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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I like this guy and i think he likes me back but I am not sure. Anyhoo I was wondering if there are any flirty things i can do or say when I am with him to hint that I like him.

Thanks

Smile at him.
Laugh at his jokes.
Hit him playfully.
Joke with him.
Tease him nicely.
Compliment him.

And it's so weird 'cause I can't stop thinking about it. I've tried everything but nothing works more than temporarily... I don't know why I can't keep thinking about that one particular person! It's not a crush, they're like a gazillion years older than me. Besides i think he's in like his 50's!!!! and i'm 13/f. please please please help this has been going on for weeks and i dont know what to do!

See a counselor.

Hi everyone. Does anyone know how I can get gum off my shoes? It's not on the bottom; somehow it got on to the side. If it helps, they're leather, I think. I would think so because they were expensive. Anyway, this happened in May & I went into my garage & found them in there today. The gum isn't hard since its pretty hot out. I picked most of it off... If anyone knows what I can do, please let me know. Thanks!!

Freeze it, and smash the rest off with a hammer. Also a good solution if you get gum into your hair.

what are some fun things to do online.
dont say myspace or facebook please.

www.ebaumsworld.com
www.addictinggames.com
www.bored.com
www.xanga.com
www.livejournal.com
www.bzoink.com
www.photobucket.com
www.vampirefreaks.com
www.advicenators.com
www.google.com

i would love some cute websites with quotes sayings. about friends and love. All stuff that is cute. Please if you could give me awesome websites and tell me your favorite quotes/sayings from them. Thanks a bundle

Nicole

I use www.wittyprofiles.com

They've got some pretty good quotes.

Ok well it's almostthe end of year year and I'm so stressed.

It wouldn't matter if it was any other year but thsi is the year I graduate and it's a really big deal for me but it seems that none of my best friends seem to care!

Anything I'd say theyed answer back with "oh.." or "meh.."

I just feel so stressed and sad, is it me or them?

They're probably just relieved & excited for summer so they're in good moods. Or they're channeling their stress a different way.

It could just be you.

Ok well my friends are gonna get drunk after our grad.

should i go or not?

it's no pressure, they really are my friends. they do drugs sometimes but i'm the baby of the group so thye don't force me or anything and they dont' do it when I'm around.

I never did drugs or drank before.

But i just want one night jsut to feel drunk, you know?

I don't know..it's 50-50 to me

I could possibly get in trouble for this, but I'm willing to take the risk.

If you want to get drunk, then do so. If that's comfortable to you & that's something you wanna do, then go for it. However, please stay responsible. Meaning don't get so drunk you forget your name. Don't get in a car with someone who's been drinking & don't drink more alcohol than you can handle. Too much alcohol will get you sick with alcohol poisoning & it's dangerous. There's also a chance of dependence.

Drinking all depends on age too. If you're 13, then no -- don't drink. 18 -- maybe? 21+, then definitely. But do what makes you comfortable & what you want. The decision to drink is your own, not ours.

Ok well I'm just so super senstive and will cry at anything whihc i hate because if i'm mad at someone i would cry with all that hicupping and stuff and I can't stop even if i calm down.

When people joke around and say liek you smell and stuff i get sad too

recently i've been really sad and would talk about my problem to my friends but thye won't do anything.

Like I can tell that they really feel bad and care about it but they're not good like cheering people up and stuff it's like 'ugh..what do i say to cheer her up..'

I don't know why i even typed this up any suggestions would do =(

This is something that'll take time to get over. Trust me on that. It's going to take a while but it's well worth it.

Learn that people are ALWAYS going to talk & there is NOTHING you can do to change that. Someone is always gonna have something negative to say & someone is always going to hurt your feelings. However, what they're saying to you are just words & they don't/shouldn't do much damage. Yes, they hurt your feelings, but you know these things aren't true, so why let them bother you?

