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i know this is random...but does anyone know a store in the northern new jersey area that sells neutral grey/white air force ones? or any air force ones? (link)
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I don't know if you did this yet but if you google
and a store or something comes up like..ex: footlocker, sometimes those sites for stores have like a store locator and you just type in you area code and it'll show you where you can find that store (not necessarily footlocker lol)
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how my i hide my top friends on myspace?
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http://www.hot-lyts.com/hidingyourfriendsonly.php
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The only thing i wear for make-up is mascara. I dont know why i just never really use anything else. What could be some make-up i could use that would look good?
my cloumn is: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=fabulous11
if you want to see a picture
thankss :) (link)
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hey
you're really pretty :]
maybe try some color, like blush & a little lipgloss / chapstick.
that's all you really need. it's not a bad thing to not wear too much make-up! it's actually a good thing.
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alright long story short. i met a guy who lives like 5 hrs away. i really fell for him.. he was my definition of the perfect guy. well he left for home a while ago came back n never called n was somewhat a jerk behind my back about me. i miss him a lot. i miss the guy i feel for the first time i met him.. now i wanna talk to him but he's short with me n seems like he doesnt wanna talk.. how can i make him miss me.. or realize that he's missing out. i dont want him back though.. i guess in the end how can i get over him? (link)
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Long distance relationships aren't easy. You are better off finding someone else! He apparently isn't a perfect guy if he really doesn't want to talk to you. You can't make someone like you, or miss you. It's all in his own feelings, maybe he has a girlfriend and he just didn't tell you. Go searching for a boyfriend, that is the best way to get over a guy is to find a new one. If you find a guy that you really like this long distance guy will never really cross your mind anymore.
Good Luck
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I have a non-pedigree black and white cat (not that that helps in any way) and he's 8 years old. He's REALLY fat. Extremely. And I'm afraid he's suffering from obesity (if there is such a thing in cats) he's HUGE. And I can't do anything about it. He's castrated and all he ever does is eat. I've tried to make him more active, give him less food and regulate his diet. I even bought a new kitten to play with! He still eats a lot :( Now, over the past week...he's been coughing and choking. I don't know what it is he's choking on. Whenever he coughs...he coughs up some kind of white....spit...I don't know. It's like a bit of a foam thing..Is this something really bad? Are there any people with more cat experience out there? :S please ;_; I know the obvious thing to do is visit a pet..but see..I'm only 15! And my parents don't really have the financial strength to do this. Please..
Also..is there some kind of way in which to make a VERY lazy cat ...excercise more? he doesn't play with toys. (link)
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i say you take him to the vet ASAP. also, how is he eating more if you dont give him as much food? and try some new toys??
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16/f..okay this may sound weird..but after I masturbated at night last night...I had a dream about the guy I like. Is that normal? Does it have any connection??
I'm really sorry for asking this stupid question.. (link)
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hey
well, if you didn't force the dream upon yourself [like before you fell asleep, you imagined a situation you were in with a guy] then it must mean something.
dreams are what your mind does as it rewinds. dreams are very important for conquering our fears & concerns from our waking life. are you in a strange situation with your crush? is something in the way of the both of you? if so, that is what the dream was trying to show.
what happened in the dream? how did you feel? did you feel happy? sad? remorseful? whatever it was, your mind is trying to tell you something.
never ignore your dreams. they always mean something. what colors did you see in your dream? was there anybody with you? what connection did you have with those people? for example, if you were making out with your crush & your worst enemy walks in on you, it symbolizes a conflict. something is getting in the way of doing something you love.
check out this site: it might really help you.
www.dreammoods.com
write out your dream with as many details as you can. from the setting, to the colors, to the people, to the feelings. then, in the search box, type in each adjective / word & see if they have a connection. that way, maybe if you figure out what is behind your dreams, you can look forward to being with your crush.
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i just switched to tampons, because i don't like pads at all. so i'm kind of confused about them. today my flow is regular, and at 11:30 this morning i put in a Playtex plastic regular flow tampon. so until what time should i keep it in for? i'm scared about TSS because i don't want to keep it in too long. thanks! (link)
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hey
look, if you have a really really light period & put a regular in, and you go to take it out 3 hours later, you can't! it's stuck.. you have to keep it in longer. it doesn't matter ONLY how many hours you keep it in, but what your FLOW is.
so, i would say change it every 3-4 hours. if you tug at the tampon and it just won't come out, leave it in for another 30 mins. TSS is very, very rare. if you're careful, you won't get it.
sometimes it makes me laugh cause there have been many times when i've just left my tampon in all night and forgot about it. but i'm more careful now. so if i haven't gotten TSS yet, you won't get it anytime soon.
when your period is heavy, use a heavy tampon & keep it in for 3 hours. same with light, 3 hours or less even.
