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My name is alix. I'm fourteen &i live just moved to massachusets. i love all of my closer friends; theyre my life. i like cats, and my favorite food is soanish rice. i like going to the movies with all my friends; we do it every friday. it's a routine. i love giving advice about guys, but what i really love are questions from guys about girls. im really opinionated, but im usually not very harsh when i answer things. advice
on my bottom eyelid near the tear duct it looks like i have a small hole. my eye has been itching all day and leaking fluids as if i was having an allergic reaction.
i'm not asking for doctoral advice- just wondering if anyone has had similar problems or might know what this hole is?
thanks
I have that hole too. I don't know what it is, but I doubt it's a big deal or anything. It's been there forever.
hi! so this boy im talking to lately...
i like him a lot. i dont love him but i do like him.
and hes really great at giving compliments. and he always tells me he loves me.
but i cant say that back because i dont love him i just like him. and he knows that.
but what do i say back to compliments?
ive just been saying the same thing back just kinda different.
any advice is great.
thanks so much!
Don't necessarily try to compliment back every time. If he says, "I like your shirt," you can just say, "Thanks." If you really do like his shirt enough that you would compliment it anyway, you can say, "Thanks, I like yours too." You could also say, "Thanks. I like your shoes a lot, too." But unless there's something about him and on similar subject (clothes, physical features, etc.), just accept the compliment. You can give him a compliment on something else later. Try to compliment him about just as much, just not necessarily at the same time. Don't wait for him to compliment you. And really be honest. If he played really well in his baseball game yesterday, compliment his talent when you see him the next day.
15/f
been with my boyfriend for 2 years,
he was my best friend before boyfriend.
i'm starting to argue with him alot more, but about stupid things. when we broke up once, i felt horrible and incomplete. how do you know the difference between loving a boyfriend and a boy bestfriend?
Pretty much, it just comes down to sexual feelings. Either way, you should feel like you want to spend time with him, be there for him, and all that. But think how much you want, sexually. If you want anything significant, then he should be a boyfriend. And if it's really love, this might help and it might not: think about your future. Who do you want him to be: husband or friend? Would you want to raise your kids with him and all that?
16/f and I'm really like one of my best guy friends. The only problem is that he's in love with another girl. I can't just let my feelings go. I'm happy for him that he found somebody that he loves but I get all confused around him. What do I do?
It's probably not a good idea to go tell him how you feel just right now. You'll probably get a bad reaction. Instead, go somewhere alone with him, where you'll have privacy, so you can talk. Just chill for a while and then be like, "So, you like Hannah?" And just try to get him to talk about her. The things he likes, what he doesn't like, why he likes her. Because the thing is, he might not really like her. I don't know his relationship with her. But,
-If they're dating: He could have liked her before but the feelings are fading. He could act like he loves her because that's just what he thinks he should be doing. Maybe he just doesn't want to break up with her because she's a good girl, maybe he really wants to feel like he used to but the chemistry is just gone, maybe he's still going out with her because he likes having a girlfriend, or maybe he just thinks that he's lucky to have her, even if he doesn't like her. But just get him to open up.
-If they're friends: Maybe he really wants a girlfriend, and he thinks she'd be a perfect one. Maybe a lot of other guys like her, so he wants her because he wants to impress them, or he figures they must be right.
-If he barely knows her: She could just be really pretty, or have a reputation as perfect. He sees other guys swooning over her, or he just sees the part of her she shows everyone. He likes to look at her, and he thinks some things she does are cute, so he thinks that he loves her. He obsesses over her, almost. But he doesn't know her, and really pretty much can't love her.
So get him to open up. Gently ask some questions. But don't pry. Don't try to convince him that he doesn't like her, and don't try to tell him that he's wrong. When he starts talking, really opening up and talking, you'll probably get a sense of how he really feels. If you think he doesn't really like her, try to lead him to come to that conclusion on his own. But don't say anything outright. He needs to come to that conclusion by himself. If you try to convince him, he'll just get defensive and angry.
