another guy before. i know he isn't liek straight up using me either. he thinks im cute and likes my personality (his friends say so, and i think i can trust them, but im not sure). and like if my GUY friends see us talking, they can tell that he likes me. by the way he's 2 years older than me, and isn't known for using girls what so ever. what do you think?
thanks

To answer your first question, when a guy wants to hook up with a girl that can either mean two things. he can either like you and wanna see more into the relationship or since guys are dogs these days, he can only want a " peice. " for your second question, it depends on the guy. if hes an expericed guy and is known for sleeping around and being a male wh^ore, then he wont find it attractive and will act as if he never knew you. but if this guy is looking for a relationship, im sure he`ll probably find it cute & he will respect you more since you havent been around the block and back. now onto the situation, i dont think hes going to use you and be like most guys. since his friends know him pretty good and even they say he finds you cute and stuff, its probably from far him wanting a " peice. " i think get to know him BUT be careful what you do. ive realized if you do certain things with a boy while being friends in only alittle amount of time, they loose respect for you. just be yourself and im sure he`ll love every bit of it.



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f/16. I've never been in a real relationship before, and I've only been on maybe 3 or 4 dates. But that's not the problem. I don't want this to come out sounding conceited, but I do think I'm a fun person, pretty, and smart. I don't have problems with guys liking me. I've been asked out five times this year. But the problem is, I always say no! Even when they're cute guys. I don't know why. I'm outgoing and a "people - person", and I want to have a boyfriend, but for whatever reason I have a problem starting relationships. Am I too picky? I keep telling myself that I'm holding out for the "right guy", but am I being too idealistic? Anyhow, anyone who has had this same problem ... your advice is appreciated! :)

I would love to meet you because i feel like your my twin. i am the SAME exact way. i just recently starting being like this though because of what i went through in my past relationship. now i think that no good is worth my time because im scared to get hurt again. and i raised my expectations so high. its normal to me, its just that we know what we want and we wont settle for less. also i think its the same thing with guys, " they want what they cant have. " im sure sooner or later you will find one that makes you fall head over heals and believe me im sure he will have the same feelings because you sound like a great girl. the longer you wait, the better they come. just always remember that.


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Theres this guy, Jake. I've known him for two years, but until this year we didn't really talk. Last year, he would say hi to me and all, which was nice because I was new, and we weren't really friends. This year, we started talking more because we had classes. We're kind of friends, I guess. But I developed a huge crush on him. And now he seems a little more distant. Like, he'll talk to me, and say something really sweet, and he seems like he's genuinely interested. But then I respond and he seems like he suddenly loses interest. Why!?

I could think of two things. He might be scared that you dont like him and when he says something sweet to you, he might think you only answer back to be nice. so in otherwords he stops the converstaion just so he wont say something stupid or saying something to make you feel uncomfortable. on the other hand, he may just want to be friends and nothing more. im torn in between the two because i dont really know him. i would say your best bet is to really tell him how you feel and if he feels the same way then im happy for the both of you. but if it doesnt work out, then being just friends is for the best. be the bigger person and stop the curiousity and find out for sure. best of luck!


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I'm 17/f. I've never been kissed before or had a boyfriend since middle school. But that's besides the point. Now there is this guy I like who's in one of my classes and I have no idea what to do! Obviously, I'm terrible at flirting/getting guys to like me because if I were any good at it, I probably would have had a boyfriend in the past 3 years. I really like this guy and stuff, but I have really low self-confidence and I think he's too popular for me and he'd never like me and whatever. Whenever I try to talk to him, I just get all negative and think that he'll never like me because no guys ever really notice me, even though I know I am attractive, but I'm quiet and mature-ish. So how can I get him to notice me more because I feel like I'm really awkward around him. Any tips for someone who's terrible at flirting?

well i can deffaintly relate to this. im 16 never been kissed and havent had a boyfriend in the longest time. but the only difference is i love to flirt. haha. but if i was in your situation, i would probably start a conversation with him. about anything. just to give him a little hint that you wanna talk to him. im sure he`ll be smart enough to realize it. maybe ask if yous` have any homework and if yous` do, theres always a study date (= eventually you will feel comfortable talking to him and the feeling might be mutial. just try not to doubt yourself so much cause it will hold you back from so many things. hopefully from you too talking it will take your mind off of thinking so much. i know you`ll be alittle shy to go uhp to him and ask him something or start a conversation but its something you have to do and eventually you`ll be so used to it, it`ll feel like nothing! i wish you the best of luck.


