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help! my best friend is really mad at me and i think it is ridiculous! i'm 18/f
ok so one day i was home alone and called my boyfriend to talk and he said he was getting coffee with a girl who is a friend. at first, i got really jealous and mad. then i realized i was being selfish because i went to get coffee with one of my friends and i guess its ok if he does the same. (i was worried he did it for revenge) but he told me it was casual so i didnt get as mad. but then i found out that he paid for her. to me- that means a guy likes a girl. to him- it meant polietness. Now i understand the fact that there are 2 personal opinons here. I told him "I understand you were doing it to be poliete, but to me it means more than that. i'd appreciate it if you didnt pay for your other girl friends" he said ok and agreed with me.
things were good after that. we made up and were just talking. then out of NO WEHRE, my best friend steps in and starts yelling at me. she talks about how it is unfair for me to treat him like that and how i'm a bossy b*tch and how she's fed up with my attitude. I sent her a text back saying "i have no idea why you are so mad. we made up and solved the problem" she didnt reply but the whole day at school she's been ignoring me. she would occasionally say one word answers like "hey" "bye" and then walks away really fast and pretends to talk on the phone.
she's just acting really rude and stupid right now. it drives me nuts because i feel like she's mad at me because i have my own personal opinon. my opinon is to have my boyfriend not pay for another girl. thats my OPINION. i didnt demand him to stop. i didnt command him to never pay for a girl again. i just said- it bothers me that you do that. It just doesn't make sense why she's so mad at me, all because my opinon isn't the same as hers.
its like me liking chocolate and she likes vanilla, and me getting mad that she doesn't like chocolate. its stupid! she has a different opinon than me (which is fine. i really dont care if she doesnt agree with me on things all the time) but it just annoys me that she would ignore me and b*tch me out like that all because i view something different than her...
what do i do?
Everytime we have a fight, I try to talk to her about it and try to make her realize my point of view. but that doesn't work because we always end up fighting and arguing. there have been a few times when we almost ended our friendship. but i really don't want that.. she is the type of best friend that i can't find in another girl. especially in my town. she makes me happy and i feel myself around her. i don't want to lose her as my best friend but it just drives me NUTS that she gets so mad at my opinions. If i try to talk to her about it, she'll just get even more mad and yell at me some more.
should i just ignore her and let her come to me? *sigh* thanks. (link)
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Well everybody in the has their own opioion to something it sounds to me she wants you to agree with her and if you dont then she is mad. I think you should to talk to her biefly about it and say in a clam vocie that if she ezpects everyone in to agree with her than she has a long life of argueingg. Otherwise before you talk to her i think you should just let her clam down you Know before you talk to her the mader she is when you talk to her the less clear and open she will be. Good Luckk
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hey i am a 16 yearold girl and i want to be a model so bad but my probelm is i weigh 125 and i am 5 4.5...am i too fat and short or do i need to lose weight (link)
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Dont let you wanting to be a model affect what you think about yourself their are plenty of models who are fat and skinny, short and Tall, its how they hold themseleves up to be a role model is what a model should be.
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This is pretty long if I go in detail so I will try to sum it up for you. I am 21 years old and my boyfriend is 22. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. We rarely fight and if we do they are for legitimate reasons. But one thing that has bugged me since we started dating was his lack of showing me he loves me. I am not materialistic and I don't expect to be bought things all the time and wined and dined. But I do expect him to show some love on days like my birthday or Valentines Day, and our One Year Anniversary. My birthday we had been dating four months and he got me nothing and even threw a tantrum saying he was tired when we went out to celebrate my 21st when it was only 11 PM and we had been out for one hour. So we left and went home, which deep down upset me because it was MY birthday! Then Valentines Day came around and he told me 3 days before it that we shouldn't get eachother anything because he thinks Valentine's Day is overrated. Our one year anniversary we did absolutely nothing! He said he was broke and we would do something another time, but it has been 3 months since that and everytime I bring it up nicely he just blows it off and says sometime we will. I have been in several long relationships before him lasting 2 to 3 years each and all of those have been the same way. I always see other guys in relationships with their girlfriends taking cute pictures, celebrating anniversaries, and being taken out or even having their men cook for them on their birthdays. I don't want to be whiny and sound materialistic, but I feel like when I cook for him EVERYDAY and do his laundry, clean up his messes, and always do something special for him even on days that aren't his birthday or a holiday, that I should get something back in return! It's VERY frustrating and it is started to make me pull away from him. I don't want to TELL him what I want because then it doesn't feel special, but even if I hint towards it he just blows it off and acts like it is not important. Is he just not the right type of guy for me? Why are most guys like this? And what is the difference between the guy I am with and the other guys that really actually do sweet things for the girls they love? (link)
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i don't want to sound mean or anything but the question at the end when you ask "And what is the difference between the guy I am with and the other guys that really actually do sweet things for the girls they love? ' the answer to that is that they actually love them. you seem to go for the guys that don't show they care about you change your type of guys before you get seriously hurt and are blinded for when a really good guy comes along. if you really love this guy tell him HE NEEDS TO SHOW HE CARES OR YOUR LEAVING if he shrugs that off his shoulders he isn't even worth knowing or your time
Good Luck
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Ok, i had sex a very long time ago. my girl friend of 10 months still thinks im a virgin. what should i do. (link)
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You should tell your girlfriend that you aren't a virgin a relationship built on lies don't do you any good so just tell her and if she truly loves she'll understand.