If you think he really does love her, then accept it. You don't necessarily have to move on, depending on your feelings. Do you love him? Because if you do, then you have to do what you think is best. Maybe tell him, and say, "Just putting that out there. You don't have to say anything," so that he doesn't feel pressure to respond. Accept if he doesn't love you. Or, you could just not tell him, and let him be. Be happy for him. It might hurt a little, but if it's love, then you just want whats best for him. Oh, and don't tell him you love him and then try to break up his relationships or get him to not like other girls. He'll get mad, and probably act like he likes the other girls more than he likes you (even if he doesn't).
Umm im an ex-cutter and im usings the rubber band thing but i think im gettin addicted to it.
Im after any advice or input on this matter.
thanks in advance.
P.S dont tell me to see a counsellour or sumthing.
P.P.S dont tell me thats its not a good thing to not want to see a counsellor.
I am too.
And I used the rubberband, and it really did help.
Here's the thing. It's still really bad for you, but it is so much better than cutting. When you cut, you could die or need serious medical treatment. Nothing too bad like that can really come from snapping the rubberband. So try really hard to stop using the rubberband, but make sure you always have one with you. Because if you don't and you feel like you really need to hurt yourself, chances are you'll go back and cut again, or do something like that.
See if you can go ten hours (or something) without snapping it one day. Try to raise it just a little higher the next day. See how that goes.
Hi, I saw this lipgloss in the January Seventeen magazine, on the one contest page called 'kissing freebies' anyways, I really want some of those their giving away. Like I want to go and buy them, does anyone know where ANY of these are..
-Too Faced
-Benefit
-Red Earth
-Physicians Formula
-N.Y.C New York Color
-Dior
-Ballmania
-Philosophy
-Prestige
If you know where i can find any of those brands of lipgloss PLEASE tell me. even if its one.
Too Faced, Benefit, and Dior are all at Sephora. If you dont have a sephora then go onto their website
Physicians Formula and NYC are both at drug stores, and maybe like a stop and shop
ok i masturbate like once every 2 days and i was wondering..can i pick up sperm from like anywhere and have it be on my hand and get pregnant. does sperm just like float around on surfaces? i know i'm probably stupid but help!!
Even if you dipped your hand in sperm and masturbated an hour later, you probably wouldn't get pregnant. See, most sperm can't survive in a dry area. That's part of the reason why it's so much less unlikely to get pregnant if a guy ejaculates, say, on your leg. Semen dries up pretty quickly. For you to get pregnant that way, you'd have to dip your fingers in a just-ejaculated pool of semen and masturbate immediately.
And sperm doesn't float around on surfaces anyway. Guys don't go around masturbating on tables, do they?
I'm 16/f- Sorry if this is long. One of the girls I met this year is throwing her sweet 16 party soon.At first I wasn't even on her invite list. We aren't that close, it's more like we're acquaintances. But I'm pretty close friends with a guy who the birthday girl would LOVE to go out with, and when he got his invitation to the party I was right next to him. He asked if I was going and of course I said "No, I'm not exactly invited." At this he said "Well I'd go if you went too." All of the sudden I'm invited, VIP, the works. I'm not stupid and I know I'm being used, but should I go anyway?
Thanks,
"Invited"mybutt!
Go if (a)you will talk to the boy, and (b) you want to. But you should probably tell her that you the VIP isnt necessary, or at least be like, you really don't have to do all this, you can just ask me to talk to Sam for you. But when you do this make sure you don't do it infront of other people, or shell get mad at you. Just talk to her and tell her that youre pretty sure shes jsut doing this to get closer to your friend and tell her that she can hang out with the two of you or something. Also, find out how he feels about her before you do anything. Just so you know.
ok i saw sooo many people asking what to do for weight gain. well so many said CALTINE BARS are good but no one said where to get them. where is the exact location of getting them.?
and if its an web address then tell me it.
I'm almost positive caltine bars aren't real. They were made up for Mean Girls. But there are other weight supplements like them. Look here http://search.bodybuilding.com/search?q=weight+gain+&site=wwwbodybuilding&output=xml_no_dtd&client=wwwbodybuilding&proxystylesheet=wwwbodybuilding&getfields=description&filter=0&restrict=store
honestly what does it take to get into an ivy league school, and what are the chances of getting in? anyone who is attending an ivy league college - what exactly did you do to get in? what AP classes did you take and when did you start taking them? how high were your grades and SAT scores? what extracurriculars and community service did you take part in? what was your class rank?
any help will be appreciated greatly, thank you in advance!
