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Does anyone use NuvaRing? I'm wondering how you insert it. Is it like inserting a tampon? and then how do you get it out? Would my boyfriend be able to feel it when we are having sex?
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Here is the website where they tell you all about it. All the questions you ask are answered here. Just look around a bit. Even offers a free sample.
http://www.nuvaring.com/Consumer/index.asp
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so lately i was hospitalized for o.d.ing on seroquel and now my friends dont trust me and are total assholes about the situation and i just want to move on with my life but they keep bringing it up. what should i do? i feel like im losing the ppl who are my everything (link)
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Your friends are just worried about you.
A lot of it is they probably feel a little guilty. They had no idea you were suicidal, or they did know and did nothing to get you help. They are mad at themselves and taking it out on you. You could have died. Big wake up call for them.
Even if it was an accidental OD it is the same deal.
Sit them down and talk to them about it. Tell them if they have any questions or concerns ask now because this is the last time you are going to discuss it with them. Do it with them all as a group or one on one.
They will get over it as you will. It will just take a little time. :)
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I had sex with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago, and I've no idea when, but im guessing on withdrawal, the condom slipped up just under half way. It was still on fairly tight only it had slipped up a few centimeters. Shes due to have her period about this time, shes had stomach cramps and sore breasts (but neither very serious) which are both signs of pre-menstruation and pregnancy. Is it possible that she could be pregnant? (link)
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If it didn't come off all the way she is probably fine. The sperm most likely stayed in the tip of the condom where its supposed to be. So don't panic about it.
Stomach cramps are not a sign of pregnancy that I ever heard of. It is possible for her to skip it entirely if she is stressing out about all this.
If she doesn't get her period soon, get a home test kit from walmart or another store. But, I think she is probably OK. Not impossible....but not likely. :)
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16/female.
Let me just start out by saying that I am a STRONG believer of gay marriage, and I have absolutely NO problem with homosexuals in the slightest.
One of my friends is a lesbian, and I love her because she's amazing, she really is. But, lately she's been really touchy feely. She writes me notes saying, "I know you're in denial, I know you're conservative & straight, but you should atleast experiment & give it a try." I AM straight, I was born it, so I can't just change and be a lesbian, that's what I think & feel. I'm not attracted to her at all.
She'll like come up to me in the halls at school, and hug me and kiss my neck and shove me up against a locker, and it seriously is beginning to look like I'm a lesbian.
When she does this, I just say, "Nooo! STOP IT" Like, I don't know if she takes it seriously or not, but when I say stop she does. So, today on AIM, we were talking, and this was our conversation:
Her: I'm going to look hot tomorrow in school.
Me: Ahah, Whyy??
Her: I got new clothes.
Her: Kiss me?
Her: :)
Me: Ahh, that's nice! :)
Me: lol, No thanks.
Her: No thanks, what the fuck?
Her: Why did you say that?
Me: To the whole "kiss me" thing.
Her: Whatever.
Me: HEY! don't!!
Her: Don't what?
Me: Be mean. :(
Her: You did this yourself.
Her: It's your fault.
* BLOCKS ME *
Ahhh, so. I just would like to know if this is any of my fault at all. I'm not LEADING her on, I wouldn't even know how to do that. I'm dating a guy & I'm really attracted to him & she knows that. But she'll always say that I need to experiment with her & stuff, and it's just really weird for me.
Thanks in advance. :]
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No it isn't your fault. You did nothing.
It doesn't matter a persons sexual preference. But you don't keep putting the moves on someone if they don't like it. You wouldn't put up with this for some guy so don't put up with it from her either. Its no different.
You need to sit her down and have a serious talk. Let her know that her behavior is making you uncomfortable and you want it to stop. If she doesn't then you will soon stop hanging around with her. Its to stressful a situation to be put into day after day. You will not now or ever be interested in her as more than a friend.
Tell her you are not a lesbian. You do not want to be treated as one. You want to remain her friend but you will not be sexually assaulted at every turn. Her behavior is immature.
I know it will be hard for you to do but you need to put a stop to it. If you don't she will continue. If she is truly a friend she will accept it and knock it off. Time for her to grow up.
