I have a long haired domestic black cat. I also have beige carpeting throuout my home. He leaves clipms of hair all over the house and not even vacuming seems to work in pickking it up. I am sick of spending hours on my hands and knees trying to get it off of the floor. Any suggestions?
Your cat shouldn't be shedding big clumps of hair. If your cat is shedding big clumps of hair, then it means that you are not grooming him properly.
Long haired cats need to be brushed at least daily in order to keep their hair tangle free and comfortable for them. This will also aid you by keeping the clumps off of your carpet.
If you are having a hard time starting out with brushing, then you should cut the clumps off of him, and then brush him daily to keep the clumps away.
If you have a long haired cat, and you do not keep his hair groomed properly, then he will get hairballs. That is not healthy for him.
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Hey i have a few things..
1. How can i tell my parents that i am old enough to get a mofo 2nd hole in my ear?
2. How do i tell them im old enough for a dog?
Thanx
♥ Michelle
The key to getting your parents to understand that your old enough, and responsible enough for another piercing is to teach yourself about that piercing.
Research how it would be done, whether with a gun (which I don't agree with) or a needle (which I believe is the best way). Research the amount of time it would take to heal, how you would take care of while it's healing, and what to do if it gets infected.
Most of all you need to research where you are going to get it done. Find a good, reliable, CLEAN, and very professional person to pierce it. Even if your going to just go to some store in the mall, you should still research that store. Ask people who have had piercings there in the past about their experiences.
This is a great website to read: http://www.mckinley.uiuc.edu/Handouts/tattoosbodypiercing.html
Go to google or any search engine and search for something like "piercing health" and find whatever you can find to teach yourself about piercings. You should find a website that is a ".edu" or ".net" or ".gov" or anything besides a .com website. They are more reliable sources, since a website ending in .com doesn't necessarily need to have credability to it.
Make sure they know that you aren't doing it to be like your friends, and your not doing it just to rebel against anything. Make sure they know that you will take care of it, and accept any responsability that comes with it.
As for the dog... well... You first of all need to realize just how much repsonsability a dog is. They need to have constant care, especially when they're younger. Since you are still under your parents care, probably going to high school, and most likely in your mid teens... you are not responsible, and do not have the resouces for a dog.
But, all is not lost. I think that everyone should own an animal, but you need to realize... realistically, that it will not just be you taking care of the dog. I am guessing that your parents will be buying the food, and taking care of the Veterinary bills, and paying for pretty much everything else.
Here's how to convince them whether or not you are responsible enough to help them out with this dog.
RESEARCH EVERYTHING...
First, research the kind of dog you want, and find a reputable breeder, or find a good rescue dog. DO NOT GO TO A PET STORE! Never ever buy from a pet store, they are evil. They do not properly care for the animals, and they over charge people big time. Any animal that you find at a pet store will not be healthy, will most likely be way over-bred, and will not have as healthy and long as a life as a dog that you could find a good breeder.
You can find a good breeder through a Veterinarian, or a Humane Society or an Animal Shelter.
That brings me to my second point. You need to research different Veterinarians before even finding the puppy that you want. If you find out what kind of dog you want, you can call around to different Veterinarians in the area and see who you think would be best qualified for that particular dog. Some Vets are geared more toward large breed dogs, some towards medium breeds, and some toward small breed dogs.
Make sure the Veterinarian that you choose is recognized by the AAHA (American Animal Hospital Association) and/or the AVMA (American Veterinary Medical Association). The AAHA is very important!
so, now you have the dog picked out, and the Veterinarian picked out... Next, comes the realization of the care that it will take to train your puppy. You should start to research different ways to house train dogs. Find out if there are puppy behavior classes in your area. Research different prices. It will be around $100 for a beginning class, and it will be well worth it.
You are going to need to spend time with the puppy constantly. Perhaps if you make up a schedule and put in plenty of time to spend with the puppy, then your parents will see just how responsible you are, and feel that you will be able to take care of a dog.
You will need to set aside dayly grooming time (brushing hair, teeth, etc) you will also need to set aside weekly grooming time (cleaning ears when necessary) and monthly grooming time (nail clippings, etc).
You also need to think of the money aspect. Research just how much money a dog will cost each month. Add up the cost of food, toys, and treats for each month. Then get the cost of Vet bills (vaccinations and neutering/spaying) and the cost of your doggy behavior classes and add that into a yearly cost. Now, after you see how much that will be, then decide whether or not your parents can afford it, and see if you will be able to set aside a certain amount of money each month to add go towards the cost of your dog. perhaps if you can make a deal with your parents (say at least $40 a month?) then they will again see just how much you want a dog.
I have worked at shelters where dogs come and go because people got them when they did not realize the responsability. I do not like to see that, and hate the irresposability of owners who throw away dogs when they become inconvienient.
But I also think that have a dog throughout my childhood was the best thing for me. It taught me responsability and love for another creature.
