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I hope that even if you absolutely hate my answer that it'll kick start your brain. Hopefully you'll begin taking your time to respond instead of hurried answers that are useless to an already confused person.
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hellow i am 18 years old and i am now in norway been here for 5 months only to work i am going back home to iceland in desember but what should i do after that like many other i dream of becoming an moviestar but first i have to start out as theater actress if i will get the chance :/ i want to do everything as quick as i can i dont know why i just feel like i dont have the time, what school should i go to in england i am kinda shy and i dont have much experiance though i played some lead roles in school but that was long time ago but if i would find any school in england where could i stay like me and my family we are really poor and that is mostly that has stopped me from everything if i had some money i would had gone to singing lessons and soo much more. and also i am a good artist i would love to become an pro artist. i am just so confused :/ i dont want to go to schools in iceland becouse i dont like it there :/ (link)
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You should make some telephone calls to universities in England that you may be interested in. The counselors there will be able to help you figure out what is the best path for you to take and if going to England for schooling is a wise decision for your current situation. The school counselors are there to help people like you figure out where they should become students at, and there is no reason to not give them a call right now even.
Here is a decent list of some Universities in England:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_universities_in_England
You can go onto their websites and look at the classes they have to offer before making a few decisions. Once you've dwindled it down to choosing a few possible schools to go to you should call their telephone numbers up and talk to somebody that works there. They can talk to you about what age they admit students, what classes you would be required to take, how long schooling usually takes, and how much it might cost. They can also help you figure out if you qualify for any grants, loans, or special reimbursements.
After you've talked to some of the counselors you should sit down with your parents and discuss moving off to England. They need to know before you make any final decisions. This gives them time to see if they can arrange a way for them to move along with you. They also will have the opportunity to talk to the school if they have questions about the entire process.
Getting started now is nothing to be scared about. It's perfectly fine to want to get started early, but you have to remember that sometimes things like this take awhile. Schooling isn't as easy as you might think it is and there is no guarantee you will get a job once you graduate. Talk with the professionals at the universities you might consider before taking a leap forward.
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I haven't had my first period yet and I'll be 14 in early october. Sometimes I have cramps but they only last about. 30sec-1 min and sometimes if I fart they go away. What is this? Also my nipples Itch sometimes. I wear a 36a right now. And I have pubic hair and underarm hair and have had it for like a year... What do you think my cramps are? Are they related to my period? And my nipples ithing? (link)
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The cramps, unfortunately, sound just like built-up gas in adults. It happens. You might feel a little pressure and uncomfortable feeling until the gas is released. Monitor your diet and see if the pains are more frequent after eating certain foods.
Your nipples may be itchy because of breast growth.
Pubic hair can come long before you have your first period.
I would just relax about the whole thing. Once you start having your period you're going to wish it never happened. You're 14 (or very close, y'know) and it will come soon enough. Carry a pad around with you in your pocket or purse for just-in-case emergency situations.
Talk with your mother about her period. If she got hers at a very young age then you might expect yours any time now. If she didn't get hers until she was, say, 17 then you might have awhile to go.
So, in short:
You have gas.
Your breasts are growing.
Pubic hair means maturing but not necessarily period-at-any-second time.
If you think something is wrong then you should see a doctor to make sure things are OK and healthy with you. I wouldn't worry at all at this stage. You have a few more years before you should start worrying where your period has gone off to!
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need advice on assignment (link)
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You will have to explain the assignment you're having trouble with before we can provide any assistance here on Advicenators.
I do highly recommend you speak with your instructor about any concerns so that you get the right answer the first time and don't end up wasting valuable time on wrong or mis-information supplied to you by various users of sites like Advicenators. We want to see you succeed; however, many of us are still in lower grades of high school and have no idea what science SBA might even mean ;)
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Soo this is my first photography type camera and I am absolutely clueless. Does anyone have any tips, comments, anything? haha. I'm used to a basic digital camera. One click. Flash on or off. The end. But there's more buttons and stuff on this one and I don't know anything about it. Thank you :) (link)
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There are tons of personal reviews about the Nikon coolpix L110 photography camera online that you could check out for some more information. Unfortunately, Advicenators aren't big on taking photos for real photography reasons. They'd rather take 50 thousand shots of them in the bathroom doing the MySpace photo shots ;)
From what I'm reading, everything about the camera is pretty good but the image quality is not knock-your-socks-off, really. Someone suggest upgrading tot he Nikon P100 or Fuji HS10 if you want better image quality. Someone did say Poor low-light photo quality and a long shutter lag were problems for them when using the camera. If you're fairly new at this then it shouldn't make a big difference though.
The image controls are basic and made well for beginners and learners. I quote: "The lack of a P, A, S or M shooting mode should tell you that Nikon is targeting novice users with the L110." There isn't anything wrong with that though, of course.