Try to "market" yourself as a certain type of person. They don't want peole who are in a million unrelated clubs and extracurriculars. They want students who know what they want to do. If you're into science, join a science club and find an extracurricular that is sciency. If you like english, submit writing to a literary magazine, take english extracurriculars, and do whatever else you can.
Be involved in clubs and activities out of school. They want someone who will be involved in the community. Do volunteer work as well- lots of it.
Practice, practice, practice for the SATs. If it's not too late, start practicing at least a year before you take them. Not like, every day devoting an hour. But get familiar with how it looks and start learning some tricks.
YOu also have to consider who is around you. The schools try to fill quotas. Theyll take a set number of peopole from a certain place. So if you're from, say, new york city, you'll have a much, much harder time getting in than someone from a small town in the midwest.
And take all the honors and APs you can. Schools look for people who challenge themselves, and they want to see that you're in advanced classes. Take APs the first year you can.
Be a leader. Become president of a club, or start your own. Try for team captain. Just get some sort of leadership position.
And don't start doing all these things the year before you apply. THe admissions staff isnt stupid; they know that people do this jtsu to get in.
15f
I have not had my first kiss yet and I'm already a sophomore
it sunlcks alottt
but what are some tecniques you use for kissing I have no idea how to kiss someone
how can I practice?
what do I do???
This is a good way to practice:
Make a loose fist, like if you were going to draw a face on it. The thumb is the lower lip and the part where your index finger comes out is the top lip.
Also, not to sound wierd but next time you watch a show or movie(alone) where two characters make out(in a romantic way, like in the notebook) pay attention to what they do.
And what's very important that often gets overlooked is body language. You'll obviously touch your guy in places other than the mouth. If your holding hands, you can play with his hands as you kiss. f youre kind of embracing eachoter, feel his back or his hair(like at the nape of his neck, not on top of his head hahaha). Just pay attention to what your bodys doing too.
im 15 and well my penis is not that big im really worried will it grow? do girls care?
1. Girls really don't care too much. Women in their mid-twenties might notice more, but high school girls, for the most part, don't care. We barely even notice. It's not important to us right now.
2. It probably will grow. You're only fifteen. You still have time.
and 3. A lot of guys think they're smaller than they are. The average penis, when erect, is about 5.4 inches. But average (obviously) means that, while some guys were longer, lots were shorter. So really, don't worry.
I am 16/f and my boyfriedn and I are planning to get married when I am 18, My bf is 21, but my mother said she wont except this marriage as i am too young and have to finish my education first. I dont want to hurt my mother as she is very upset. But i am absolutely in love with my bf and so is he. We are totally sure about this marriage. What should I do?
Just because you're in love doesn't mean you have to get married. Stay together while you're in school, get a place together and all that. But you don't have to get married right away. If your relationship is solid, then you should still be sure when you're out of school.
15(F)
I'll be 16 in a few weeks.(Feburary 7th)
My boy friend is 17 (a year and a half older)
First off I just want to thank all of you in advance for reading. I really appreatiate you taking the time! But please refrian from bias opinons. Please don't judge my choices or tell me I'm wrong. I'm just looking for honest advice (experiance recomended)
ok well let me start by saying my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months. I am totally in love with him and this will sound stupid, but I really feel that he will be the man I marry. He's my best friend, but also one of hte only people I trust. (Here's where you won't judge me! =0])
We're not sexually active as of right now. We do alot of foreply but no sex.
The other night, we were in my basement and we just really started going at eachother. We were both totally turned on. So after a little foreplay, I asked him if he wanted to try to have sex. He always keeps a condom on him...just in case anything ever happens. He said "Yea, but only if you're sure you're ready. I am a virgin, so is he.
One of the reasons I'm in love with him is because the way he looks out for me. He always makes sure I'm comfortable with what we're doing, and that he's careful.
I said I wanted to, so he put the condom on. I was really scared/nervous since I'm no on birth control. He said that he wouldn't cum in me, but he would still use the condom. He also wants me to be on birth control.