If you have read all of this, and you are still deciding that you can handle the responsability of a dog, then set forth on this little assingment of research that I've given you, and you might be responsible enough for a dog.
good luck
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I was looking at your advice, and I think you're really good at it. And since I have a question about animals, you seem like the perfect person to ask. I lost my dog, Cassie, February 4th. (she is a sheltie by the way) She was the best dog ever. She was so smart, she knew all these tricks. I taught her to give hugs. If you said hug, she'd come over and put her head on my shoulder. She was also very loyal. She was a good watchdog, and she always wanted to protect us. It's like, when I think of my friends' dogs, they're ok, but it's like, no dog is better than Cassie. I'm sure that's not true, but I've never met another dog like her. I just really really loved her, and I got so attached. My whole family did. Her death was so unexpected. The morning that she died, she threw up. No one thought anything was wrong, because she always threw up every now and then, because she's always had an uneasy stomach. We were just like, ok, and I went to school and my mom went to work. My dad and brother were home that day. She kept getting sick, so my dad kept her outside. She went out and fell asleep. When I got home, I went to the Florida room to talk to my dad. I had a really good day (which was unusual, I always have crappy days lol). We looked outside and she never moved, ever since she fell asleep. We noticed that she was very still, her chest wasn't moving up and down. When I found out she was dead, I was in hysterics and shock. She was only 7. I still can't believe she's gone. It kills me to think about it. There's no one to greet me when I get home now. I can't seem to get over it, and I really need help on what I can do to feel better. Also, one night, when I was in bed, I started crying and couldn't stop. Then, after a while, I looked at the ceiling and I saw things moving, if that makes any sense. Just shapes moving around. It really calmed me down somehow, and I felt like Cassie or my guardian angel was there to comfort me. What do you think it was? I'm just really lost and I want my dog back so bad, and I know I just can't. Can you help me at all? I'm sorry this was so long, thanks so much just for reading this. Sorry if I'm a pain.
♥ Erin
wow, I'm really sorry about that. Do you know what happened to her? You might not want to think about it, and that's cool if not, but it might help to talk about it.
Honestly, though, I can't imagine what your going through, but I know I would be in the same state if anything happened to my childhood dog. I have a dog named Sheba, she's a mutt--part Golden Retriever, part Samoyed Husky. I have had her since I was seven years old, which was almost 15 years ago. When she does finally go, it won't be as unexpected as with your dog, but I know I will still be hysterical. I have already had some scares in the past year. I have had to spend a few different weekends at my mother's house with her because I thought that she was going to be gone soon.
I also had a Rottweiler for the past 7 years, and I recently had to find a new home for him.
He went to a great home, and it's good to know that he's happy, but it's been very hard on me to not have my puppy around. On the morning when I had to drive him to his new home, I had to bring my mother with me for emotional support. As I was driving to my mother's house, I was crying hysterically, and did not think I would be able to go through with it.
The only thing that made it bearable was the support from my mother, and knowing that he would be able to run around and have more room to play in his knew home. I knew he would be happier.
Your dog may have been sick for a while without you knowing it. It's their instinct to hide any sort of illness, so she wouldn't have wanted to show that she was sick until she couldn't bear it anymore. I know you loved her, I know what it's like to love an animal, and to lose one is like losing a best friend.
It seems corny and cliche, but you just need to think about her being in a better place right now. I don't know what you believe about what happens when you die, but from what you have said, when you feel her around you, watching over you, she seems happy, right?
It's not easy to get over, and you don't have to. Take the time that you need to grieve. It might make you feel better if you find out what happened with her, if that is possible. It may be easier to put behind you that way.
It's good to cry, don't try to hold that in. Make sure you have a comfortable place where you can be to just cry.
As for what it was that you saw that night... I don't know what it was. I think that is something you need to decide for yourself. That can be whatever you want it to be, and whatever makes you feel better.
I do believe that dogs can share a strong emotional bond with a human. People can try to say that animals don't have emotions such as love, but I think that's bullshit. The things that I've seen, and the animals that I've known, prove otherwise.
I see no reason why your dog wouldn't be watching over you, and making sure your ok now. She protected you when she was physically there, why wouldn't she be protecting you still?
If you need to talk about anything, you can send me another question just to get things off your mind.
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I am 13 years old and a girl. I doubt this is in the right category but I was unsure where it fits, it's kind of to do with everything.
There's something wrong with me and my life. I thought it was my ex but we got back together and a day later he broke up with me for the third time, I realised he wasn't worth it. I thought that having him would make it all okay again but it didn't. I self harm on and off, my family has many issues and my schoolwork has started to suffer. I am always hurt, upset and angry with myself and I am constantly paranoid. I just cry all the time and I don't know what is wrong with me. I thought I might have depression but I did some research and I only had a few symptoms. I don't understand what's wrong. I have a group of friends but only one close friend. I've started relying on him for everything and I love him to death but I don't have sexual feelings for him. I'm so sick of life, I keep thinking about coming into school with my wrists bleeding and wondering what people would say. I talk about suicide constantly. I just see no point in life, I don't want to see any professionals about this. I just want to stop and be normal. I want to know what's wrong. Sorry if this was confusing.
