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I don't know if I should date this guy! Mixed information?
I'm in high school and there's this guy who I've been thinking of seriously going out with and stuff, and he's only ever been incredibly nice and sweet to me. He's been a total gentleman and has treated me really well(: However, every person has told me he's a 'total manwhore' and that I shouldn't go out with him or anything. Now, I did mention this to him and he said that everyone says that because he's really friendly and has a lot of friends - which is true, and that doesn't bother me.
I just don't know if I should really go through with this because what if everyone else is right and he just totally plays me? But he's only ever been absolutely amazing with me, so I've never experienced anything else with him! Can I just have some advice on what you think? i just like to have other opinions. Thanks!
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this kinda happened to me but it ended bad.. i used to like this guy and he was really nice but people told me that all he wanted was to get in my pants. so i basically played hard to get. he kept wanting my number but i kept stalling and didnt give it to him. he went nuts. he told me he's never had to work to get a girl before and that i was the first girl who made it difficult for him. he kept asking me on dates but i pretended to be busy that day and once in a while id go out but whenever he tried to make a move i would subtly deny him and laugh and smile (this lets him know that you are playing hard to get, not just completely denying him) he talked to my bff and told her that i was something special. he's never met a girl like me before and was intrigued by me. he was curious and interested.
then after there it just went downhill because i liked another guy so him and i dated and the other dude just felt bad and ended up dating another girl
but my point here is to play hard to get. make it a challenge for him. make him WORK for you. let him know its not easy (but dont make it too hard that he gives up). if he is truely interested, he will keep fighting for you. if he just wants action, he'll give up within a few days.
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i'd say if want him, and you also want to play it safe, be a challenge. have him take you out but come with money to pay for yourself. tell him you arent ready to put yourself completely out there just yet. be a conservative kisser. reward nights that he maintains self-control, (i.e. not reaching anywhere inappropriate or not going in for the kiss) with kisses. let him know when he's gaining points. the more he has to work for you, the less likely he is to cheat. just dont over extend the progress. remember first date no kiss, arm around you is fine but take it slow.
i am 90% sure this will work because my last girlfriend had me tied around her finger with this method. use this knowledge well
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Rumors are Rumors try to find a reliable source you cant always judge someone on rumors and even if he is a manwhore maybe he is different with you. you never know. everyone was once someone and it was either they changed or stayed the same. Try asking him about it again and see if you get a better answer than the one he gave before. in the end its up to you to take the chance or not. What is life without risks is my model. Even if you get your heartbroken their is always a hot doctor to fix it back up. Good Luck!!
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Ask your friends for the ssource of their information - hearsy? observation? personal experience? or, simply rumor? Hopw do they know he's a "manwhore"? If they can't tell you how they know, chances are they don't know.
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If you really like him go out with him. You don't have to be exclusive right away. Go out and see if you like him. Just use caution and be aware (as you are) that rumors could be true.
If you think about it, its what we should do with any relationship. Most people jump right in not even thinking about it. Rumors aren't always true. If you like him. Go out with him and find out for yourself. Take a risk.
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We always know what to do; we always have the answer deep down in our hearts. To advise you, analyse the situation, the ‘now and, the after’ effects. To tell you the truth, people might be right about this young man, however, people change...who knows, you might be the reason for him to change.
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