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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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Ok, so theres this boy in my class, michael. We were going out, and you kno, all that bf/gf stuff. We were really close and great together, we never fought, but of course there was a lil argument here and there. Well, one day he just broke up with me. He didnt tell me why, he just said we cant go out anymore and left. The next day, my best friend was wearing a shirt that said I love my bf. I asked her who her bf was and she said michael. She ddint even try to hide it or anything. I got really mad at her, and stopped talking to her. Now there are rumors going around that they had sex. I am really mad at my friend and i dont know what to do. I mean, i like her, but im really mad at her for stealing michael from him. What should i do??? (link)
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What kind of friend is that? You don't need a friend who is going to backstab you over a guy and just throw away everything you may have expierenced together over a small bit of lust that probably won't ever last more than a few months. And you definately don't need a boyfriend who is going to do that. Just drop her like a bad habit and the same goes for your boyfriend. There are better people out there than those two and they are easy to find. Just move on. Simple as that.
Hope this helps and you get some better friends.
-Ryan
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alrighty, one of my good friends is...i guess what people would call a 'music elitist'? she's very unique and listens to old rock bands like the who and the beatles and stuff. she acts like she doesnt care what anyone thinks of her, but obviously she does or she would try so hard to be different, right? anyway, I on the other hand, am to her, the stereotypical prep. yeah, i get up and take an hour to get ready every morning, i shop at stores like AE and GAP, and i listen to pop music. whenever i give her a ride home or anything, she's always criticizing and making fun of the music that's playing, and if i go to the bathroom to fix my hair or makeup, she HAS to make a comment. i really do try so hard not to say anything to her about it. i tolerate her BLASTING the who and coldplay in my ears when i'm around her without saying anything, and i completely respect her political and religious opinions (WHICH ARE COMPLETELY OPPOSITE THAN MINE) and she doesnt. what do i do??? today i got mad and i blasted the music in the car and i kept making fun of her music, but now i feel bad. what do i do to tell her how i feel without coming off as a total b****??? (link)
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Just 2 opposite views on things.
Being different isn't something someone does, it is just how the person is. That is a big misconception among people who are "different" or "stick-out" from the crowd. Most people thing they do all that stuff different just to fit in better and be noticed. Well if they wanted that couldn't they just be like everyone else and confrom to the norm? I can speak from expierence that people who aren't apart of "the norm" don't care what people think of them (although SOME do). They just do things their own way, simply put.
However, your friend doesn't sound like a very good friend. If you are really being considerate and good towards her views and she is completely blasting you for your views, she isn't really that much of a friend is she? A real friend wouldn't do that. So the choice is kinda obvious. Tell her to either learn to respect her views (afterall, you are respecting hers) and stuff, or otherwise you just don't need to be friends anymore. Make it to the point and sincere, let her know you still would love to be friends, but can't be friends when she is being like this.
I hope this helped and everything gets settled.
-Ryan
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Ive liked this kid rob for about 3 years, and hes liked me before, but weve never went out. we are always flirting, and the reason he said he never went out with me was cuz i didnt talk enough, but now i do talk to him. Now, he has a girlfriend,when shes around he dosent talk to me but pays attention to her ( like he shuld) but as soon as she leaves hes flirting with me again. Idk what to do. Theres this party coming up soon and his g/f wont be there but he will and i will..i really like him..But i dont want to feel like im breaking them up. What if we end up making out or something? What can i do?
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Kinda a tough situation
Hear my answer out. He sounds like he really doesn't know which girl he wants. It just sounds to me like if he is gonna flirt with you like he does and still pay that much attention to his gf he doesn't know exactly which girl he wants. Just wait and see what happens at the party. If something happens, let it happen. But let him start it if something happens, because then looking back, you can say he started it. Who knows what could happen, but see what time brings to you and what he does and go from there.
I hope this helps and everything gets worked out!