You might want to check out this:
http://www.photographybay.com/2010/06/15/nikon-coolpix-l110-review/
It is a lengthy review about this camera and includes photo shots of it in the different styles, angels, and whatever else photographers care about.
I hope that fills you in on some of the details of the camera you haven't figured out yet. I don't even own a camera so I can't tell you more about it it, unfortunately!
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Where are there overdubbed videos of we got married show in english for downloading please? I can watch online also if there are no downloads. thanking you!!! (link)
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DangerNerd recently scoured the internet to find the English version of We Got Married from Korea. It was pretty difficult to find, from what I am aware, but it seems extremely popular. I'm not entirely sure why YouTube took specific episodes of this television program off of their site because you can still view them in other languages.
Anyway, DangerNerd had listed the following information in a previous question about the sweet potato couple on We Got Married. I haven't checked any of the links out yet but I assume they are either dubbed over or translated on the screen for you to read in the subtitles. Any way, I hope you enjoy watching this online:
Here is a link to a page that has episode 13 and others:
http://www.mysoju.com/we-got-married/
... it is in 6 parts, I believe, but it is the ONE place I know that has it with English subtitles.
Here is a list of all the "We Got Married" episodes that I know can be found here:
Episode 55
Episode 54
Episode 53
Episode 52
Episode 51
Episode 50
Episode 49
Episode 48
Episode 47
Episode 46
Episode 45
Episode 44
Episode 43
Episode 42
Episode 41
Episode 40
Episode 39
Episode 38
Episode 37
Episode 36
Episode 35
Episode 34
Episode 33
Episode 32
Episode 31
Episode 30
Episode 29
Episode 28
Episode 27
Episode 26
Episode 25
Episode 24
Episode 23
Episode 22
Episode 21
Episode 20
Episode 19
Episode 18
Episode 17
Episode 16
Episode 15
Episode 14
Episode 13 "Sweet Potato Couple"
Episode 12
Episode 11
Episode 10
Episode 9
Episode 8
Episode 7
Episode 6
Episode 5
Episode 4
Episode 3
Episode 2
Episode 1
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I really don't know what's going on.Have all the boys gone blind?I am sick and tired of being alone.And no guy notices me or if he does it's usually a jerk.I've become a jerk magnet.I don't see why it's like this.I am good-looking and smart,I think I should attract good-looking guys...not just that but every guy I've been with ended up cheating on me with an UGLY girl.When I say ugly I mean it.I am not cocky,I just love myself.So don't tell me I'm arrogant.I am also very friendly and approachable,but love just seems to avoid me.I see my girl friends around,happy with their boyfriends in long relationships and I just can't seem to find a good guy for myself.I want a guy who treats me sweet and loving.On the contrary,I got all but that...I know I have a lot of time but I feel like my love life is ruined for good.Are all the boys my age and a few years older he same? I don't have the strength to look for love anymore,since it seems to me they only want sex... (link)
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There is more to love than appearance.
Just because you're pretty doesn't mean you have a good personality. It doesn't mean you're even lovable. You could be a cold, cruel bitch that looks sexy as hell.
On the opposite standpoint, you could be so full of yourself in your looks that you let guys use you. You think you're sexy and that guys want you so you let them take advantage of you. Guys don't always just want sex.
You list your qualities as:
Pretty
Smart
Attractive
Friendly
Approachable
What about:
Nice
Kind
Generous
Respectable
Great listener
Faithful
Can hold a good conversation
Caring
Thoughtful
Helpful
Mature
Sweet
Loving
Considerate
Compassionate
Fun
Empathic
Patient
Have defined morals and standards
Self-respect
Emotionally stable
Has a personality and a strong sense of self
While you may come off as friendly and "approachable" at first eventually they will "open the book" and see what's beyond the cover. You can be outstandingly gorgeous but it doesn't mean guys are going to be all over you. In a sense, you're more a jack-off magnet than anything. You're good to look at but if you lack key characteristics then there's no point in being honest or faithful to you from many guys' standpoints.
You may have many other qualities listed above but if you don't actively show them then the guy isn't going to know you're worth more than sex. He will only see your outside if you never open up and show him your inside. Life isn't just about you, in the end. He isn't going to "dig deep" if you aren't giving him some clues as to WHO you are rather than WHAT you are.
You don't even list what you like to do. Is it possible you only go after the physical of a relationship? What about sharing activities with your partner (so that you know what you do have in common other than physical attractiveness) like:
Reading
Bowling
Skating
Swimming
Dancing
Volunteering
Going to church
Moving-outings
Double-dates
Cooking
Crafting/Painting/Photography/Artistic fun
I also must point out that you are taking appearances to a bit of the extreme. It's possible you keep picking the "good looking" guys rather than the guys with good hearts and great personalities.
The ugly girls aren't just ugly. Beauty comes within many times. You can look like a hideous monster and have an angelic personality. In the end, appearance may ATTRACT guys but it doesn't necessarily keep them hanging on. There's more than just being pretty. You have to have an emotional and mental connection. No just a physical thing.