At the end of my eigth grade year, me and my best friend started to make plans of killing ourselves. It was a very odd thing. We were not saddened by the fact that we were going to kill ourselves, we just didnt' see a point in living.
This particular friend was the person that I depended on for everything. We did everything together.
When I was at home, I would not talk to anyone, and didn't know what was wrong with me. I would cry often, and my mother would try to figure out what was wrong with me, but I would simply yell and tell her to leave me alone. I didn't know what was wrong with me. Everything always seemed to go wrong, I thought I was depressed, and I had no one to talk to, except of course for my friend.
I've had problems in my family forever. I have dealt with everything from taking care of my mother because she was too fucked up on drugs, taking care of her because of her nervous break down, watching her asshole husband beat her... watching my brother shake uncontrollably because of heroin withdrawel...
The only thing I am unfamiliar with is self harm. I had urges to do it often when I was younger. Every time something would go wrong in my life, I would think "ok, everything sucks, I go to school tomorrow, the next day is saturday, no one will be home, I'll just slit my wrists" It's fucked up how calmly I would think about these things.
But I obviously never went through with them. I never cut, so I don't understand how it helps to relive stress.
I'm not telling you this to make your problems seem insignificant, I'm telling you all this because you need to know that your not the only one who has felt like this.
I know what it's like to cry all the time, and have no idea why your crying. I know what it's like to want to die, and think you have nothing to live for.
Do you want to know what I think truly saved me all those times? I would think about my mother. She had already had a nervous break down because of drugs and the death of her father. Can you imagine what it would be like for her if her youngest daughter killed herself? It would kill her.
The fact that my mother would most likely die if I killed myself, made me want to live.
You are probably not clinically depressed. But that doesn't make your problems any less... It doesn't mean that you don't have a chemical inbalance. Your young... you might not want to hear this, but I'm beginning to believe that these sort of feelings are a somewhat normal part of being a teenager.
Plus your a female, so you have the joys of going through an extreme chemical imbalance once a month until your about 50 years old.
I'm not incredubly sure if all this helps, or even makes sense. but you need to know that you are normal. Your just a teenage girl. I remember the feelings perfectly.
Hold on to your one good friend. But you need to keep your other friends close too. The best friend that I told you about in the beginning of this, moved away after our eigth grade year. I was completely lost without her because I had spent all my energy on our friendship, and didn't worry about my other, not so close, friends.
But, hold on to him. You should be able to talk to him. Use each other as shoulders to cry on. If not, then keep a journal.
But don't try to hold these feelings in. Talk to someone, heck, you can always try to talk to me if you need to.
I've always found, that if you can't talk to someone, just writing all the crappy feelings inside my head down makes me feel better. Even if they don't make sense later on, it's just good to write them down. Even just scribbling madly. Make some art. Get your anger or sadness out with a pencil, paintbrush, whatever... It doesn't have to look good, it just has to feel good afterwards.
Anyway... You seem perfectly normal to me. It does get better though.
cheer up.
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i have a rescuedog and he is so placid but is very scared of men that he dusnt know.yesterday we were about to take the dog out so he was waiting by the car when a man came to give me a leaflet.he went to say hello to the dog,he got threatened nad bit him on the ankle.the man said he was ok and i gave him a plaster it wasnt a big bite just about a cm long.now my dad wont let the dog in the house and wont walk him.the dogs freezing and shaking outside what can i do to get my dad to like him again.?hes never bit anyone before.
First of all, you need to realize that the dog was not trying to protect you. By falsly diagnosing the problem, you are not going to be able to fix it. If the dog was trying to protect you, then he would have gotten aggressive when the man tried to give YOU the leaflet, not when he tried to pet the dog. Everyone else who answered means well, but it seems clear that the dog was not protecting you, he was scared, threatened as you say, and wanted to protect himself.
After you understand that, then you can start to work with the problem. Has the dog ever had a problem with your father? Is it all men that he has a problem with? I can give you an exersize that you can do once or twice a day, for five or ten minutes each that will slowly bring him out of his fear of men.
First I want to say that it's not uncommon for an animal to have a fear of certain group of people. They can be afraid of something that they are not familiar with, or, someone that looks like someone who hurt them in the past. It's either that this dog was never socialized around men in the past, or this dog was abused by men in the past. Either way, he is unsure of them and thinks that he will be hurt by them.
