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Hey 19/f so i hooked up with this guy i went to high school with. and well like maybe 5 months ago i started talking to him because on facebook i kept adding and deleting him because i couldn't decided whether or not to keep him as a friend. well anyways he messaged me and said text me and gave me his number so im so stupid i texted him just to see what he wanted. well anyways he would keep asking me to hangout with him and i know that means hookup because he's asked me. and i kept replying saying no. but i finally quit replying like a few weeks ago he won't stop texting me. yesterday he called me and my dad asked who it was and i knew his number so i said i don't know and my dad said give it to me and i said no its okay. i mean i called at&t and they won't block his number unless i pay $4.99 to block up to 15 numbers, but my dad pays the bill. so i don't what to do. this guy texted me a few days ago, called me yesterday, and he's texted me a bunch of other times the last few weeks. i deleted his texts. it's annoying and i know i shouldn't have given him my number, but still. what should i do? i mean he doesn't call/text me like every second of the day, its just he texts me like every few days or sometimes like once a week and then again the next. so yeah idk what to do! help! (link)
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sorry to be the barrer of bad news, but if he hasn't gotten the hint at this point, he's not going. this kind of presistance has a name; harrassment. but its not harrassment unless you tell him to leave you alone. send him a text saying your not intrested and that if he keeps trying to contact you, you'll call the cops. this should stop him cold. but if for some reason he persists, CALL THE COPS!! this kind of behavior can lead to stalking and so much more that you probably dont even realize if you let him continue. hope this helps and let me know the outcome.
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I'm in high school and there's this guy who I've been thinking of seriously going out with and stuff, and he's only ever been incredibly nice and sweet to me. He's been a total gentleman and has treated me really well(: However, every person has told me he's a 'total manwhore' and that I shouldn't go out with him or anything. Now, I did mention this to him and he said that everyone says that because he's really friendly and has a lot of friends - which is true, and that doesn't bother me.
I just don't know if I should really go through with this because what if everyone else is right and he just totally plays me? But he's only ever been absolutely amazing with me, so I've never experienced anything else with him! Can I just have some advice on what you think? i just like to have other opinions. Thanks!
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i'd say if want him, and you also want to play it safe, be a challenge. have him take you out but come with money to pay for yourself. tell him you arent ready to put yourself completely out there just yet. be a conservative kisser. reward nights that he maintains self-control, (i.e. not reaching anywhere inappropriate or not going in for the kiss) with kisses. let him know when he's gaining points. the more he has to work for you, the less likely he is to cheat. just dont over extend the progress. remember first date no kiss, arm around you is fine but take it slow.
i am 90% sure this will work because my last girlfriend had me tied around her finger with this method. use this knowledge well
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Okay so im 16 bisexual girl
I have a boyfriend and a girlfriend. well my question is should I brake up with my girlfriend because one we arent how we use to be before I started dateing this amazing guy. I mean dont get me wrong I love them both but I love him more. plus my girlfriend has a boyfriend that I know has a past and every time i try to to talk to her he either pulls her away or she defends him. she doesnt have a problem with my boyfriend but I have a problem with hers and I cant be with someone who doesnt listen to my advice because im usally right. this guy has cheated and lied he's no good for her I care deeply for her but when she doesnt listen it makes me debate our relationship. I've been with her for 5months he's been with her for a week and he's stealing her from me. what should I do? (link)
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first off you cant be a dictator. by the that im refering to the 'im usually right' comment. if things were switched aroud and she told u to break up with your boyfriend because she doesnt like him so you should break up with him because she's usually right, would you? of course not.
what would it take for you to start liking her more than your boyfriend? i cant tell you exactly what will work but attacking her boyfriend wont. put yourself in her shoes.
