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having a child ??
my boyfriend really wants a kid and at times I want one too but at other times I question it. What should i do I really want one with him but what if I end up being not ready?
please help
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If you are questioinging this, don't do it. Do what you think. Honestly, id plan on getting married. And i sure hope you are over 18 =]
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Oh no you didn't! Sweetie, you are still a baby yourself and I don't mean that as an insult. I can't believe you are even having sex at your young tender age. Definately you are not ready and neither is he. It would be totally irresponsible and unloving to purposely bring an innocent child into the world right now. You are not even adults yourselves and cannot parent a child. You need to get on birth control right away if you are having sex. Your boyfriend is romanticising the idea of a baby and it is a way that he is trying to control you never leaving him. There is no way you are going to ruin your life by giving in to his silly immature desires. You know that the child you have deserves the best from you and deserves to have parents that are adults, responsible, financially secure, and many other things that would benefit your baby. You also deserve to have the rest of your youth and enjoy your highschool years unburdened by the demands of giving birth and raising a child, being up all night, huge bills and expenses, and no time for you or your boyfriend to even spend together. The reality of having a baby is totally opposite from the romantic fantasy. Your boyfriend may not mentally be aware of any of this, but you need to be. You deserve to graduate highschool, get a college degree, have a career of your choice, an independent life, and fun as a young adult. A child would absolutely ruin your life right now in ways you could not imagine. Yes, you would love the child, but it would not be loving to create a child until you have created a loving, stable, adult, secure, ready environment. If you really want to make a child out of love, then love yourself, and your future child now enough to wait!!!
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Well, first off, I hope you guys are at least over the age of 18... If you are under 18 and still in school, or even if you are just under 18- FORGET IT!! BIG MISTAKE!!! Give yourself a chance to grow up! Don't be a baby with a baby! You would both end up resenting each other and maybe your child. Big No-No!
If you are 18+, or just want the advice for when you are...
I would say your best bet would be to wait. If you guys want to have kids together, get married first. Marriage alone will let you know if you can handle the stress of a family.
If you are not sure if you are ready, then you aren't ready. It's good to want to have kids, but wanting them doesn't mean you are ready for the responsibility of having no life, being woke up several times a night, being tired, unable to shower (let alone take a bath), and having to do your normal daily chores, like clean house, while drag-ass tired and juggling your baby, a bottle, and a burp rag while supper is burning to a crisp on the stove.
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If you are questioning this at all then you aren't ready.
Having a baby is a big decision and a whole lot of responsibility.
They cost a lot of money to raise and take up all your free time. If you aren't sure, wait. :)
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