Until you are sure that your dog is NEVER going to bite anyone, you need to keep strangers away from him. If someone comes up and wants to pet him, calmly tell them no. Nicely say that he is a rescue dog, and is afraid of strangers, so he may bite. I know it sucks for people to be afraid of your dog, and you don't want to make him seem mean, but it's so much better for him if you keep him away from situations that make him uncomfortable.
Now, for the exercises that you can do.
-You need to have someone working with you. This person needs to be a man, preferrebly a man that your dog is uncomfortable around.
-You need to have plenty of yummy yummy treats for your dog. They need to be small so that he can swollen them in one quick bite without choking
Now, you need a large area. Start with you and your dog on one end. Keep your dog on his leash, and the treats in your hand. You want to have your dogs attention at all times.
You need to learn the stress signals that your dog has.
A few general stress signals are:
-turning his head away from something. When he turns his head away from something that makes him uncomfortable, that is like telling that thing to go away from him.
-turning his whole body. Same concept as turning his head, only more pronounced.
-licking lips excessively. This is a "calming signal" In the dog world it's another way of telling something to go away if he is uncomfortable.
-sniffing uncontrollably. Another "calming signal"
There may be other signals that your dog gives when he is stressed, you need to figure these out and learn to notice them.
Now, to start off, you should have your dog on his leash, and about 50 feet away, there should be a man standing. The man should not look at the dog, as this is likely to make the dog uncomfortable.
You have your dog look at you, and give him a treat.
Continue to give you dog a treat every 3-5 seconds as long as he is looking at you and seems to be comfortable with the situation.
When you feel comfortable enough, have the man slowly walk back and forth, but staying the same 50 feet away. Continue to keep your dogs attention focused on you, and continue to give him treats.
If you feel that your dog is comfortable enough, have the man take one small step toward you and your dog.
Now, if your dog gets scared, then immediately stop the exercise, and either try again the next day. If he starts to show any of the calming signals, or any of the stress signals, then you need to stop. Working too fast with this sort of exercise will only get your dog more and more uncomfortable with the situation.
Continue this day after day, slowly... I repeat, very slowly, until the man can walk back and forth right next to you and your dog without your dog being frightened.
Also, whenever anyone, male or female, tries to pet your dog, tell them to kneel down so that they are not cowering above them. Tell them to pet under his head, instead of above. Dogs generally do not like someone to pet them on top of their head.
Now, if you know all of this, then you can work at convincing your dad that the dog NEEDS to be inside. If you keep your dog outside away from a loving family that he seriously needs, then he will only get more and more aggressive.
If I were you, I would not listen to your father, and bring the dog inside anyway. It's for the sake of the dog. If you don't, then it's extremely likely that the dog will end up severely aggressive and will end up biting anyone who happens to go onto his property.
Around 80% of all dog bites come from dogs who have to be tied up all day.
Your dog needs love and care in order to get better. He also needs someone to protect him, and that must be you.
You could also try to contact an animal behavoralist, but if you need anymore help with this, then feel free to ask me. I've worked with animal behavoralists before, have gotten lots of help with them, and am going to school to be a veterinary technologist. I will help you as much as possible when it comes to animals.
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ok sorry if this is kinda long....this is really hard for me to talk about ive never talked about this with anyone other than my aunt...
ok so my 28 year old aunt came and visited me and we are really close...and i was telling her that i think my parents are growing apart...and she said "no offense sweetie, but ive kinda always had a theory that your dad is gay, i mean me and your mom talk and the last time they had sex was when your brother was concieved...10 years ago" and naturally, i did take offense but i didn't tell her...the truth is is that ive always kinda thought the same thing but i haven't told anyone. ive been thinking about it recently because i caught my dad flirting with his boss (who is gay and tells everyone that he is) and my parents haven't spent there last two anniversaries together! my mom was out of state so my dad decided to spend them with his boss!! my dad also uses phrases like "oh my gosh" and "whatever" in a velley girl way...and he is very into fashion...and he is very feminine in everything he does....i mean hes not tall and buff actually quite the opposite...hes about 5'3 and 160 lbs.! I don't know what to do...some of my friends have asked me if hes gay and it really hurts me...but now...im starting to believe them...please help me! What should i do?? should i talk to my mom about this???
- hurt deep down -
Ill rate for anyone who actually takes my feelings into consideration...
I recently found out my brother is bisexual. It's an odd thing isn't it?
I have gay friends, but to suddenly find out that my 31 year old brother enjoys men as well as women is just a strange feeling.
Anyway, my brother is still married, but he's going through a divorce. Him and his wife have been quite miserable for a while. My brother has been quite miserable, and has taken it out on everyone around him, especially my mother.
I hope that now that he has come out, he can be himself, and hopefully he won't be quite as miserable.
I'm thinking that your parents know this deep down, but they both may be in denial about it. They are probably staying together for you and any siblings that you might have. For some reason parents thing it's better to have their children watch them be unhappy, just as long as they are together.
