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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I'm a 24 yr old female, my boyfriend and I just got into a fight. I'm having female issues and don't want to have sex like I used to. He threw a tantrum bc I didn't want to be tickled. He really hurt my feelings by what he said so naturally I started crying. I went to get situated to sleep on the couch. I had to turn on lights to get blankets n pillows. I was moving stuff n he got mad bc the light was on. He slammed the door n called me a bitch. I broke down, I am completely heart broken. We r working on yr 5 of our relationship, not married, this has never happened before. I don't know what to do. Please help.
He is using violence as a form of manipulation, He knows his a tions will make you sadden and eventually guilt trip you into getting what he wants. There is no exception to his poor behavior, Calling someone a bitch is wrong. You are having personal issues, You are entitled to have moments and not want to engage in sexual intercourse. You may want to calmy talk to him, express your hurt by his actions and words. If he is angered then perhaps you may of just been introduced to who he really is and may need to reevaluate..
18/f
I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 years. I've been working on myself to not be controlling because I've been seeing myself become more and more of that. I check his phone, facebook, ect. Well, I used to do that. And obviously that is a sign of not trusting him. I've stopped that because it's ridiculous and it didn't make me a very good girlfriend.
But now my problem is who he hangs out with. We came from the same group of friends. We had this one friend in common who..wasn't a very good friend. About 6 months ago, it was that friends birthday. I got him a gift and we said we'd go to his house to party. But it was also my last day home before going to college and that night I found my little brother who ran away, passed out in a car. Our "friend" cussed us out because my boyfriend wouldn't bring a mario game over.
In the beginning of our relationship, that friend started spreading rumors about us because he didn't want us to get together.
He also did drugs with my brother, bought them from him as well.
He also picked up my brother from my house and helped him run away once.
He apologized for everything, but I decided he wasn't ever a good friend. I'm not on bad terms with him or anything but I feel extremely uncomfortable with my boyfriend hanging out with him. They've been friends since they were kids.
My values have changed over the past year. I don't feel the same about drugs and alcohol. My brother was stealing jewelry, money and even cars while he was on drugs. He ended up in juvi for a couple of years. My mom became an alcoholic during this time and went to a man who'd always give it to her because my dad wouldn't. She's now in rehab, but my dad was stabbed a few times last month by that man she went to, so he ended up in the hospital. He lived though.
My boyfriend was always there for me and he knows why I feel the way I do about everything. I don't hate people who do them or anything, I just don't like being around it. So my boyfriend will go hang out with his friend and I just hate the idea of it. He doesn't smoke anymore, but I hate thinking about him around it and thinking about him with his friend.
I brought it up with him, which was probably a mistake, and he said that I'm starting to control who he hangs out with. So I just shut up. He's a good boyfriend, I just need to work on this issue.
How do I stop beating myself up over him hanging with his friend? How do I let go of my big issue with drugs and alcohol?
Thank you so much for reading this.
Sometimes we need to back off, Unfortunately being paranoid of who he hangs out with is a form of jealousy and mistrust. Nagging him will only push him away, If he is doing drugs abd drinking the only thing you can really do is talk to him calmly without attacking.
Unless he has done something, You need to trust him. If you don't then your relationship won't work
My girlfriend divorced her husband of 20 yrs for his best friend and they now live together. they seem happy.I set her ex husband up with my next door neighbor and they hit it off and fell in love. I was up front with my girlfriend and told her that I set them up. She got upset and does not want to be friendly anymore. Was I wrong for being a match maker for her ex? Should I have not been up front and told her that I was the match maker? My husband and I care about both of them.
If you were friends with both of them then you shouldn't have gotten involved with their divorce. Although you ment well, Divorce is a painful thing and even more painful for some people to hear their former spouse has moved on. She may feel betrayed and as if you had no right to come between her and her ex problems. She is healing and the "match making" news may of deeply hurt her.
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Yes I do, She has beautiful eyes and an attractive smile.