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14/f. my 15th birthday is this weekend and i was planning on doing something with a few friends (like 4). i was planning on going sledding, and then maybe back to my house for a little and hang out. I live in ohio, and we just got a ton of snow. but, just incase, if sledding doesnt work out, (like it gets too cold or somehow the snow melts or something)what else could we do?
thanks!

Some ideas that i have are of course truth or dare. wont be a slumber party without that game (= prank calls are always fun just watch who you do it too. cooking & baking are always fun especially with friends. usually when my friends sleep here, we make Cds` and blast the music and dance like craaazy! also take aloooot of pictures for myspace or just for fun. dont forget to get tons of food. like maybe have a table filled of candy and chips and icecreeeeeeam! my favorite (= haha. well hope i helped & have fun!


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my boyfriend just turned 17 [junior.. diff. school], and still doesnt have his license. he was supposed to get it 2nd semester last yr but he missed 12 days of school [the max. is 10 a semester] and they told him he'd have it wait another year and actually ATTEND school to get it. he was mad as hell and i felt bad for him [i started talkin to him in march of last yr so i never really knew he missed school]. so far this year, well this semester actually, hes already missed like 3-4 days, and its barely been over a month. now i see why he didnt get it. hes only had like 1 excused but the rest of the time he just "doesnt feel good" and doesnt get up. what can i say to him thatll encourage him to go to school so he can get his license this year, becuase i dont wanna hear all that whining all over again about him having to wait ANOTHER year to get it, but i dont wanna sound all motherly about it or anything yanno?

Im 16 and some months and i cant pass my permit for crap. which means i wont be getting my lincense for awhile. its because i dont believe in myself not because i dont care but just because i dont think i can do it. your boyfriend needs some courage, maybe some words to push him to try and get it. but first he needs to realize how important it is to go to school or else he wont ever get the chance to get his license. i know what you mean by not trying to sound " mother like " but maybe thats what you need to sound like to motivate him. if you truely care about him you will say whatever it takes for him to realize. start a conversation about how much he means to you and you want the best for him but tell him the only way for that is for him to actually go to school and keep going. if he wants to see you two happy together then im sure he`ll listen. best of luck!


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i've liked a guy named .. dan, scine i was in 2nd grade, we went out when i was in 4th through 5th grade. but then 6th through 8th [until now, im in 8th] grade, i was over him. and last weekend we hung out, flirted. he lives next store to me, so were on the same bus and today he sat with me and we listened to his ipod. my plams got all sweaty, and my plams never get sweaty. i was nervous about like what to say and stuff. i neverrr get nervous with other guys! i wanna like .. make a move on him. i dont know like how i should. how should i? how should i let him know i like him?

obvisiously you still like him. & honestly i think he still likes you too. i deffaintly agree with you that you should tell him so i think the best way would be when you two hang out next. it`ll be better with just you and him so he could honestly tell you how he feels and it might be easier for you to express how you feel. the next time yous` hang out together bring uhp like the past and say something " i dont think my feelings ever went away " and see what he says. from there, be the bigger person and kiss him (= surprise him. im sure he wont mind. hehe. good luck and i hope i helped.


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16/f

I've talked to this guy on myspace [I knew him from middle school] so he's not a stranger to me. We talked for many weeks. We met up about 3-4 times and we are going out now.

But I feel so stupid because I'm so shy and I can't look at him

We are surrounded around our friends and we haven't been alone.. I can only glance at his face. If i really stare at him, i get so shy.. my eyes water [for some reason? sensitive eyes?] and i blush like mad. I'm awful at eye contact. i keep telling myself to look into his eyes but i end up looking away.

I'm also tensed and nervous. I don't know how to feel comfortable around him. We haven't been dating long. Maybe a week? How can I be more open? Not so shy around him?

I can hug him but it's so awkward standing next to him. Maybe it's because he's watching my every move. It sort of scares me.

I need help:[

i think its normal to feel like that around someone you dont see as much especially if its your boyfriend. since both of you are fine with the distance relationship my advice would be far from breaking uhp. i really think you will get over it, im not sure though when because each person is different. it might be from not seeing him as much as you like and when you finally do get to see him your overwhelemd with happiness and butterflies (= thats good because its a strong feeling. tell him how you feel, he might laugh but think its cute. if you can get over telling him that, he`ll try and make you more comfortable around him. best of luck.