-Ryan
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ok my brother keeps saying "lick em" that something in german but i'm not quite sure. Lick em is what it sounds like but i dunno what how to spell it in german please tell me wht he's saying will rate 5's! (link)
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It is nothing more than a phrase for "go and get em (and in the sense, beat "them").
It is absolutely nothing in German other than a english phrase. Simple as that
Hope this helps.
-Ryan
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God. You really have no idea how many times I have been blamed for something I didn't do. Like 2 weeks ago someone (not me) cut the seatbelts on the bus and threw out the airfreshener. And there comes the vice principal looking for me and he told me that I did it. Which I obviously didn't. I have done things that made me get in trouble. I did that like 5 times. And yes I did bad stuff then. But that was in 6th grade. I'm now in 8th.
So, he was talking to me and telling me how I shouldn't of done that. And hes blaming me for everything. He doesn't care about my side of the story. I've tried talking to him but he wouldn't lissten. I told him he was a liar, because it's true. He didn't care.
How should I show him i've changed from being a bad @$$ to a good person?? I'm thinking about going to my councelor and telling her about it.
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You definately need to talk to your counciler. You didn't do it, you said that. It's bull that he just automatically comes to you. What proof does he have?
As for telling your parents, tell them the truth, they will stick by you on that and help defend you from what your vice-principle is spreading around. Stick to your story, because the truth will ALWAYS outweigh and outcome the lies, no matter what they are, remember that.
I hope this helps and everything gets sorted out.
-Ryan
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hey there! I know you give really great advice, and I'm kind of in a mini-crisis right now, and wish to recieve advice from you =D...This is how it goes:
During the summer, our high school club got together for some meetings. I really liked this guy in my club, (let's call him Rocky hehe) because he was really funny and quite caring. but the craziest thing was that i could never have the courage to strike up a conversation with him that summer, and spent most of time talking to this other guy from the club (his name is Rainbow haha)even though i wanted to talk to Rocky. as school started, i was recieving mixed-signals from him, because i had the feeling that Rocky also had feelings for me, but now i feel that i'm beginning to fall for Rainbow, being more comfortable with him. i'm like so stuck at what to do right now! i don't know if i should just give up on ever being with Rocky, and moving on towards Rainbow... I just really don't know how Rocky feels right now...
Thank you so much!!!
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Wow you do got a tough situation. On one hand you have Rocky, who may like you (and you liked him first). Then on the other you have Rainbow, who you are starting to like and feel more comfortable with. What does your heart tell you to do? If you want my advice I would say to try and find out maybe if Rainbow got any feelings for you. Also try and find out if Rocky does have feelings for you now. I think you should try and go with Rocky if you can, because if you just had talked to him back then, I think that you would have ended up being with him. Keep Rainbow as a friend, but I seriously think you should go with Rocky. You already said he was kind and caring, and I bet once you start talking to him more you are gonna get more comfortable with talking to him. Just my input!
I hope this helps and everything gets sorted out for you!
-Ryan
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Ok well i have been best frineds with this guy forever like since we were babies and i am in love with his sister. she is absolutly beautiful. i see her all the time and sometimes she acts like we r friends and others like she completely hates me. do i tell her how i feel and risk ruining my friendsip with her bro or just keep quiet? her bro is kinda protective (link)
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Ok I am going to be honest with you. Find someone else. Because if she is going to be on and off with you like that then she isn't really worth your time because if she liked you she wouldn't be that way with you. It's just my opinion, but keep your friendship with your best friend, because it sounds like your sister isn't really worth it, even if she is beautiful. Remember, choose personality over looks, you'll get better girls.
Hope this helps and you choose well.
-Ryan
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i am researching a topic for one of my classes and i need information. I've tried google, msn, ask jeeves..all that..but I need more. So does anyone know the effect of gunpowder before, during, and after it's invention. how did it change the world? anymore info would be appriciated. I rate everyone a 5 if they give appropiate answers..thankyou so so soo much! (link)
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Before gunpowder was widely used as a weapon it was a mixture to try and cure illness's and a type of "elixer" for eternal life in ancient china by taoist researchers, but in the process of creating the compound., they created a highly explosive and combustable powder known as black powder.