I work with a man who is 41, and I'm turning 21 in november. We've made plans to go out before but it always fell through. I really like him and something might happen with this but is he too old? He has one kid who is younger than I, and my parents are older than him, so I keep telling myself he's not.
......
Is this weird?
Some people say age is just a number, But age is also based on many things.
This man is 20 years older and will always have more experience in life. Reality, You ARE legally an adult and nobody can stop you. In a personal opinion, Yes I do think he is too old for you..
Hi So I hooked up with this guy the other night and we texted all weekend and he said he was looking forward to hanging out with me next week and that he would call me on monday. It is now tuesday and he still hasnt called me. Who texts to say they are going to call and doesnt? It seems like a lot of effort when he could have just not talked to me after our fling.
He lost interest...
I ll b pregnt ... if my bf fucks me on my back hole not the frnt hole??
I m.frm india
Highly unlikely, No.
So there's this guy who's friends with my ex, and I like him. Eh, we got closer over the summer and he's starting to show some affection towards me but I have heard stories of him getting blowjobs from other girls. We cuddle and watch movies together in bed but I'm not really sure if he likes me or not. I'm not particularly good at reading people's emotions so yeah :/ Does he want to get sexual with me or something, or is he being sincere?
So he's got a history of being a man whore...
Ya take it slow, Get to know him. Be friends for awhile and then if he doesn't seem like he's all about sex or peer pressure then maybe he is sincere. You will know if he is into you and not your body. If he listens too you and cares about your feelings.
There's a pattern I've been noticing with guys lately that starting to get annoying. I would meet a guy I'm interested in and they seem like they are interested back. We would talk everyday and they would be engaged in the conversation, asking, questions, even complimenting me. Then they stop talking everyday then it becomes like once a week and the responses are mostly one word answers. They also seem to flake out on me when it comes to hanging out. Its very annoying. I feel like I'm wasting my time keep meeting guys that leads to nowhere. If they are not really interested why just say it up front. I would prefer that instead of talking to someone for 2 or 3 weeks and then when its time to hang or something they not around anymore or take forever to get back to you. Can you guys tell me why this happens?
The brain of a man is like a jigsaw puzzle
You wonder why they talk too you if they are not interested, There may be several reasons.
Guy talk to see if they are interested, Some talk just to be friendly and some look for friends. The only way to truly know ia to try and strike a conversation right? Well, Unfortunately some of us men are also cowards in so many ways. It could be they wait for your approach, They aren't interested and don't want to hurt your feelings or some of us giys aren't much of a phone type. If you want to know then your best bet would be to ask them...
I've been in a relationship with him for 2 years, all long distance. At first, we were great together. The distance didn't even touch us. We planned visits all of the time. We even decided that I'd visit for a 2 month period to just spend time together. It was awesome.
However, I ended up losing my job and became in a bad situation financially. He suggested I come stay with him to test out the waters. Look for a new job. If we worked and I found one, I was going to stay. We were both really excited for this. Maybe not ready to "move in" but it was just a test run. And I could go home at any time.
But he became frustrated. I was taking too long. And to be fair, I was. Out of financial fear. Not anything to do with my feelings. We cared for each other deeply. Maybe even loved at one point. He never told me that out right, but I knew that's where it was headed. I just wanted to get my money straight. I had a lot of bills and didn't want to mess it up.
He turned to pot. Didn't tell me about it at first. He became very depressed. Went on an antidepressant that made it worse. He became detached. One night while he was high, he created a casual encounters ad on Craigslist that he came clean about after days of lying. But proved to me that he never used it. I believed it was his depression. And gave him another chance.
Since, things have gotten better. His depression was more stabilized. But after all of these things that happened, I lost trust. I was fighting hard to get it back. Our visits dwindled to nothing. He was adamant. "Move here or we're over. I cannot take long distance with you anymore". He began complaining about how lonely he was. That he needed someone around to love him and to take care of him.
And it provoked a "HAUL ASS OUT OF THERE" reaction. I've tried ending it. So has he. But he's a sweet talker and I don't know what to say. I feel like whatever I do say, it won't be justified. He'll blame the break up on me. He'll say I never tried. It's my fault. I don't trust myself going NC and sticking with it. Please, how do I do this?
