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For some reason everytime I cry my best guy friend looks like he wants to, but he never does. Why is this? Why can't boys just cry? I've always wondered. Like what will it take to get them to cry? I'm just curious, thanks. (link)
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The reason boys aren't (supposedly) to cry is because it's not macho and some people think (rather erroneously) that its a sign of weakness in men. That's a HUGE MYTH that some people guys especially are hanging on to that belief.
The truth of it is that guys do cry and should cry as it's natural and a way of relieving all the stress, emotion, tension about something or to express a lot of joy. There's no reason a guy shouldn't cry but there's a reason above why they don't do it in front of others. Men are supposed to be tough and strongetc so goes the myth.
The other reason that can and does come into play here is that he may be trying to be strong and think he's helping matters by holding back his own tears and emotions. I hope this helps you. What an interesting and good question to bring up as lots of people will be helped by it.
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for my english class we have to write a creative story. it can be about anything, but im having ALOT of trouble picking a topic.. i have about 5 days to write it... so any ideas? THANK YOU TO ANY IDEAS !!! (link)
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You have five days in which to do this so that first of all is wonderful. When it comes to writing anything at all when you feel you have no idea what to write or how to even word something STOP.
Don't think about the assignment for a while and then come back to that piece of paper later on when you feel ready and are not stressed about doing it. You'll find that your head will be clear, your thoughts flowing and you will be able to write what you need to and succeed.
Try it a little bit at a time until you fill the page with a creative story. You have five days so keep coming back to it. This is what I do and I write articles for publication regularly.
If I'm stuck on an idea or a lead paragraph I go and do something else for a while and come back to my assignment refreshed. Take your time as you have 5 days and that's excellent.
Also, try sleeping on this too as your brain has a habit of always giving you ideas in the morning after waking up because it's always processing ideas you were last thhinking of when awake.
When it comes to a creative topic you should ask what facinates me? or what if questions about the future, disasters etc or what if we went to mars etc. to try and come up with a good idea.
Also, try taking a piece of paper and draw little balloons with ideas and things, objects even that are not connected to eachother and try to link them together and do something interesting with them.
Look at your dreams at night and what you're doing in them or the ones that frighten you and address your fears in a creative way in a story.
I know you will do just fine and your imagination will kick in if you relax and follow the steps above about coming back to this assignment repeatedly over the next five days to work on it bit by bit. You'll be able to write 10 times easier once you remove the stress from this.
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k im in 9th grade and im doin a science fair project. this is my first time doing but i think i can do it all on my own. one problem is my teacher gave 4 deadlines and i only did the first one. the other 3 were about getting research and putting it all together "in your own voice". i dont really get that. he says we can't just read the research and summarize it, he thinks its a form of plagirism. so can anyone give me an example of taking your research thats about your project and "putting it in you own voice?" my topic is battery energy by the way anyone know good sites where i can find research on batteries or battery energy? (link)
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While I don't know anything about battery energy I can tell you lots about writing in your "own voice". He's 100% right that even if you have research from the Internet or other source you have to attribute it to the person who wrote it and or the place you saw it originally or it's plagirism.
If you stuck something in your piece that was from someone or somewhere and didn't say where the research or quotes came from you're done like dinner. In colleges and universities they'll kick people out for it inadvertent or not.
So what can you do? You can still take the information but rather than copy it directly into your piece you have to say "According To X" ths fact is so etc.
What he wants you to do is lok up facts on your own an if you use them attribute them to the source or use the information and re-write everything in your own words and style of writing. That isn't plagirism because you aren't stealing somebody else's exact words. That's all he's talking about.
He wants it in your words, your style and to know what you think and have discovered and not what someone online or in a book or newspaper article thinks or you copied. So, he is in fact right but you'll learn a lot more doing it the way it needs to be done.
Trust me, you don't wan to be busted for accidentally or intentionally lifting quotes or words or sentences someone else came up with into a report. The penalities will be severe and nobody who does this is ever trusted again.
