Q: My ex broke up with me 3 months ago...pretty long story, basically he broke up with me as he had a feeling I was gonna break up with him (true to some extent, I was crazily stressed with work & didn't think it was fair for him to deal with me like that) OK so I realize that was a mistake. any way he's tried staying friends with me but I have refused...all or nothing. I told him I want to get back together but he said he's not sure what to do. he's been saying this for 3 months now!

when we first broke up he didn't do much, but ever since I told him I went to clubs a lot, I've met new guys, he turned crazy and he's honestly out every night! more to the point, after I told him id gone a date with a guy, he started seeing this girl, took her on a date and stuff. thing is he doesn't know I know this (im friends with his friends) I know they text and stuff and it does really hurt because I'm only going on dates, not seeing anyone. any way a week ago he text me saying he loved me still, missed me, can't get over me, but he's still unsure what to do with us. at first I thought maybe he's doing this cos he's finished with this girl, but his friends said he still sees her! why is he still talking to me if he's got this other girl?!?

Q: I will just give you a run down of our relationship, and then a pros and con list otherwise ill go on for hours.
we are 20, have a 5 month old daughter and she is gorgeous. we have been together for three years. When we got together, he was a rebound..after one year we were living together. we were pregnant at 2 years. and now living at my mothers (and hating it)
pros-
he is my daughters father. hes gorgeous. i do love him. he is very talented and could go far. he cooks for me. he loves me. he is very faithful. has a great personality sometimes.

cons-
i have not been single since i was 14. he never tells me im beautiful, i am beginning to think he is not attracted to me because of the baby weight. (im only 115 pounds tho...but its 10 more than i used to be) when he is sleeping, he has a terrible personality and is known to hurt me emotionally and physically (i.e. throwing me at dressers, hitting me bc i am trying ot get him up for once). he has a terrible work ethic and has not been employed in 3 months. he hates my family. he is not the least bit greatful for what my mom is doing for us. i hate his family. his mom is a super cunt and he thinks so too. i wonder if he drinks to much. i dont feel like the princess i used to. he spends all of our money on frivelous things. he is taking on my precious mommy role, my daughter is now comforted by him and all that easier than by me. he does not let me have a say in how we will raise her. i am able to take her to work with me, i usually do because if i leave her home he just makes her stay in her crib and sleep until he is out of bed around 12-2 in the afternoon. alot of the time we dont get along. he is extremely lazy. extremely controlling. i basically get no life. he is the desicion maker even though I provide the shelter, car, and money.

but he IS my daughter father. and I also could not handle him having another girl....one who is actually willing to spend all her money on cid and trippy concerts and who is down to earth and just the perfect girl fir him. this thought rattles my brain and terrifies me to death....
on the other hand...a life in an apartment with just me and my baby girl sounds like heaven...i could afford to move out if it werent for him...

Q: 12, almost 13/a girl
Today my class was going to the school's library. I guy I have a huge crush on was WAY behind me in the line, like I was the first one & he was the last one, and while I was talking 2 my friend, he pops up out of nowhere right next 2 me & stays there till we got 2 the library. He kept brushing up next 2 me & touching my shoulder. Are those clues if a guy likes you?
Thanks 2 every 1 who answers!

Q: If I have sex before marriage, even if it's with the man I love and no I will marry and spend the rest of my life with.. where would that leave me with god?
Hell?

Q: I am a smoker of 40 cigarettes a day. I am addicted and wondered how long it will be before smoking kills me

Q: okay so ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and i always think about sex but im scared that if i lose my virginity before marriage then i will go to hell.. is that true? btw im roman catholic

Q: 18 female

Ok so i have this guy friend that i have become rather close with lately, sure enough i backed off cause he has a girlfriend of whom he's been with for 5 years. Then he tells me that they broke up and now he's extremely distraught and suicidal. I cant imagine what he's going through because i have never been in a relationship myself. He then told me that his now ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend, as soon as they broke up. Now he's even more upset. To top it all off the new guy is being ridiculously mean to him etc etc. He told me that he doesnt want things to work out with her, that its done but he's still fragile.
I dont know what to say or do to try and help him...or whether i should back down till hes ok again. i dont know help?