Good luck. :)
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15/f
I have had a bad past with relationships. All these people have lied, used, and hurt me.. so I'm unsure if I want to start a new relationship. It's been about a year or longer since I was in a relationship.
But I really like this girl. But my parents are homophobes.. "I will hurt you, if you're gay" something like that when I was younger .. recently, it's okay with them.. They just don't want to see it. (kissing, etc)
I'm just afraid of what they will think.. growing up always hearing these gay jokes and insults about lesbians.
And I also don't want to rush into a relationship just because I like someone. When do you think you should go out with someone?
I've known this girl for 2 years.. We weren't really close.. until this year.. We have gotten closer and hung out like 3 times in a week and a half. It's just weird.
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Not everyone will hurt you in a relationship. Not intentionally anyway. You have to take the risk though if you want a relationship.
At 15 a lot of girls, boys too, are experimenting with their sexuality. A lot of them, while not gay will want to try it and see what its like. It could be that these are the types of people you are finding right now. I know it has to be difficult for you to find someone who is very sincere.
I think in time, I hope so anyway, your parents will be more accepting. It sounds like they have already started accepting it a little.
If you think this girl would like a relationship with you, and you think you want one with her, take a chance. :)
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15/F
Hi, for the last 5 or so years I have been lying to my parents about my entire life. I get straight A's and act like a goody-goody to them but in reality I drink, party, stay out all night and lie constantly. I have never even discussed with my mom or dad if I am allowed to date or anything of that sort.
I would like to be able to talk to them if something is bothering me and to know my limits but where do I start? I do not want my lies to unravel. I am confident that my habits are not something my parents should worry over so I do not want them to know.
I would really like to know what I'm allowed to do or not. Is there any way to find out without telling them my life story and taking the chance of never being trusted again?
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Simply ask your parents if they feel you are old enough to date yet. If you don't have a guy in mind, tell them you don't have a boyfriend yet but you'd like to know how they feel about it. It would be a very mature approach.
With luck this discussion will lead to other topics you are curious about. Curfew and all that good stuff.
I would hope all this will lead to your not having to lie anymore. I also hope you stop staying out all night and drinking. :) Get caught just once and it could be really bad for you. Trust is a really hard thing to earn back.
Good luck. Once you start asking one question, the rest will come easy. :)
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15/F
I am a grade ten and I am required to take 'Planning 10' this year. It is a mandatory CAPP (career and personal planning) class. I was going to hand in an assignment today (on time) but asked the teacher if I could borrow her holepuncher (so I could put it in the required folder) but she said she didn't have one. She also said that I would lose 50% on the assignment automatically.
Hole punching was not part of the criteria so I feel like I should not lose so many marks. On my last assignment the whole class got 90-100% but I got 54%. I am a straight A student and try exceptionally hard on my work yet she gives me terrible marks for no reason. I even do assignments when I feel like they invade my privacy.
I have had enough. Am I overreacting? Who can I speak to about this other than her? She doesn't have a whole lot of common sense and I do not feel comfortable talking to someone so unfair.
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I would talk to your principle and have him look into it for you. I don't feel a teacher should count it against you if you don't have a hole punch. Thats just ridiculous.
If all else fails have one of your parents talk to the principle. Someone needs to find out what this teacher is doing.
I don't think you're overreacting at all.
Good luck. I hope you get to the bottom of this soon. :)
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I kinda told some of my friends that my boyfriend and I made out because we're known as the "goody two shoes" couple at school, so people don't expect us to do anything, but thats not how we are. One of them told their mom, and shes telling other moms! How do I make sure my mom doesn't find out, and if she does, what should I do? (link)
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I think its awful that you felt you had to tell people that!
What kind of relationship do you have with mom? If it is a good one then now would be a good time to have a talk with her. Us moms can be very understanding people. We were young not all that long ago!
I would tell her what happened and why you said what she did. Ask her how to handle it.
If you don't want to talk to mom, my guess is it will die out eventually on its own. It was pretty rude of that friend to do that to you though. Guess who's the goody two shoes now!