Look at it this way: If someone doesn't like you, then cool. That's their problem, not yours. If someone does like you, then that's cool too. Either way, you're still getting your 8 hours of sleep a night. Don't let the things they say affect you. Crying & being sensitive gets you nowhere in life. Learn that now because it'll prepare you for later. Trust me on that.

i came to the fact god is not real. the only person who truly loved me is my dad, and he died. my moms totally obsessed with herself. my friends talk about me all the time and boys are total liars and use me. im 13, and im about to give up and kill myself. my teachers think im stupid. nothing goes right. its not fair. i often cry and beg for someone to just hold me when im alone. i really need that. i just dont know what to do and i dont want to go to a theripist

When I was your age -- I was in almost that very same boat, and I sort of still am. As much as my parents try to fool me, I know the truth. They don't love each other, but they do love us, however. Some of my friends have backstabbed me & some are still going at it. Boys are icky & I can't stand them sometimes. My teachers even talk shit about me, and they don't think I've got potential. Sometimes things don't go how I want them to, and it pisses me off. I'm longing for love & someone to care about me. I don't like talking to strangers, so I would never see a therapist or a counselor, and suicide has crossed my mind several thousand times.

However, through all of that -- I've found a way out of that stupid depression & loneliness. I found friends who actually gave a shit about me, and friends who would save my life. Do you have friends like that? Although some "friends" may be running their mouths about you, I guarentee there will always be the one who cares about you like no other. Find a friend! There is always someone to talk to when you feel alone & they're usually the person you least expect. My friend Katina was always the one that I went to when I had a problem. I called her one time at three in the morning telling her I was done with my life & that I was about to end it. She however, talked me out of it. She told me everything I had going for me, and everything I could be living for. It took her til about 6am to convince me not to do anything to myself, but she never quit on me, and she was very successful with what she was doing. She's like my own personal therapist.

I realize that talking to someone might be a little out of whack & you don't want to do it, but it could be a big help. If there is no one you can talk to [friend/family member], then try seeing a therapist. Yes, the idea of talking to a complete stranger is a little weird, but they're there to help you come up with solutions to your problems & they're there to help you alltogether. It might take a few therapist to find one that you feel comfortable with though, however -- they will set you straight. They'll get you onto anti-depressants, and they'll talk with you. Trust me when I say, that talking things out makes you feel so much better.

My friend just died recently, so I've been talking to my friends as much as I could about it to help cope with the pain of a loss. They helped me so much and I've been getting my life back to normal slowly with baby steps. I'm not fully normal or functional, BUT I'm getting there, and I'm proud of myself for not doing my usual "I hate my life, I'm gonna kill myself" thing.

Whether you believe it or not -- there's a lot of things you can live for. Live for your father's soul & spirit. Although he's not living, live for him! He'd want you to keep going on without him. He wouldn't want you sad, and he wouldn't want you this way. He wants you to have fun, and smile & laugh. He doesn't wanna see tears or feel sadness.

If your teachers think you're stupid though -- fuck them! They're not doing their job & they're not good teachers. See if you can go to a different school & start over. Like a clean slate almost. Meet new people, try new things & get new teachers who aren't asses. I know life seems hard, but if you just stick it out, you'll see that it gets better & it's not as shitty as you think.

If you'd like to talk personally, all of my information is on my column so feel free to IM or E-mail me. I'd be glad to help you further. =)

Sometimes I feel like I'm lost in a downward spiral and nothing can pull me out. But I shouldn't feel that way! I don't know what's wrong! I have an amazing boyfriend, my parents get along, I'm being treated for depression, anorexia, and alcoholism, and things are supposed to be getting better.

But I feel like my family is falling apart. My mom is nearly broke and my dad never talks about it. I've seen the bills and I know how much my therapy and medication and everything is costing them. And this is how I repay them. By lying to my therapist, drinking behind their backs, cutting, and not telling them anything that's going on.

They think that everything is fine and dandy with me. I can't break their hearts and let them know that I feel worse now then I ever have. I can't hurt them like that again.