Q: my boyfriend fell in love with a girl that was my best friend and he also likes a girl in school. Both girl are in the same class with him and im get angry when he talks about them when he's with me. What can i do to make our relationship be better? Im 16 years old, female

Q: I think my bf only love me necause I buy him stuff. He never get me anything and he never say sweet things to me. Should I stay with him or not.P lease write back soon. Therese

Q: iv tried to kill myself loads of times( 12ish) but its always hurt too much. does anyone know a really quick and preferably painless way of killing yourself? or a way to stop being so depressed?
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Q: 18/f

i really need advice/support/someone to talk to..

i really feel like my life is getting out of control. i hate who i've become. i used to be this really nice shy girl who cares about everybody's feelings and i was just overall a nice person. a lot of people liked me because i was so nice. but now i just feel like i'm losing control of my life. i'm not influence with drugs or alcohol. (i'm not that stupid) but i feel like lately i've been so unfair and un-loyal to people. i've lost about 20 people in my life. they walked out of my life because they said i was too much drama and they couldn't handle me in their lives and they were better off without me there.

the first few times people left me were hard.. i didnt know what i did wrong and i was devastated. but then after about 10-15 people left i got used to it and realized they were being stupid. but then something major happened this past week.. my ex boyfriend wanted to get back with me (while i was still with my current bf) and a huge drama fest broke out. they fought over me and made me pick in between them. for a few days i kept switching my mind and i know that was a bad mistake. finally today i made my decision to stick with my current bf. my ex was devastated and started to tell me that karma will kick my ass one day and that i'm a hurtful person. he said i dragged his heart and ran over it with a tank. that made me cry and i realized that its not just a coincidence.. so many people have walked out on my life and i realize its all because of me and how i treated them. my boyfriends friends hate me because they heard how unfair i was treating my bf (by comparing him to my ex and not deciding who i wanted). my bff told me that i was a horrible person because i treat people badly and dont think about how others feel. and just so many other things happened in my life that makes me realize how horrible i am.. like for example- i lost a good girl friend because i thought she was just using me and didnt really care about me. another time i lost a guy friend because i told him i really cared about him but he wanted more and it just fell apart because we wanted different things.

my parents tell me i'm such a good kid but i honestly dont see how they and other friends can look at me and think i'm a great person... i admit it- i treat people like crap. i'm unfair towards people and say things i dont really mean. i've been crying for the past 2 hours because i feel like i'm literally losing control of my life. i wish i could just start everything over and forget about all of my mistakes.

i just really need advice on what to do. i've tried talking to close people about how i feel but they keep getting mad at me because i "dont realize how important i am" but i honestly dont think i'm that important. i feel like if i was gone tomorrow, nothing would change in life. yeah my parents would be sad (which is why i promised myself i wouldn't commit suicide) but i feel like all of my other friends wouldnt even notice me gone.. they would probably be happy to have me gone because i cause so much drama. but the thing is.. i dont purposely try to cause drama... it just happens...

another thing- sometimes i realize that i cause drama, and i back off. i try to fix it by backing off and just letting things happen naturally. but everytime i do that i get b*tched at by other people because i'm not "giving effort in life". its like- if i try in life, everything just gets worse. but if i dont try- people think i'm lazy and dont care.

i really dont know what to do anymore.. i'm losing control of my life and i'm hurting people that mean so much to me (unintentionally). how do i get back on track and just start over? or make myself feel better? just please... any type of advice? i know this is probably very long and you might feel annoyed and not want to answer.. but even if its just a small answer, i will be grateful for anyone who is listening right now.. i'm just so upset with my life and i want to change but everytime i try to change, it just gets worse. please help :(

Q: i screwed up a really good friendship with one of my guy friends..

i'm not going into detail about it but basically i lost his trust and he wants to forget about me. i really really REALLY care about him and i tell him that but he doesnt believe me. he said if i want to earn his trust back, i have to prove that i care about him.

i'm not really sure how to do that. does anybody have any ideas or advice on how i can get him back and how he can trust me. i care so much about him and it hurts me to lose him. i hurt him pretty badly and i regret it. i say i'm sorry but he says its not enough. help!