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I want to tell my best friends some funny jokes but I don't really know any good or funny jokes that my friends would like or laugh at. Got any I can share? THANKKKKKKS (link)
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I have a GREAT joke you can tell everyone:
How do you catch a polar bear?
First you cut a hole out in the middle of a frozen over lake or pond. You open a can of green peas and you put them all around the hole. Then, you go hide in the bushes and wait.
When the polar bear comes out to take a pea, kick him in the ice hole!
...and...
What does an Eskimo get for sitting on his ice all day?
Polaroids!
...and...
Two blondes are driving to Disneyland one bright, sunny day. They come up on a sign that reads: "Disneyland Left" and both girls burst into tears!
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If I have sex before marriage, even if it's with the man I love and no I will marry and spend the rest of my life with.. where would that leave me with god?
Hell?
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A sin is a sin.
All sin is equal in the eyes of God.
As humans with minds of our own, we do sin every day.
Sometimes people forget that. It's true though. If you go out and murder someone it is no greater a sin than if you stole a candy bar from your mother's purse. A sin is still a sin.
Thankfully, God gave us freewill. He gave us the ability to choose. He gave us minds that can think great thoughts and ideas. He knows sometimes we don't make the best of decisions. So, He sent us His word in the Bible.
If you pray and sincerely want forgiveness from God then you can be forgiven. Jesus died for our sins so that none of us have to go to Hell because we made a few wrong choices in life. If you sincerely are sorry, and you sincerely want to be forgiven, then you still have a chance to make it into Heaven.
Sex outside of marriage just isn't right. It goes against our societal rules set in place. It goes away Biblical scripture about fornication. Love doesn't necessarily equal marriage.
So, yes, sins will send you straight to Hell...but only if you don't want to be forgiven for them. If you pray for forgiveness and then keep doing the sin then it's pretty good odds that your prayers are not sincere.
God loves us. He doesn't want us to go to Hell. He does want us to be loyal though so that we can go to His kingdom when we pass from this Earthly world. He is forgiving though so that we always do have a chance to redeem ourselves in His eyes.
Think of it this way:
You have a wonderful house. It's the best house anyone has ever created. It's nice and spacious and you even have a world's supply of food on one floor of it. You play great music all day. Everyone who ever steps in the door is automatically joyed. Everything you would ever need to feel fulfilled is right there. Would you let your neighbor in after he murdered a child in a fit of rage? Probably not! What if he dropped to his knees in front of you and promised he'd never do that sort of thing again? You still probably wouldn't let him in.
God knows when we're being honest though. He'd let the guy into Heaven if he was truly sorry for what he had done. God knows we're just human. We're not Godly. We're not supernatural. We don't have special powers or abilities. He knows that. He also knows that we have minds about us that allow us to make emotional decisions--do we REALLY feel sorry or are we just saying it, right?
So, you can, most definitely, ask for forgiveness and change your ways. If you want to continue having sexual relations with the guy then you have a talk with him about getting married and hold off on the sex until the wedding date. Honestly, you don't have to spend hundreds or thousands of dollars to get married. Not at all. And you can always have your "dream wedding" a few years later when you DO have the money for that. In that way, you've avoided that sort of sin. Of course, at some point it would be wise to pray to God, explain you thought processes at the time, ask for forgiveness, and be truly sorry for those mistakes.
We sin every day. We do lots of things that go against God. We tell those little white lies. We take those candy bars from Mom's purse. We think about having sex with celebrities and have other, various impure thoughts. We're human though. God knows that. He gives us the opportunity to make a decision whether or not we want to ask Him for forgiveness. He lets us make that decision. It's up to us. If we don't want His forgiveness then we can choose that path.
Sin sends us to Hell. Yes. There is time to pray though. You can pray in your last hours and ask for forgiveness and God will still listen to those prayers. We have every opportunity to say, "I am sorry!" It's up to us to decide when--or if--we want to do that.
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i have a frind that been trying to poop for over a week and when she trys it bright red bood.and no poop do u have any idea what it might be (link)
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This could be from something rupturing inside since all there is coming out is bright red colored blood. The blood is fresh, meaning something is bleeding right now.
She needs to go straight to the ER (emergency room) at the local hospital. If she waits, she can die. I, personally, know someone who died from bleeding of the rectum. This is a very serious problem.
Encourage her to seek help immediately. Constipation coupled with blood leakage is a serious, serious sign of damaged parts inside. She needs help.
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I need help writing a physics lab for csec, its my first lab and i m a bit confused as to how to do a few things.
