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My dad...
ok sorry if this is kinda long....this is really hard for me to talk about ive never talked about this with anyone other than my aunt...
ok so my 28 year old aunt came and visited me and we are really close...and i was telling her that i think my parents are growing apart...and she said "no offense sweetie, but ive kinda always had a theory that your dad is gay, i mean me and your mom talk and the last time they had sex was when your brother was concieved...10 years ago" and naturally, i did take offense but i didn't tell her...the truth is is that ive always kinda thought the same thing but i haven't told anyone. ive been thinking about it recently because i caught my dad flirting with his boss (who is gay and tells everyone that he is) and my parents haven't spent there last two anniversaries together! my mom was out of state so my dad decided to spend them with his boss!! my dad also uses phrases like "oh my gosh" and "whatever" in a velley girl way...and he is very into fashion...and he is very feminine in everything he does....i mean hes not tall and buff actually quite the opposite...hes about 5'3 and 160 lbs.! I don't know what to do...some of my friends have asked me if hes gay and it really hurts me...but now...im starting to believe them...please help me! What should i do?? should i talk to my mom about this???
- hurt deep down -
Ill rate for anyone who actually takes my feelings into consideration...
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try talking to you dad, let him know that you love him and that you want to know if he's hiding anything from you, make sure that you let him know that you're not asking him because you want to judge him, let him know that you're asking because you care and you love him. and if it turns out that he is truly gay, there's nothing wrong with that, i'm sure that you will totally love him all the same. hope i helped
*~*shan*~*
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Well, you cant change how someone feels or the way they just are..but, it would help if you do talk to your mom about that. i'm sorry, but i hope it helps!!
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I understand how you can be like enbarrssed and hurt by like them asking you, becuase nobody wants to have that, i do think your dad is probely gay and im sorry becuase that puts alot on you with people asking. You should def talk to your mom about it just to get your feelings out and so you arent al bundeled up and like not having any one to talk to about the sitation.. if you talk to your mom andhe really is. there is nothing you can do aobut it.. its your dads thing.. and i mean people are going to find out. you will just have to deide weather to tell people and be ok with it or just not tel people.. its all up to you becuase i dont know you personally and know how things are for you. but just talk to your mom and im sure you cna make the decion right from there
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I recently found out my brother is bisexual. It's an odd thing isn't it?
I have gay friends, but to suddenly find out that my 31 year old brother enjoys men as well as women is just a strange feeling.
Anyway, my brother is still married, but he's going through a divorce. Him and his wife have been quite miserable for a while. My brother has been quite miserable, and has taken it out on everyone around him, especially my mother.
I hope that now that he has come out, he can be himself, and hopefully he won't be quite as miserable.
I'm thinking that your parents know this deep down, but they both may be in denial about it. They are probably staying together for you and any siblings that you might have. For some reason parents thing it's better to have their children watch them be unhappy, just as long as they are together.
Honestly, I'm not sure what you should do, but I do think you need to talk to someone. Your mom seems like a good place to start.
You don't need to tell your friends that he's gay if you don't want to. But really, there isn't anything wrong with it. I can understand not being able to come to terms with it right now, but it will get better as time goes on. Hopefully your parents can begin to be themselves, and not need to pretend anymore. They will seriously be much much happier if they can just do that.
My advice is to find someone to talk to. The best option is to go to your mom, and tell her everything your thinking. It might offend her, but I'm sure she already knows what you have to say.
Good luck
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I would talk to your mom, and open up and be honest. I wouldn't just straight out go "is dad gay?" just let her know that you're concerned about their relationship and it's worrying you, and see what she has to say. You could also talk to your dad and see if he can open up to you. Hope I offered some sort of help!
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first off, i am really, really sorry for what you're going through! i think you should talk to your mom. you know there may be a chance that she realizes this and they have decided not to split up because of having kids. talk to your mom and tell her what you think and tell her if she knows anything, you can handle the truth. then maybe you and your mom together can talk with your dad. i really hope everything works out for you, and i am again very very sorry.
*Kayla*
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well... talk to your mom definetly... but not only her... maybe you should talk to your dad too... tell your aunt you were offended... maybe you can go to a guidence couselor if your really having trouble... sry i can't be much help
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