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Is it okay to date my friends ex?
I've known this kid since 5th grade and i used to have a huge crush on him. But now we're in 11th grade and we actually hang out, he lives a few blocks away and he walks to meet me all the time. I slept at my friends house one night and slept in his arms, I always sit on his lap even though theres an open seat next to us, and sometimes we'll hold hands across intersections (like we're 5 years old, but its cute :) lol) The night i fell asleep in his arms, we talked for 6 1/2 hours straight about anything, and we weren't even bored. Our conversations were always interesting, and we dont even have to be kissing or anything, we can just hang out, cause we havent even kissed yet.
He recently told one of my good friends that he likes me, and he wanted him to ask me if i liked him too. I do, kind of. But the only thing holding me back is one of my really good friends. She's dated him on and off for a few years and they finally officially broke up a month or two ago. She's really broken up about it and still really likes him, but he couldn't care less, cause that's just how he is (and i understand that cause im similar to him in that way). I feel really bad that he likes me, and i kinda like him back, because of my good friend. I dont want to hurt her feelings cause she's always sooo nice. But that's what he didnt like about her. She was too nice. I don't know what to do. I'm starting to really like him, and get over my ex boyfriend, but i just dont want to hurt my friend.
does anyone know what i should do?
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I totally agree with the person below. You should talk to your friend about this. Make sure she is totally ok about the two of you. If she's not then what do you care about more? Friendship or this guy? I'm hoping you're friends but it is your choice. But think about it for a good while that what you are choosing to do is for the best. You don't want to lose a friend over a guy do you?
I would just talk to her and see how that goes. Good luck!
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You need to ask your friend if you could date him.
One of my friends dated my ex and needless to say, we are no longer friends because he was going out on dates with her while me and him were talking about getting back together. I didn't like it so I stopped talking to both of them. And she didn't even ask if she could date him. The funny thing was, after about a week of them "dating" she said to everyone that she wanted to have sex with him. And that's when I knew that he was only after her for the sex because I never gave it to him. She gave up her virginity in about a week or so where I didn't even give mine up after 6-7 months of dating him. :D
Buaha, anyways. So if you want your friendship to still be good between you and your friend, you'll ask her if she minds you dating him. If she says no, then wait for her to get over him.
But, always remember the number one girl rule: A Friend Should Not Date a Friend's Ex. & if you do it behind her back, she'll hate you forever. Just like my friend did to me.
Good luck and if you need anyother help, just ask. :)
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