Several years later it was used in ancient china as a primitive rocket booster that could be launched from bamboo pole at the enemy, they were also used as fireworks, which served as signals and decorations in ancient China.
When the europeans discovered this compound via the silk road and trading vessels and once back in europe it was refined into a much more controlable (it was less explosive and more suited for firing projectiles without the backlash explosion) compound, which is now known today as gunpowder.
Once refined it was used in primitive and extremely large cannons (such as the Ottoman Turks used againts the Byzantiniums in the last seige of Constantinople, where a massively large cannon launched several large cannon balls each waying a ton or more). In the beginning of the 15th or 16th centuries the matchlock and wheellock rifles became common in the armies across Europe, and made almost army in Europe had them. Later models would be the flintlock (18th century) and carbine 6 shooters (used during the middle and late 19th centuries) and would completely change the way armies fought. At the end of the 19th century gunpowder was being replaced with smokeless powders that caused almost no smoke or backlash from the combustion and at the end of World War One, gunpowder was considered obsolete and it was discontinued from service.
Its effect, it changed the way armies fought and trained. Before the invention of gunpowder, the world widely used melee weapons (like a sword or mace) and some ranged weapons (archers). But after the introduction of gunpowder the armies of Europe and eventually the world would train with rifles. It also caused the widespread decline of cavalry (since horses versus flintlock rifles would end up as a massacre, as seen in the crimean war where 600 english horses were soundly defeated by a small squad of russian soldiers armed with rifles). It also changed the way seiges and artillary were used, when once before boulders were used as the mainstay city breaker, now it is highly concentrated titanium pointed shells which would be fired at tremendous speeds and cause increadible damage. In short, if gunpowder was not here, we could well be set back several hundred years.
Hope this helps and you get all the info you need.
-Ryan
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i really like my friend but he doesnt know, i have known him for a LONG time and i just spend like half of the day with him.i dont know what to do because i really like him but i cant tell him how i really feel cause then are friendship might be lost. what should i do??? (link)
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I think you should tell him how you feel. You should tell him exactly how you feel about him and let him know it. Because keeping that all to yourself can be killer on some people and it is definately stressfull and hard to keep it to yourself. Just tell him and let him know that you don't want this to affect your friendship at all (that is of course if he likes you back, then you could take it a step beyond just a good friendship). My take on it is let him know.
Hope this helps and you decide what is right to do.
-Ryan
If you need anything else, drop something in my inbox.
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I'm 17 and a senior and I have a serious problem with my dad. I have an older brother who doesn't live at home any more, but when he did, he wasn't exactly the best student. I remember every time interums or report cards would come out, I would hide up in my room listening to him crying as my dad screamed at him. I don't know everything that my dad did, because I never saw it, but I only remember my mom sticking up for him ONCE. He would always tell anyone who would listen what a loser my brother was and how he would never amount to anything. The first time I got a C in math was when I was in the 10th grade. My dad screamed at me and then told me to get out of his face because he didn't want to look at me anymore. He gets pissed off at little things, has thrown chairs across the room and has no clear desire whatsoever to control his anger. He has never hit my mom, little sister or me but he yells a lot and my mom hardly ever says anything to him. He's trying to force me to go to the college he wants me to go to by threatening not to give me any financial support. For a while, I was cutting myself because he made me feel so worthless, but I haven't done so in over two years because my mom walked in on me once. She doesn't believe me when I say I think I'm really depressed. My brother was diagnosed with chronic depression and my dad flipped when he found out because he doesn't believe in psychology, which is the field I want to go into. I really hate him and am sick of putting up with him and I don't know what to do. (link)
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I think your dad has some mental issues himself. He has already proven he isn't going to listen to you. Spend as much time as you can out of the house. Take up a sport or some kind of extra curriculare activity to stay away from home. Find comfort in your friends and next time he does start yelling, make a stand. Get everyone in your house to make a stand againts his yelling and let him know what he is doing is wrong and your sick of it. Your dad shouldn't be doing any of that, and it's downright terrible that he is...