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i will try to be quick. me and my best friend(who is like a sister). i have some freinds from another school and she meet them and "fell in love" with one of those boys and annoyed the heck out of him. me and my friend got in a really big fight and i told the boy that she is not always so nice ect. now he wont talk to her and i keep trying to talk to him but he either wont listen or never answers his phone ect. my friend also thinks that since this booy will only talk to me that he must like me. I screwed it up because he used to like her and i need help because i want to talk to him and tell him WHAT I SAID WAS MOSTLY OUT OF ANGER AND THAT HIM AND MY FRIEND SHOULD AT LEAST TRY TO BE FRIENDS but he wont listen. how should i aproch him and tell him. i also have like 4 questions for him. how can i get him to talk to me about this girl? Thank you in advance and i hope you can help me as soon as you can!
thanx,
Maris54321
P.S. if you have experiance with this, if you could explain what you did to deal with this that would be helpful.

i was never in a sitatuion like this. but if i was, i think i would write a note to him. since he wont pick up his phone and talking in person might led to him walking right away. so writing a note to him would probably be your best bet. dont give it him yourself though, maybe have one of his friends do it and then dont tell him who its from. explain to him what happened with you and your best friend and what you said was just out of anger. tell him how great of a person she is and how you think he should give her a chance. on the other hand, to get things fixed with you and your best friend, i think you should honestly tell her what happened. that anger took control of your words but you are fixing it because you realized what you did. since shes your best friend she probably will understand. if the boy doesnt want a relationship or to be botherd by her then let him be and your friend can find another boy that will treat her like she needs to be treated. hope i helped.



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at my school we had this kind of fundraisor the highschoolers did. what they did was sell cut out hearts that kids can buy and give to people with a sucker. unfortunately the people selling them gave them to the kids that got one from someone who bought them one. i got one who didnt put there name on the heart on purpose( secret admire). it looked like the guy got a girl to write my name and the comment which was( my heart aches for you) i found out later by talking to one of the women that work at my school that a boy got her to write it to me but she wouldnt tell me who! all i know is hes not in my class.i dont even know if hes in my grade but its a good chance he is. how do i find out who it is?

the curiousity would kill me! id go crazy! haha. well obvisiously its someone very shy. so it might be someone that you never would of thought. since the girl wont tell you, theres really nothing else to do. because her and the boy are really the only people who knows. you just have to sit back and wait until hes ready to tell you. until then, try not to think about it so much and dont stress because he wants you to know but just not yet. hopefully you find out soon! (=



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my best freind is getting on my last nerve and she had been eversince we got back from christmas break.she takes everything way to seriously and she thinks shes sooooo hilarious but shes not funny at all. shes just sooo annoying sometimes and its getting on my last nerve! how do i get her to stop? ive already talked with her but shes still doing the things itlkd 2 her about and she hasnt stopped doing anything at all!!!!!!!!!!

omg! this is what i went through with my ex best friend! i went through the same exact situation. and as of right now i dont consider her my best friend anymore. my best friend thinks everything she does / says is funny and when she doesnt like something, it could be so little, she can be the bitchest person ever. so what happened was that one day she messaged me on the computer and told me how she doesnt like how i dont say hi to her in the halls but when i told her why she just blew it up and made the situation worse and made it into a bigger deal then it already was. and this wasnt the first time cause i can take a certain amount of stuff but its all of the time. thats it. i did exactly what you did and told her about it but when i did, she just told me how it was my fault and that she isnt doing anything wrong. so i just distant myself from her as much as i can. i mean im still her friend cause i could never drop her like that but i dont consider her my best friend. my point is that best friends arent supposed to be like that. especially when you tell them whats wrong and they dont listen, that proves how much your friendship is truely worth. maybe once you distant yourself from her she will realize how shes acting and will change until then, you are your own person and it could only make you stronger.



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when you date a guy, but he doesn't send anything to you or call you or email you or anything on Valentine's day.

Do you just break up with him? Or you call and ask him what's going on?

same exact thing happened to me =| i didnt get a call or anything yesterday. ill admit i was pretty upset and disapointed because all my other friends got stuff and it was a special day for them. then i realized that its just a day. boys dont think like us so im sure he didnt mean to hurt you in any kind of way. i think girls just make it into a big deal when its really not. just think of a regular day something like halloween. you know nothing really too special. we dont need a day to make us feel loved right ? so in other words stay with him because like i said im sure he didnt mean no harm.



