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My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I really like him still but today he asked out my ex best friend. She said no but told my friend she only said that because of me. She told her that she is thinking about saying yes to him. The thing is, she has always hated him. We broke friends because I spent too much time with him and now she's saying she's thinking about going out with him. We're still kind of friends but not as good as we used to be, she knows how I feel about him. I don't think she even likes him that much, why is she doing this? I'm only 13 but I'm honestly in love with this guy. I know all the 13 year old girls on this site say that but I really am in love with him. I self harm and this is making it worse. I'm always depressed and I need help, I know I can't be happy without him and this is going to ruin what little friendship I have left with my friend. I don't know what to do, I need him and he knows it. He knows how upset I am about everything and how much he hurt me but he doesn't want me. My 'friend' is beautiful, smart, interesting and funny. She could get any guy she wanted and she knows it, why does she have to choose the one guy that she knows I love? She didn't even like him until she found out he liked her, she's definitely not doing this to get back at me, so why? She used to hate him for taking me away from her, how can she suddenly say she likes him?
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This question sounds very familiar, I think I was the one who approved it for the rest of the site.
Anyway. When you were going out with him, I doubt that your friend simply didn't like him. It was probably just jealousy that you had someone else to spend time with and she didn't.
That's probably got a lot do to with the reason she is considering going out with him now. She saw how much time the two of your spent together, and now feels that it's her turn.
You really need to talk to her about this. Tell her that you really want to be friends with her, and your really sorry for ignoring her all the time when you were going out with him. And also tell her that it would really upset you if she went out with him because you aren't completely over him. It would be hard enough to see him with a complete stranger, but to see him with your friend would absolutely devastate you.
Since she's already said no one time because of you, she doesn't seem like a terrible friend. You just need to explain to her that it would upset you a lot.
As for the guy, and you never being happy without him... Yes, that will definately pass. I know you think that your in love with him, he was everything, and you'll never find anyone to make you that happy again... but you will eventually realize that he isn't worth all that sadness. Trust me, I've been there. I'm 21 and just beggining to get over my last ex from almost two years ago.
If he was mean enough to break up with you, and then suddenly ask out your friend, then he doesn't seem like a very nice guy. I know it's hard to see someone's faults when all you can think about it the good times you had together, but these feelings will soon pass, and you'll find someone that really deserves you.
Don't be mad at your friend for suddenly growing feelings for him. It sounds like it's only because she wants what you used to have. But you really should talk to her and get everything out in the open.
I would suggest staying away from him for a while. You need to stop thinking about him in good ways, and eventually you will get over him and feel better. Trust me.
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