I feel like a stupid, attention starved whore who can't do anything right. And I don't know what to do. :(

The only thing you are doing wrong is pushing the help you're getting away & not accepting any of it. Your parents want to help you. Your therapist wants to help you. Your boyfriend and your friends want to help you. They're all in your life for a reason -- don't push them or what they're trying to do away. Everything they're doing is out of your best interest & they want nothing more than to get you back to normal & back to a reasonable health.

By pushing all of this away, you're not helping anything. Your drinking is going to get worse, as is your depression since alcohol is a depressant type of drug AND your cutting is going to get worse because of the depression. Your anorexia will get worse as well. I honestly think you're not willing to accept the help. It seems like you LOVE these things you're doing to yourself because anyone who hated them surely wouldn't keep doing them.

First off -- when you feel like cutting - stop yourself. Think of something more productive to do. Write a short story, a poem or a song. Listen to music, go for a walk, watch tv, talk to someone. Do anything but what you're tempted to do. The more you give into temptation & desire -- the more you suffer. When you stop yourself from eating -- remember that without food, you are going to die. It's valid that you eat simply because you're killing yourself everyday by not eating. If you'd like to keep living -- then eating food would be a big help. And as for alcohol -- stop drinking! I realize you're addicted since you're an alcoholic, BUT there's a certain time for everything, but for drinking? There's never a time when it consumes your daily life.

The only way you're going to fix yourself & your problems are by accepting the help, telling people the truth, stopping your cutting & stopping your drinking. These people need to know what the hell is going on in order to help you properly & by not letting them know, nothing's going to change. And either way -- this therapist still gets paid. But it's his/her job to help so don't make this diffucult. Talk to friends, tell your therapist the truth & stop these habits & addictions. Nothing's going to get better with what you're doing.

You're not an attention whore, but you do need serious medical & mental help. There is something seriously wrong with you for doing these things for yourself & for not doing what it takes to get help.

ok so this guy that ive known for years just asked me out. were best friends, and i know i kinda like him, and he likes me. i just dont want a relationship to ruin our friendship. what can i do?

Tell him that. If you're not sure of how things will work out, then tell him.

I'm sure he'll understand your decision, but you should try it out anyways because you never know what he's like as a boyfriend until you date him.

Me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday when he put the condom on it kept coming off like it was too tight and does anyone know a bigger condom?? Because we tried it 3 different times and each condom came off!! What should I do?!

If the condom keeps coming off, it's not too tight -- it's too big! You don't need a bigger condom. Your boyfriend shouldn't be so conceited with his size & get the wrong condom. He should get the right size, so have him go a size down.

And stop having sex if the condom isn't being used properly. Not only is it the wrong size, but it's stupid to have sex with a condom that keeps falling off. If it falls off once, what in the hell makes you think it won't do it again? Take it as a sign to get smaller condoms..

On friday 13th of july, it's my mates birthday party and i have no idea what to wear. Lol, my mate dared me to wear a tutu with footless tights, which i am considering lol.

But if i can't get a tutu then i have nothing to wear.
What could i wear? I dress emo-ish/grunger.

Thanks in advanced
xx

Wear some skinny jeans, a stripy shirt [or a band-tee if you dislike stripes], some converse or slip on vans & your basic accessories.

There's a ton of things to wear if you're not wearing a tutu. Trust me.

14/f

im around 5'3 and 115 ish. Im not fat or anything really, mostly athletic. i seriously have no boobs. like i wear 32 a's and i have it on the last hook. they are kind of uncomfy because my boobs barly fill them out and they fit my body snug. i hate this no boob stuff. and im loosing weigh so i have even less boobage. what can i do about the bras and is there anything at all that will give me boobs?

The most you can do for now is to wear a push-up bra. Although your boobs aren't big, a push-up bra pushes them up [obviously] & makes them look bigger.