Just to demonstrate how big a problem ths is even with research famous journalists have been caught for doing it as have writers and in a few cases these eople knew they were completely ruined anddecided to end their lives.
Your teacher is doing an amazing job aout teaching you about plagrism and all the ways you can get caught even if you accidentally did it by not attributing research or facts to someone else.
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Okay, I have to find a 4-5 minute monologue, and its from a movie i've NEVER seen, its called stealing magnolias or steal magnolias one or the other. I am doing Dolly Partons Monologue, i need a website to be able to read her monologue's she says in the movie thanks... (link)
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Steel Magnolias was a very succesful play written by Robet Harling. It was never a book btw so don't search your library for it. You might find the script though at a bookstore that sells only theatrical scripts.
The movie came out in 1989 and as you know starred Dolly Parton. For copy-right reasons you aren't likely to find part or all of the script online with that manonologue even. You might find quotes off of IMDB or another sourcebut that's probably about it.
If you really need her monologue in particular the best way to get it is by renting the actual film on DVD and transcribe it using your remote to get it exactly right.
As long as you attribute the piece you perform to that movie when you audition or do your thing at school ou're sailing as that movie is available most anywhere now.
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i want to be a model but i don't know how to start. Does anyone have a website a a place where i could find a modeling career? (link)
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You have to be careful when it comes to breaking into modelling or acting because there's really awful people out there looking to rip eager people who dream to be successful off.
There are gifted phorographers and agents out there and there's no doubt about that but according to this link (see at the end of the answer) only 25% of them are legit and in some very bad horror stories some photographers have asked girls/women to do some pretty inappropriate things or made them feel very uncomfortable.
The best tips I can give you being a background performer (read extra) in Tv/Film shot in my city are these three things
1) A reputable agent or casting director or photogapher be it for film/TV or modelling does NOT ever, ever advertise for clients be it in the newspaper, online or in the phone book. That is just not how casting is done or how agents, modelling and photographers work.
Reputable people in this field NEVER ever ask for any money up front be it for photos or special training. That right there is a scam or signs of one as they're looking to make money off of your naivity of how agents do and do not work.
Reputable agents and especially casting directors NEVER use the Internet to cast films or put your picture and info on the Internet so you'll get gigs. Again it's a scam for them to make money and NOBODY in the business will ever call or hire anybody that way.
When it comes to having an agent for anything they will want you to have photographs. Having said that you must not ever fall for the scam of them insisting you spend X amount on them or use their photographer. Ths is signs of an unreputable person. All you need when you start out with an agent is snapshots or a few 8*10 laser copies of even your school picture so people know what you look like.
Another tip is if you are in Canada call ACTRA or log onto their Web site or in the U.S. it's the Screen Actor's Guild of America and phone them, e-mail or try finding the link on their sites for their list of reputable agents and casting directors. If getting an agent or going to an audition don't go or sign the agent unless the person is on that list.
Trust me, if they aren't there's a damn good reason as only the reputable people who play things by the rules and are professional are on those lists of agents.
Finally, instead of trying to break into modelling which is the hardest part of showbiz to get into next to acting on TV and film consider getting what is called a background agent or background agency.
What this enables you to do is to work on the set as an extra in TV and Film shooting in a metropolitan city near you ie Toronto, New York etc. They shoot movies everywhere so if you're not from there no worries but it helps if you are near a BIG city like that in U.S. or Canada.
This allows you to see whether you like this work or not as it's not all glamour. Sure, you'll see a lot of fmaous people however, you could be standing in the cold, have rain pour down on you etc. for 14 hours or more in one day of shooting. They might need you for a week or more depending on what type of shoot it is.
For example when I worked on Hairspray with Travolta in it I was there from 8 a.m. to 2:30 a.m. the next day because of how complicated it was to shoot the end of the movie. I was only there one day but others were their for 7 days with the same crazy hours for one dance number called "You Can't Stop The Beat" at the very end of the film.
Oh, one ting you do need to know about reputable background agents is to consult the ACTRA or SAG list first. They are the only agents allowed to charge a yearly fee to people because so many of their clients drop out after they see that this is indeed a business with 12-17 hour days like anything else for lousy pay.