You both tried ending the relationship therefore you are basically already holding onto nothing. He isn't into you, You don't seem to be into him. Best thing I would say is to come to a mutual agreement and call it over. His sweet talking is his manipulative way of having you around to fill his loneliness. Unfortunately, You may eant to end it and cut ties. Sometimes it's the best way to go when someone is needy in a relationship.
I have to be honest with you in order to get a full answer to my question. I am a 28 year old guy from the UK and I am a convicted sex offender, having been convicted of historic offences when I myself was a child. The offences only came to light when I walked into a police station and handed myself in without warrant for my arrest. The judge, when sentencing me, said that, had I not handed myself in, the offences would probably never have come to light. He also said that I should look at rebuilding my life and return to University, which I was unable to complete because of the case. Probation officers working with me repeat that and often tell me not to be as hard on myself as I am being. I am going through a behavioral course for sex offenders to encourage me not to reoffend and I am serving a community based sentence.
What I don't understand is WHY do many people believe that, after the torment and destruction I have caused to my victims (plural) when offending and to bring it back up and hurt even more people in the process, obliterating more lives, that I deserve another chance? In my eyes, I should have been put to death, but we abolished the death penalty before I was born. Do I really deserve another chance at life when I have destroyed the lives of my victims? Or am I right and I should never see the light of day again?
Some people are just more forgiving then others.
In my eyes, Forgiving would depend on the severity of the case. If someone had been raped by a person, I don't think I could forgive the person who had done the rape.
You see, I am gonna drop a bomb here...just giving you heads up.
Many people wouldn't even think to rape someone (example here) so others would naturally wonder how the mind of a rapest even works. Therefore some will resent and hate.
Others believe that people make mistakes and everyone deserves forgiveness.
It depends on the person
I am a pretty old fashioned type and I believe if you do the crime you shall do the time. Sorry
I know this is real, it is not made up in my head. I have been hearing scary voices & seeing shadow people for 10 years. No one believes me.
I know I'm not schizophrenic! People have told me I am and I'm not.
I started suffering from sleep paralysis when I was 10. I also started seeing shadow people moving around & I've heard evil voices. I can't sleep, when I close my eyes I hear them. They make loud scary noises and Im REALLY scared. Sometimes I'm in my room AWAKE and I'll freeze up & start hearing voices. I can't move or talk when this happens.
A week ago I was over my grandma's sleeping on the couch. I felt a spirit go into my body. I see them at her house too. I jumped off of the couch and heard and evil voice really loud. MY GRANDMA WAS IN THE OTHER ROOM sleep, she didn't hear it. It scared me so much that I was shaking for days & I couldn't sleep. No one hears the voices i hear & it scares me the most. I've tried praying & everything.
I BELIEVE THESE ARE EVIL SPIRITS AND IM SCARED. NO ONE BELIEVES ME.
I'm terrified & it's ruining my life. No one believes me. I'm scared. I've read stories on the internet of people going through the same thing I'm going through, about hearing voices & seeing evil spirits. If I go to a psychiatrist, they'll just call me crazy. I can't sleep by myself & I'm scared to go in my room. I hear deep evil voices ALL DAY.
How do I get these spirits & voices to go away?
Have you ever been told by a doctor that you are not schizophrenic? Many people who have mental illnesses often do not realize it's there. It is also possible your sister coild either be delusional or also be schizophrenic.
If this is an on going problem then you may need to see a physiologists.
She feels like vomiting everyday, constant headaches, dizziness and more headaches.
This happens every single day for a couple of hours.
About her:
She's 15 , under weight by a couple of kilos, not a virjin, but she's not pregnant, she does sex every week once with her boyfriend. She eats good food, so it's probably not a food disease or something like that. She cries a lot sometimes though, I think this must be some sort of stress.
If you could PLEASE find out in any way WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER!
High FIVE to all.
-Thank You.
Well there is a bunch of detail missing
Maybe she has a stomach virus
Is she possibly dehydrated?