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I am 20 years old and have been in a relationship for 5 years. I have been telling him for years that I really want to marry him. I knew he wasn't ready so I just kept telling him that I wanted a ring and we could have a long engagement. I was really hung up on getting a ring until recently when I realized I could wait and told him that I'd rather he just start saving so when we are ready it wouldn't be such a financial strain. I told him for our upcoming anniversary the only gift I would like is a receipt from the bank showing he deposited money in his savings account.
We just celebrated our 5 year anniversary with dinner at home in our pajamas. It was very casual so we were just going to watch a movie after dinner when he surprised me with a ring. I was shocked, to say the least. I didn't say anything at first and then just started saying oh my god over and over again. I said yes but didn't feel comfortable really. Then I thought about telling people and I got really uncomfortable, and he could tell. Long story short, we decided that I would keep the ring and when I'm ready I'll ask him to put it on me.
Here is my dilemma: I have watched my mother go through three divorces and has since settled with a man whom I don't believe she is truly happy with. I'm wondering if I'm destined to be like her. Will I end up divorced like her? Will I never find true happiness? Do I already have true happiness and not really realize it?
The other side of this is my father. He has been making comments for the past year about whether I'm missing out on a lot by being in a long term relationship so young. I'm worried that down the road I will regret it.
Do I have a great thing and I'm just spending too much time worrying about the what-ifs?
I feel horrible for pressuring him into this and then making a big mess out of it all.
I've only told my mother and my priest because I don't want others to know this- it's personal.
I'd appreciate any advice or input on the situation. (link)
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5 years is a long time. Plenty long enough to know
if you want this guy around forever or not.
Marriage should be a lifetime commitment as you already know. You can't predict the future but it doesn't have to be a disaster!
Its also a big step and sometimes a scary one. Having doubts is natural. That's where the term getting cold feet a few days before a wedding comes from!
Be honest with yourself. Do you feel like you are missing something by being in this relationship? If not, then you probably won't in the future. You could, but probably not.
Does he make you happy? Are you glad to see him come home?
What changed between the time you thought you were ready and the time he decided he was?
Let me tell you this. I have been married to my husband since we were 17. If anything were to happen to him I would be totally lost. He is my friend, the one I tell dreams to and share secrets with. We have been married 31 years. We have had our share of problems but we work them out. We work on it all the time. You have to.
If you feel about your guy that way, don't let him get away. Hold him with both arms as tight as you can and don't let him slip away.
If you don't feel that way then best to move on
because times a wasting!
Good luck with all this. I hope it works out the way you want it to. :)
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I have dandruff. I tried using head and shoulders shampoo but it didn't really work. Any tips? I don't like how it shows up on my clothes and stuff. I take a shower every day. (link)
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Take a shower everyday but don't wash your hair everyday. It dries out your scalp and will make it worse!
Here is a good article on dandruff for you to read.
I have heard that Tegrin or selson blue work very well.
http://www.coolnurse.com/dandruff.htm
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I started cutting when I was about 12. Then I stoped when I was 13 and half. Im 14 1/2 now and havent cut in over a year but I always feel like I need to or want too. I know theyres other ways to releave stress and stuff but I feel like this is the way I want to.. I dnt know what to do.. Im not getting help because Its been a year and I dont need to but I dk. What can I do (link)
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It may have been a year but if you really feel you may start cutting again please do seek some help.
OK now that I have said that, I believe the feelings you are having are probably normal. An alcoholic will always want booze, a smoker will always want a cigarette and you will probably always feel the urge to cut away your problems.
Next time you feel like cutting, change the situation. Call a friend, go for a walk, anything but cut. If that doesn't work, then please seek help. It is nothing to be ashamed of.
Good luck. :)
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Ok here's my situation! Sorry if its long!
Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together 18 months this month! I'm 18 and he's 20! I live with my grandparents and my Nan is strict! She has this thing where were only allowed to see each other on the weekend but since I have turned 18 (May this year) things have slowly started to turn and i'm allowed to see him throughout the week but I always have a curfew.. which sometimes doesn't bother me!
She doesn't know that I sleep at his house nearly every weekend, she thinks I stay at a friends house. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, everything was and still is perfect.
Because my Nan is strict we do everything to spend every second together! I know it sounds like high school love but we really love each other.