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OK so ummm yeha i really like this guy Matt but i dont think he likes me but most my friends do anyway i met this new kid yesterday i he's really cute and we talked for a few minutes and well i kinds like him now too and i found out he's bi i have absolutely no problem with it and i think i could actualy ask him out but like i cant talk to matt cause i freeze everytime i try so yeah should i go for it with this new guy or stick with matt???

my opinion is to stick with the new boy. if you have a feeling that matt doesnt like you then that could stop you from asking him out because if you already doubt yourself with matt then you`ll doubt yourself from being with him. im sure if matt REALLY does like you then he will be the one to come to you. & he will ask you to be with him if he likes you the same way. for now see how things go with the new kid. things could actually work out. especially if you already have some feelings for him in the beginning. best of luck (=



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I was in class today and this girl on campus i kind of know was looking in my direction and it seemed liked she was looking directly at me so i looked back at he rnot a dirty look but a half smile look and she begin moving her lips but i didn't know who she was talking to or what she said but whatever she was sayiing it looked like it was being said with an attitude so later i asked her was she trying to tell me soemthing not in a attitude kind of way but like i was asking a general question. Was i wrong and should i feel embarassed?

you shouldnt feel embarresed at all. actually i give you credit for doing that! i know if it was me i would be so shy to go up to him and ask him if he was talking to me. my point is that just think if you didnt, you would be wondering for god only knows how long, if she was really talking to you or what she was saying. i mean who knows, it could always turn out for the best and if it doesnt, at least you know the truth, right ? no harm in that! (=



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Ive known this kid for about 2 years and Ive always had a little crush on him.
We got to be better friends and i started liking him alot and we had sex and all that stuff.
Then, rumors spread and he hated me.
After a while he started talking to me a little then not talk to me for weeks then talk to me again and repeat.
Sometimes it would be a good conversation,sometimes It just wouldnt.
He acts like he hates me ,hes always being mean to me and stuff.
His best friend said he likes me , and he does that because alot of other guys hate me [which is true]
His friend is a truthful person, so I believe him and his friend said he wanted to do me ,etc.
But he continues to act like he hates me and is so mean to me!
I dont know what to do , i love him so much But i cant tell him becuase he has a girlfriend.
I need help!

15/f/CA

You need to get as much distance away from him as you can. im sorry to tell you but he is no good, he is alittle boy who cares what other people think and obviously he plays games if hes telling his friend about you but then has a girl. its hard dealing with a crush cause believe me it fits the name " crush " well. there are so many other boys out there and you have your WHOLE high school / college life ahead of you. too much stress cant be a good thing. your young and you better have fun while you can. screw this little boy that doesnt know what he wants and if he wants to believe rumors about you that goes to show how much " love " he really has for you. dont be stupid, realize whats going on and realize you can do better! girls dont deserve to be treated like this and you be the stronger person and move on like you know you should. good luck hun.




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14/f
So there's this guy "tyler" who likes me. I mean REALLY likes me. Now tyler is not the best-looking guy in the world, but he's amazigly nice. He has asked me out a few times, but I've always said no. There are just some things I cannot stand about him, like that he is really into drugs, he's practiclly an alcoholic, and again he's not the best-looking guy in the world. Since we live really far away, we usually talk online, and we've become really good friends this way. When I see him in person, though, I keep thinking about his faults and I can never see myself with him, though I can when we talk online. Because of this, I've come to think that I'm being very shallow about this whole situation...but then I think would I really be happy with him and say I would not so therefore I am not being shallow. It's been bothering me for like forever, so please, what should I do about this whole thing, and am I shallow?

Thanks

i dont think your being shallow at all. i think its far from it actually. your a very smart girl. any boy involved with drugs and is an alchoholic at a young age can only mean trouble. im not here to judge anyone because i could be wrong but most of the time it only leads into dangerous situations. its typical to look at looks, i mean hey looks grab your attention right ? im a very picky person when it comes to dating, its not a bad thing it just means you know what you want and you wont settle for less. i think you should just tell him that two are better off as friends because hes not your type and you dont want something that will only lead to a heartbreak. just always remember your heart is what matters and if you dont want it then dont push yourself. i really hope i helped. good luck!



