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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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How much drugs and alcohol can you drink and take before your sperm starts to become weaker or get a lower sperm count? And do you always get morning sickness when you're pregnant? Thank you :) (link)
If a guy drank that much it would probably kill him.
So don't try that as birth control because it will not work.

And no, you do not always have morning sickness when you are pregnant. As a matter of fact I only know of one person I know who did have it. :)


okay this is going to sound like an extremely lame question but.. i used to masturbate alot, not so much anymore tho.. anywayz, i don't know how we got on the subject, but my friend said that if you masturbate then you are no longer a virgin. i have never had sex with anyone, but am i still considered a virgin or no? thank you (link)
You are still a virgin. :)


how do i get people to answer my questions i gave out so much advice and no is has answered my qeustion and its been on hear for five days (link)
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Don't ask it again because it would probably be deleted as a duplicate question.

Most people (unfortunately) do not venture beyond the first couple of pages of the 10 full of questions. Maybe this question will make them realize there are a lot more out there.

I looked up your last question and will post the link to it here, in case someone would like to check it out. :)

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=461214


hi...
i have rectal bleeding due to gay sex with my partner...the last time we had sex was a week ago but the bleeding doesnt seem to stop...is their any home remedy i can do make it stop cuz i dnt wana discuss it with my parents or go to the hospital... (link)
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There really is no home remedy for rectal bleeding.
If you have been bleeding for a week you really, really need to seek medical attention.

In the future be sure your partner uses LOTS of lubrication.


15/f
okay..well there's this guy that i like..and he likes me back..
we talk to eachother on the phone sometimes..and when we do we talk for hours at a time..its the same when i see him in person.. i guess we're getting pretty close..
i havn't been kissed before. but i know he has before.. So i'm kind of afraid that if we ever do kiss..i'll turn out to be a wicked bad kisser.. and then he'll like..dump me or something.
i guess where this question is going.. is what do i do when i do kiss? (link)
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Here is a good site that will hep you out with your kissing! :)

http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm


Hi ... I am a 30 yo female dating a 25 yo male ...
I have been dating my b/f for 4 months ... Last night I got drunk and started a fight with him and do not remember much. I remember taking all his clothes out of my closet and marching over to his house (he lives in the next bldg)and throwing them at him. When I woke up, his key (to my house) was on my dresser. I went over there this morning and he locked the door in my face. I have called him twice and left apologetic voicemails. Now what do I do? (I do not remember what the fight was about but I'm sure I started it - I'm a mean drunk)

He told me last week he thinks he's fallen in love w/ me. We haven't said I love you, but I know he really cares about me. He shows it more than I show him. I feel really, really bad and I told him in the voicemails I will stop drinking (and I really will!) I really want him to believe me ... but he won't even talk to me right now. I was thinking of just leaving him alone for a couple days. (link)
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Write him a letter. Pour out your feelings and tell him how you feel about him. Very few people can just throw a letter away!

If he is in love with you then he is probably really hurting right now. Who knows what you may have said to him! That has to be scary for you too not knowing what went on.

I do hope you stick to your vow not to drink again. It can be tough to do and I hope you get help if necessary. That to may make him realize you are serious.

Good luck. I hope everything works out for you.
Start writing and then go put it under his door. :)


(I am a 14 year old girl.)Ok so i have been dating this really nice guy for about a month.and i really like him and all. But the problem is theres this guy i have like forever and i have known him since we were born,and he came down this weekend,and i would have never figured anything would of happened,But we was talking and all and he leaned over and kissed me! I was so happy and all but i felt really bad because of my bf. So now i feel like crap and i dunno whether i should tell him or not,because everybody knows theres something bothering me(and yea it is killing me inside!) I want to tell him b-cuz he knows something is wrong with me too. so should I tell him or not? PLease! HELP ME!!(i kinda want to break up with my bf by the way) (link)
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Don't tell him. It would relieve your conscious, but it would hurt him unnecessarily.

I take it this other friend doesn't live real close so he probably won't find out about it otherwise.

As for you feeling guilty about it...don't. You are young and it just happened. A kiss isn't a big deal, people kiss all the time.

If you are wanting to break up with him, don't let this be the cause. If the other guy isn't someone you will be able to see on a regular basis, you might want to give this boyfriend a try for a little longer.

Don't worry about the kiss though. Try and put it out of your mind. :)



I am reposting because I wanted to add a subject due to the fact I omitted it the first time. So here is the question again.

Rebecca was with her mom and her mom said; Rebecca you are very thin, I am concerned,
I dont want you to lose weight;. Rebecca then asked her mom; Why do you think I should
gain weight?; And her mother said; No I dont think you should gain I just think you
should not lose;. The next day Rebecca told her friends the story and asked her friends is
my mom saying I am to thin; and her friends said; No she is not. All she is saying is that
you are very thin and she does not want you to lose any weight and she EVEN TOLD
YOU SHE DOES NOT THINK YOU HAVE TO GAIN WEIGHT. MY QUESTION:
DO YOU AGREE/CONCUR WITH REBECCAS FRIENDS?"

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I think the friends are right. She is reading to much into it.

Teens always seem to be dieting these days, even if they don't need to be. I think her mom was simply saying she looks fine as she is. She is not overweight so don't diet.