Since that's all you can do for now -- just wait it out. You're only 14 & you've got plenty of time to grow. Take it from someone who's got a big chest -- you don't want big boobs as much as you think you do. Cherish your A-B cup, it's an amazing size to be.

help me out peeps i am near proper exams and i cant revise i pick up a book and it is sooo boring and it doesnt even stay in my head i more or lk forget it the next day. My dad is putting pressure on me aswell and this is making be feel even more annoyed whats the best way to revise pleazz answer. i need some really gd advice!!! :(
thanxs :)

Look at it this way:

Either read the book or fail. I bet it won't be so boring then.

hey,i need your help ahh.. well ive been wanting a emo haircut so badly.but i really dont know where can i get it, since i live in FL and theres really not much emos around here..so i was wondering where can i get it, because i went to 2 salons.. and they "think" they could cut it like that[cuz i showed them a picture] but i really need help..l0ok i want it like this

http://i130.photobucket.com/albums/p256/mariana1992/l_bedbc0b919e94f4996898b1e70635c35.jpg

Do you have any "emo" friends? If you do, ask them to do it for you. Chances are, that's what they did [unless they know how to cut hair]. If they don't know how or know anyone who could do it for you, I would try a salon. If a salon doesn't do it right -- then either never go back there again or do it yourself next time.

Ok. Don't Laugh. Well you will laugh but I was in a rush to go meet at Mickey D's with my boyfriend and a bunch of friends and my eyebroes wern't tweezed and they looked awful so I did thes tupidest thing, I'm not the smartest of people..haha anyway um I um I UMM I shaved my eyebrows?! :(((( :(((( :((( :D :D :D:D
anyway the worst is that only a part of the eyebrow was completely removed and it was only 1 eyebroe...imagine how that looks haha. well I was wondering what I should do? and How long do eyebrows take to grow back? And what should I do when one part is thin hair and the other part thick?? basically just i need to know what i can do to help them get back to normal. Thanks for answering if you do and I'm sure I atleast made you smile once today :)

Try to make the normal looking eyebrow look like the messed up one. It might look dumb in the end, what honestly -- what looks stupider?

ive heard this alot...but is it true?? when Rihanna made the song umbrella wit Jay-Z i heard Beyonce and her got into a fight becuz it was Beyonce's man...is it true or not??
Thanx Alot :D
♥ Lesha ♥

It's probably just a stupid rumor like most things in Hollywood are.

whats it mean if they have a gold star by there name? when you click on columnists, and they have that gold star. can anyone get one of those?

They've got a paid account. It's 10 dollars a year & you pay for it with PayPal.

All the information you'd need to know about a paid account is in the FAQ.

Ok..my parents have been divorced for about a year n a half. My mom is kind of dating and every guy that she goes out with..she makes sure to tell me that shes going out..just to keep me updated and let me know that shes seeing other ppl. Well my dad is a business man..he travels everyweek and lives 3 hrs away from me. He doesnt tell me anything about his relationships at all. Soo the other day i decided to look on his phone when he wasnt there and it turns out he is in love with another woman and one text said "be ready to meet your future step daughter" I couldnt believe it! She has a child too..she sends him pics of her child! Its mind boddling. Im so upset..what do i do?

Your parents are divorced, and you need to get over that. I know it's hard, but you've gotta do it. I know every kid probably sees their parents lasting forever & then when divorce comes they're heartbroken, but divorces are actually good for the family sometimes.

It's been a year & a half. If you can be okay with your mom seeing people again, why not your dad? Sure, he doesn't tell you things -- but he doesn't have to. It's his private life & he only has to tell you if he sees it fit. If your dad doesn't think you need to know, then he's not going to tell you. I'm sorry, but you don't need to know everything about someone. You can write an autobiography on yourself, or a biography on someone else & still not grasp some of the innermost things about them. There's no way you'll ever learn every single thing about someone.

Instead of getting pissed at your father -- be happy for him! He's found love again, and that shouldn't bother you. You know your parents would always want you to be happy, so at least do the same for them. They need it, so please try to understand what your dad is going through. And stop spying. It's rude.

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