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Shallow?
14/f
So there's this guy "tyler" who likes me. I mean REALLY likes me. Now tyler is not the best-looking guy in the world, but he's amazigly nice. He has asked me out a few times, but I've always said no. There are just some things I cannot stand about him, like that he is really into drugs, he's practiclly an alcoholic, and again he's not the best-looking guy in the world. Since we live really far away, we usually talk online, and we've become really good friends this way. When I see him in person, though, I keep thinking about his faults and I can never see myself with him, though I can when we talk online. Because of this, I've come to think that I'm being very shallow about this whole situation...but then I think would I really be happy with him and say I would not so therefore I am not being shallow. It's been bothering me for like forever, so please, what should I do about this whole thing, and am I shallow?
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iight chicka you need to tell ya homeboy "tyler" whatz good because if you dont have feelings for him he might get tha wrong intentsions. He might think that you guys are just talking (getting to know eachother better) when you just wanna be friends. Set homeboy straight and tell him that you are really feelin' this whole drugs and alcohol thing, and let him know most girls arent really into that, so if he ever wants a girl he might wanna think about tha next time he wants to get blasted or drunk. But tell him you ont feel for him tha way he feels for you and you really just wanna be friends.
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i dont think your being shallow at all. i think its far from it actually. your a very smart girl. any boy involved with drugs and is an alchoholic at a young age can only mean trouble. im not here to judge anyone because i could be wrong but most of the time it only leads into dangerous situations. its typical to look at looks, i mean hey looks grab your attention right ? im a very picky person when it comes to dating, its not a bad thing it just means you know what you want and you wont settle for less. i think you should just tell him that two are better off as friends because hes not your type and you dont want something that will only lead to a heartbreak. just always remember your heart is what matters and if you dont want it then dont push yourself. i really hope i helped. good luck!
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No, it isn't shallow to not want to be with a guy who is into drugs and alcohol. Why would you want to put yourself into a potentially dangerous situation by going out with him? That's called looking out for your best interests.
I highly doubt you would be happy with him. You already have problems with his ideas of personal entertainment, and that will only escalate if you were an item.
Also, don't ask him to quit drugs and alcohol for you, and don't believe him if he says he is going to quit for you. It doesn't work that way. You will only end up angry and hurt when you find out he still does these things behind your back. He has to want to quit these behaviors for himself.
If I were you, I would keep him as a friend if you enjoy talking to him an such, but I would strongly advise you find some one else more suited to you for a relationship.
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You are absolutely not shallow. Shallow is when you don't like someone because of their height, weight, hair color, etc. It's just good judgement to not want to date someone who has severe alcohol and drug problems. If you and Tyler are really good friends, you should try and help him quit the awful habits he's gotten himself into before you even think about dating him. If you date him while he is still involved in alcohol and drugs, you might get sucked into those things too, and that would make your situation even worse.
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no your not being shallow. if he's into something your not, especially drugs&alcohol, he's no good for you. the looks thing is a tad shallow but everyone does that. you could try&help him out by encouraging him to get off of the drugs and stop drinking.
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You're not being shallow. Maybe the whole looks thing is, but remind yourself that he's into drugs and alcohol, and it wouldn't be good for you to accept.
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