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i was just wondering what you (a girl) would think or do if you found out i (a guy) was wearing a thong or what youre feelings would be? (link)
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Honestly I wouldn't care, whether it's a guys thong or a girls thong. If it's something you like to wear that's your business and it doesn't bother me. I wouldn't think of you any differently. I'm pretty open to anything out of the ordinary, but that's just me.
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You're probably getting sick of my asking you questions. I recently asked you one about a Mitsubishi Eclipse. I took your advice and looked for some Miatas. They were adorable, and I really liked them. They all seemed to be five speeds though. Needless to say, I can't drive them very well. I did find a nice Mercury Cougar. I was just wondering if this was a good car or not? Are there any negatives or positives to this car? (link)
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it depends on the year of the cougar. what year is it. newest ones were unreliable as all hell. but the older ones has a nice solid ford V8 under the hood and last forever.
and come on you can learn to handle a five speed! it's not that hard yo. hell i could teach you were you not on the internet haha
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how long does a high school freshman girls' team soccer season usually last? (link)
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at my school its about 2 1/2 months (not including pre season, which is a few weeks, before school starts.
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http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5614480
if you have it, can you rate it for me?
tell me if you like it, or if you dont have it, is it a good camera?
thankyou
xox (link)
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I don't have that EXACT camera, but i do have a Kodak. I love it, it was $100 and its really good.
So if it's a Kodak Camera i think it would work really good.
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16/f
i've known my best guy friend since we were 12 and recently he asked me to give him a blowjob. we aren't dating but i really really like him and we are both single. when i think about doing it i want to but i'm scared. i've never done it before and i dont know if i should spit or swallow (even though i think guys prefer swallowing) and i'm scared i'll gag or throw up. we also never get privacy at our houses... but we've never needed it like this before. he said we can do it in his car but i still dont know. what should i do?
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Don't give him a blow job just because you like him, it can ruin things between the both of you and you could get hurt in the end. Don't let him use you so he can get pleasure, it just isn't a good idea in my opinion. Plus you are scared and aren't sure whether you should do it. Unless you are 100% confidant that you want to do it, I suggest you don't.
I can necessarily say it actually WILL ruin things because I did that with my best friend..except he NEVER asked me to do anything, I just did things and he would do a lot to me. And he asked me out one day and we've been dating since. But he always respected what I didn't want to do and he still does.
So don't do ANYTHING unless you know he will treat you right and respect your wishes. You already like him a lot, how would you feel if you started giving him blow jobs and other sexual things and you start getting really attached and then out of the blue he gets a girlfriend? I don't mean to lecture honestly, I just don't like seeing girls get hurt by guys. =/
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My boyfriend is turning 22 and he is totally against drinking. I am 18 and going to college, while he doesnt go to college.... he works. I know he would be really mad if I was drinking in college but I kind of want to try it out for myself. I dont know how I feel about it. But I really dont want to lose him. What do I do? (link)
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hey
well, first of all, it's illegal to drink if you're under the age of 21. so, are you saying when you turn 21, you want to try starting to drink?
look, you should respect what he wants, but he shouldn't be FORCING you to not drink. you should have an open communication with him & let him know that you want to try drinking. make it clear you won't turn into an alcoholic & won't force him to drink with you.
if he breaks up with you for trying to try something new like a new experience, then he wasn't worth it. but, always remember to respect what he wants from you. if he really feels that it's not healthy to drink, then you should respect that.
don't sneak around & go drinking with your friends. have open communication with him.
also, let him know that drinking isn't unhealthy. drinking 3 glasses of wine a week is actually beneficial to your health. but, drinking daily is dangerous.
try it once & don't tell him. if you like it, limit yourself to three glasses a week but don't do it around him, but let him know you drink 3 glasses a week & no more. if he feels uncomfortable & really tells you to stop, you should respect that. if he on the otherhand is very demanding & yells at you, threatening to break up with you if you continue to drink, he doesn't have the right to do that.