I don't know what all I should say, but I said what I thought would be good to say. I really hope what I said helps you in some way and something can be done about this. I really do.
I'll pray for you
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anything else or someone to talk to..IM me at (AIM) Alpha0mega345 or drop something in my inbox.
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Hey, I think you give really great advice and I was wondering if you would help me with this boyfriend problem. Well here goes....
My ex boyfriend was cheating on me, so I kind of exposed the truth about him cheating on me to all my friends and now hes really mad at me. I feel bad that I dumped him and exposed his "secret" because the truth is, i still like him. But don't you think i have the right to be mad at him? Because he cheated on me, lied to me, called other girls behind my back, and blew me off in the hall last friday....
I'm so confused. Should I call him? (link)
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You got all the right to be mad at him, he cheated on you! You did the right thing by dumping him because of what he's done and I can completely understand you still liking him. But you need to try and move on from him. He already blew you off and I don't think he really cared about you at all to begin with, I mean he lied, cheated, and blew you off last friday, does that sounds like he really cares? Don't call him, put him in the past and move on, find a better guy you know? They're out there, just gotta do some looking.
I hope this helps and you find exactly what you feel you need to do!
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anything else, feel free to IM me at (AIM) Alpha0mega345 or drop something in my inbox
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ok so theres this guy and we're in a lot of classes together i really like him but im afraid to tell him. alot of my friends know i like him. but im really afraid to tell him is there another way to let him know that i like him or what should i do? (link)
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Dear afraid-to-tell-this-guy-you-like-him.
The easiest (and the least painfull way, most of the time) is to just come out and tell him. Because if you play a guessing game with it (Like "Well he did this...does he like me because he did it?" or "He just said that..does that mean he doesn't like me?") then you are just going to complicate things and turn it into a completely unncecessary mess of false info and confusion, you know? Just pull him aside one day at school or some kind of social event (like a school sports game) and tell him how you feel, just be straitforward and honest with it. He is going to appreciate that alot more if you do it that way then if you send someone else to say it for you, you know?
But if you have to insist you are still to afraid to tell him yourself. Then you could just send your friends to tell him and see what he thinks and work it from there. Or have your friends hint around that you like him ALOT.
I think the best way would still be to just tell him yourself. Even though your super scared to do it, have your friends nearby beforehand and after, so they can support you and give you some confidence. It's just gonna be something your gonna have to do. I can definately understand you being afraid of telling this guy you really like him (I've been there before lots of times, only with a girl, lol). But you just gotta find the courage and confidence to tell the person how you feel, because if you are going to keep it to yourself like that and never let him know how you feel then you may never know how he feels about you. Take a chance on it! Let bravado take over and tell him!
I really hope this helps and everything works out for you, good luck!
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anything else, feel free to IM me at (AIM) Alpha0mega345 ok? Just if you need anything else.
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What are some important discoveries in the field of biology? (link)
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Louis Pasteurs process of killing bacteria in liquid through heating it.
The discovery of the structure of the DNA strand
Just 2 I thought of off the top of my head.
Hope it helps.
-Ryan
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I just got a cell phone and I wanted a website with some cute or funny answering messages for my voicemail. ( I don`t want the typical, Hello This is ____ Fone leave a message) I`ll Rate 5's for good sites :) (link)
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Lol I have some fun with my voicemail. My message is this.
"Hey there *pauses for 1 second* What's up...*pauses for 1 second* That's cool..*pauses for 1 second* Yeah...*pause for 2 seconds* Oh yeah hey, I forgot to say I'm not here right now..so leave a message...*laugh*
Gauranteed for laughs, trust me.
Hope this helps.