Does she have bulimia by any chance?
Medications?
I can't really answer this but she really should see a doctor.
18/f
Okay, so I already take medications from to dr. to ease period pains,
Every time I have a period though I throw up. Alot. I don't want any girls that answer to think its an over-reaction, trust me, I do try to cope, but I just can't.
Its known that sickness will ease as a girl gets older-mine hasn't changed for years now.
How can I cope? What is it?
Hm..What kind of medications does your doctor have you on?
By doctor, Is this a family doctor or a gynecologist?
Your best bet would be to see a gynecologist as he/she can prescribe birth control. There are birth control that is also to help with heavy periods.
Hugs to you, Feel better
My boyfriend and I have been dating for quite a while now. We're very in love and getting our own place soon. We both work full time jobs and he talks about wanting to marry me all the time.
For the last two weeks I had been staying at his apartment pretty much 24/7 but yesterday when he went to work I went home because I felt weird knowing that his parents knew I'd been there so much and I didn't want them to think I was living there and using him. He begged me to come back over last night and I didn't (because I wanted to show his parents I wasn't living there ,his parents pay for his apartment which is outside their house).
I explained all of that to him and he was okay with it after some convincing. Then tonight after I got off of work I waited around for him to get off because I was supposed to go back over to his place. He texted me a couple hours later "I just got off work and I'm heading home!" Immediately I got angry.
I don't understand why he always goes straight home and it makes me mad when he does because it makes me feel like he doesn't want to do anything he just wants to go straight home.
I'm always the one driving to him but he never wants to drive to me so it takes me an hour and a half to get to work and an hour and a half to get back and if I go to his place another hour which takes up a lot of gas even though I have a hybrid. I fill up pretty much every week because of it and it's costing me a lot of money too.
Whenever I ask him to come my way he says "I don't have enough gas for that" or "It takes a lot of gas to do that" and I feel like there's a double standard. It's okay to him for me to use lots of money on gas to see him but not okay for him to spend a lot of money on gas to see me?
I feel like I shouldn't really be mad but it always upsets me when he says that. Especially since he only lives ten minutes from his work place and pretty much everything else for him is really local where as he's 30 minutes away, one way and my job is 90 minutes away, one way.
It's not just that either. I often get angry when he works days I have off or when he has days off that I work. Today I got home around 6 and he got home around 8 so I was already thinking wow it's already 8pm I probably shouldn't go over there it's too late now unless I stay over since I have to work tomorrow and he has the day off.
He also won $1k a month ago and blew it all on an ipad mini and his car and I felt as if he should have saved part of it towards his share of wherever we move into or towards a cheap engagement ring and I'm still mad about that though I haven't told him that.
How can I not be so clingy? I'm just so in love with him that I want to be his world 24.7 because he's mine and I know that's wrong and selfish...
Ya know... This somewhat reminded me of my last relationship.
He isn't meeting your expectations, He is also a cheap sake.
You are not a priority nor is he making commitment to you or your relationship. Instead in some aspect he is freeloading off you by expecting you to go and see him so he doesn't need to waste gas. So you see, It is about his needs not yours.
So he won a grand, Your basically telling me he put NO money towards gas to see you?... Hell an engagement ring would be the last thing I would want from him at this point. Sounds like he did you a favor by not popping the question. Maybe tell him to hitch hike and you go find yourself another fish.