Honestly, I'm not sure what you should do, but I do think you need to talk to someone. Your mom seems like a good place to start.
You don't need to tell your friends that he's gay if you don't want to. But really, there isn't anything wrong with it. I can understand not being able to come to terms with it right now, but it will get better as time goes on. Hopefully your parents can begin to be themselves, and not need to pretend anymore. They will seriously be much much happier if they can just do that.
My advice is to find someone to talk to. The best option is to go to your mom, and tell her everything your thinking. It might offend her, but I'm sure she already knows what you have to say.
Good luck
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im 18 years old and my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and were thinking about having sex.. if we do, do i need to see a gynocologist (sp?). thats what ive heard but i need to know if its really necessary and how i would set it up. and what would happen there if i went?
You should be seeing a gynocologist once yearly whether you are sexually active or not. Once you turn 18, thats usually the starting point for females to get a yearly pap smear and overal physical exam.
I'm sure they will exam inside you, take a few smears, give you a breast exam, and teach you how to give yourself a breast exam.
Ideally, you should have been seeing a gyno long before even thinking about having sex. In order to set it up, you should call your primary care physician (family doctor) and get a referral to a gynocologist. The gynocologist that they refer you to will usually either call your house, or send something to your house.
If you still live at home, and don't want your mother to find out for some reason, then you do have the option for them to only talk to you, not leave any messages, or let anyone else know that your seeing a gynocologist.
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I like this boy and I know for a fact that the feeling is mutual. I know enough about boys to be able to tell. But he isnt making a move. He's said before that he's pretty shy when it comes to girls..But this particular boy has had sex before. Only once though (so he says). Is it possible for a boy who has had sex before to be shy around girls now?! =S Help.
If a person is shy, then having sex is not going to automatically cure them of being shy.
A boy who has had sex before could even be shy around the same girl who he had sex with. People are not always completely comfortable when they have sex, but it still happens. He won't be able to get past his shyness unless he is completely comfortable with every situation. He's nervous around you, therefore, he is shy around you. It's quite simply really.
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my dog bites alot, we can not stop him. sometimes he is good somtimes he is bad. how do i cure his problem?
I have to answer this question simply because of sunny411's rediculous answer. Don't growl at the poor dog. That is the worst thing you could possibly do. If you growl at the poor dog, that is a sign of hostility. That would lead the dog to think that your going to attack him. This would frighten him and he would then bite you.
And it's just really really mean.
Basically what you need to do is praise the good behavior and ignore the bad behavior. When he's in the biting mood, turn away from him, ignore him, leave the room, etc. When he's being good, give him treats, pet him, call him good boy in a high soft voice, etc.
Normally I would explain in much more detail, but I'm tired right now. If you want more help, ask me a question later.
You should also consult an animal behavioralist about this problem. It should be taken care of right away. Dog bites lead to bad reputations for dogs. If this problem is not taken care of asap, then your dog will end up biting someone badly.
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Hey!! I have a question, my friend was smoking weed tonight and she has to get her wisdom teeth out tomorrow, and she is freaking out that they will be able to tell if she has?! She also thinks that when they give her laughin gas she will tell everyonethat she did? Can you help me out so i can give her some advice so she will quit freaking out?! Thanks!!
They may be able to tell that she has done something bad to her teeth, by the way they look. But they wouldn't be able to narrow it down to marijuana. If she is old enough to get her wisdom teeth out, then she's most likely old enough to smoke ciggarettes, so she could just tell the dentist that she was really nervous and stupidly thought that smoking a ciggarette would help calm her down.
But I doubt the dentist would mention anything about it anyway.
As for the laughing gas... some people don't talk at all... as for me... I wouldn't shut up. But most people aren't able to talk for ten minutes or so afterwards.
If she does say something, I doubt anyone will think much of it. And, I also doubt she would remember saying it. If she mentions it, then they dentist would most likely just shrug it off as her being a lil too loopy from the gas.
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Okay I'll get straight to the point. I want to shave my pubic hair but I am a complete beginner and I have no idea what to do.
If your a complete beginning, then you should start out by preparing a few days ahead of time. Say, for the next 3-5 days, before you let a razor come anywhere near your pubic hair, you use conditioner on it once a day. Do it the same way you would condition the hair on your head. Use just conditioner, not shampoo/conditioner in one, and leave it on for a minute or two. After a couple of days the hair will start to soften up and won't be as hard and course.
Now that your hair is prepared, start with some scissors and clip the hair as short as possible. Make sure you don't accidently cut yourself though. Trust me, that really hurts. :)
Now get a NEW razor. Don't use the same one that you've been shaving your legs with. Just get a fresh razor, preferebly one with three blades.
now it's come down to the day your going to shave. While in the shower, you should use conditioner, and after rinsing that off, use some moisturizing shaving cream, instead of just soap. Lather up, and with a fresh, un-used before razorblade, shave with the grain of the hair (this means shaving down most of the time). Only shave each spot once, maybe twice, to cut back on any chance of razor burn.