-Ryan
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A few days ago my friend hurt her foot. Now its all swollen and she can't walk! But her parents refuse to take her to the doctor, saying that she's blowing it all out of proportion. How do we get her parents to take her? (link)
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Her parents are idiots. Ignoring an obvious injury and refusing to take her because they think she is "blowing it all out of proportion". That's crap, you and your friend should get her parents together, sit them down, and show them how bad it is, and they say "Does this look like she are blowing it out of proportion? She can't even walk!" If that isn't going to show them how bad it is, then just find a way to get to a doctor any way you can to get it fixed, because her parents just showed they don't care enough to get it looked at.
Hope this helps and your friends foot gets better.
-Ryan
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this is'nt a random wirdo but i could,nt find anything in this area. im a 13m and i have a little problem. my friends keep laughing at me about my eyebows. and i dont know what to do, ya see if i pulk my eyebows im a fag but if i dont do anything, im a freak, so how can i get rid of my bushy unabrow without being judged. (link)
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Do what you with them. If you like them, then keep them. If you want them gone or changed, then do it. Do what you with them for YOU, not your friends. If your friends are going to be like that to you I would wonder how much they really are your friends. Real friends won't go off and make fun of you for how you look, they will like you for who you are and how you look. Do what you want with your eyebrows because that is what YOU want to do with them. Be yourself.
Hope this helps.
-Ryan
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my dad can be so mean sometimes he yells really loud and when he gets mad he throws and breaks stuff and it really scares me. i feel bad because i dont know if i love him or not and i feel like everything is my fault!! i dont know what to do please help! (link)
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Hey listen, it's not your fault. Your dad might just have some kind of issue and he may see you as the only way to vent his anger and frustration if he has something going on behind the scenes. When he does this again you should try and remain calm then and show him even if you is going to mad and causes destruction your not going to get upset over it. Let him do this and when he is done say "I love you dad" then walk off and find something to calm yourself down with if your still upset. You should be calm when he does do it though and show some maturity, even in the face of what is happening.
Hope this helps and you are able to get something done with your dad.
-Ryan
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I just met this girl in pottery and she is really cool.( we are both Freshman) We were just talking and she said she used to cut herself and do drugs but not anymore.She said in the summer of 2009 (when we graduate) her and her friends from a different school are going to burn down there old school and then stand across from each other and shoot themselves because they all want to die at the same time.I dont know if I should tell anybody.She sounds really serious about it and I dont kno what I should do.I dont think I can tell a consouler because they will confront her and she will know it was me because i was the only person she told.Ill rate high (link)
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You have 4 years from this point to try and change her mind. Maybe you being her friend and trying to get her mind off of it will help and in the end, she won't do it. But at the end of those 4 years you don't think she has changed and she still might do it. Then you need to tell someone and get a warning out to everyone. Just go to a trusted adult and get the news out because her possibly doing that stuff is VERY serious.
Hope this helps and things get worked out.
-Ryan
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My parents gave me a choise. We can either move in a house here or in the other place. Here the school isn't very good, but I know ablot of people. There the school is really good, but I won't know anybody. Yeah I'm bored at my school, cuz it's so easy. But I also have friends. And that other school, supposed to be hard and chalenging (which sounds really nice to me :P) Well And my really good friend goes there. But it's huge and most likely I won't see her.
What should I do? Stay here, or move to another place? (link)
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I think you should move. If you move you can still keep the friends at your old school and make new ones at the new school, which means more friends for you. Also your very good friend goes there, so even if you don't see her in class, you can still see her from time to time in the halls and such. Also I think you should go because a challenging school sounds good to you and you should follow on that and challenge yourself.
Hope this helps and you make the decision best fitted for you!
-Ryan
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what does pwing noobs mean? (link)
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It's internet slang.
Translating pwned, it means owned, which for internet slang means you seriously beat the guy you are facing, etc.
And "noob" is basically a new player, inexpierenced or otherwise unskilled.
So translated in the whole, it basically means you just killed a whole bunch of new players, which in reality isn't much to be proud of.
Hope this helps.
-Ryan
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