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Boys, Whores, and Heart Fails
16/f
Alright, first off I have to say I feel stupid for doing this, but strangers do give the best advice because they aren't really biased.
Alright, so I told my best guy friend that I liked him (Which was really awkward because the day before he told me he wanted to go out with my best friend). He didn't exactly reject me, but he didn't exactly accept that either.
So fast forward a couple of weeks and he mentions to me he started talking to my cousin quite a bit. Three days later he's dating my cousin. Not to be rude (and it's not because she's dating him) she's kinda a whore and doesn't seem like the type he'd be into at all.
So after this happened I decided to get over it. It's been half a month and I'm nowhere near moving on. Every freaking time I log into Facebook, or hang out with my friends I see/hear something about their relationship and it's like 'Stabby stab stab stab!'.
I don't get it. He and I have been friends for over a year, I've known him for about four years because our older sisters are friends. We've never been more than friends, so why can't I just get over it? Yes, I care for him. Who wouldn't care for their friends?
I'm just confused I suppose. He's not the hottest guy in school, far from it actually. He's not what I'm usually attracted to. I love his personallity though, and he's really quirky. It's something I love about him. He's not afraid to act weird or crazy because that's who he is.
I don't know. I don't even know what my question really is. I just need advice.
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Well, that's a difficult situation! Does your cousin know how you feel? Friends are very likely people to develop crushes on as you care alot about them, they are always there for you and are like your second family (although not in this case, cause that would be weird)
I'm not really sure if there is anything for you to do. If he is happy with your cousin and she is happy with him, they should be together.
If you could find someone else you TRULY like (not just stringing them along) and concentrate on your relationship with them, it may help the pain of your cousin and friend's relationship.
If you have no one else you like, I guess time will have to heal the pain. If you want to continue being friends with him, try and take a break for a few weeks.
Good Luck :)
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its easy to fall for a friend but sometimes friend actually means friend nothing more. sometimes you think you like someone cause you been friends for along time but actually you dont want them to date other people cause your affraid the friendship wont be the same or you will lose them. this guy doesnt like you from how it sounds so you need to be his friend and move on
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as much as his personality might be great and everything you have to remind yourself that he knows you like him and before that he wanted to go out w/your best friend and now that he knows that you like him he is going out w/your cousin to me he seems like a jerk and not even worth your time you said it yourself he not your type. He is your best friend you never had feelings about him ever and now you do which is understandable considering that ususlly happens there is only two things i could think of that could be a possible explanation
1) He is not into you
2) He is into you
to figure them out stop talking to him for awhile they say the heart grows founder when apart . Good Luck hope everything goes well
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The hardest relationships to get over are the ones that never actually happen.
The romances you have that never exist anyone outside the fantasies in your own head, will always be the most difficult to get past, because in your head they were perfect.
All I'm trying to say is, as baffling as it might seem to you, it's perfectly understandable and normal for you to be struggling a lot with this thing-that-never-quite-happened.
There is no quick fix, but the first thing you do is remove yourself from the reminders as best as you can. Ignore them on Facebook for a while. Change the conversation topic if you can. The second thing is remind yourself why this is affecting you so much: It’s affecting you because it never went far enough for you get over the initial stage of liking someone. You got stuck in crush mode, but without a solid rejection or messy breakup, it’s harder to move past.
Two weeks really isn't very long. Three weeks tends to be the absolute minimum amount of time to get past something upsetting. If you are still obsessing after Christmas, then it’s time to worry. Right now, it’s just time to let yourself feel what you are feeling.
Let yourself be confused. It’s okay to not get it. Stop trying to make it all make sense and justify and explain the unexplainable. It’s likely to pass faster if you stop fighting it, give yourself permission to be upset and disappointed, and let it work its way out of out your mind.
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