The second after, my mom yelled down to tell me something and I felt a little releavied. I just was so scared about getting prenant, I forgot how much I wanted to share this moment with him. I kept asking him what he was thinknig but he seemed to maintain composure. Is his age at all a difference as to why he was so calm?
This has happened a few times in the past week where we have ALMOST had sex. About 3. This was the closest.
So the mood was gone and we stoped. I felt bad because I know we're both ready and he really loves me. A few days after I told him that i felt relieved, and he told me I probably wans't ready. He doesn't mind waiting. He said he'd wait forever.
Sorry for the lenght!
but here are my main questions!
Will he change after sex...will our realationship be any different?
Are there any ways I can approach the birth control situation with my mom?
Will I get pregnant if I'm on birth control, he uses a condom, and he pulls out?
PLEASE HELP!
Sorry for the length
Please don't judge!
Thanks in advance.
I will rate you!
He might change after sex, lots of guys do. He sounds like the kind of guy who won't, because he's waited six months and he looks out for you. But still, you might want to hold off for a little longer. Guys who are in it for the sex typically won't stick around for more than nine months if they're not getting any. Consider waiting longer. You seem pretty worried, anyway. I don't know, but maybe you're not completely ready. You can be ready to have sex but still not ready to deal with the possibility of pregnancy.
When you approach your mom, you should start out by saying, "Mom, I'm not having sex, but..." Then you can go on to say that you're in love with your boyfriend who you've been with for a while. Tell her that you want to get on the pill "in case something happens" or "because, eventually I'll be ready." Let her know that you aren't having sex yet, but you are 16 and eventually you will want to.
If you're on birth control and he uses a condom, the chances of you getting pregnant are tiny. It's not going to happen. Pulling out actually could make it a little more likely, because the condom could come off once he's outside of you, and he still won't have come. Birth control plus a condom is really all you need.
is masturbation different from fingering someone?
or they both the same?
For girls, masturbating and fingering are the same thing. They both mean touching the vagina sexually.
Masturbating implies doing it to yourself, but you can say that someone masturbated someone else. Fingering usually implies someone else doing it to you, but you can say that you fingered yourself.
(Boys can't finger themselves. There are a lot of different terms for people sexually touching their penises)
Theres this boy... he lives like 10,000 miles away from me. So i only see him during winter break. Actually, i just met him last year. But im going to see him again this year.
Hes the cutest boy ive ever met! And hes really nice. Im kinda good friends with his sister. We hang out during break and text somtimes but thats pretty much it.
One night during break we spent the whole time cuddling kinda. And ive never done that with any1 before and it was so sweet!
Hes in high school, and i start next year. We would never see eachother exept on break and maybe during the summertime.
Anyway, my question is... is the difference too much to flirt with him again this year? I was in 7th last year, and he was in 10th but i didnt notice what a hugee difference that was until now. And since im so much younger, any chance he likes me?
Im not talking about dating or anything. But just flirting.
Am i gonna look like a little kid flirting with him?
idk what goes on in an 11th grade boys mind! Please help
He probably doesn't like you, but there's always a chance. Just think about the age difference. You might have liked older guys, but how many significantly younger guys have you liked?
Unless he doesn't flirt at all, you won't look like a kid. Last year, the age difference was pretty big too, but he still flirted. If he doesn't flirt back, then you might look immature. But chances are, he will. So don't stop.
If he liked cuddling with you, then he's probably not the kind of guy who would pressure you into anything, or even want it as much as a lot of other guys. Plus, an 11th grade guy might be having sex, but he's probably not going to expect it, or even want it, from a middle schooler. Most guys would feel really wierd doing anything really sexual with someone so much younger.
