ask slc



read advice get advice make favorite read feedback advicenators




Member Since: November 6, 2010
Answers: 7
Last Update: November 12, 2010
Visitors: 1197


ok to start off im 14 and my gf is 13.shes my first girlfreind and im her first boyfreind.so i can sorta get y she i shy when it comes to saying i love you and other couple stuff but we have been dating 4 three months and we havent held hands,kissed, or even hugged but we have said i love you but she gets sorta uncertain about sayin but says it and means it.i just wanna get her out of her shell and dont get me wrong im pretty shy too but im trying to do these things but just havent been able to though but we still have a really good relationship i just want to take it to the next level so please help me any way you can (link)
You can simply ask her if it would be ok w/ her if you held her hand or gave her a kiss on the cheek. This will show her that you respect her feelings and that you are looking to take those next steps as long as she is comfortable with it. Good Luck!


ok like i wanna hold hands and kiss my girlfreind or hug her you know.but im not sure how to make the first move so i could use some advice (link)
Sometimes, if you are having trouble reading signals from her, it is okay to just ask her if she would let you/ like to hold your hand. This will show her that you have respect for her and her comfort levels with taking these first steps in your relationship. Good night kisses ( on the cheek, to start) are always a good first kiss also. People sometimes expect a g-nite kiss after a nice date or evening together. Make sure you do something nice for her (flowers, dinner etc.) to help make it a memorable moment. Still, I think it is perfectly acceptable for you to just simply ask permission and show her that you want to make sure she is comfortable taking these steps.


Im doing this project for school where we have to find song lyircs that pertains to the character we were given from the book were reading, which is To Kill a Mockingbird. My character is boo radley and Im trying to find a song about being misunderstood, but im having trouble. Any advice? (link)
There is a great song originally recorded by The Animals ( there is a recent version by Lil Wayne) called "Don't Let me be Misunderstood" The chorus says "I'm just a boy whose intentions are good, oh Lord please don't let me be misunderstood." Check it out on Lyrics.com. I think it may work for you. Also, if you go on Lyrics.com, you might be able to look for other songs with the word misunderstood in the lyrics. I have not read T.K.A.M. in many years, but if I remember Boo Radley's character correctly, the above mentioned song would be ideal. Good luck. By the way, sounds like you have a pretty cool teacher. This is an awesome idea for a report instead of your traditional book report.


For some reason I always get these little crushes on guys younger than I am. It hurts me to know that it'll never work out. I'm 18 anyway so it's kind of illegal anyway. I'm not going to date any of them but does any one have a reason why I might like the younger guys?

I also think it may because I'm always told I'm pretty and beautiful but that's it and it never goes any further. My two best friends both have bobyfriends and both go out on double dates together all the time. Makes me feel left out when they do that. We do hang out together other times but it still hurts that they go out on double dates and can't invite me because I'm always single.

I'm very outgoing. I'm fun. I love to party and act silly. I'm in college, but I hate it. I don't talk to anyone and nobody really looks like the care to talk to me.

I just don't understand why I go for the younger guys all the time. Then, I end up getting upset about it. (link)
Try not to focus so hard on what your friends are doing as far as dating goes. It stinks to feel left out but, your time will come. You may like younger guys because, as another answer indicated, they are silly and fun and so are you. There are however, silly and fun guys your age, and you will find one when the time is right. I know you said you are not social, but maybe you could join a club or a group that focuses on an interest of yours. Then you will automatically have something in common with a guy in that group from the start.good luck and don't rush it or look for it. When you are not looking, that is usually when the right guy just falls into your lap!(hopefully not literally..lol)


I have been married a little over a year. I didnt know my husband very long before we got married but I loved him I know I did and I still do but he wont work, he doesnt help with house work unless i beg him to please help me. He complains when i go to work and has to stay home with our daughter. I have a 3 year old son who isnt is. But my son knows him as his father. It just seems like he is constantly yelling at him. Hes spanked him before and left a big hang print but he doesnt touch him now since i yelled about it and made him apoligize. We have been arguing a lot. We have our good days and our bad but it seems to just get worse. Weve has fights were hes taken a part off my car so i couldnt leave but he told me to get the F out. I love him and care about him I just dont know what to do. I am looking for support and advice and your opinion please and thank you (link)
There is no excuse for his behavior no matter how bad he feels about himself. I was in a similar situation and got out asap. Nobody should be hitting a child and leaving a handprint, biological parent or not. This type of behavior typically escalates and your son deserves better as do your daughter and yourself. You are supporting your family already and can continue to do so without him. There is daycare assistance in every state if you can't afford it. You also don't want your children growing up seeing this. Think about how you would feel if, when she grew up, your daughter ended up with a man like your husband. Or if your son treated his wife in this manner. Children grow to live what they've seen. I would get out asap. Best of luck to you and I know you love him but hopefully you love yourself and your children as much or more and will find a way out of this.


is it possibale for girls to fart thourgh thier pussys? (link)
The technical name for this is called a queef (sic) and it might be embarassing but completely natural. There is no smell, just a noise and like the other person who answered said, it is caused by excess air getting trapped during intercourse. It usually makes the farting noise after he has pulled out. I 've had this happen a lot with only one partner, my current bf of 4 years, and I can't help but wonder if it because he is larger than normal as it never happened to me before. A good guy will not be grossed out by this and you guys can even get a good laugh out of it.


so , I met this guy , and so we hanged out and everything , but then... he talked to me about sex... like he said he wanted to get me comfortable for a week and then have sex on the end of that following week and then I told him , oh well you know I can't have it that fast, so then he went on about like if I came over later he'd have my top off , and he another time said oh I shaved for you bla bla... and then I got sick of it and I told him and he was all insulted and he said well that's not why im talking to you , I really want you , and I want to love you. And he told me the way he was going to ask me out was by a song and dance? should I buy it? and he barely talks to me anymore and I Said I wanted to go to the movies hes like no not going to the movies till we have a stable relationship... now we barely talk...

what do I do leave it? (link)
No matter how cute or convincing this guy is or seems to be, it is obvious he is only after sex. Give it to him and you will most likely never see him again. You were smart enough to not do it as he requested and so I'm hoping you are smart enough to move on from him and look for someone who understands that the way to develop a stable relationship IS by going to movies, dinner etc., and getting to know a person, NOT by having sex. You deserve much better. Good luck and glad you were bright enough to not give in. Btw, how old r u?




read advice get advice make favorite read feedback advicenators

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>

eXTReMe Tracker