Also, the only other agent besides a background agent that can charge you anything per year up front is a kids or teen agency because much like background agencies either the kid or the parents may want to opt out after they see the amount of commitment required.
Read this http://www.modelingscams.org/find.html and truly think things over. If you have any questions hit my inbox up and I'll try to help.
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im dating this guy and have been for a year in june. we've had sex 3 times, but the last time we did, i got pregnant. i had a miscarrage, and it was hard. we have'nt had sex since then and he has been very understanding. but now i want to and i won't get to see him till the day of our 1 year anniversary. but i think it would be cliche to have sex then, after so long. but i want to show him that i care about him and love him and i think by giving myself to him again after what happened will show him that. i lost my v-card to him, and want to be with him, we talk about it everyday of what it would've been like having that baby. we know god did it for a reason, and that we weren't ready, after it happended matt was sent to iraq. he is 19 and im 17. how do i let him know im ready to have sex again, without sounding whorey (link)
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It doesn't make you or anyone else a whore or "whorey" for telling their partner after a traumatizing event such as a miscarraige that you are ready to try sex again.
Also the date of his return home coinciding with your 1 year anniversary is a coincidence (a happy one) but he will see as you see that it's not about him being away or an anniversary but about being sincere and ready to try again and move forward from such an awful tragedy in both your lives.
If you tell him exactly the same things you told us about sex or even read your thoughts (for example your question to us) about being ready and handling this situaion and your desires correctly he will see that you truly love him and want both of you to be 100% fine with moving forward with this.
I think he would be touched as well as grateful that you did a lot of pondering and sought advice. If things are feeling right and you want to try sex again just tell him what you told us and he will see your sincerity.
The biggest issue and concern for him would be making sure you were 100% ready and taking care of your needs and fears and nothing else really.
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alright well theres this guy that i like and he likes me too and when we hug i wanted to whisper something really like sexy/sweet in his ear...any ideas?? thanks (link)
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If we told you what to say it wouldn't have the desired effect. It would come out as if there wasn't meaning to it. It's got to be memorable and something that reflects your personality and who you are.
If you're extroverted granted it's easier than if you are an introverted soul. It's a lot more fun if you are the shy type as you can say something quite bold but not dirty he wouldn't expect coming out of you.
What you need to be thinking about is how he makes you feel inside and what you want hm to think or feel when you say it to him. It's got to be original and from your own head for it to work.
The best thing I can suggest to you to start writing down on paper or in a diary things that he makes you think or feel or things you think about him that are cute, funny, sassy, sexy to you. After all he wants to hear something sexy that actually came from you.
Think of this as your shot to tell him exactly what you think about him that you think makes him sexy and solidify your chances of being his girlfriend if that's your true objective.
If you write about him in a diary yank it out from wherever you hide it and start working with those thoughts and something will come to you.
The best thing to do is just improvise and at the right moment whisper something sexy or naughty (not dirty or vulgar) to him while thinking at the same time that this is exactly what I feel as doing it from the heart and from your own imagination right on the spot is what will lead to sparks, laughter or a grin out of him and maybe a relationship.
I hope that helps you as it's the same advice I would give my ownself if in your shoes.
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ok well im a 16/f struggling in high school barely passing. i have a c in my IPC class (science) and a D in english and i made a bad grade a 64 on my spanish test so basically im a screwup. and my social life is messed up because no matter how hard i try to be nice to other people they'll till be mean to me. what should i do? (link)
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If you are trying hard at school and just cannot pass it may not be your fault. If you cannot understand or need help with the material talk to your instructors and ask for extra help or a student who will tutor you to bring the grade up.
Also if you find you just cannot pass or understand certain subjects you are in talk to your parents immediately and then go to the school's administration and get tested for a learning disability. This could be your hidden problem with school work.
When it comes to your social life don't worry about anyone who is being mean to you. Know in your head that they're just either jealous, or desperately want attention from somebody. The moment you show them this does not affect you any they'll move on.
