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Oral sex
I've never given or received oral sex. I am 15/f. People say it is normal to do it at my age and I sort of agree. I am afraid of having a guy go down on me because I don't have this kind of experience and I am shy. I'm sort of afraid of going down on a guy because I don't want to do it wrong.
People always say you're supposed to wait until it feels right but I think it will only feel right when I give it a try.
Any advice??
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Hey.
Well the people that say that is right. Don't worry about what the guy thinks..don't worry about doing it wrong. If the guy is very experianced and you can trust the guy then i would tell him that you haven't done it before.
Any more advice...Don't hesitate to ask me.
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There is no way you can do anything wrong here as it pretty much self-explanatory. What you have to do is talk to your partner before and during this sexual act and ask him what he thinks he would like and feels good to him as all guys and girls are different.
Nobody who has done this for the first time feels confident about it. If you have him guiding you and telling you the things he likes/wants it will go far smoother.
Don't worry about him being down there or vice-versa. Odds are he will have no idea what he is doing at all and will be happy just to have this experience at all. Most people his age won't know what to do and may need you to tell him what to do. It's okay to feel shy or apprenhensive because believe me he is too.
The last thing he will be thinking about is your experience or the lack thereof when it comes to this. He's terrifed he's doing it wrong and vice-versa.
If it feels right to do this you'll know but talk to him first about your concerns and work those issues and fears out first before trying something like this.
Just know that guys are often as scared as the girl is when it comes to anything sexual whether they are experienced or not. Everyone wants to please their new partner right off the bat so anxiety is really high on both sides but that's perfectly normal and okay.
Just make sure in your own mind that this is something you really want to do and this is for sure the guy you want to do it with. Definitely make sure he's not the type who would do this with you and dump you or go telling the boys locker room about it later on.
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I think being weirded out about oral is normal for someone who has never tried it. You may not be completley comfortable when your doing it, but relax, and if you get to the point where you're seriously really uncomfortable with it, it means you aren't ready. And there's really no way you could give head wrong, unless you bite it. Just try different things with it, and see what type of things he liked. :]
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Take this from a married couple
I was scared my first time going down on my husband.
but at the age of 15 you should not be worried about SEX! have sex to young can ruining your love life, though mine made it better, what i'm trying to say is this. you are to young to have any kind sex, hell my boyfriend lost his at the age of 20, and me at 16. sex does not make a relaitionship, and you might end up with 2 kids like i did, or him with 4, or he might leave you if you had a kid, you will know when the time is right and no one else can tell you that, and don't let anyone make you belive that youare ready when you are not. if your shy and everything, then it shows you are not ready yet, just love life as is. if your friends try to tell you to do it when your not ready don't, just WAIT!!!!!!!!!!! trust us we know what we are talking about belive me.
-Tinker Tink-
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you are right. The only way to really get a hang of it is practice. It took me a couple times, but then it just clicked and went smoothly. It was alot better for me and him. I know its hard, but try not to worry. Everyone is afraid there first time. Theres nothing wrong with not having experience.
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i think you really do have to wait until it feels right... to be comfortable and enjoy it. before i met the right guy, i didn't want anyone lookin' down there but once i did, i didn't mind. just giving it a try could end up in a time you regret or just didn't really enjoy. if you need anything else, lemme know. <3
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well im glad to know im not alone on this. well the only think i can say is you should wait till your ready because you dont want t oregret doing it. everyone im sure is a little shy at first but when it happens there is neevr really a right way to do it so dnt feel embarresed just do what feeels comfortable to you.
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If i were you i would wait until you found a guy that you really liked/loved that really likes/loves you back because it will make it SOO much more comfortable and so much better
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Dont worry about so much you have to do what you feel is right and dont let anyone tell you that you should do this at this age beucase they are wrong you do what you want when you want to. but if you think you are ready just go for it abund you can tell what is right and what isnt. but it sounds to me if your scared of it you are not ready.
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This is just my opinion, but I think you should wait. If you're not completely sure (which I suspect your not due to you asking for advice), you shouldn't be doing it. At 15, I'd give it some more time before attempting to give oral sex to someone. What about a hand job? Trust me, guys will take what they can get.
Oral sex on a guy isn't easy. There are certain things to remember when doing it and certain techniques to remember. It takes practice...you don't start out as an expert.
Just give it some time and think it over more. People may say it's normal to give oral sex at 15...but I definitely don't agree.
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