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Why do guys talk to you in the first place if they not really interested?
There's a pattern I've been noticing with guys lately that starting to get annoying. I would meet a guy I'm interested in and they seem like they are interested back. We would talk everyday and they would be engaged in the conversation, asking, questions, even complimenting me. Then they stop talking everyday then it becomes like once a week and the responses are mostly one word answers. They also seem to flake out on me when it comes to hanging out. Its very annoying. I feel like I'm wasting my time keep meeting guys that leads to nowhere. If they are not really interested why just say it up front. I would prefer that instead of talking to someone for 2 or 3 weeks and then when its time to hang or something they not around anymore or take forever to get back to you. Can you guys tell me why this happens?
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It would help to know your age. I'll assume you are still quite young, maybe school age? Possibly you have many female friends, who you chat with, share your feelings...but guys? They're different, right? In fact, guys are about half the world. You'll meet and interact with loads of them. Co-workers, friends of friends (male & female), maybe your boss...and so on. And you'll talk to them. Not every guy you engage in a conversation is weighing you up as a potential girlfriend, believe it or not. And when you do start to hang-out with one, you'll still talk to others. Possibly the conversation just dries-up. Lack of common interests, the conversation is 'hard work' (struugling to find things to talk about?). Maybe they just forget, and they are preoccupied with other agenda. Please don't take the behaviour you have mentioned personally, as some sort of criticism or comment on you. Not every conversation with a guy is a potential relationship, not every conversation is a flirt. As for the 'interested' part...conversations don't normally end in "Well...it's been lovely talking to you but, hey...I'm not interested in you sexually." That's not how we interact, is it??
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I've normally noticed my guy friends do that when they aren't interested. Like they were interested, but eventually they got bored and didn't see a future. And some start talking, think the girl is cute but turns out they aren't as interested as they thought they were.
Then there are some guys who just like to flirt who aren't interested in taking it any further.
So it's most likely that they were interested in you at one point, but then decided they weren't.
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The brain of a man is like a jigsaw puzzle
You wonder why they talk too you if they are not interested, There may be several reasons.
Guy talk to see if they are interested, Some talk just to be friendly and some look for friends. The only way to truly know ia to try and strike a conversation right? Well, Unfortunately some of us men are also cowards in so many ways. It could be they wait for your approach, They aren't interested and don't want to hurt your feelings or some of us giys aren't much of a phone type. If you want to know then your best bet would be to ask them...
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