He might have changed, but you'd probably have noticed since he texts you. You can flirt again, but if it feels wierd or like he wants something you're not ready for, stop. Trust your gut.
ok so since the beggining of school i liked this boy and i asked him out and he said there was to much goin on right then and he didnt want a gf.afta that i decided to become closer with him and become friends.well we have and i still like him alot!!!were always jokn with each otha and makn fun of each otha.every time i see him i bump into him on purpose and start sayn o im sorry i didnt see you there knowing that i did.hed start lauging and like try to push me back.he takes drivers ed on sat and i come evry sat with my dad cuz hes the prinicipal.well durn there lunch break i started talkn to him and we were jokn on each otha then we startn havn a sort of deep convo.well i ask people before to ask him if he likes me and they say he says no but i keep havn this feeln that he does by the way he kinda flirts with me and looks at me.but then maybe hes just a nice gut who does that to everybod and im no special person.its just so hard to read him beacuse i feel like hes flirting and he might like me but the few peeps i asked says he doesnt.im jus so confused and i really dont want to ask him myself cuz i already asked him at the beggining of the year and that was hard.and now that were freinds it would be evn more hard and i dont wanna jepurdise our freindship.i just like him so much and i wanna know if there is somthn there or if hes just a naturally flirtatious guy!
1. Don't ask him out again. You already asked him, and he knows how you feel. If he wants to go out with you, then its his turn to make a move.
2. He seems like he might like you. Take note of how he acts around other girls. If he acts the same, then hes probably just naturally flirtatious. But if he doesn't, then there's a good chance he likes you. Plus, you mentioned the way he looks at you. Flirty guys don't usually look at other girls he's just flirting with in a romantic way, even the really smooth talkers.
3. Keep flirting with him. Don't overdo it or anything, that would be bad. But if you stop, and he decides that he wants to go for you, he'll feel like you don't like him anymore. Plus, your relationship as friends is kind of flirtatious. Do you think it might get a little boring if you stopped flirting?
Don't listen to what other people say unless you have a very good reason to. People always think that they know exactly how everyone else feels, but they rarely do. So what other people are saying very well might be wrong.
are revlon berry lip stain and sugar lip worth the money? its like 14 bucks for one small container (sugar) and the lip stain is pretty expensive too but they do look good.
Just Bitten is definitely worth the money.
It's ten dollars, which for a drugstore brand is kinda a lot, but compare it to anything you'd buy at a make up store like sephora. Its on the cheap side, and its of a really good quality. plus, it will last a long time.
what the heck should i wear with these pants?
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10251_10201_357600_-1_12744_12635
(they're pictured as capri's, but you can unroll the bottom so they're pants, like i will be wearing them.)
i was thinking of a maroon and white horizontally striped shirt that has tiny silver lines inbetween. i just need help with colors, etc.
You could wear pretty much anything, styles-wise. For colors, I'd say about anything that's light colored. A white tank top(not a wife beater, but a pretty tank top) would look cute, and so would any top that's kind of off white or creme colored. Those pants would probably work well with pale blue, like sky blue, too, or a baby pink. Another thing that would work is a shirt with white and brown on it(like a tank top with brown and white stripes, or a white one with with a brown design), as long as there was equal or more white.
Also, pants like those look really cute with extra girly shirts. Lacy, frilly, babydoll(extra cute), whatever.
American eagle is having a huge sale right now, and most of the girly tops on this page http://www.ae.com/web/browse/category_no_fashion.jsp?catId=cat790025 (especially in the first row) and the tanks on this page http://www.ae.com/web/browse/category_no_fashion.jsp?catId=cat90102 (except the plaid one, plaid wouldnt work. but that shape, you get the idea.) would look really cute with those pants.
Heyy!! Me and my friend are going to this math thing...its for gifted kids and they take it really serously but us and our teacher are just going to have fun. anyway, we wer thinking about dressing up as kinda-dorks but we dont want to look ugly! Any idea how we can be smart-looking and still cute??
Thanx so much!
Xo,
haha if you did the thing the girl below me said they would think you were making fun of them.
Here are my ideas for a cute outfit:
(Take or leave anything I say)
A polo with a v-neck (or round neck) sweater over it(colors that look good! i suggest a pale blue sweater with any color you like, or a brown sweater with a blue or pink top underneath. but if you dont have either, no worries a ton of combinations work), a pleated skirt/a plaid skirt/a pleated and plaid skirt!
a cute button down shirt(like the kind they have at abercrombie or hollister) with a tank top underneath and jeans
a really cute sweater with jeans and plaid cute shoes