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what happened?
Theres this guy, Jake. I've known him for two years, but until this year we didn't really talk. Last year, he would say hi to me and all, which was nice because I was new, and we weren't really friends. This year, we started talking more because we had classes. We're kind of friends, I guess. But I developed a huge crush on him. And now he seems a little more distant. Like, he'll talk to me, and say something really sweet, and he seems like he's genuinely interested. But then I respond and he seems like he suddenly loses interest. Why!?
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I could think of two things. He might be scared that you dont like him and when he says something sweet to you, he might think you only answer back to be nice. so in otherwords he stops the converstaion just so he wont say something stupid or saying something to make you feel uncomfortable. on the other hand, he may just want to be friends and nothing more. im torn in between the two because i dont really know him. i would say your best bet is to really tell him how you feel and if he feels the same way then im happy for the both of you. but if it doesnt work out, then being just friends is for the best. be the bigger person and stop the curiousity and find out for sure. best of luck!
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Perhaps he is just a sweet guy all around and just in his mind being friendly with you. He may not be in to you as more than a friend but that doesn't stop him from being a giant sweethear to you.
I think he's just not into you as anything more than a friend and isn't sure how not to hurt you. His disinterested response is likely what he hopes works to show you he's not interested in being with you as your partner.
The other problem that might be happening here is that he is a very shy type of person and inexperienced with girls. He might not know exactly what he wants either and whether he likes you more than a friend or not. These two scenarios that I just outlined are the two areas that are most likely the issue.
What you have to do is talk to him. Honesty is the only way of finding out the truth here. Tell him exactly how you feel and were hoping to start a relationship with him if he were interested.
Mention that regardless of what he tells you that the frienship will not fall apart. You need answers about this and well, he's the only one who has them. You have to ask him yourself so you'll know if you need to move on so you don't get hurt emotionally but can still be friends.
If you want something badly you have to go after it and this case go after him for the truth. Worst case scenario here is that he says he isn't interested. That happens and at least you know.
In that case you can look at it like this: There will be tons of guys in and out of your life while you're young and the right one will find you when you aren't necessarily looking for him.
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well it depends. does he know how you feel? if he does and hes doing this, he might be nervous about starting a relationship or maybe he doesnt want one at the moment. he might be trying to keep you liking him by saying sweet things to you but maybe he doesnt want to get to far into things. i would say something to him about it. If he doesnt know how you feel, maybe he is hesitant because he doesnt know if you like him back. boys are so confusing and im sorry i cant answer you too well because im not a guy lol.
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