Could i get some pointers as to how i write the method(please include if it should be numbered)and how long should my conclusion be? Its a lab on density. I am from Trinidad and Tobago. (link)
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The basic steps to the Scientific Method that you definitely need to do IN ORDER are (and, yes, there is no harm in numbering your paper for this ):
1. Define the question
2. Gather information and resources (observe)
3. Form hypothesis
4. Perform experiment and collect data
5. Analyze data (observe)
6. Interpret data and draw conclusions that serve as a starting point for new hypothesis
7. Publish/Report results
8. Retest (frequently done by other scientists)
The length of your conclusion varies greatly based on your experiment. In the classroom, your conclusion should be at least one full paragraph, which is between 3 and 5 sentences. More than one paragraph may be needed for you to complete your conclusion, depending on what the outcome and observations you noticed during the experimental process.
Talk with your instructor about the length to ensure you get the right information down. Some would rather the conclusion be something short and to the point while others want full of minor and major detail.
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Hello i just came back from the vet today and i was given a bag of science diet for my toy fox terrier who is only a few months old. I've been giving her Iams small/toy breed food since ive gotten her and i was just wondering if the food the vet gave me which iks science diet is better than the Iams, and if so why is it better and is it worth it spending the extra money?
Thanks (link)
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I'd like to add something in here that might make you THINK.
Hedgehogs are prone to cancerous tumor growths. They are just more fragile to radical cell damage.
Pet hedgehogs can eat cat food or dog food. Most people feed their hedgies cat food.
Many cat foods increase their chances of tumors.
Science Diet brand is acceptable for optimal health of a hedgie. Iams is not acceptable and increases their chances of cancer.
Iams has more fillers and more byproducts than Science Diet. Iams doesn't have as high grade of meats as Science Diet does.
There is a huge difference in regards to the health of you pet.
Say somebody gives you a hamburger. The hamburger is made of 70% fillers (corns, wheats, grasses), mechanically separated meats, and organ tissues. This costs you $.75
Somebody else gives you a hamburger that is 97% sirloin beef that has been ground up into a patty shape and 3% wheat filler. This costs you $3.
There is a reason why the cost is different. Do you really want to be eating organ tissues and parts of the intestines of an animal? Do you want 70% of your burger to be made up of corn? What about if a human being would never eat corn in nature--why even bother adding that into the food if it was hard to digest?
Science Diet is by far not the best food you can feed your pet but it's a lot better than foods you can purchase at your local grocery store. Speak with your vet more about this. If they know anything about petcare and the health of pet in regards to the food you give them then they are going to say, "I gave you that pet food for a reason. There's a reason why we carry that petfood in our store and not brands you find in the grocery store. There is a reason why that is more expensive. X, Y, and Z are different in this food and your pet will have less health complications later in life because you gave them a well-balanced diet."
Spend the extra money if you can afford it. Your pet will be happier and healthier for a longer time.
It isn't going to prevent your pet from EVER having an illness but it doesn't assist in things like growing tumors, you know? It isn't a "preventative" thing but, rather, a healthier choice. It's like choosing organic produce over non-organic. You might still get sick but it's less likely to lead back to the organic fruits and vegetables you've consumed.
And, as for the first three ingredients thing...is that what you choose in your own food? You have to think about what you give yourself compared to your pet. Would you eat something if the ingredients list was:
Beef, Lamb, Turkey, animal digest, intestines and by-products, animal liver tissue, corn, ground oat hulls, ground animal bone, fish meal, random animal fat, corn syrup, sugar, gluten, vegetable oil, blue 2, red 40, yellow 6.
Probably not. Would you consider that a healthy diet? What if you found out that animal byproducts include things within the stomach, liver, and intestines? What if you also found out it meant beaks, feathers, and talons/claws?
Here's a list of some ingredients that you should avoid, for note: http://www.dogfoodproject.com/index.php?page=badingredients
and http://www.naturalnews.com/012647.html
A great explanation of animal food: http://www.bornfreeusa.org/facts.php?more=1&p=359
You can google things like "harmful dog food ingredients" and scare yourself silly.
I once read how to make your own dog food. You can actually do that and KNOW what you're putting in the little girl. The only catch is the ingredients are fairly fresh and so it would be pretty pricey to keep up with.
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Hello i've been on birth control for about 2 years and i've been off of it for about 2 weeks now. I'm just curious if there are any side effects of getting off the pill. How will it affect my period now that i'm not on it anymore? Also how quickly can i become pregnant? Thanks for all the advice everyone! (link)
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There are a whole slew of side effects, really, but most people don't experience too many.
You may have a headache, nausea, dizziness, or unexpected spotting. You may see changes in your cervical mucus or discharge, too. You may experience a period directly after discontinuing the pills--don't be scared if it's a little longer (a few extra, as in 2 or 3, days) or heavier than usual.
You could become pregnant right away. Many women do become pregnant immediately after. Most women take about 6 months after coming off of birth control pills if they've been on them for more than a year.
Your periods may return to as they were before you started the hormonal birth control pills. They may become a heavier than when you were on the pill. You may experience cramping during your periods if you don't at the moment. It's all normal and natural. Hormonal birth control pills tend to make the lining of your uterine walls thinner and, thus, easier to break off during a period. They will thicken back up a little after going off the pill so for awhile your periods may be a little crazy. For some women, there is absolutely no change.