The thing is its nearly time for our sport season to start again.. My trainings are on Monday and Wednesday nights and his are on Tuesday and Thursday nights and our games are on Saturday afternoons! But my boyfriend has to travel every second weekend to play his sport and because mine is on the same day we can't always give up our sports and let our teams down to see each other. He leaves really early in the morning and gets back late at night.
We also work during the day, I work from 9 til 5 and he works from 6am til 3 in the afternoon. So during the day is out!
I guess i'm just scared of us growing apart if we weren't to have anytime together anymore! I'm probably just being stupid but it's just how I feel.
I have spoken to him about it and he understands but then he said he wont play his sport this year.. I told him not to be like that, I don't expect him to give up his sport for me! That's just out of the question!
I just don't know what to do! We love each other so much, I was a bit insecure and had a few issues with school and home before I met him and I feel like I can just be myself when i'm around him! I love him and his company and his family and we just have so much fun when were together. I can't stand to let anything come between us!
I know that if we love each other as much as we say we do nothing will come between us but how do you stay as close to someone if you hardly get to see them anymore? I don't want him to grow apart from me!
Thanks so much for your help :) (link)
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You spend every possible moment together that you can...I'm sure you will! You've heard the expression
"Love will find a way", it will.
You call, Instant message, email..whatever is available to you the rest of the time.
The sports won't last forever. It sounds like you two are devoted to one another. It will work out. I know it will!
The time spent apart will make the times you have together even more special. :)
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Weird question but i dont wanna look like an idiot, when you give a guy a hand job or head and you dont want him to come in your mouth where does it go and what are you supposed to clean it up with?
i jsut wanna be ready and not look like a retard in front of this guy (link)
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It will go everywhere. Probably mostly on your hand.
Best thing for you to use would probably be a wet washcloth which you can carry in a zip-lock bag.
Baby wipes would work. Something wet is best but if that fails a Kleenex or paper towel would work too.
If you can get one of those purse size Kleenex packs
carry those with you. :)
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I broke up with myboyfriend of 10months after things were getting really serious and I felt I just couldn't cope with it all. I have never been scared of commitment in my entire life and thought this guy was the one. But it freaked me out so much i decided to break up with him. I really hurt him as he felt the same way and he had just had his wife leave him for another man 10 months before our relationship. I love him so much and want him back and he said he just can't come back after i did this. He said he still wants to be good friends, and doesn't want to be with anyone else right now and still wants me to leave all my stuff over there. he just won't touch me and i feel like he's another person. It's so scary.I have made the biggest mistake of my life and just want to take it all back. I just want the man I feel in love with back, and to want me again. What do I do????? He told me last night I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him and gave me the biggest compliments I have ever recieved from anyone...I didn't know that his kids knew about me either, if i had i wouldn't have done this. Now he says he was scared of this, telling people about me, and another women leaving him like his wife did. This guy is the best boyfriend a girl could ever ever have, and I'm so stupid!
I'm 27 years old female and he's 38 years old. with 2 kids.
I'm from Australia
I hope you can give me some advice on what to do? I know I can only wait and see what happens, have tried everything... Don't want to push him away anymore than I already have. (link)
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Start typing or writing.
Tell him exactly how you feel about him now and before the breakup.
Tell him why you got scared and why you felt the need to break it off.
Tell him what you learned and what you have missed since you have broke up.
Go into great detail. Don't worry about sounding like an idiot, just do it.
Then, give it to him to read. Either in person or in
an email. Its so much easier to talk to someone about important things when you don't have to worry about being interrupted or having them talking back to you and getting you off subject.
Give it a try. I can tell you from experience it works. Hope to hear from you that it did for you as well. :)
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my boyfriend always checks other girls out on the street, it really bugs me and am scared its cuz he's lookin for someone better? should i be worried? please let me know and do all guys do this , he tells me he loves me but im not so sure cuz it bothers me :( help~ (link)
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I don't think you should worry about it to much.
I do think most guys do it. I have been married for 31 years to a guy who does it all the time and he hasn't gone anywhere. Hes an awful flirt too. He doesn't care if I'm standing right there. I just roll my eyes at whoever he flirts with in a "see what I have to live with" manner and shake my head.