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Every year just seems to get worse and worse, ever since 7th grade. That's when I started having problems with procrastination. Before that, it took me longer than normal to do work, too. I'd spend hours doing homework that would take others less than an hour. Now I'm 16 in 11th grade and this is the worst year yet. I am failing 6 out of 8 classes.. and I have so much make up work to do that I'm not even sure my teachers will accept but I have to do it anyways.. I don't know how I got myself in this situation. I had summer reading, but I put it off til last minute. My teacher said that only me and 1 other person in all of her classes didn't hand in a summer reading project. In 10th grade I had major issues like that until I moved to this new school, but now I'm just repeating those problems but at a worse scale. I feel mad at myself everyday cause I can only blame myself.. but I just wish people would take notice and try to help somehow.. thats the only thing that frustrates me though its pretty selfish I guess. my older sister has depression so my parents focus most of their time with her and im just afraid to tell people my problems because nobody really helps.. my parents and gudiance counselor just scold me and I just feel worse. I want to go to a good college and get a great job I know I can get because other than my laziness Im a very good student when I try. Its a bad combination, but I'm also a huge perfectionist. I guess its part of the reason it takes me so long to do homework. but when i really apply myself I get a lot of 100s. but the key to getting As is HARD WORK not BRAINS. and i dont feel very smart when im getting myself in this situation. every day its just worse and worse and i dont want to go to school but ive already skipped school 5 times this marking period trying to finish my work (which i could never focus to do on those days) and i cant miss anymore days of the semester unexcused or my parents could get in trouble. my parents were really pissed about it too. but each day i just get more hw added to the neverending pile of work. i have work from the beginning of the 1st marking period in most classes, thats how bad it is. why am i just letting this happen? because of this it really pissed off and let down my volleyball coaches, teachers, parents, etc. ive become really reserved and etc and thats not how i was last year when i first came to the school and got high As in everything. i just dont have any confidence when im doing so bad in school. like today in english class i couldnt even think of how to respond to a topic.. we had to write a personal narrative about how a secret has impacted our life. i spent over 1 hour trying to think of something.. but I just couldnt come up with anything. I asked my teacher for extra time at the end to finish, but he said he wont accept it because I wrote nothing, and he knows my previous record of not doing work. i went to the next class in tears. and i cant really get mad at him because im the one whos messing up, not him. dammit this is my junior year why cant i get a hold of myself? when i come home its almost impossible to not go on sites like yahooanswers, youtube, and forums to try and get rid of the pressure i felt from school. but then i end up going online for several hours and then im too tired for work and then the cycle of not getting work done just continues. the last time i actually completed homework at home was about 2 weeks ago. thats how bad my situation is. i was dropped down from 2 college classes and ugh everything is just horrible. im saying this here because i dont have anyone to talk to. ive never really had close friends in my life... the whole friendship thing is really foreign to me.. god it sounds so lame but its true. almost all the friends ive had in life have just been " school friends". and id be nice to them and try to invite people to things rarely (because the idea of inviting people for things seems awkward.. im not used to being a host at all) but i'd almost never get invited by them for stuff either. i didnt do halloween this year not because i didnt want to dress up and stuff, but because i had no one to hang out with or anything. I just feel so lonely.. and I dont get how everyone else seems to have even a few friends that are close to them. i dont know what ive done so wrong to not get friends cause im not ugly, super weird, or mean or anything. i dont need to be popular, i just want to feel close to someone you know? if i cant even get best friends then i guess it will be ages before i get a boyfriend too. not that i even feel ready for one.. because again, i dont feel confident w/ my failing grades (link)
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lol long indeed. let me start off by sayin that i when though the axact same thing in high school. i started to feel like there's no reason to on. i wasn't suicidal, i just didn't know where to start on filling in the hole i dug myself. school wasn't hard, i knew i need to do the work, i just couldnt get myself to summon the enthusiasm to acttually do it. here's my advise. as far as the feelings of giving up goes, everybody gets them but ive found that i usually get them when i feel like i have nothing to look forward to. games. money. a new car. i had to feel like i was going to get more than a "good job". give yourself small tangible goals that you can stay committed to and are also rewarding like finding a job(theme parks are usually the easiest), getting yourself a laptop or getting your license. the more you find success in reaching these small goals, higher your moral becomes. if youu buy your own first car, there is no other feeling like it, trust me. and as for the school work, try setting a pace(5 assignments a day all together). if you overwhelm yourself you wont stay motivated. most importantly, take breaks. play some video games, take a nap, do whatever you do to take your mind off stress. typically people get stressed when they have nothing to do but think. KEEP YOURSELF BUSY. get some legos if you have to. just stay busy. remember thinking is good, but over-thinking will destroy you.
hope this helps, good luck
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