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16/f
i've known my best guy friend since we were 12 and recently he asked me to give him a blowjob. we aren't dating but i really really like him and we are both single. when i think about doing it i want to but i'm scared. i've never done it before and i dont know if i should spit or swallow (even though i think guys prefer swallowing) and i'm scared i'll gag or throw up. we also never get privacy at our houses... but we've never needed it like this before. he said we can do it in his car but i still dont know. what should i do?
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Well you seem pretty unsure of yourself, and if your unsure that usually means that you're not really ready for that type of thing, its seems like you are being pressured by him. Don't give in to pressure cause if you do that just makes you vunerable (easy) for anything. Yall are best friends too, are yall ready to take this to the next level, make sure that it is stable if you decide to do it cause once a best friendship turns into with benefits it could change the way how you look at each other forever. Friendships last but when you turn it with something sexual, your friendship changes. Make sure he isn't using you just so he could get that from you. It kinda sounds like hes asking you out of desperation. But anyway, if you decide to do it, use a condom, even though it may suck but better to be safe than sorry and do it somewhere where yall have privacy like at the movies at night, lol sit all the way in the back or in the bathroom. lol. Wherever yall feel comfortable. :)
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If what you actually want from this guy is a relationship, and it sounds to me like that is what you really want, giving him a blow job is not a good idea.
If all you wanted was a bit of fun, a guy to practice on and experiment with, go for it! Have fun.
But if you want to be with him, DON'T DO IT! Fooling around with a guy is a really bad way to try and turn that guy into a boyfriend. It's starts things on the wrong foot entirely. Please Please Please Trust me on that! I am twenty-two and have done that, and keep seeing my girl friends do it. It doesn't work.
You don't want to find out in three months, after you have fallen hard for him, that he thinks you are good enough to give him head, but not good enough to date.
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Don't give him a blow job just because you like him, it can ruin things between the both of you and you could get hurt in the end. Don't let him use you so he can get pleasure, it just isn't a good idea in my opinion. Plus you are scared and aren't sure whether you should do it. Unless you are 100% confidant that you want to do it, I suggest you don't.
I can necessarily say it actually WILL ruin things because I did that with my best friend..except he NEVER asked me to do anything, I just did things and he would do a lot to me. And he asked me out one day and we've been dating since. But he always respected what I didn't want to do and he still does.
So don't do ANYTHING unless you know he will treat you right and respect your wishes. You already like him a lot, how would you feel if you started giving him blow jobs and other sexual things and you start getting really attached and then out of the blue he gets a girlfriend? I don't mean to lecture honestly, I just don't like seeing girls get hurt by guys. =/
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that stuff can ruin your relationship, no matter how hard you try to fix it.
i should know, me and a friend of mine who were very close started to explore sexaully--didn't end out how we both wanted
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