He isn't looking for anyone better, he's just looking. Do like I do. Start pointing them out to him. "look, there's one for ya". Of course I always pick the ones that make him cringe. :)
Honestly, I don't think you have a thing to worry about. If he was doing it behind your back it would be one thing. Hes not hiding it. :)
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On saturday I'm going on my first date. I don't know what to do, what to say or anything. I'm scared something might go wrong. I dont know anything about dating. Please HELP! (link)
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Believe it or not your date is probably thinking the same thing!
I hate to just tell you not to worry about it. You will anyway. But it will all go just fine. It may be a little awkward at first but, once you start talking it will go great.
Just talk about school or his car if he drives (guys like to talk about their cars!) Or music, anything to break the ice. Then just enjoy his company and have fun. There are no big rules or secrets to dating, just have fun. :)
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when you get a hormone test what happens? or like what does the doctor do? (link)
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The most common hormone test is just a simple blood draw.
They will take blood from your arm. Doesn't take long at all. I have to get blood draws all the time for my thyroid tests and it takes less than 5 minutes.
They then send your blood out to a lab who tests it for whatever the doctor wants to know. In about 3 days they send the information to your doctors office. Your doctor will read the results and either call you with them or mail them to you, again it depends on the test you are getting.
Sometimes, especially if you will be put on a medication, they have you come in for another office visit. If they do that you just go in and the doctor will talk to you about what your test results mean and probably give you a prescription to help the problem.
Can you tell I've worked in a doctors office? Don't worry about it. It is very easy and quick. :)
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Okay so I really didn't know where to put this question so...
I am so sick of guys!
Like, I love them but I'm sick of not even being able to go into 7-11 for a bottle of water without getting told some derogatory remark!
Like...I'm at my school walking to lunch and a guy (who I don't know) walks past me and says "Ooh".
Sure, I like attention but it's always just because guys want some.
Random guys have asked how much a certain amount of money would get them and stuff but...Don't get me wrong...it feels good knowing that I'm attractive to guys but...how do I get it to stop a bit? Or at least handle it better.
Thanks ahead of time.
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They are just immature and will hopefully grow out of it one of these days.
No need to throw the "sexual harrasment" thing around. That term is incorrectly used in most situations these days.
For the most part ignore them. If they are hanging around outside a business, tell the manager they make you uncomfortable and they SHOULD make them leave the property and stop loitering. If at school, tell a teacher. Those would be in the worst cases though.
You could also just joke back with them. They ask how much, tell them they don't HAVE enough money.
Most likely they will either leave you alone because picking on you isn't fun any more or one of them will get really interested in you and ask you out.
So, if you feel threatened, tell an adult.
If you don't, just play along or ignore them. :)
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Okay, i am in a giving mood. I have dated this guy for a month, but in the past we have dated before. and i want to get him something little and special for no reason..
dont ask me why lol
any ideas??
Thankss
NOTE:Im not that artsy (link)
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I can tell you what worked for my guy when we were dating. And good for any just anytime occasion!
Cookies! Or maybe a cake you baked yourself.
All guys have a sweet tooth. And the whole batch all to themselves! He will love it and it is special because you took the time to make them yourself. :)
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if you take the pill only the next morning after having sex, and you don't take it the second day, what will happen, if you stop taking the pill?
can you get pegnant even though its a day later that you dont take the pill?
thanks in advance
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Your question is a little confusing so it probably won't get to many answers. If I don't understand what your asking, you might want to add something a little more specific to your question. :)
First of all you have to be taking the pill for at least 30 days in a row before having unprotected sex. It has to have a little time to get in your system before you have unprotected sex.
If you don't take it every day then chances are good you will get pregnant.
If you have been taking it everyday for, lets say 3 months and you forget one....take it as soon as you remember it. You will probably be okay as long as you don't forget it all the time.
I would like to mention that you can take your pills anytime during the day. If you usually take it in the morning but forgot until afternoon. You are fine. Take it in the afternoon.
Some people think if they don't take it the same time everyday then it isn't going to work. The doctor will tell you to take same time every day simply so you will remember to take it. It is not a have to thing.
If you are only taking the pill after you have sex, you will wind up pregnant. It must be taken daily.
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