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Sin
If I have sex before marriage, even if it's with the man I love and no I will marry and spend the rest of my life with.. where would that leave me with god?
Hell?
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A lot of people believe pre-maritial sex is the only way to go, but if you truly love this man and plan to spend the rest of your life with him, I see nothing wrong with it.
In my religion, pre-maritial isn't a really big deal, we believe in it a bit, but not much. Perhaps, when praying, tell God your situation and he may see it from your point of view.
Good Luck.
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The key to that is asking for forgivness If God were to send us to hell for just that there would probally only be 23% of the world population left! Our god is a man of understanding Remember that! and always ask for forgiveness if you know you have done something wrong!
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Ok so a sin is a sin. Everyone sins. It is your choice. It's good that you are at least planning to spend the rest of your life with this guy.
You won't go to hell because of a sin. Jesus already died for our sins so we can go to heaven. The price is already paid. God won't turn His back on you. Don't believe any of that. God is always with you. It will hurt Him though, you know, say when you're a teenager and you go off and do something bad, you're parents will be upset but they still love you but they would be hurt.
So yeah, it's simple but it's your choice in the end.
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no it wouldn't lead you to Hell like that, it would be a sin though and would God might turn his back for a second or so..but i wouldn't advice you to do that unless you are married and if you truly fear God
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The biblical laws against premarital sex are complete bullshit contrived by Christianity to control people's behavior and make sex evil so that you have to go to them for absolution.
The actual rules are based on the translation of the word "Porneia", which has no real translation but comes closer to "fornication" than "premarital sex"
The bible is specific with references to sex outside of marriage. Such an action lowers the value of the virgin woman, and according to the bible the man you love will owe your father the value lost from your dowry in taking your virginity.
That's literally the only passage in the bible which directly refers to pre-marital sex that's consensual. It's also in the old testament, which the Christian faith has largely agreed is irrelevant (except when they want to cherry pick to make something evil) so the truth is that if God approves or disapproves of it you'll never know because Christians have been lying about whether or not it's a sin for almost 2000 years.
No one is going to hell. Just make sure you're both overage so no one goes to jail.
Please do not listen to peeps. All bad acts are not equal. That's a line that people came up with specifically to address the pious and loyal few.
Look at this logically, outside the frame of reference of what you've been taught all your life.
Guilt is a powerful force. Logically, if you can make people feel guilty and tell them that the only way to absolve their guilt (and the "sins" which cause the guilt) is through your church, you've got a follower for life. You also create a behavior pattern whereby the church becomes something of an aphrodisiac. Sin during the week, come to church during the weekend and give us money so you feel like you're still a worthwhile human being. That's the basic concept behind the Catholic Church at least (the sect of Christianity I was raised in)
It's nothing but a control mechanism for your behavior. So when you have someone like you, someone who probably isn't malicious and who tries to live an honest life, how do you get to them? How do you make the guilt hit home?
You take the smallest of actions they commit, you take their natural impulses like human sexuality and the desire for physical and emotional intimacy, and you create strict rules with the hanging spectre of hell to compel you to act the way they see fit.
The worst part is, this isn't really about the sex. Religion these days doesn't really care that you want to have sex and might. Religion cares that you are a part of their flock, feel like you have need of their input in your life, are willing to give them money and support, and will perpetuate their ways of thinking with your kids.
Sex is just the button they figured out can cause guilt in just about anyone.
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A sin is a sin.
All sin is equal in the eyes of God.
As humans with minds of our own, we do sin every day.
Sometimes people forget that. It's true though. If you go out and murder someone it is no greater a sin than if you stole a candy bar from your mother's purse. A sin is still a sin.
Thankfully, God gave us freewill. He gave us the ability to choose. He gave us minds that can think great thoughts and ideas. He knows sometimes we don't make the best of decisions. So, He sent us His word in the Bible.
If you pray and sincerely want forgiveness from God then you can be forgiven. Jesus died for our sins so that none of us have to go to Hell because we made a few wrong choices in life. If you sincerely are sorry, and you sincerely want to be forgiven, then you still have a chance to make it into Heaven.
Sex outside of marriage just isn't right. It goes against our societal rules set in place. It goes away Biblical scripture about fornication. Love doesn't necessarily equal marriage.
So, yes, sins will send you straight to Hell...but only if you don't want to be forgiven for them. If you pray for forgiveness and then keep doing the sin then it's pretty good odds that your prayers are not sincere.
God loves us. He doesn't want us to go to Hell. He does want us to be loyal though so that we can go to His kingdom when we pass from this Earthly world. He is forgiving though so that we always do have a chance to redeem ourselves in His eyes.
Think of it this way:
You have a wonderful house. It's the best house anyone has ever created. It's nice and spacious and you even have a world's supply of food on one floor of it. You play great music all day. Everyone who ever steps in the door is automatically joyed. Everything you would ever need to feel fulfilled is right there. Would you let your neighbor in after he murdered a child in a fit of rage? Probably not! What if he dropped to his knees in front of you and promised he'd never do that sort of thing again? You still probably wouldn't let him in.
God knows when we're being honest though. He'd let the guy into Heaven if he was truly sorry for what he had done. God knows we're just human. We're not Godly. We're not supernatural. We don't have special powers or abilities. He knows that. He also knows that we have minds about us that allow us to make emotional decisions--do we REALLY feel sorry or are we just saying it, right?
So, you can, most definitely, ask for forgiveness and change your ways. If you want to continue having sexual relations with the guy then you have a talk with him about getting married and hold off on the sex until the wedding date. Honestly, you don't have to spend hundreds or thousands of dollars to get married. Not at all. And you can always have your "dream wedding" a few years later when you DO have the money for that. In that way, you've avoided that sort of sin. Of course, at some point it would be wise to pray to God, explain you thought processes at the time, ask for forgiveness, and be truly sorry for those mistakes.
We sin every day. We do lots of things that go against God. We tell those little white lies. We take those candy bars from Mom's purse. We think about having sex with celebrities and have other, various impure thoughts. We're human though. God knows that. He gives us the opportunity to make a decision whether or not we want to ask Him for forgiveness. He lets us make that decision. It's up to us. If we don't want His forgiveness then we can choose that path.
Sin sends us to Hell. Yes. There is time to pray though. You can pray in your last hours and ask for forgiveness and God will still listen to those prayers. We have every opportunity to say, "I am sorry!" It's up to us to decide when--or if--we want to do that.
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