You may experience PMS if you don't already before your period.
I was on the pills for a long time. I went on them pretty young because my periods would never stop. I bled for 2 months straight before. When I went off of them my periods became exactly 28 days apart. It's been about 3 years since I went off of them and my periods are still 28 days apart. That part is pretty nice, I have to say, but it could be caused by my body now being mature (while it wasn't when I did start the pills).
Unfortunately, my ovulation cycle is messed up. I did read that sometimes being on birth control pills at a young age for awhile can confused the body in ways like this. I ovulate on about day 20 so my entire conception date would be way off compared to most women, who ovulate around day 14.
Speak with your doctor about this before you go off of them so they know what your plans are, especially if you are trying to get pregnant now. They will also be able to add more information that is available in regards to the changes you may notice.
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I was a Christian for about three years prior to the religion I've chosen now. I was happy at first, excited and I felt something there for a second, but just a second. Then I felt like nothing was there, so I prayed, hoping I'd get some kind of response or at least the feeling of someone's presence, but I didn't feel anything. I kept praying anyway and concentrating and doing my best for three years, but I gave up. It shouldn't take three years for someone to at least say hi or something. So I gave up on it and transfered to a different religion.
Don't beat me with a stick or anything, please, but I did some searching around and I found one that interested me. It was a TYPE of Satanism, not 'devil hates God, eats souls' or anything silly like that. It was more focused on improving your skills and giving you comfort in times to distress. I liked the idea that they put out saying that after death, you could be reincarnated. (I have a very, very serious fear of dying, particularly dying at an old age)
I was pretty content with this religion and stuck by it for about several months. I actually felt like someone was there for me when I was knocked down, but recently, I feel like there's nothing there and I even thought about converting back to Christianity, but I immediately remembered what it was like before, so I shook the thought away. Religion is just really complicated for me and I don't know if maybe I should just lose faith in any religion altogether or if I should stick with the one that made me feel more comfortable, or what... Anyone know what I should do? (link)
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The truth is, no higher spiritual being is going to contact you the way you'd like.
I can only speak for Christianity in this sense though. I, too, went through a phase where I was mad because God would not "send me a sign" of His truth. I wanted Him to do anything, something. I prayed and would request for His voice or for something like the curtains to move on their own so I knew somebody out there was listening to me after all.
It never happened.
And the truth is that it never will.
Years later I've restored my faith in God and now understand why those things don't happen. It's because your prayers are only that. If you don't truly believe in God then you shouldn't need the curtains to move. God's presence is all around us in everything that we do. He proves himself every day. If the curtains were to move then it likely wouldn't suddenly make us true believers anyway. We might end up saying, "Oh, that was the wind though!" and keep making meaningless requests.
In addition, God is all-knowing. He is all-powerful. He knows what is right and wrong. He knows what should happen in your life. He knows your struggles. He knows what you'd LIKE to happen compared to what NEEDS to happen to get you to where you should be going. In the end, your prayers are requests. They aren't demands. They aren't commands. You cannot manipulate God into doing something you want Him to do just because you want it done. He knows what is best for you.
There are miracles that happen every day that prove God's existence. You can choose to see them or to ignore them. Just recently I saw God work in front of my eyes.
Our local Schwan's guy comes through every two weeks and stops at the house to allow us to order. He told me he might not be here in two weeks because of his brother. His brother was found to have a severe blockage in his heart that was going to kill him if he didn't have surgery as soon as possible. When they found the blockage they also found some masses in his lungs that they believed to be cancerous lesions. He never did take care of himself so well. He smokes heavily, is overweight, and use to drink a lot of alcohol. Everyone in the family was pretty sure that this might mean the end of the guy if the cancer part was found to be true.
A week and a half later I ran into the Schwan's guy in the grocery store. I stopped him and asked about his brother. He said his family had prayed night and day for a miracle to happen. He said he knew his brother had done some really bad things and not taken care of him but they prayed God would spare him and restore health.
The doctor's did another scan over in preparation to the surgery.
The blockage in the heart was gone.
The masses in lungs were gone.
They checked things out thoroughly. There were no signs of these things. None. The doctors were amazed. They hadn't done anything to heal such things--not that there was anything they could do but surgery on the heart and biopsies on the lung tissue.
So, the brother was completely healed out of the blue. God, for whatever reason He saw, decided that it wasn't time for the brother to go through this sort of hurdle or lose his life. Maybe He saw that the brother could clean himself up and become a better person. What do we know, right?
There was a program on television I watched once. It was just a one-episode type deal. There was a small study done on prayer in the hospital. A Christian group and family members would pray for people that were very, very ill. The ones that received prayer (and, by the way, were not told that anyone was praying for them to get well) had a greater instance of sudden renewed health.
You can, of course, choose to believe it was something or someone other than God though.
