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sex again? or not
im dating this guy and have been for a year in june. we've had sex 3 times, but the last time we did, i got pregnant. i had a miscarrage, and it was hard. we have'nt had sex since then and he has been very understanding. but now i want to and i won't get to see him till the day of our 1 year anniversary. but i think it would be cliche to have sex then, after so long. but i want to show him that i care about him and love him and i think by giving myself to him again after what happened will show him that. i lost my v-card to him, and want to be with him, we talk about it everyday of what it would've been like having that baby. we know god did it for a reason, and that we weren't ready, after it happended matt was sent to iraq. he is 19 and im 17. how do i let him know im ready to have sex again, without sounding whorey
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It doesn't make you or anyone else a whore or "whorey" for telling their partner after a traumatizing event such as a miscarraige that you are ready to try sex again.
Also the date of his return home coinciding with your 1 year anniversary is a coincidence (a happy one) but he will see as you see that it's not about him being away or an anniversary but about being sincere and ready to try again and move forward from such an awful tragedy in both your lives.
If you tell him exactly the same things you told us about sex or even read your thoughts (for example your question to us) about being ready and handling this situaion and your desires correctly he will see that you truly love him and want both of you to be 100% fine with moving forward with this.
I think he would be touched as well as grateful that you did a lot of pondering and sought advice. If things are feeling right and you want to try sex again just tell him what you told us and he will see your sincerity.
The biggest issue and concern for him would be making sure you were 100% ready and taking care of your needs and fears and nothing else really.
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You won't sound whorey telling your boyfriend that you wanna have sex again. Just say "Even though that happened, I'm ready, and I'd really like to try & have sex again."
But this time use protection. Even though babies are cute & fun, they're expensive, a lot of work & could potentionally mess up your life if you're not stable or ready for one.
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He already loves you and you don't to have sex to show him. If your ready and really want to, fine.
But I agree with the person below me, just let things work.
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
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dont plan it out when you two see each other just start doing stuff and it will lead to it just work into. im sure everything will be ok.
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