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meeting his family
14/f
iv been going out with my boyfriend for 3 weeks today. yesterday he came over and i had my other friend over too. then today i called him and we were talking and then he was like my mom wants to talk to you for a sec. i said okay and his mom was like im having a birthday party for him on sunday its for his family and i was wondering if you wanted to come, and i said i would check with my parents. the problem is, im soo scared to meet his family.. its not that im just meeting his mom and dad, its his whole family, im freaking out and its a week away. whatt do i doo?
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Cute. But its not that big of a deal. Just be yourself and I'm sure they'll like you. Be polite and friendly. Make sure you talk though, don't stay in shy-mode.
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You need to take a deep breath, exhale and relax. The next thing you need to know is that he's as scared if not more than you are that his mother, father, relatives are going to meet you. He's hoping it won't be this big disater thing you both seem to be picturing.
You are both undoubtly thinking the same thing here. So, what do you do? Don't freak out. Treat this like you would having dinner with anyone else you normally do. It's not any different and know that you're going to have cake, have fun and enjoy yourself. Visualize it in your head over and over and relax.
You also need to know that his parents are going to like you already because he has told them how much he likes you and the reasons why. They just want to shake your hand, meet you and show you a good time.
They are as nervous as you are to meet them because every person in that room is thinking I hope he/she gets a favorable impression of us. You just have to know everyone is nervous and not thinking all eyes on the girl.
Go in there wanting to enjoy yourself and have fun. That's all that is really going to happen. They'll ask you a few questions, maybe take a cheesy photo and sooner than you know it you'll be home again.
They are all nervous about the impression they're going to make on you rather than yours on them. Just relax and go along with the flow. Volunteer to help in the kitchen as that gets you through with knowing the mom.
Also know that they are normal people just like you and not out to terrify you or make you unwelcome. They want you to be there and want you to enjoy yourself. They're going to make every effort that you do because of their son.
The focus is not on what you are doing but on fun and this guy's birthday celebration. They're going to be too wrapped up in all of that than to really be scrutinizing anyone. So, nope you don't have a big red target on you.
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YES!!!you should reallt meet his family its a great way for your boyfriend and you to get to know yourselfs better!!Dont be scared just be laid back and wear nice clothes so the family doesnt think your some kind of hoe or slut you no i would just wear some jeans or capris with a nice shirt ya know?
*~hope i helped~*
SARAH
ps.tell me how it goes
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I would say that there's nothing for you to worry about, but you are making a first impression on his whole family.
Just be nice & respectful. Say hi to people if they say hi to you, and try talking a bit. If you're quiet the whole time they might get the wrong idea.
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