Also know that these people usually get a big kick in the ass from life later about their behavior and will have to adjust. Few of these people make it in life because of their problems and overly agressive nature. In 5 years you won't remember a single one of their names.
What you should do though is work with your family as well as a adolescent psychiatrist on your social-skills, developing tactics to handle school and your studies so you'll become happier and can get along with these kids and have them liking you back.
In the meantime, at school find kids who are like yourself and would make for great friends but are in the same boat as you and don't have people to hang out with. You'll make true friends there and will start networking and having more people around you.
Forget the jocks, the so-called popular kids and focus solely on people you feel are exactly like you and need a friend. And rember this that anyone who judges you or treats you badly doens't really know you and it's too damn bad for them that they're missing out on a great girl.
Definitely get a tutor, get tested and I stress above all else get a an adolescent psychiatrist to talk to about your social problems, school, stress and how to rise above it. It will make your life so much better when you do. They'll give you the strength to do well at school and make lasting friends.
There is no shame in seeing a psychiatrist because famous people do it all the time as well as tons of normal everyday people. It will enhance your life, trust me. I know from experience.
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i don't think i am singing right! I keep getting really soar right in the middle of a song like i'm pushing too hard, but if i don't then you can barely hear me. I know breathe out of your diaphram and stuff and i'm working on that. but my voice is giving out. what am i doing wrong?
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I bet you are not drinking enough water before and in between singing each number. Your throat has to be very lubricated especially if you are trying to sing anything a-cappella or practice without your band behind you.
Your throat will get wrecked fast and just give out. You can permanently ruin your singing voice this way or by pushing too hard to hit notes you cannot hit yet.
The fact of the matter is that it's either not lubricating your throat well enough or that the notes are out of your vocal range for now.
You need to have voice lessons. This doesn't mean you suck at singing or anything like that. It means you need an experienced instructor to help you get to the next level so you can sing those songs and hit notes bang on without hurting your throat.
You need more coaching with breathing and how not to strain your voice so you don't have any more problems. The coach will help you pick songs that suit your personality and what you can do vocally and then start to challenge you.
If you really want to be a singer at some point you'll need a coach. Try and see what drinking lots of water before singing does for you as it may be that simple.
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what does it mean when someone describes someone else as refined? (link)
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Refined is an adjective that can mean a few things. The first is elegant, cultured in apperance and mannerisms or taste or it can mean to be precise or subtle.
It can also refer to unwanted things or impurities being removed from something ie: refining a piece of writing or a musical arrangement for instance.
As far as describing someone as refined it's the first instance I listed above about mannerisms, taste and appearances. I hope this helps you out.
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My guy friend wants to finger me. What happens if I don't orgasm? after how long do I tell him too stop. Also, I have a dark rim around my butthole. it's like stained. I don't want him too see that. Is it normal? (link)
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It's fine if you don't orgasm from it. Not everyone orgasms each time they have sex, masturbate or are fingered. The key to enjoying this is to actually talk to him about what you would like before and during.
Make sure he doesn't claw his way around and knows what he is doing. As far as the dark rim goes it's normal, a lot of other people have it and it will be the last thing on his mind. Tissue/skin around that area and or the gentials is prone to discoloration like that. It's no big deal and will be the farthest thing from his mind trust me.
All he'll worry about is whether he's doing things right and you're happy with what he's doing. He like most guys his age are just happy to even have a girl let him touch or see that area of their bodies period.
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Well today my friend found out her father has been shot and died. She isn't sure yet if it was suicide or someone else did it.
I feel like I'm not being a very good friend. Before you start calling me deadbeat friend listen to my story.
For a long time in our friendship she had told me and everyone her father had died on September 11 2001. He was working at the world trade centre. Then she came clean, she was being an attention seeker and that she had never met her father in her life.