Hey I don't know what to do. I am torn in half, not knowing what to do! Ok let me explain. I am 10 going on 11and I am going into middle school. I have 2sets of friends. The first set of friends have been with me for 5 years, Ariana and Ariel. Ariel introduced me to Ariana on the first day of school in my new school. They were my first friends in my new school. At first Ariana thought i was going to steal her best friend. After a month she relized I meant no harm and took me in. Although i was part of the group, i felt like a third wheel. they had knowwn eachother scince the day ariel moved into her house right across the street from ariana. Then in 4th grade, I was in a class without Ariel or Ariana. I had started to hang out with Elaine ,who I'd also known scince the first day of school but wasn't really close but now was in my class, and Laura , Elaine's best friend. Again I felt like a third wheel. In the beginning in 5th grade my older sister had snuck out and gotten drunk. She got arrested. My mom told me and I started crying. My mom told me she would only be gone for a day and I calmed down. I went to school and tryed to control myself. I accidentally let my tears fall in class and rushed to the bathroom. There in the restroom were Ariel and Ariana. They asked me again and again what happen but I wouldn't budge. They eventually said that they wouldn't let me leave until I told them. I did. They slap sweared they won't tell anyone yet the next day ally was telling everyone what happened. I asked her who told her and she said Ariel. I was furious. I stopped talking to them.elaine found out from other kids and only told laura.The day after that Ariana's mom dropped by and said she had to pick up Ariana's jacket that she left here. When my sis opened the door she was so surprised to see her she HUGGED her which is rare scince she doesn't hug anyone. Q:Hmm why would she come then to pick it up when I told her about it weeks ago? A: Ariana told her MOM. They both told someone when Elaine and Laura didn't tell ANYONE. The whole thing blew overand set 1 apologized a million times. Now it is back to the way before but now I have to pick between set 1 and2. Before you think I should choose set 2 listen to this: during the time I was furious at set 1 I was giving set 2all the juicy info on how much I hate them. After a while, I calmed down and told set 2i didn't mean what I said about set1. 2 months later, I hear word that Ariana got tp. She told me on their doorstep was a paper that said love ally. She said that she was framed because that week she was in France. Half a month before I hear that elain tells me she was going tping and she was going to put a paper that says love ally on the person she's tping doorstep. I asked her who she said i don't them. Why would Elaine tp Ariana when I was convinced they were the mature ones and the kids I should be friends with?why did she lie to me? Why would Ariana and Ariel also tell people?? HELP!! Ps. Elaine and Laura sort of make me jealous but they don't try to.
You are really blowing this one out of proportion, I can understand being annoyed because they repeated something you didn't want said, but this is why you never say something you don't want other people knowing.
Seriously, You are 10. This typical middle school drama
If you don't like them then make new friends. Sometimes people aren't always what we think they are. An between middle school and high school you are going to see people come and go in your life. It's the way it goes, Be friends with them if you want but keep your business to yourself
I am 16 years old and I dated this guy for almost a year. We broke up last November, got back together in January, and broke up in February. There's something about him that I can't let go so I keep going back to him. I had him over yesterday and we were alone so we were kissing and one thing led to another and we ended up naked. We decided to have sex so he put his erect penis in my vagina for about a minute before taking it out and we did other stuff instead. I'm really worried because that's when I was most fertile. He didn't cum in me but I'm worried about his precum. Should I take plan b? should i be fine? I have soccer scholarships on the line I can't get pregnant I'm really worried please HELP!
I would definitely take plan B....
Now I must ask, Why would you have unprotected sex or even sex with someone you know that it won't work out with? If your relationship has failed several times then it is very very likely to fail again.
One thing may of led to another but it also could of been ztopped and it wasn't.
His name isnt jason but im gonna call him that Jason came here from Ecuador and i wanna know are immigrants allowed to get married? :/
They can yes but the paperwork is a bitch, If he is an illegal immigrant then no.
i have start my period and my breast doesn't grows
Unfortunately a period doesn't necessarily mean your breast will grow overnight. Woman tend to stop growing around 22 years. Patience, Give it time
Ever since my period ended (started July 22), I've been having the weirdest symptoms. I did have unprotected sex with my husband. But it was only a few days after my period ended in the "safe zone", cycle day 7. I don't ovulate until next week (or so they say - 30 day cycles). But I've been having ovary pains, very light cramping, no discharge! (which is bizarre for me), headaches, slight stomach aches, armpit pain, and sore breasts. I feel like my hormones are out of wack. Could unprotected sex cause this? I don't know what else it would be. I don't get my period until Aug 19.
There is no such thing as a "safe zone" if you had unprotected sex then there may be a chance your pregnant. I would take a test because the symptoms seem to add up.