Just saying you believe and going by what people tell you is in the Bible is not enough to keep faith. You have to open the Bible yourself to understand what God is about. You have to read the passages and do a little research for yourself from time to time. You have to take that step forward. It isn't about going to church at all, of course. It's about doing things yourself.
You think, say, a priest just listened to what other people told him about the Bible instead of opening up and reading it? Think a nun ever reads Bible passages before listening to someone on the street saying they know what the Bible really means? Sure, seek guidance when you don't quite understand--but you have to begin with yourself.
God is there when you need him. Not at your convenience. He isn't waiting on you, hand and foot. He wants the best for us but He has given us freewill. We can make our own decisions. We can make our own choices. We can create our own paths. In the end, He truly is there for us if we want Him, truly believe in Him, seek Him, love Him, and accept Him.
No matter what religious path you choose--it will all be the same in this sense. There won't be a magical being come down and have chit chats with you when you're feeling down. Nobody is going to beg you to keep believing in them when your faith is shaken. You will always go through periods where you feel uneasy or unsure. In the Christianity sense, that is when you pick up the Bible and read and then seek the guidance of an elder if you need more help.
I can relate to you on many levels. I really can.
I, too, really don't want to die. I am afraid of it. You have to ask yourself this though: Who isn't afraid of death? Even pastors are afraid of dying. Priests. Nuns. Monks. Everyone. It's human nature to be afraid of death. The reality is that it's just a part of life. We live, we do our best to try to be good beings, and if we're lucky we get to live in Heaven for the rest of eternity.
So, when you get to thinking about it, Heaven is a lot better than Earth in most ways. Why would you want a second live here on Earth if you could go to a happy, holy place and never have to die a second time? That's just my religious thought about that. That's all. You die for something good if you've lead a good life. Death is a part of life but there's no reason to have a strong fear of it if you know you've done everything you could to be a good person--because you will be rewarded for your faith then.
Most people here will probably say to believe in what you want to believe in or some other thing. The truth is, no matter what you choose to believe in, you're not going to be satisfied with just saying you believe in it. Religion isn't for you ease of mind or your convenience. The higher being is higher for a reason.
You probably won't ever pray the curtains will move by God, a goddess, the dead, or a flying spiritual monkey and have them actually move by that being. It doesn't mean they're not listening or that they're no really out there though.
There will always be trials. Your faith will always be shaken at times if you want the reward in the end. You have to be strong. You have to know where you stand. You have to keep pushing forward and believing.
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is it considered a cult, when someone is brainwashed to believe certain things. For example i use to go to church with my friend but i stopped going recently because they are being told to go out and pour into other people's lives about Jesus even if they don't know them, and that twilight and harry potter is bad because they talk about witches and vampires. My best friend believes all this and now she starts telling me i shouldn't watch this movie because they say bad things and harry potter is dumb, and one time she saw a ganesh figurine in my car and said it's bad just because it wasn't her god. i've posted a question like this before and i know it's getting old but im worried, even though there isn't much i can do. i mean all they talk about is jesus and even at birthday parties they do prayers and it's weird. not only that but they have a youth pastor and they even hang out with him, his wife, and kids. they're really young. they both went to a bible college called CFNI and a lot of my friends are going there now, and i am not sure if it's because of their influence, since a lot of them weren't raised in christian homes. so is this church a cult? i feel like it is because the pastors are making them believe all these things. so i am not sure. (link)
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Yes and no.
Christianity is not a cult in this sense because what you believe a cult is probably is something about extremist, sacrifices, and insane behavior.
In the sense of yes, it is, then you must realized that all religions would fall under the "cult" definition:
Webster's Dictionary says:
Definition of CULT
1: formal religious veneration : worship
2: a system of religious beliefs and ritual; also : its body of adherents
3: a religion regarded as unorthodox or spurious; also : its body of adherents
4: a system for the cure of disease based on dogma set forth by its promulgator
5a : great devotion to a person, idea, object, movement, or work (as a film or book); especially : such devotion regarded as a literary or intellectual fad
b : the object of such devotion
c : a usually small group of people characterized by such devotion
This site also may help when trying to decide if Christianity is a cult:
http://www.rationalchristianity.net/xian_cult.html
What she is doing is not extremist behavior at all.
If she was, say, threatening to kill non-believers then that would be extreme.
If she was, say, burning an entire library down because it contained some books about atheism then that would be extreme.
If she was, say, refusing to speak a word to ANYONE that didn't follow her religion then that would be extreme.
She has a belief system now. That's is perfectly fine. It is acceptable to "give your life" to Christ.
Your friend is, likely, not being brainwashed either. Just because YOU don't believe the same things she does not doesn't mean she's being forced or manipulated into the new beliefs.
She believes that God is good. She believes that Jesus saves. She believes that Heaven is a place you want to go.
She believes if you sin then you don't get to Heaven. Of course she wants to be on her best behavior.