And then today she's hysterical about her father's passing and I find out her father was actually in her life. I'm not ignoring her, or snobbing her off. She's in a very vunerable position and that is the wrong thing to do. But what is the right thing to do? Do I act like she hasn't lied to me all this time for my pity? Do I point it out? How am I supposed to comfort her when I thought she didn't have a father? (link)
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Why should you feel guilty as hell? She's the one who lied about her father dying on September 11th. I think that's pretty dispicable to say a relative died in those two towers on that day when they did most certainly did not.
It's no wonder anyone is thinking she's crying wolf again by telling people her father was indeed in her life and died mysterious by his own hand or was murdered.
Either she is telling the truth or is a confused, lost person with some very big mental issues to overcome. What you should tell her is the truth. "I sure hope you are telling the truth here this time. f so, I'm sorry for your loss."
Do her a HUGE favor by telling her most people are having a hard time believing her because of what happened last time and you doubt her story too. Maybe it will get her to see she is a chronic liar and people hate her for it etc or why nobody believes the truth.
Even if her father did die she needs to know what people are thinking as sooner or later somebody will accuse her of lying in this case. Get to her first before this happens. If it turns out she is lying again ask why and tell her to get some form of help.
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Does anyone know the official US (NY) release date of Hounddog (Dakota Fanning's new movie) and if there is a trailer somewhere that i can see. ANd what it is rated???
Thanks sooo much! (link)
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From what I know the controversal film with Dakota Fanning did not go over well with critics or film buyers at the Sundance Film Festival in Feb.
Since then unless it has changed since I last checked nobody has been interested in buying the rights to distribute it domestically in the U.S. or internationally for that matter. It will probably never see a theatrical release but rather end up on DVD.
There's no release date for the film and it's considered to be unrated because the ratings board called the MPAA for theatrical releases haven't stamped a rating on it because it isn't and hasn't been released or screened outside of Sundance or other film festivals.
I could find neither an official site for the movie or even a trailer for you. I do know how to contact the PR firm who promoted it at Sundance but that won't help you any unless you are a journalist.
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I've never given or received oral sex. I am 15/f. People say it is normal to do it at my age and I sort of agree. I am afraid of having a guy go down on me because I don't have this kind of experience and I am shy. I'm sort of afraid of going down on a guy because I don't want to do it wrong.
People always say you're supposed to wait until it feels right but I think it will only feel right when I give it a try.
Any advice?? (link)
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There is no way you can do anything wrong here as it pretty much self-explanatory. What you have to do is talk to your partner before and during this sexual act and ask him what he thinks he would like and feels good to him as all guys and girls are different.
Nobody who has done this for the first time feels confident about it. If you have him guiding you and telling you the things he likes/wants it will go far smoother.
Don't worry about him being down there or vice-versa. Odds are he will have no idea what he is doing at all and will be happy just to have this experience at all. Most people his age won't know what to do and may need you to tell him what to do. It's okay to feel shy or apprenhensive because believe me he is too.
The last thing he will be thinking about is your experience or the lack thereof when it comes to this. He's terrifed he's doing it wrong and vice-versa.
If it feels right to do this you'll know but talk to him first about your concerns and work those issues and fears out first before trying something like this.
Just know that guys are often as scared as the girl is when it comes to anything sexual whether they are experienced or not. Everyone wants to please their new partner right off the bat so anxiety is really high on both sides but that's perfectly normal and okay.
Just make sure in your own mind that this is something you really want to do and this is for sure the guy you want to do it with. Definitely make sure he's not the type who would do this with you and dump you or go telling the boys locker room about it later on.
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Ok so I'm on birth control and I try to take it everyday around the same time but some days I'm a few hours off ... a few days ago I let my boyfriend go in me without protection but I didn't let him cum....all I want to know is the chances of getting pregnant....are they low...because I already heard getting pregnant off of pre cum is already low. (link)
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I can tell you right now that if you are missing pills even by an hour or far off the time you were supposed to take them you're already at risk. Your birthcontrol method is already compromised to the point of being ineffective any more.
That info is based on what I was taught in health class and have heard for years. You need to be using condoms at this point to be protected.