After you've shaved everything off, if you still feels that it's too stubbly, and if your feeling brave, you can try to shave against the grain, but only once. Shaving against the grain makes it much more likely to become irritated and your much more likely to get razor burn and those icky bikini bumps. But it will also leave it much smoother, since your more likely to get closer to the skin.
After you shave, you might want to try putting some conditioner on, and keep using conditioner each day. Even if you feel that you don't have any hair, it will make your skin feel better, and the new hair that eventually grows will also feel better and smoother.
Now, after it starts to grow back, you might want to wear the most comfortable undies possibly, and avoid friction in the area as much as possible. Wait until it feels better to attempt to shave a second time. I don't know exactly how long that should take, but you'll probably know if it's too soon by how it feels. And, if your thinking that you would never ever put yourself through this a second time, trust me... it does start to get better as time goes on. Eventually your skin will sort of get used to it and will be able to handle you shaving without burning up.
If not, then you could always just trim the top part (which I found is the only spot that gives me any kind of razor burn feeling) and shave the rest. If you buy a bikini area trimmer (only about $10 most stores) you could use that. It doesn't come out completely smooth, but it's pretty darned close, and there's no chance you can get any razor burn.
good luck, and sorry if this is a bit confusing. :)
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Does anybody know how to mix black? I don't know if there really is a way, but I have the following colors: red, yellow, blue, green, purple and orange. If anybody could tell me, I would appreciate it so much. I've tried blue and orange and I got a really dark brown, but I tried to add green and it only got more purplish. HELP!!
Ok. My freshman year of college my teacher would not let us use the color black, she made us mix it ourselves.
Let me try to remember. I don't actually think I was able to find the correct amount for each color, but I know it was red and green. If you have a dark red and a dark green, you should keep mixing them until you find a good combination. I think blue might have been in that.
I'll do some research and try to figure out the real colors, but I'm posative it was at least red and green.
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why are people so rude and hurtful to overweight people?! i mean i am just a lil overweight but i cant help it i have a hip disease which disables me to run and participate in athletics or PE so you need to be more considerate at other people when you say if i saw you i would throw up and lose weight .... yes you Cardboard Tube Samurai
*me*
Your giving attention to the trolls of this site. Please don't. If you were hurt by something that cardboard tube samurai said, then send in an abuse report. If you simply write a question giving him attention, then he will only keep doing it.
Go here to submit an abuse report: http://advicenators.com/abuse.php
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My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I really like him still but today he asked out my ex best friend. She said no but told my friend she only said that because of me. She told her that she is thinking about saying yes to him. The thing is, she has always hated him. We broke friends because I spent too much time with him and now she's saying she's thinking about going out with him. We're still kind of friends but not as good as we used to be, she knows how I feel about him. I don't think she even likes him that much, why is she doing this? I'm only 13 but I'm honestly in love with this guy. I know all the 13 year old girls on this site say that but I really am in love with him. I self harm and this is making it worse. I'm always depressed and I need help, I know I can't be happy without him and this is going to ruin what little friendship I have left with my friend. I don't know what to do, I need him and he knows it. He knows how upset I am about everything and how much he hurt me but he doesn't want me. My 'friend' is beautiful, smart, interesting and funny. She could get any guy she wanted and she knows it, why does she have to choose the one guy that she knows I love? She didn't even like him until she found out he liked her, she's definitely not doing this to get back at me, so why? She used to hate him for taking me away from her, how can she suddenly say she likes him?
This question sounds very familiar, I think I was the one who approved it for the rest of the site.
Anyway. When you were going out with him, I doubt that your friend simply didn't like him. It was probably just jealousy that you had someone else to spend time with and she didn't.
That's probably got a lot do to with the reason she is considering going out with him now. She saw how much time the two of your spent together, and now feels that it's her turn.
You really need to talk to her about this. Tell her that you really want to be friends with her, and your really sorry for ignoring her all the time when you were going out with him. And also tell her that it would really upset you if she went out with him because you aren't completely over him. It would be hard enough to see him with a complete stranger, but to see him with your friend would absolutely devastate you.
Since she's already said no one time because of you, she doesn't seem like a terrible friend. You just need to explain to her that it would upset you a lot.
As for the guy, and you never being happy without him... Yes, that will definately pass. I know you think that your in love with him, he was everything, and you'll never find anyone to make you that happy again... but you will eventually realize that he isn't worth all that sadness. Trust me, I've been there. I'm 21 and just beggining to get over my last ex from almost two years ago.
If he was mean enough to break up with you, and then suddenly ask out your friend, then he doesn't seem like a very nice guy. I know it's hard to see someone's faults when all you can think about it the good times you had together, but these feelings will soon pass, and you'll find someone that really deserves you.
