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What is going on with guys these days?
16/f
I really don't know what's going on.Have all the boys gone blind?I am sick and tired of being alone.And no guy notices me or if he does it's usually a jerk.I've become a jerk magnet.I don't see why it's like this.I am good-looking and smart,I think I should attract good-looking guys...not just that but every guy I've been with ended up cheating on me with an UGLY girl.When I say ugly I mean it.I am not cocky,I just love myself.So don't tell me I'm arrogant.I am also very friendly and approachable,but love just seems to avoid me.I see my girl friends around,happy with their boyfriends in long relationships and I just can't seem to find a good guy for myself.I want a guy who treats me sweet and loving.On the contrary,I got all but that...I know I have a lot of time but I feel like my love life is ruined for good.Are all the boys my age and a few years older he same? I don't have the strength to look for love anymore,since it seems to me they only want sex...
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There is more to love than appearance.
Just because you're pretty doesn't mean you have a good personality. It doesn't mean you're even lovable. You could be a cold, cruel bitch that looks sexy as hell.
On the opposite standpoint, you could be so full of yourself in your looks that you let guys use you. You think you're sexy and that guys want you so you let them take advantage of you. Guys don't always just want sex.
You list your qualities as:
Pretty
Smart
Attractive
Friendly
Approachable
What about:
Nice
Kind
Generous
Respectable
Great listener
Faithful
Can hold a good conversation
Caring
Thoughtful
Helpful
Mature
Sweet
Loving
Considerate
Compassionate
Fun
Empathic
Patient
Have defined morals and standards
Self-respect
Emotionally stable
Has a personality and a strong sense of self
While you may come off as friendly and "approachable" at first eventually they will "open the book" and see what's beyond the cover. You can be outstandingly gorgeous but it doesn't mean guys are going to be all over you. In a sense, you're more a jack-off magnet than anything. You're good to look at but if you lack key characteristics then there's no point in being honest or faithful to you from many guys' standpoints.
You may have many other qualities listed above but if you don't actively show them then the guy isn't going to know you're worth more than sex. He will only see your outside if you never open up and show him your inside. Life isn't just about you, in the end. He isn't going to "dig deep" if you aren't giving him some clues as to WHO you are rather than WHAT you are.
You don't even list what you like to do. Is it possible you only go after the physical of a relationship? What about sharing activities with your partner (so that you know what you do have in common other than physical attractiveness) like:
Reading
Bowling
Skating
Swimming
Dancing
Volunteering
Going to church
Moving-outings
Double-dates
Cooking
Crafting/Painting/Photography/Artistic fun
I also must point out that you are taking appearances to a bit of the extreme. It's possible you keep picking the "good looking" guys rather than the guys with good hearts and great personalities.
The ugly girls aren't just ugly. Beauty comes within many times. You can look like a hideous monster and have an angelic personality. In the end, appearance may ATTRACT guys but it doesn't necessarily keep them hanging on. There's more than just being pretty. You have to have an emotional and mental connection. No just a physical thing.
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sometimes the good guys are the ones want you to make the first move. sometimes the nice one are the one always get rejected. Sorry to say thins not all guys who have good looks are doing be good. because they seem to be more in to there self. let love find you.
hope i help if i didn't sorry don't leave me bad comment and be mad about it. i just try to help.
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