Yes, you could be pregnant from him beig inside you even for a second if pre-cum is present. It contains enough sperm (millions) to cause pregnancy. The risk isn't low either. It's often the same or higher because people believe pre-cum cannot easily cause pregnancy mistakenly.
What you should do that would really work for you and doesn't involve pills or trying to take them at an exact time is the new device out called Nuvaring.
It tucks up inside your vagina (not sure how long to keep it in) and keeps you safe from pregnancy. It's supposed to be comfortable from what I have heard.
Check out their official site and see if it's something you want to use. You can buy it from my understanding in drugstores without prescription but double check on that.
Here's your link http://www.nuvaring.com
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I kinda self conscious about my penis...not because of size...because of it not being circumcized. is there a doctor i can go to without my parents to get circumcized? lol it sounds funny but immagine asking your parents to take you! (link)
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An uncircumcised penis is as normal as a circumcised one. All that is different is a piece of skin covering the head of the penis that other boys may have had removed.
I wouldn't worry at all over it. The only reason people might tease you is because they are ignorant and haven't encountered someone who is not circumcised yet.
The proceedure is rarely done on teens or adults because there are more complications involved. However, if you really are considering it you need a family doctor to refer you to a urologst.
The urologist is the person who will perform the operation and determine if it's right for you to even undergo it. The best thing to do even though you feel embarassed is to talk to your father about it and tell him how you feel.
You can talk to your family doctor alone about this but once he refers you to a urologist you need your family to give consent because of your age etc. There's no way of getting around that.
Also, this proceedure is no longer covered from what I know by any health care plan and you'll have to pay upwards in some cases of $300 to have it done and it's very painful, unnessacary, and only for cosmetic or religious reasons these days unless it hurts to try and retract the foreskin.
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14/f Okay... so sometimes I will masturbate and I know its normal and whatnot.. thats not what im asking. I always use the same thing [electric toothbrush] and latly my orgasms have been really REALLY week.. and they come too fast. I can't look anything up on the internet [i've been to mymasturbation once and my parents nearly died when they found out.. i lied about it] Does anyone know anyway to increase the pleasure I'm getting and make it last longer?? that would be AMAZING. also, I don't think i've ever relle cum. After masturbating it taked forever for me to actually be wet. Is that cum? Have I even relle had an orgasm then?? and after i have my "orgasm" i always get relle tiard and can't masturbate anymore.. any tips for that.. \does that mean I did have an orgasm. Oh gosh.. im confusedlol.. (link)
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The reason people aren't touching this question is because they can get banned and or in big trouble for giving how-to info to a minor on a sexual topic like this.
While people cannot tell you ways to make things better, intense like you asked I can tell you that by using the same methods over and over that your body builds up a tolerance and that's why it's no longer working for you.
Try another way without the brush. Use your imagination there and figure things out. That's part of the reason for doing it. The wetness is normal and is sign of arousal and doesn't always have to do with orgasm.
Being real tired after is normal because you were either very vigorous or had done it too many times at once.
Anyways, that's about all anyone here can say to you about the topic besides the fact that parents know their teens are doing this as it's pretty much universal at this age.
The fact they know you read about it online and were surprised means you really ought to discuss it with your mom. She was a girl once too and if you're confused about anything sexual who else will have solid answers and can find info or books for you.
Also, try talking to an older sibling about this topic or a girl or woman you can trust if confused. Trust me, that's the best road to take if you have these questions. You'll get the correct info from them as the Internet and friends cannot be trusted.
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Ok there is a friend of mine that I see only when my friends and I go dancing because it is far away. I like him alot but not sure what he thinks. He does the riska dancing with my friend, but When there is slow dancing he always asks me to dance. we talk online and the other day he was telling me about the play he was in and giving me all the dates and times of the show. But not ever asking me if I would come directly. Is this his way of hinting that he wants me to be there? Also are there or could there be any other signs tht he has an interest? Or how can I create some? I would love ALT of opinions on this matter. Thank you!! (link)
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He gave you dates hoping you would be interested in attending. It does not mean that he is interested in dating you. He may have given those dates to all his friends male and or female.