It's like saying: Her parents make her go to bed at 8 every night! They're brainwashing her to believe she should do that sort of thing but last year she didn't go to be until 9! When she stays over my house she even wants to go to sleep by 8 at night.
You're overreacting to this entirely too much.
Relax.
Stop being her friend. Seriously. You can't handle it. This is too much for you to comprehend.
Prayer at birthday parties is absolutely normal. Hell, Jews have religious celebrations instead of birthday parties! Think about it. A prayer at a party is no big deal, especially compared to an entire RELIGIOUS celebration instead of a birthday celebration. Nobody goes, "Wow! Jews are extreme! It's a cult because they actually believe in their religion!"
Back away from this girl immediately. You're driving yourself insane over-thinking this. It is what it is and there REALLY is nothing wrong with this. It's like getting pissed off because your best friend suddenly says, "Hey, I was thinking about it today and my favorite color really is orange," when you think it should be red. Seriously.
She is in no danger in this situation. What you describe is perfectly normal and healthy for a Christian person.
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ok so i was just wondering if you get stopped at a road block, and the cop asks to search your car do you have the right to deny it? considering you're not drunk or anything like that but was just driving along & happened to hit a road block. i know if you get pulled over for whatever you have the right to deny it but at a road block would you be obligated to let them search?
i'm in Georgia if it helps.
thanks! (link)
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Yes and no.
While you can certainly deny the search of your car, it doesn't mean they're going to just let you drive away like it was no big deal.
The police can legally search your vehicle if they have probable cause.
This means if they THINK you might be harboring drugs in there because you seem overly anxious, nervous, smell of drugs, or whatever they want to claim then they have ever right to attempt to protect the public by searching your vehicle even if you say you don't want them to.
If you deny the search in any sense they will take you in for the night at least. They have this saying about: if you have nothing to hide then why deny? By denying a search of your vehicle you become suspicious and are presumed to be hiding something. If that couples with, say, a very nervous attitude then BOOM they have probable cause that you may be harboring something or someone you shouldn't be within that vehicle.
Many people say to always deny their request for a vehicle search. It certainly does make sense to those of us who aren't hiding anything but, rather, would like to keep our personal belongings personal. The law enforcement just doesn't quite look at it that way.
If you get stopped and they decide that they need to search your car then you are just going to have to think about this:
You already have tickets. You've already been seen as harmful to others while driving.
You were underage and possessed a substances that was illegal for you to consume.
If you deny the search then what do you think they're going to think about you? They're not going to say, "Oh, she's just a private person. Go on. You go home now. Drive safely!" No. They're going to think: She must be hiding alcohol or drugs in this vehicle since she denies us the search. They WILL take you in for the night. If they still feel the car needs to be searched then they WILL make it so that they can do it to make sure you aren't hiding something.
Your best bet is to avoid the road that roadblocks are usually performed on if at all possible. If you know that sometimes road XYZ has roadblocks and ABC hardly ever does then take road ABC from now, even if it adds an extra 5 minute to your commute. If you absolutely must go through one then turn down your music, make sure you are buckled up, and do exactly what the officer says when he asks for your license and registration. If you aren't suspicious seeming then it'll only be about a 30 second look over your car and your license before they send you on your way.
If they do ask you to pull over and request a search of your car then you just have to weigh the odds of them finding or "finding" something. There have been tale of police searches that found drugs when the person was MOST DEFINITELY not a drug user. I don't know the law enforcement of your area. I don't know how crooked they may be. I don't know if they would do something heinous like that. I can't say.
Your options are in that case:
Deny - go to jail for the night; have your vehicle searched anyway
Accept - have your vehicle searched; hope for the best outcome but prepare for the worst
As for the probable cause: they will get if they want it. Let's be honest: There will be NO way of knowing for sure if you did smell like, say, marijuana that night though. Nobody will be able to vouch if you seemed intoxicated except you and the law enforcement. The same as nobody knows what is in you car except you and whoever would be searching it. In corrupt cases (and they do exist, unfortunately) it will always be your word against someone recognized as trustworthy by the entire community and courtroom.
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ok, what are the worst possible risks you can get from sharing a drink from someone?? basically, this is stupid, but i drank from my friend's bottle at lunch, like seriously a .02 second sip. can i get anythingg at all from that? other then a cold or something.
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Believe it or not, I contracted oral herpes (HSV-1) from my mother as a child because we shared drinks and eating utensils occasionally. They SAY herpes doesn't spread like that but my mother and I never, never, EVER kissed on the lips growing up (my family things that's completely inappropriate so there wasn't even a "slip-up" time, trust me). I don't know how "rare" this case might be but I'd say it isn't as uncommon as people believe.
Yes, you can get colds, flus, and mono from sharing drinks. I'm also here to tell you that you can contract herpes, too, if the person carries that disease.
And, no, there doesn't have to be a herpes sore or lesion present for the person to be contagious. Unfortunately, the virus can spread from the lip tissue without anyone ever being able to visibly see it.