Q: I'm a full time student right now, and I need to find a decent paying job. I've been working since I was 15, so I have plenty to put on a resume. I don't want to compete for minimum wage jobs with every other college student, so I am willing to go through a certification process as long as it doesn't cost a lot. Any ideas on what I can do?

Q: so i accidently deleted my recycle bin on my computer. my computer is a vista. how do i get it back? thanks!

Q: ok to start off im 14 and my gf is 13.shes my first girlfreind and im her first boyfreind.so i can sorta get y she i shy when it comes to saying i love you and other couple stuff but we have been dating 4 three months and we havent held hands,kissed, or even hugged but we have said i love you but she gets sorta uncertain about sayin but says it and means it.i just wanna get her out of her shell and dont get me wrong im pretty shy too but im trying to do these things but just havent been able to though but we still have a really good relationship i just want to take it to the next level so please help me any way you can

Q: my boyfriend is 21. he has this greattt friend who is 23. this is in florida. the friend is going to jail either this month or next for violating probation. well one day recently the friend asked my boyfriend to borrow his truck to go to the store, and my boyfriend agreed. while at the store, the friend stole something and was caught by surveilance and taken to jail, then released. this morning detectives showed up at my boyfriends door and took him in for questioning because this awesome friend of his told police that my boyfriend knew about the whole thing and was a part of it, and it was his truck, when really my boyfriend had nothing to do with it, was not there, and had no idea his friend was going to steal something. he's waiting for a call about their court date thats supposed to be within the next two weeks, and im worried for him. it'll basically be his word against the friend i guess, but can they charge him for anything since he wasn't with the friend when he was stealing and knew nothing about the whole ordeal? he has a suspended license right now for not paying off tickets, but other than that has not been in trouble with the law. any idea what could happed? i dont want him to go to jail and/or get charged for something he didn't do.

Q: 16/f

Alright, first off I have to say I feel stupid for doing this, but strangers do give the best advice because they aren't really biased.

Alright, so I told my best guy friend that I liked him (Which was really awkward because the day before he told me he wanted to go out with my best friend). He didn't exactly reject me, but he didn't exactly accept that either.

So fast forward a couple of weeks and he mentions to me he started talking to my cousin quite a bit. Three days later he's dating my cousin. Not to be rude (and it's not because she's dating him) she's kinda a whore and doesn't seem like the type he'd be into at all.

So after this happened I decided to get over it. It's been half a month and I'm nowhere near moving on. Every freaking time I log into Facebook, or hang out with my friends I see/hear something about their relationship and it's like 'Stabby stab stab stab!'.

I don't get it. He and I have been friends for over a year, I've known him for about four years because our older sisters are friends. We've never been more than friends, so why can't I just get over it? Yes, I care for him. Who wouldn't care for their friends?

I'm just confused I suppose. He's not the hottest guy in school, far from it actually. He's not what I'm usually attracted to. I love his personallity though, and he's really quirky. It's something I love about him. He's not afraid to act weird or crazy because that's who he is.

I don't know. I don't even know what my question really is. I just need advice.

Q: Me and my best friend are both 15, and basically a couple of weeks ago we kind of just gave into each other. We have kinda liked each other for years just never done anything about it. He took my virginity and I took his, but the condom broke. I took a test 3 times and it came back positive all 3 times. I know I have to tell him

but I don't know how. :( I know he will stick by me.

How should I tell him I'm pregnant?

I'll be seeing him tommorow to study, and want to tell him then, but don't know how to bring up the conversation.
Help??

Q: how do i get over my ex boyfriend? i dont want to date him again, but i always think about him. i am fifteen and a girl.

Q: I am a graduating high school student. During my elementary, I graduated as a valedictorian. that is why My parents are expecting me to do good in school and get good grades. Now, I got a grade of 77 in calculus and if they'll learn about it, they would surely be mad at me. I don't know what to do. I love my parents and I did my best but I'm not really good in math. I could not let them down... Please give me advice on what to do/say and perhaps some good study habits in Math because I think it might help.

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