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what are the signs of rebound? can you please list as you can? thanks
rebound as in relationship (link)
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hey
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/singles/onthepull/ontherebound
http://www.lifetimetv.com/reallife/relation/dating/askmp_rebound.html
http://www.datingfast.com/dating/DatingArticleMen.asp?ArtID=64
i would have copied & pasted specific tips, but the entire SITE is a list of tips. & i didn't want to get like, in trouble for copying & pasting straight from a website. :]
just check those out.
or google, "relationship rebound signs"
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Ok well me and my bf have been together for 4 yrs. now and like at times he treats me really bad.. he yells at me and throws things. but then at times he can be the nicest person ever.. i am just so confused, he puts me down all the time and stuff like that. but then like 20 mins later he is all nice and lovey dovey with me. and i really dont no what to do. he says he love me but i really wounder sometimes, ive tried talking to him about it but when i do he gets mad.. what do you thihnk i should do?? (link)
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hey
hon, if he's abusive in ANYWAY, no matter what he says [because actions are stronger than words], you have to tell someone. do you have any older siblings? tell them. if he emotionally or physically hurts you, he doesn't love you. he's lying. love is unconditional & he's obviously not displaying it.
also, not to sound rude, but is he bipolar? because if he is, he probably can't control his moods. but that STILL doesn't give him the right to abuse you.
have you ever really sat him down & told him, "baby, i know that we've been together a really long time, but it really hurts me sometimes the things you do" ? if you have a nice tone, he might open up & listen to you.
if you're close with ANYONE older than you, even a friend, you need to tell them because you have to end the relationship if he is abusive. if it's only sometimes, you still have to tell. the purpose of dating is to experience different people & become open to different types of people. to see how you get along with them, & perhaps marriage. when you see your boyfriend, you should feel happy. when you're with your boyfriend, you should feel happy. not ABUSED. not HURT.
look at this checklist:
- when you & your partner are together, he calls you names, puts you down in front of other people.
- your partner acts extremely jealous when you talk to other boys, even when it is completely innocent.
- you have to check in with your partner at certain times.
- he is always checking up on you, calling or paging you, and demanding to know where you have been & whom you have been with.
- you seem to worry about upsetting your partner or making him angry.
- you are giving up things that are important to you, such as spending time with friends or other activities & are becoming more isolated.
- your partner may threaten to hurt himself if you ever leave them. they say, "i'm nothing without you, you are my world."
- your partner has dramatic mood swings. he goes from being jealous, controlling, or angry to being sweet, charming & loving.
- your partner may get "too angry." he hits walls, yells loudly, calls you names, or actually threatens others with violence.
- your partner slaps, shoves or kicks you.
if you answered "yes" to at least 3 of the above statements, you may be at risk for an abusive relationship.
here are some tips on breaking up safely with him:
1.) take a risk assesment - what was the first incident of abuse? what was the worst incident of abuse? what might happen if i break up? do i need to change my daily schedule or routine so i won't run into this person? who are the people who can help me through this? what can i do to stay safe?
2.) break up in a public place - being in a public place, like school, in a restaurant, or at the mall may keep the abuser from hurting you. or, if an abusive incident should arise, others may intervene or simply serve as witnesses. finally, don't rely on the abuser to drive you home afterwards. make sure you have alternative transportation.
3.) don't have contact after the relationship has ended - this is really difficult. you will probably have mixed feelings about the break up. but, it is very important to end all contact to help you heal from the relationship & keep you safe. reach out to friends & family for support.
4.) inform an adult if you are concerned about your safety.
5.) take ALL threats seriously. - abusers often follow through on their threats. it is especially important to pay attention to threats of suicide or homicide (has the abuser threatened to kill you or himself?) tell a trusted adult- like a parent or a teacher immediately.
websites:
www.jbws.org
phone number:
1-877-RUABUSED
sorry this is so long.
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I'm 16/f, used to be bestfriends with a 16/m. We were extremely close, the best of friends, we no longer are. We've grown apart due to random fights, and idk why. But anyway, I cry all the time over him. It's like mourning a loss, but really it's just a friendship. Basically, I've tried since February (when we were no longer best friends) to maintain a good friendship with him, and it's real hard.
I've come to the conclusion that continuing being his friend is the wrong choice. He's the only person that makes me cry, I always feel like I'm never good enough for him, I'm tired of being hurt. Would you say cutting all contact with him, not seeing him, etc, would help me forget about him & allow me to no longer be his friend? (link)
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noo don't cut all contact with him! what if he one day does want to be friends? i would say if he says "hey what's up" don't ignore him. you may need him one day. but, like the person under me said, i would see where the relationship going, always being open to whatever happens because things can change.
also, was this REALLY random? i mean, did you do something to hurt him & you got in a fight because of THAT? in that case, i would send him an email [not on instant messenger - he can easily say "gotta go, bye" and leave you] asking why you guys aren't friends anymore. if he doesn't respond, i would just not try to make contact with him, but not IGNORE him either.
your goal isn't to forget about him & not be his friend anymore. your TRUE goal, if i'm not mistaken, is to figure out why you guys stopped being friends & if the relationship can be repaired. if he's mean to you now, then don't bother with him. but if he still says "hi" sometimes, it might build back up.