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Hi, 18/m.
I just had my first mandarin Chinese lesson yesterday. It's an evening course, and I was just wondering, how do I practice it? Of course You need alot of practice to be fluent. But I don't really know anyone else who speaks it? What would be a good way practice the language on my own?
Thanks folks :) (link)
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Practice it by using it.
Pull up some Mandarin websites online. Purchase some books (ebay? large library?) that are written in Mandarin and go through them to practice seeing the material and using it in context.
Find an epenpal that also speak Mandarin and practice through email and through Skype, if possible. Many sites offer worldwide virtual penpal exchanges.
Think of the usage when you do your normal things each day. You get a carton of milk from the refrigerator and you have the opportunity to remind yourself how to say "milk" in Mandarin. This helps you to recall this sort of thing for long-term. You get rid of that "get it and forget it" pattern that always seems to occur when you don't use something you finally obtained. Practice your knowledge by verbally saying the terms or phrases and audibly listening to those sounds.
Find a study partner. Look for someone in your area that would be interested in learning this foreign language. Maybe a friend of yours would, too, like to sign up so that you two could practice conversational skills while out and about. It could be fun.
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How do you untighten the knob of an old fashion blood pressure kit? I received one in my med class today with one of those manual pumps but unfortunately my brother was tinkering with it, and he managed to really tighten up the knob used to release the air. Any suggestions or ways to untighten it? Thanks. (link)
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I've searched around online and I'm not really finding anything that would be helpful. I'm not in the medical field either so I haven't even really had a good look at something like this to get any ideas. One place did say something about pulling it out a little bit but I'm not sure if that was for an older kit or a newer one?
If possible, ask your teacher before class one day. I'm sure he/she will really understand. I'm sure you're not the only one that something like this has happened to. It could turn out to be something broken though and that needs to be replaced. In any sense, your instructor can let you know.
If that fails then ask a nurse or a doctor about it. Not many would mind answering a quick question of a student who is studying in the medical field. You can ask at a clinic or at a hospital. Heck, if you have a regular doctor then it might even be possible to call and ask the person who answers the phone in case they know what you're talking about.
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16/f
ok so i am a fan of justin bieber. but not the point here.
in his video never let you go, the girl is wearing two watches. i am in love with the watches (figure of speech)
well i was wondering where i could get them or order it online or ones very similar.
also i love that she wore 2 different watches and i wanted peoples perspectives, doesw that look stupid or really cool? (link)
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Well, is it possible for you to capture a picture of it and then post this question with it? I went and looked at the video (watched the whole thing, I promise) and I couldn't really get a good shot of the watches to get an idea of the face shape or band design so I can't really look at some watch places for you. I apologize for not getting a better look but I couldn't seem to find a decent shot of the watch enough to really get a good eye on it.
Wearing two watches doesn't sound stupid to me, but, hey, I'm 24 and haven't been in school for awhile. I wouldn't make fun of you if I were still in school though, if that makes a difference. You usually don't see a person wear two watches because one is usually accurate enough. I have to admit though, my watch has a feature to keep track of a second time if I so desire and I have it set an hour forward to keep track of the time zone my parents are in right now. I suppose having two watches when you were keeping track of another time zone would be helpful in such things.
As a fashion statement? As long as they were cute I don't see a problem. Big, ugly, or bulky watches wouldn't be alright though, I'd think, especially since it'd probably be a bit uncomfortable.
I do suggest you browse around online and locally for some cute watches. You might find something you like a whole lot better. Hey, you might find two watches you like a whole lot better ;) and that actually go together, for the most part. I mean, some watches probably wouldn't look stupid if you were wearing them together like a big black one and a dainty gold and silver one ;)
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im a 20 year old girl and my boyfriend is 25 and we always have sex with a condom but i want to know if its neccesary for me to go for pepsmeres,womb scrabing because iv had that the oil from yhe condom sticks to the womb if yo dont clean it.. so is it true? (link)
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The lubricant from the condom is not going to build up in your uterus. That is an old myth.
You should definitely have regular pap smear exams though to make sure you don't have cancerous parts or any type of HPV that is common in the woman's reproductive organs. During this the doctor does not scrape your womb at all--he/she actually scrapes a small part of your cervix. The cervix is the fleshy thing between your vagina (birth canal) and your uterus (womb).
If you don't get your yearly check up that includes a pap smear then you're not keeping up on things. This is how people wind up finding out they have terminal cancer many times. They end up only going to the doctor when they realize something is wrong. By the time you realize something is wrong like cancer on your cervix then the cancer could be large or spreading. A regular check-up makes sure you are healthy.
You need to get a papsmear. They will scrape a little bit of your CERVIX but not your uterus. The only time a woman needs her womb scraped is if she has an abortion, miscarriage, or other serious health problems. Then the doctor might go in and remove debris, tumors, or whatever else that needs to be removed.
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