Do you think I overracted to this and should I have just accepted at face value she just wanted me to take the herb with water and not
wine. My mom doesnt really believe in taking herbs/vitamins I do. Tonight I took one of my herbs, but I took it with a glass of wine and
she said "You should not take it with wine, you should take it with water, you can get kidney problems." I asked her "Why did you say
kidney problems." And she said "well first of all you take it longer than they say". And I cut her off and said "But the ones I take I can
take forever, they dont have to be taken in spurts". And she said "Ok" After dinner I asked her "I am not harping but you arent telling
me I should not take the herbs." And she said "No I dont care what you take, all I am saying any 11 year old would know you never take pills with wine."" (link)
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Any kind of medicine, be it herbal or not shouldn't be taken with alcohol. It can make it not work at all or have bad side effects.

So mom is right on this one. Take it with water and save yourself an argument. :)


Ok let's start out im 20 year's old i got alot of friends age's between 14-20 well one of my friends i will say A is 14 years old and im good friends with her shes fun to talk to and hang out but im not thinking of dateing her or doing any sort of thing like that i just like hanging out with her. well my question is am i able to get in trouble for just hanging out with her? and if i do hang out with her is that consired a petafile? cause if im correct petafile is someone that has sex with someone under the age limit or other depending on state.
but i dont intend to now or in Future to date her,have sex with her. (link)
Honestly, most people are going to think you are strange for hanging out with 14 year olds.

Parents could make trouble if they wanted to, rumors can hurt too. But, if you do not have sex with her they can't arrest you for statutory rape.



As everyone knows christmas is coming up. Well I dont have any money to buy my family preasents and they arent going to have enough money to buy me any either. I dont care about getting presents but I really want to be able to buy them something... what can i do? (link)
You can make some presents. There are a lot of craft sites online and some of them may be made with stuff you already have. Might be worth checking into.

You could also make them a card and put coupons in them for various things. Example: This coupon good
for cleaning the kitchen, Use whatever things the person you are giving to would really like. :)


my boyfriend really wants a kid and at times I want one too but at other times I question it. What should i do I really want one with him but what if I end up being not ready?

please help (link)
If you are questioning this at all then you aren't ready.

Having a baby is a big decision and a whole lot of responsibility.

They cost a lot of money to raise and take up all your free time. If you aren't sure, wait. :)


I dont like the new Internet Explorer as much as the older one (I think it is version 7?) What can I do? (link)
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I have blocked it from downloading on my computer because I have read a lot of bad things about ie7.

I rarely use it since I use FireFox, which I recommend highly.

Trying to download the older version will not work.
If you have XP you can restore your computer to an earlier time BEFORE you installed the IE7 update. I had my son try it on his computer and it did work.

So, if you had it installed saturday, reset the date to one BEFORE Saturday.

Here's how you do it. It is very easy.

Go to start.
All Programs
PC help and Tools
System Restore
Click on 'Restore my computer to an earlier time'
Click on "next"
Then pick a date on the calendar that was BEFORE
you installed IE7.

It might take a little while to restore. It has a bar on there that you can watch if you want to. When its done your computer will restart and you should have the old version back. :)




Is Advicenators owned by the people who created it or was it sold? And if it was sold when did that happen? And who owns it now? Thanks (link)
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Spacefem created advicenators. Due to being a busy career woman and having another site (spacefem.com),
she turned it over to Dangernerd a little over a year ago.

So the site is now owned by Dangernerd & Dangerwench. :)


wat does it mean when ppl write (link)
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I do believe that is a heart.
Look at it sideways. :)


"If someone says to you that you look drawn (tired, haggard, etc) for example on Saturday, August 25th and then a week later they tell you you no longer look drawn (tired, haggard, etc), but you now look good would you accept the fact that they no longer think you look drawn (tired, haggard, etc) or would you still think about what they said to you a week ago that you look drawn (tired, haggard, etc)" (link)
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I would think if they were concerned enough to tell me I looked tired one week, I would believe them the next week when they said I didn't look tired.

I would hope they would be concerned enough to be REALLY worried if I still looked bad, and tell me so. :)


i am TERRIFIED of giving birth. i'm only 15 and i'm not pregnant or anything but it always makes me really nervous whenever i think about birth. if you have given birth can you describe it for me? like:


1) did it hurt? (if yes how much)

2) did anything umm... rip (lol you know where i'm talking about)

3) would you go through it again?



thanks!!!

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Being terrified is normal. Even older women get terrified of it. So there is nothing at all odd about you! :)

1) Yes. It does hurt. Can't lie to you about that one. The more relaxed you are and the better shape you are in the better it goes.

2) As a rule you don't rip because most docs will cut you so you don't. The reason they do this is because it is easier for a straight cut to heal.

3) Sure! Babies are really worth it, and you do forget it quickly. The first is the hardest. After
the first one it gets easier.

Don't worry about it. When you meet that special guy, you won't think twice about it. :)



what is the government type of ancient rome? (link)
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I don't much about Ancient Roman Government I am sad to say. I can give you some web sites that may be a help to you though.

http://www.unrv.com/government.php

http://library.thinkquest.org/26602/government.htm

http://www.crystalinks.com/romelaw.html


okay i have a question? well if you were fooling around with your guy friend and he was wacking off and than he took the same hand and he had cum on it but im not shure....well and he fingured you with the same hand he wacked off could you become pregnet or even if he just like messed with the vagina?
thanks a lot
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It is possible if he still had some on his hand. Not very likely but possible. :)


My niples r like inny's like a belly button is something wrong with me? (link)

Not at all. A lot of women have what is known as inverted nipples (in case you want to look it up).

If they have always been that way you are fine. If it is a sudden change from your normal appearance then you want to see a doctor. :)




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