Don't be mad at your friend for suddenly growing feelings for him. It sounds like it's only because she wants what you used to have. But you really should talk to her and get everything out in the open.
I would suggest staying away from him for a while. You need to stop thinking about him in good ways, and eventually you will get over him and feel better. Trust me.
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This is mostly to the females out there: What is the most romantic- meaningful gift you've ever received?
A kiss on the cheek.
My ex was four hours away in college, I got online to talk to him and he told me that he would be working on some art homework all night and couldn't talk. I then fell asleep in my living room, and woke up to him standing over me giving me a kiss on the cheek.
A black rose.
I've always wanted a black rose, even though they don't happen in nature. My ex found one made out of feathers. I still have it on my wall.
13 roses.
It was meant to be a dozen, but the order was messed up and I ended up with 13. It was our lucky number.
A painting of "Lady Jessica in front of a Waterfall" (my name is Jessica)
It was a beautiful watercolor painting that he made me and gave me for a birthday.
A video tape of him opening my valentines day present. He showed emotion when he opened things and read things. It made me think that he missed me dearly and loved all the little geeky things I got for him.
You should make something very meaningful in order for it to be memorable. You do not need to talented in art, you just need to make something cute and meaningful. I forgot my "retarded frog" that I got one Christmas. I call it the retarded frog because no one really knows what it is. It was his first attempt at sewing something. I loved it and still have it in my room.
These are all things that I still keep around me, even though I now realize that the guy is a complete ass.
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I got my cartilage pierced in august, and I didn't have a problem with it until now. Everytime I take the earring out to try and put a new one in, it seems like the back of my ear scabbed over in the 5 seconds that an earring wasn't in. I have to push the earring in, and eventually I get it in, and it's usually fine. Today I changed it again, and I tried to put a new one it-a post hoop, and I couldn't get it in cause it hurt. Then the back of my ear started to bleed a little. Does that mean it's infected? Or just irritated? Should I take the earring out and let it close up, or is it something that will go away? What should I do? I don't want to take it out. Thanks
You really shouldn't be taking it out at all.
August was not very long ago, and cartilage piercings take a while to completely heal. It's not like a normal ear piercing.
It may be slightly infected, but that doesn't mean you need to just take it out.
It means you need to be more clean and careful with it. Clean it at least five times a day with piercing solution. Don't use alcohol or peroxide, just use piercing solution. Try to turn it each time you clean it, but make sure your hands are very sanitized, and you wipe all of the gunk off the earring before you turn it. If you don't wipe that gunk off, then it could get inside the piercing hole and infect it badly.
If it starts to puss then it's a good thing. It means that the bad part, the infection, is draining out of it.
You don't need to take it out, you just need to stop taking it out at all. Never touch it unless you've disinfected your hands and are going to be able to clean it for a while.
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You suspended the underage girl from my abuse report (this is Southern_Chickety) I don't know her personally, but she IMed me once telling me that she liked my column, so I asked if she had one, she said yes, she told me over IM she was 13 and her name was rachael and she's from tx. Then I asked her what her username was so I looked at her column to see if she had any talent and it said she was 12... that's where the report came in... she's asked me questions?? She's probably the one that asked about my bio info then. Whatever. Just thought I'd respond to that. ~Southern~
yeah, I think she was the one asking about your bio info, and she also asked another question to you which I didn't read through. I can't see it now because she's already suspended and I can't get to the "check username" screen without seeing one of her answers. Her age seemed to get younger and younger as time when by from 14-12.
The rule is, if they're stupid enough to lie about being 12, then they're still suspended. It seems like they're usually lieing about being older though.
anyway, thanks for the report.
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This guy, Mark, and I like each other and he asked me out today. Two days ago I would have automatically said yes but I found out something about him so I had to say I’d think about it. All I found out is who he is best friends with, Chris. Chris is dating one of my friends who I’ve recently stopped talking to because of the way she’s been acting since she started dating him. Around one month after they started going out, she gave him oral. This is something she would have never done with her ex boyfriend who she went out with for a year. This guy is a total dick and doesn’t even actually like her. So I started thinking about Mark and was wondering if he’d turn out the same way as Chris. I mean they are best friends and they do hang around each other all the time. I know that just because his friend is like doesn’t mean that Mark is either but it bothers me so much .I’ve know Mark since August but we only talk during 5th period because that’s the only time I see him. But I do believe I know him pretty well. He has a pretty good head on his shoulders and the only ‘wrong’ thing he does it drink…a lot. I don’t care about that because at my school it’s not a big deal. Do you think I have anything to be worried about with him being best friends with a guy like Chris? If it helps at all, I'm 14 adn he is 16.
Yes, of course you have something to worry about. He's of the male gender, you always have something to worry about.
Ok, I'm just kidding... sort of.
Anyway... You can't automatically brush this guy off as being as much of an asshole as his friend, but I would watch out for any signals that he might turn into one.