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I'm in high school and there's this guy who I've been thinking of seriously going out with and stuff, and he's only ever been incredibly nice and sweet to me. He's been a total gentleman and has treated me really well(: However, every person has told me he's a 'total manwhore' and that I shouldn't go out with him or anything. Now, I did mention this to him and he said that everyone says that because he's really friendly and has a lot of friends - which is true, and that doesn't bother me.
I just don't know if I should really go through with this because what if everyone else is right and he just totally plays me? But he's only ever been absolutely amazing with me, so I've never experienced anything else with him! Can I just have some advice on what you think? i just like to have other opinions. Thanks!
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Rumors are Rumors try to find a reliable source you cant always judge someone on rumors and even if he is a manwhore maybe he is different with you. you never know. everyone was once someone and it was either they changed or stayed the same. Try asking him about it again and see if you get a better answer than the one he gave before. in the end its up to you to take the chance or not. What is life without risks is my model. Even if you get your heartbroken their is always a hot doctor to fix it back up. Good Luck!!
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Alright, first off I have to say I feel stupid for doing this, but strangers do give the best advice because they aren't really biased.
Alright, so I told my best guy friend that I liked him (Which was really awkward because the day before he told me he wanted to go out with my best friend). He didn't exactly reject me, but he didn't exactly accept that either.
So fast forward a couple of weeks and he mentions to me he started talking to my cousin quite a bit. Three days later he's dating my cousin. Not to be rude (and it's not because she's dating him) she's kinda a whore and doesn't seem like the type he'd be into at all.
So after this happened I decided to get over it. It's been half a month and I'm nowhere near moving on. Every freaking time I log into Facebook, or hang out with my friends I see/hear something about their relationship and it's like 'Stabby stab stab stab!'.
I don't get it. He and I have been friends for over a year, I've known him for about four years because our older sisters are friends. We've never been more than friends, so why can't I just get over it? Yes, I care for him. Who wouldn't care for their friends?
I'm just confused I suppose. He's not the hottest guy in school, far from it actually. He's not what I'm usually attracted to. I love his personallity though, and he's really quirky. It's something I love about him. He's not afraid to act weird or crazy because that's who he is.
I don't know. I don't even know what my question really is. I just need advice. (link)
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as much as his personality might be great and everything you have to remind yourself that he knows you like him and before that he wanted to go out w/your best friend and now that he knows that you like him he is going out w/your cousin to me he seems like a jerk and not even worth your time you said it yourself he not your type. He is your best friend you never had feelings about him ever and now you do which is understandable considering that ususlly happens there is only two things i could think of that could be a possible explanation
1) He is not into you
2) He is into you
to figure them out stop talking to him for awhile they say the heart grows founder when apart . Good Luck hope everything goes well
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I did a horrible thing, when I was 19 or 20; I let my ex-husband talk me into sleeping with another man, to spice up our love life. It was one-sided - he just wanted the "power" of "sharing" me. I was just a young and confused kid.
That was 17 years ago. I know now that my ex abused me sexually and mentally all that time. We divorced 5 years ago. I finally got away from him...
The problem is with the man I let him talk be into being with. I began an affair with him; it lasted more than ten years. He was married; I was married. We fell in love. But he was twenty years older than me, and I had young children.
The affair ended soon after the marraige. He ended up telling his wife about it; because we had started to do drugs, and formed an association - after a while we did them every time we were together, but we only did them when we were together. The lines became blurred - we didn't know if we were getting together to see each other or to do the drugs. We knew we loved each other before the drugs - but after we brought that into it, it became a destructive relationship. Where before, it had been an absolute secret, and was an escape - for both of us- him from a sexually dysfunctional and negligent wife, and I from a sexually abusive narcissist husband. I'm not saying it was right - just that it was positive for us at that time in our lives. The drugs killed all of that.
He told his wife about me because he needed help getting away from the drugs, and he knew that to do that he had to get away from me. The association was there and once it was there, it couldn't be erased.
I knew this too, and knew we had to get away from each other to stay off the drugs. The difference is that I divorced my husband. Without him, my "lover", I guess you'd call him, to tend the wounds, I could no longer live with the sexual deviancy my ex-husband forced on me.
Now it's been six years since that all happened. I'm remarried to a man who treats me like a queen - and I love him dearly. My ex is completely out of the picture - and I haven't talked to my "lover" either. I know from other sources he's off the drugs, and so am I.
I'm very VERY happy with my husband. He's my best friend, I love him, he treats me right, and he loves me.
Why do I still miss my lover? So so much that I can't describe it. I'll see something or I'll hear something, and the memories will come back - weekends we spent together, things we did, the absolutely perfect sexual compatibility and comradarie we had. It comes back to me and I just feel like I'll dissolve into misery at the thought I'll never see him again. I *know* we can never be together again - once the drug association was made, we couldn't get away from it. He loves his wife - I love my husband. He's twenty years older than me!! I don't understand why - six years later - I'm still crying over losing this guy on a pretty regular basis. He always treated me with respect - even at the end, he did everything he could not to hurt me. We parted on good terms. I think that actually makes it harder.
I don't think there's an answer out there for this one. But maybe someone can help. (link)
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It is understandable how you cant get over this man that was their for you when no one else was. He was there for you when you and abusive husband were together. You feel a connection to him that you dont want to lose. Part of you still loves him, and part of you know that it was just a fling and you truly are in-love with your new husband but until both parts can join together you dont know who you love. This man that is 20 years older than you seems more to me as a father figure to you than anything more, and when you realize this you will truly understand what to do!
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