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Okay so when me and my bf makeout we sometimes like lay on top of eachother and he will put his penis like were having sex(that type of position laying down) and it will touch me down there and itll like feel good or whatever..and i get this feeling....(the really good feeling is for like 5 seconds)but then like right after its like i lose it and i just want to stop for some reason cause i already hit that point. i dont get it cause i still want to makeout and touch and stuff but part of me doesnt agreee? can someone help me whats going onnnn

thats exactly how i am. although i dont wanna do the " big bang " haha i still like to be touchy feely and stuff like that. it just means that you can see something going too far at that point and your just not ready to go all the way yet. thats why your stopping yourself before it goes farther. maybe just put yourself in a different position, like sitting up. i hope that helped.



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(Sorry if this is too long, but I'm just a 17-year-old girl who has no idea what she's doing in this area of her life :3 Never had a boyfriend [or girlfriend for that matter] before, mainly because... I just didn't want one enough to go out and seek one.)

So I've been best friends with this guy for at least five years. However, ever since we've met, he's had a huge crush on me--I'm not sure if it's been on/off or continuous, though he has had a couple of short-term relationships while I've known him. I kind of had a crush on him once or twice, but I never asked him out because, at the time I did like him, I was unsure of whether he liked me or not.

Anyway, now we're both 17, and he likes me, though I've kind of grown asexual and I don't particularly care for anyone in that sort of way. So today, he asks me if I want to go see a play at his church; I don't go to that church (I'm not even his same religion), but I'm good friends with some of the other people in his youth group so I said sure. The night passes on, and as he's driving me home, he asks me to be his girlfriend. I kind of sputter for a second, but finally I just say sure.

Now I don't know what to do. I love him as a friend, and a part of me says that I might as well go out with him--that I even owe it to him (we have a kind of "he buys me food every once in a while and I don't release my undead feline minions upon him" relationship). However, I really don't want to hurt him by just breaking up with him in the end. I'm a senior in a public high school and (hopefully) I'll be going to an art college after I graduate (if not out-of-state, definitely out-of-town). He's homeschooled and doesn't have much of a desire to go to any college, so I'll be leaving this town in a few months anyway, but...

The truth is, I have no idea if I like him or not. It's not a definite "yes or no" question--on the one hand, he's the first guy in my life who's ever asked me out without being a complete sleezeball; but on the other, I don't know if I like him for anything more than a friend.

So what I'm trying to ask is this: is there anyway I can find out if I really like him or not, preferably before I hurt him? And if I don't like him, how can I tell him without using the whole "I like you as a friend, but not as a boyfriend" routine? (Most guys I know absolutely hate that, and I can understand why.) Help, please?

(Once again, sorry for the "tl;dr"-ness of this question. Kind of utterly baffled here.)

i think you said yes because you were overwhelmed that you were gonna be in a relationship. realizing that you were gonna have a boyfriend, one to kiss & love. but it turns out that hes just not the type for you. and i understand that you dont want to hurt him but you have to end it before it becomes serious to him then it`ll only break his heart more. just think of the positive things. like you could be leaving the area, new school, new boys. you cant always be down and worrying about these kind of things. you have your whole life ahead of you. therefore, have a talk with him either face to face, over the phone or in a note. theres so many possibilities. whatever one your more comfortable with. tell him exactly what you feel and what happened. something like you were overwhelmed with the whole boyfriend thing and that you werent really thinking and you might be leaving. explain to him that it wont work out and you BOTH have a whole life ahead of it. a whole life to find that special person. i mean you too can always keep in touch and help eachother out. a relationship just as friends sounds good.



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ok so my problem is that i dont know where to find a boyfriend. its not that i want one that bad its just that i hate all the guys at my school. the facts are im 15, ive had 2 boyfriends so far, and id like hooked up with a guy once when i was in europe. Now that i started highschool, i guess i had expected the guys to be cuter, and a bit more mature. well my question is where could i find cute guys to go out with, other than at school or the boring movies or the internet!? guys that arent sleezy and are boyfirend material.

i am just like you! when i read your question is amazes me that those are the same thoughts i was thinking. i was only in one serious relationship and the rest would last only a week. and i kept asking myself when am i gonna find a cute boy to treat me right and actually be my type. the thing is that i didnt look. i just focused on my best friends, i hung out with them every time i could. then eventually, although it did take time, one came to me and actually was my type ( surpringsly. ) i guess there is no place to actually say. they all could just be hiding and shy but eventually they`ll come out of their shell. its true what they say the longer you wait, the better they come. keep your head uhp & eventually im sure you`ll find one. best of luck!



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