Have you talked to him about your fears? Would you feel comfortable talking to him about your fears of this? If you wouldn't feel comfortalbe talking to him a little bit about these fears, then you might want to stay away.
But I would say that you should go to a quiet place where the two of you can maturely and comfortalby talk about some things.
Get to know each other more and ask about his asshole friends, and also other friends that he has. Since you only talk to him one period out of the day, you need to get to know him more before you give him a definate answer.
And if he's a nice guy, he'll completely understand. You could make a date of it, go out to eat at a nice quiet restaurant, or just go to the mall and hang out walking around.
You don't have to necessarily be boyfriend and girlfriend as soon as you have one date. But you should probably give him a slight benefit of the doubt before you decide if he's a jerk like his friend. But whatever you do, don't get too attatched. It's very easy to meet a "nice" guy, only see the good things, and totally ignore the really important, bad things about a guy.
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I am a senior this year. I will be going to college next year. Here is my problem. I don't know whether to choose a Nursing major or an Art major. My parents really want me to go for nursing, but art is what I love. Plus, most artists don't make a whole lot of money. What should I do?
Do you enjoy Nursing at all? You need to think about that more, not the money aspect of it.
Of course it's more practical to take a nursing major, but practicality doesn't always work well with your sanity.
I started out my college career as an Art major. It's been my passion since before pre-school, and I would be lost if I couldn't take at least one art class a year.
After two years I decided that I wasn't going to make a career out of Art, and decided to switch to my second passion. My second passion happens to be animals, so I am now majoring in Veterinary Technology.
But I still get my Art classes whenever they come up. At the moment I'm taking an extremely low level art class, with stuff that I learned for the first time in High School. But I love it to death. It's the only thing that keeps me sane amongst all these science and medical classes that I need to take for my major.
Basically, your only a senior in High School, and almost all college students change their major at least once throughout their college career. You might decide to start out with a simply liberal arts major, and just take a variety of different classes. Or, it might be a good idea to take a Nursing major, and also have an Art minor. Or vice-versa.
Don't let your parents force you into a major that you hate, and don't only look at the money aspect. Look at EVERYTHING. Is there a big demand for people in your major? Do you enjoy it, and lastly look at the amount of money you can realistically make.
Artists are highly missunderstood. You would really be surprised at how much you can make if your passion and talent is great enough.
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Hey,
I am 22 and a counsellor. I hang around in a group of three friends (not including me) and one of our friends, Emma, is constantly complaining. She always thinks that she is depressed but I know for a fact that she isn't; I deal with depressed people every day and she is NOT one of them. She thinks that just because she has a lot of things to complain about (her workload, bad love life, etc) then she is depressed. She never stops complaining and is obsessed with finding her 'Mr Right' (her last boyfriend dumped her because she was 'too clingy') and NEVER ever shuts up about it. It's gotten to the stage where I - and my other two friends - are so damn fed up of it that we are ready to explode on her any day now. We don't want an arguement but obvious rifts are being created between my other two friends and me and Emma. One of my other friends, Jen, is seriously ill and constantly in and out of hospital, yet Emma thinks HER life is so much worse, just because she can't get a boyfriend. How do we open her eyes to what's going on and how annoying she is being? She's even starting saying things like 'I want to go to sleep and never wake up, but I don't like taking tablets so I couldn't'. It's f*cking ridiculous and we are all so fed up of it...
Sorry this was long guys. Please don't just say 'tell her she is annoying' - we've tried (only nicer) and she gets so offended. It's not that simple and we don't want to argue.
x Alannah x
You said yourself that your getting to the point where you and your other friends are going to blow up on her majorly. So something does need to be done, and your going to have to deal with a bit of arguements if you want to keep the friendship in the long run.
You should have a sort of intervention, and try your hardest to make her realize that she is in this slump because of her mindset on the situation. She needs to realize that she has good friends who obviously care about her enough to put up with this bull instead of simply ditching her. She does not need a guy, all she needs is friendship right now. She cannot expect to find love if she is in this self pity mode. She needs to be comfortable with herself before everyone around her can be comfortable with her.
I'm sure you know all this since your a councelor (I could be terribly wrong, this is just my opinion on the situation) But even though your a councelor yourself, it should not be you who trys to councel her. But, she should have someone who she can talk to and confide in about this made up depression. Perhaps you know of some people that she can go to. Perhaps there is a way to set her up with a councelor friend of yours without her actually knowing that you want her to see a councelor if that might help.
But basically, blunt honest truth is the only way to get out. She's going to get offended, but she will soon learn that she's being ridiculous about everything.
I've been there, I've put my friends through hell at times, and I soon got over it, pulled myself out of it, and had to apoligize to my closest friends and family.
There is a chance that she really is depressed. But she needs to be able to talk to someone who isn't so close to the situation as you are.
Good luck with that.
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