look into it. if you want something, you have to figure out WHAT exactly you want before you can go after it. have you decided you don't want to be his friend anymore & want to forget about him? [ then your goal is : forget about him ] do you want to figure out why he doesn't talk to you anymore? [ goal : figure out why he won't talk to me anymore ]. that's the first step. then, you can take steps to reach your goal.
take it slow. don't bombard him with emails. know how to display self control. one email. if he doesn't respond, fine. drop it. for all you know, he could be really upset about losing you too.
just be open to anything that happens. don't ever flat out tell someone that they're not your friend anymore because one day, you may just need them.
good luck, sweetie.
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for your layout, not layout thats myspacce but background..thing is it on the premade ones or do you have to have a paid account to get it? if it is under the premade ones what page?
thanks:D (link)
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hey
i don't have a paid account. no, it's not under premade ones.
okay, you see under "Welcome, _______!" ? it says like inbox, favorite categories, etc., go to "column settings" all i did was set my background color & sidebar background colors to white & the rest black leaving "page background (URL):" empty. then, i opened another window & went to tinypic & searched "polka dots", found one that i liked, and copied the "direct link for layouts" then i pasted it in (on advicenators window again) in the "sidebar background image (URL):"
if you need help making your column look good, just let me know :] also i could help you with specific questions if you give me your username.
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During sex, does it hurt for guys like it does for the girls (their first time) or does it feel good to them?? (link)
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No it doesn't at all, [I asked my boyfriend so I knew for sure] It feels good for them, but unfortunately for girls, it doesn't the first few times because we have to stretch our vagina out. But once you do it a few times it feels very good depending on your guy's size and performance. =)
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Okay me and my friend Haley just recently got into a big fight because she was trying to stick up for the guy she liked.And when she found out she was wrong and I was right she was all "Oh I'm so sorrryryryyryryryryryryry" and blah blah blah.But this isn't the first time she's done this.She does it all the time.I'm getting kind of sick of having to deal with this.
What should I do?
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Yeah, love makes you do crazy things. I would stick up for the guy I liked if I truly believe I was right. Not only that, but she apologize. Friendship isn't a huge serious deal like you're making it, ya know.
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i've been molested, as a child. it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me. nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me. everybody will hate me. he ruined me. i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works. i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year.
nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly. (link)
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Being molested is the hard to overcome, but it's possible. The past is the past. You can't change it at all. It's over with. The only thing is to go foward. Talking to someone is also difficult because it brings memory and emotion. However, there are a few things to overtcome this past and it will be hard. However, you might reconsider death. PLEASE TRY THIS AT LEAST ONCE
1. Talk to someone who you will listen. It's hard, but if you at least tell the story, you will feel a little different. First, talk to a pet. Any pet. It doesn't have to be yours. Look at it with your eyes and just talk. It might be silly, but pets are your true friend who will listen. Next, talk to someone who's close to you. Such as your mom or sibling. Close friends. Someone who will listen. Every detail. How you felt.
2. Write it down is the next step. Everything...every detail and every emotion. Explain how angry you are at the person who did it. Write how you felt within the years after it. Let all the anger and frustration out onto the paper. It can be pages long...just write everything down.
3. Forgetting the past is next. It's hard but remember this...the past is the past...they only way is go foward. With the piece of paper you wrote about, get a fire going and burn the paper. The paper holds the past and your burning it away.
4. Forgiving your self. Everyone thinks about after a horrible event, it's hard to forget about it and everyone blames themselves. It's a human thing. Tell yourself it's only the past and that's it. It happened and you can't change it. Stop getting frustrated and mad over the past. Move on and enjoy life while it's still there.
Life is a specail thing to every animal on this planet. If you decide you want to die...you will regret it in your past life. You have so many years ahead of you that you can experience!
5. List down things you want to do in the next 50 years. It can be a huge list to a small list. Just write numebrs and next to them, ideas you want to do. They can be anything like be happy...forget past...get married. Get a goal to follow. Your 16 and college is coming up. You will meet a lot of friends!!! You might fall in love. And during those moments, those memories will last a life time...not the bad ones. Life's like a roller coaster, there are happy moments and sad moments. However, people can manage that. It life was simple...where's the challenge? There won't be goals at all if life was simple.
I HOPE YOU DO THESE THINGS ABOVE TO FORGET THIS.
I'M TRULY SORRY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED
THIS NOTE CAME FROM MY HEART AND I HOPE YOU READ THIS AND DO IT
I HOPE IT HELPS YOU
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