Sometimes friends who are close end up dancing with one another at a dance because they know eachother. Regardless of it being a slow dance or not it doesn't necessarily mean he's interested in you.
The fact you talk online might mean he is interested in you because guys don't always do that with girls unless there is a connection. Then again, he lives far away from you. It may be his way of making contact rather than using the phone.
How do you find out how he feels? Short of asking him outright there's not much you can do to find out. You can try laying out some bait and see if you can hook him.
Ask him if there's any of your friends he is interested in and whether or not he would date any of them. His response might reveal a lot. You could also ask him to come hang out with you or go to a movie alone as "friends" and see if he will go.
If he doesn't seem to be receptive of this than you know it's ime to move on and find someone else.
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recently for the past few months I have been very very aroused. I am still a virgin and waiting for marriage. But is not like I haven’t done ANYTHING. just messing around basically. My friends are always saying I am going to put my future husband in a coffin on our honeymoon because of sexual frustration. Why am I suddenly on a arousal stage where it is constant? It is even worse when I am dancing with my guy friend. Masturbation only helps a little. Does this mean I have a high sex drive minus the sex? This has really been bugging me for a while and can use some insight. Thanks a bunch. (link)
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It would appear that you have a bigger sex drive than some people. Usually it's hormones or puberty but you are long past that stage. If masturbation isn't working for you try giving him lap dances, strip-tease etc. It could be a turn on for both of you.
You may also want to try role-playing games or visit an adult novelty store to see what kind of sexual games they have that you can play together that doesnt involve intercourse.
I'm not sure how you feel on giving and recieving oral sex but that could help you greatly relieve sexual frustration. Your arousal is always constant because you haven't been finding ways to relieve yourself.
You might also want to try fingering provided you educate him about what you want and desire as that wll relieve tons of tension. Also try grinding against him as well for the stimulation for both of you while clothed or in under graments.
I hope those ideas help you. Walking into an adult novelty store and checking out role-playig sexual games may help. In your case vibrators may help you as well. Take a look around and see what kind of aids there are to help you with high sex drive from books to online articles as well.
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iv been going out with my boyfriend for 3 weeks today. yesterday he came over and i had my other friend over too. then today i called him and we were talking and then he was like my mom wants to talk to you for a sec. i said okay and his mom was like im having a birthday party for him on sunday its for his family and i was wondering if you wanted to come, and i said i would check with my parents. the problem is, im soo scared to meet his family.. its not that im just meeting his mom and dad, its his whole family, im freaking out and its a week away. whatt do i doo? (link)
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You need to take a deep breath, exhale and relax. The next thing you need to know is that he's as scared if not more than you are that his mother, father, relatives are going to meet you. He's hoping it won't be this big disater thing you both seem to be picturing.
You are both undoubtly thinking the same thing here. So, what do you do? Don't freak out. Treat this like you would having dinner with anyone else you normally do. It's not any different and know that you're going to have cake, have fun and enjoy yourself. Visualize it in your head over and over and relax.
You also need to know that his parents are going to like you already because he has told them how much he likes you and the reasons why. They just want to shake your hand, meet you and show you a good time.
They are as nervous as you are to meet them because every person in that room is thinking I hope he/she gets a favorable impression of us. You just have to know everyone is nervous and not thinking all eyes on the girl.
Go in there wanting to enjoy yourself and have fun. That's all that is really going to happen. They'll ask you a few questions, maybe take a cheesy photo and sooner than you know it you'll be home again.
They are all nervous about the impression they're going to make on you rather than yours on them. Just relax and go along with the flow. Volunteer to help in the kitchen as that gets you through with knowing the mom.
Also know that they are normal people just like you and not out to terrify you or make you unwelcome. They want you to be there and want you to enjoy yourself. They're going to make every effort that you do because of their son.
The focus is not on what you are doing but on fun and this guy's birthday celebration. They're going to be too wrapped up in all of that than to really be scrutinizing anyone. So, nope you don't have a big red target on you.
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